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我supervisor好早就知我有左, once 3 months, 佢就幫我同manager and director報定案, and my team knew it at the same time. 可能whole team is guy, the rest of company didn't know it until a month ago
when my tummy really pop up. 我company都有rumor話selling to other company, since is the small company, is not going to have a massive lay-off, but might be cutting some people in each department, so I let them know when 3 months in order to secure my job. HR told me to file the family leave of absent to take care the BB after I finish my short term disability which means to secure my job as well.

原文章由 socloudy 於 07-11-25 17:16 發表
Alison,
我生埋依胎都要收工唔再生喇!我個team有個女同事同第２d同事傾開計,俾我聽到佢話我又大肚…要用到”again”依個字真係好難聽.而我last week俾San Francisco office一個一年都冇email聯絡嘅同事問我幾時due.之 ...

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socloudy,
My job is really lay back as well

, I think is the company atmosphere. Don't want to work extra hard lu especially I am having a BB now, see what's going on once I back from maternity leave

muimui,
Glad to know that the lego letter is done finally

, enjoy the tournament on Sat lar.

原文章由 socloudy 於 07-11-29 11:36 發表
SY Mom, Alison, Muimui,
我都知自己好好彩,有阿爸&阿媽幫手.如果唔係我都唔知点算.

Alsion,
我返工好lay back咋,aggressive咪盞做多d.我又唔想太辛苦.只係之前個人工低,後尾俾我去同老細傾,佢又肯adjust一下嗰$. ...

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vivi_ma
short term disability after maternity leave? so how long r you gonna be off for

my friend in toronto just had a baby and she could get 11 months off full paid

so nice!

原文章由 vivi_ma 於 07-11-29 23:32 發表
我supervisor好早就知我有左, once 3 months, 佢就幫我同manager and director報定案, and my team knew it at the same time. 可能whole team is guy, the rest of company didn't know it until a month ago
when ...

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發表於 07-11-30 07:59 |只看該作者

alison,
I can get 4 weeks before and 6 weeks for natural born or 8 weeks for c-section on STD, which is only 85% paid :cry:. And afterward, I will use my sick/vacation/floating days which I think I can take almost 3 months after BB born (including those 6 weeks STD), but I better file the family leave of absence at the same time in order to secure my job. Wow 11 months full paid is really good

, but of course you need to pay more taxes in Canada......

原文章由 ALISONLI 於 07-11-30 07:33 發表
vivi_ma
short term disability after maternity leave? so how long r you gonna be off for my friend in toronto just had a baby and she could get 11 months off full paid so nice!

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Alison,
我返工個層樓冇唐人,所以咪冇比較囉.以前勤力d咁做但唔去social.後尾先知收風太慢,冇着數.依家真係做耐咗,用小好多時間去complete個work.多咗時間講电話同上網.我個roommate份人又圓滑風趣,所以d同事好鐘意去我office傾計.連我老細都鈡意搵我哋吹水.大家打份工,做咗自己責任就算喇!
我唔知邊度係district 28呀,你係咪想搵Bayside區呀?個边係26学區.我住Fresh Meadows但 only 4 blocks away from Bayside,所以都係26学區.我依家住緊garden co-op但得2 bedroom咋.想sell出去再搬去我阿媽喥住返排.Hopefully可以搵到d平平哋嘅House囉

原文章由 ALISONLI 於 07-11-29 23:05 發表
socloudy,
huh 伸下懶腰佢都知我個係仔定女 ???
better than sonogram ?? =p

i like your working attitude, most chinese r just working too hard but not socializing enough and not negotiate f ...

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yes, including myself ,only 4 ladies in our whole group, and i was the ony female based in our office (i meant within our group). most of the guys at my level were single too.

actually my manager already knew that when i was abt 2-month pregnant. i didn't plan to tell him so early, but he asked me if i could travel to Ohio. so i had to tell him but meanwhile i told him not to let the other people know abt it. maybe i thought most of the guys might not be understand that. so my manager just took the advantage of that. i felt that i was so stupid.

i asked the HR if they could do that to me if i've applied for the FMLA leave a bit earlier. they said the position was still not gauranteed to be secured in a massive workforce restruturing.

in Germany, a new mom can take up to 3 years' FMLA leave. my new manager was a German. maybe that's why he "chickened" out when i told him i planned to take some FMLA leave. so he took the action immediately.

原文章由 socloudy 於 07-11-29 11:36 發表
SY Mom, Alison, Muimui,
我都知自己好好彩,有阿爸&阿媽幫手.如果唔係我都唔知点算.

