I have the same feeling too...... being nice is a natural character, but it also depends on the receiver, the trickeness of the helper comes with time and her influential firiends. That's why I don't like if they dress and make up too funny.....It is very hard to stop people from becoming worst. The only thing I hope is when my children grow a bit older and they can tell me what happen when I am not arround, hopefully, we will rely less on the helper to run the house.....Being a mummy, going out or to work with worrying sick to the children at home is a very tiring thing to do.... that's why grandmothers are nices sometimes!!!
I wrote before. My husband & I used to think we hired a very good Philippino helper. She looked after my son till he was 3 years old. Everytime she asked for going home, I let her as I was a full time mum. She could take holidays as long as 4 weeks each year!
One day, she cried in front of me saying her dad died of heart attack. I empathized her & asked if she need to go home. I also cried too. I checked the airfare for her as it might be expensive as such a short notice. She said she would come back in 5 days.
She didn't. Back then, I was 7 months pregnant with a 3yo boy. I had spotting through out my pregnancy. I was supposed to bed rest, but I let her go & my husband blamed me. How cruel it was for her not to give me one month notice to hire a replacement? I used to think we were in good terms.
Then I heard from other helpers in the building that her father didn't die! It was a lie! Who would tell such a lie?! Other helpers told her to give me notice but she still didn't!!!! She complained to other people that I didn't give her enough food to eat. Hey, she was the one to cook & get the food first before she served us dinner!!! I often asked if she has taken the food & asked her to take more as I found she took little from us. She said that was enough & she wanted to lose weight as her husband complained she put on much weight after working for me. If she didn't tell me, how did I know what she was thinking!
The worst nightmare is she didn't say goodbye to my son. He missed her so much, his personality changed when the maid disappeared. Thank you very much. My husband & I now admitted we never knew about this helper.
Even so, it's our human nature to treat whoever is (or appears to be) good to us. One of my helpers is quite good. I really appreciate it. I treat her better than the average employer, I suppose.... Hopefully she will not disappoint me.
I got the same experience. She worked for me 2 years. we paid her $3800 per month. She said that her mom was sick, we sent card and gave money, but later then, she became so lazy, talked thru phone till 1:am and got up 8:15am, at noon she talked a lot of personal phone and ignored my son. The most worst case was she stealed things. Last oct, she was shopliftting at Jusco and caught by the police. She fired her immediately.
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