I am ftm, 2年抱2 (5 and 6 years old now).
To take care of them was a hard job in the first few years (under age 3).
自己湊 2 kids (lucky, my mother help me 湊 my 2 kdis at the same time). And we employed bun bun / yan yan + local ee for hosework and cooking in the past few years ............