Alsion,
我返工好lay back咋,aggressive咪盞做多d.我又唔想太辛苦.只係之前個人工低,後尾俾我去同老細傾,佢又肯adjust一下嗰$. ...

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發表於 07-11-30 09:43 |只看該作者

Vivi,
我自從大肚後都懶得就懶,依家等我老細放完假返嚟同佢開会分配一下我d工作, train吓人,然後我想1月中放maternity leave.你幾時放假呀?

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發表於 07-11-30 09:51 |只看該作者

SY Mom,
小人到處都有,佢咁take advantage from you真係仿不勝仿.起碼你個仔仔幸福d,有媽媽親自照顧.如果當初你公司keep住你,真係好難有勇氣俾個engineer轉職去做一個全職媽咪呢!

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Vivi mom,
峰迴路轉呀, 今日隊lego 又冤魂不息咁, 打左封5-6 頁紙既信回應, 佢地死都唔面對現實, 上次我地已經答左佢, 無可能俾佢地去state tournament, 真係白紙黑字, 佢地既回應信夠膽話無人答佢呢個要求. 又續繼佢地既三幅被, 又話unfair, injustice, 大佬呀, lego講明係have fun之中學習, 唔係have fun 之中要贏. anyway, 我, 我老細同大老細係度苦惱咁研究點回應時, 係manchester既national lego, 竟然email 回應左, 好strict, 好直接咁話唔會俾佢地去參加, local 比賽係由local 決定所有事, 佢地點都會支持...明啲講句, 真係叫佢地收聲. 簡直係救星, 不過如果佢地早啲出手仲好. 希望佢地唔好又死纏唔放.

其實真係幾醜, 自己機構既volunteer 係度搞事, 煩到人地機構. 係要俾外人教訓先至得. 不過我估national lego可能對慣呢啲家長, 所以佢地回應好快, 前後都只係一個鐘.

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發表於 07-11-30 15:01 |只看該作者

vivi ma, 我果時都c-section, 都係當disability 計, 無十足人工, 好慘.

sy_mom, 我估大機構會有長啲產假, 我有個活動係同chervon 合作, 入面有個engineer 放足一年產假, 搞到個活動要停辦一年

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socloudy,

i know .... frankly i've never thought abt being a f/t mom even if i were in any kind of career. i thought abt taking extra 1 to 2 months off after my maternity leave was over.
but ... things always happen unexpectedly!
sometimes i said i wanna sue my ex-employer that they ruined my life. sometimes i feel like my life is so messed up, especially when 99 said that she didn't see anything good when i took care of my son by myself. my mom felt sorry for me and said it might be better off if we had a nanny to take care of our son and i went back to work instead.

原文章由 socloudy 於 07-11-30 09:51 發表
SY Mom,
小人到處都有,佢咁take advantage from you真係仿不勝仿.起碼你個仔仔幸福d,有媽媽親自照顧.如果當初你公司keep住你,真係好難有勇氣俾個engineer轉職去做一個全職媽咪呢! ...

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發表於 07-11-30 15:11 |只看該作者

for maternity leaves, our ex-company paid 100% of yr salary for 4 weeks before and 6 weeks after u have natural birth. then extra 2 weeks for c-section. i don't remember if they still paid me 100% or 75% or 80% of my salary for those 2 weeks. then u could take FMLA leave up to 1 year. however, the HR told me that they could still lay me off during a massive workforce restructuring assume that i was on FMLA leave.

muimui313,

i heard that Chervon's IT group is treating the female staffs very well.

talking abt Lego, the Lego Robotics seems to be very popular these days. i'm sure my boy would love to join that kinda activitity when he's old enough.

原文章由 muimui313 於 07-11-30 15:01 發表
vivi ma, 我果時都c-section, 都係當disability 計, 無十足人工, 好慘.

sy_mom, 我估大機構會有長啲產假, 我有個活動係同chervon 合作, 入面有個engineer 放足一年產假, 搞到個活動要停辦一年 ...

[ 本文章最後由 SY_Mom 於 07-11-30 15:16 編輯 ]

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SY-Mom
think of this as a transitional period. u could find another job in a couple of years when your son gets older. they grow up really fast and you are gonna miss their baby-toddler time. I was watching videos of my 2 older boys and they were so cute back then..now they talked back and drove me crazy everyday....
about what your 99 said. dont take it seriously. my 99 tend to give out useless criticism without a helping hand too and i have to live with her.

