I am sorry, you have to work harder than that......not just ask a question here to get the answer from GOD. This way would not help you to understand GOD.
If you want to dump your kid to your Mother In Law (not your Mother, but your Mother In Law) and ask her to raise your kid. What would she expected you to do?
You need to agree with her way, her value of life, every thing, and you need to teach your children according to her values (價值觀), her way to raise it. Now if you see it is not a problem at all and it is such easy mental dicision to made, then please go to 婆媳關系版 to browse before you answer this question again. mouth:
So, you need to ask her and learn from her what is her values first. I bet she would not be that stupid to accept any ritual performence from you like 斟茶比奶奶。