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其實我見好多jm叫我走人,話佢係玩家但我問自己,佢係有用心經營我地既關係,我係感覺到, …
Just thought I'd share what my understanding of the stages in a relationship to help you determine your status you're at in your relationship with this man. I moved to Canada when I was little and have dated quite a bit when I was younger 
. My husband and his family are Canadians (white).
Please note the following stages DO NOT include players or "friends with benefits".
Stage 1: "Seeing" someone -- means you're both interested in each other. You go out on dates and do fun things together to get to know each other better. No sex is absolutely fine when you're only seeing someone. When you're only seeing someone, you are referred to as "the girl I'm seeing".
Stage 2: "Dating" someone -- means you both consider one another has potential. At the beginning of this stage, dating several different people is not uncommon. When you're dating someone, you are referred to as "the girl I'm dating". Sex on the first date is not unheard of but not recommended. It's ideally on the third date or after, when you're both interested in more commitment. If you are not ready to have sex with someone you're dating, that is absolutely fine too.
Stage 3: "In a relationship" -- when you are ready for more commitment and are serious about the relationship, you date that person exclusively. You are not afraid to share your dreams and fears with one another without holding back. You introduce that person to your best friends and/ or family, thus making a statement that the two of you are in a relationship. There has to be an introduction to BOTH ends. If he met your family and friends but you didn't meet his, he's not ready for the commitment. When you are in a relationship with someone, you are referred to as "my girlfriend". Sex is common in a relationship.
Instead of pressuring him about marriage, use a different strategy to find out his level of commitment. Tell him so-and-so (perhaps a mutual friend of yours) have been asking about your relationship with him. Ask him how he wants you to reply; close friends"? girlfriend? something else? Put the ball in his court. If he says "girlfriend", express surprise and wonder aloud why he's never introduced you as such. If he really considers you as his girlfriend, he will introduce you as his girlfriend from now on. If he says "close friends" or something else, or doesn't give you a clear answer, either he is a player using you for your body, he doesn't know what he wants, or he's dating you while waiting for someone better to come along.
Good luck JM!
"My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style." -- Maya Angelou (1928-2014)
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