原文章由 SY_Mom 於 07-11-30 15:02 發表
socloudy,

i know .... frankly i've never thought abt being a f/t mom even if i were in any kind of career. i thought abt taking extra 1 to 2 months off after my maternity leave was over.
but ... t ...

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發表於 07-11-30 23:19 |只看該作者

socloudy,

i used to live in fresh meadow before i was married too. maybe we r neighbors =) i am closed to where the dunkin donuts r now. anyway, if you r gonna sell your co-op maybe you should sell it now or wait since the real estate market is going down. i just dont understand how the chinese ppl could afford to pull down old houses in bayside and rebuild new ones, must cost a fortune. i heard bayside's one family goes for 700k or above? where r u looking to buy? my friend just sold her 2 bedroom condo for a single family house on utopia parkway. and she has to do alot of renovation cuz it's an old stucco house la. & it's over 550k

i am not good at office politics la., maybe i should do something on the side, too bad the chinese ppl pay only like $30 for doing tax return & expected big refunds and answer thousands of questions, if not i could have started a partnership with my friend

原文章由 socloudy 於 07-11-30 08:29 發表
Alison,
我返工個層樓冇唐人,所以咪冇比較囉.以前勤力d咁做但唔去social.後尾先知收風太慢,冇着數.依家真係做耐咗,用小好多時間去complete個work.多咗時間講电話同上網.我個roommate份人又圓滑風趣,所以d同事好鐘意 ...

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發表於 07-11-30 23:25 |只看該作者

vivi_ma
85% paid is not bad la. when i was working in a cpa firm (when i had my 1st baby) it was just NO paid leave!!!
meaning they keep your position but not paying anything..
cuz in nys it's not required to pay u during maternity leave ma. so u r lucky la...of cuz my friend's 11 months of full paid is just too good to be true =) u r right though, she is an RN and she doesnt get even close to what RN makes in the US. and tax is almost 50%. but she said she wants to come to the US shopping cuz the canadian dollar is higher than us dollar now la..

原文章由 vivi_ma 於 07-11-30 07:59 發表
alison,
I can get 4 weeks before and 6 weeks for natural born or 8 weeks for c-section on STD, which is only 85% paid :cry:. And afterward, I will use my sick/vacation/floating days which I think I c ...

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發表於 07-12-1 10:18 |只看該作者

Alisonli,

how old r yr boys?
my boy already talked back and drove me nuts when he's very very little. sigh ...

原文章由 ALISONLI 於 07-11-30 23:03 發表
SY-Mom
think of this as a transitional period. u could find another job in a couple of years when your son gets older. they grow up really fast and you are gonna miss their baby-toddler time. I was wa ...

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發表於 07-12-2 07:41 |只看該作者

SY_mom,
i thought your son is not yet in kindergarten woh.
how could he talk back ah??

you have a long way to go girl, it's only the beginning, my boys r 8, 6 and 2. some moms who have teens were telling me to enjoy the time i have now cuz it's gonna get worse ??? cant imagine...

原文章由 SY_Mom 於 07-12-1 10:18 發表
Alisonli,

how old r yr boys?
my boy already talked back and drove me nuts when he's very very little. sigh ...

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發表於 07-12-2 12:47 |只看該作者

Alisonli,

wow! u hv a 8 and a 6-yr-old boy!
yr older ones should be able to take care of themselves pretty well, right? so basically u only need to take care of the youngest one. does yr 99 help u out?

my boy is not in kindergarten yet. he'll be in kindergarten next year. he's 4. so his age is in between yr 2nd and youngest boy.

i can't imagine when my boy is 6 or 8 yrs old.
so how are yr boys doing? do they help taking care of their youngest brother?

原文章由 ALISONLI 於 07-12-2 07:41 發表
SY_mom,
i thought your son is not yet in kindergarten woh.
how could he talk back ah?? you have a long way to go girl, it's only the beginning, my boys r 8, 6 and 2. some moms who have teens were ...

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Alison,
我以前住Flushing,結咗婚(4年半前)先搬去Fresh Meadows咋.我实俾唔起$700k層樓,不過嗰边有d townhouse都好平.我或者会揀嗰d屋.過10年,８年有$咪再搬過.

SY Mom,
其实你凑得個仔好好喇!千其唔好俾其他人講兩句就灰心.好似Corey e+ 2.5歲,佢都有幾樣嘢behind his age appropriate level.不過我冇得complain,始終唔係自己教,惟有希望佢遲d pick up得好d.你等仔仔大多小小先算啦!反正佢都就嚟返小学囉

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