有無d 專家幫小朋友測試or 評估智力, 言語障礙,發展既問題,
==> 我要"刮"個媽咪 friend 先問到...her son 早前又係有 similar case, then 揾左個 language therapist...依家好左好多....等我問佢幫你 get the phone....you wait wait...
又因咩原因囡囡會咁驚返學?
==> 可以有好多 reasons
(1) 細路唔想離開父母, 呢個係極有可能 (especially 初初番學個d...) 因為佢地會以為"父母唔要我喇"咁既...第日你地小朋友返 1st day school 都多數係咁....
(2) 可能俾架校車嚇親 (e.g. if 佢唔係 1st day take school bus) 可能個校車 ee 話過佢, 佢就驚左...又或者車上面有同學"蝦"佢 (其實可能係大家玩, 佢以為人地蝦佢 etc), 始終 3 yrs 以前都好少見外人 (尤其係成日響屋企個d) , 自會易有此感覺....so 又唔想番學喇...
以上說話...唔止係我, 就係連老師都係咁教...so 好多幼稚園都會一收左個小朋友入課室就掃個家長走, 唔想你地響個窗呀, 門 lar 呀咁響樹裝裝吓, 因為咁小朋友一見到係地佢地唔喊都變喊架...到時仲大獲~~盞搞~~
P.S. 小朋友喊唔肯返學幾乎 99% 會出現...this is a very very common case...so 好視乎父母"忍唔忍得"架...我以前見過有d父母見咁 (個小朋友響課室好"陰公"個個樣) 就自己都喊埋一份..... 嘩~~~大獲...父母一喊....個小朋友 10000% 會喊得更勁...因為佢地會以為你地以後都唔返嚟架....
so 要 avoid this to happen in future, 3 years 以前, 多d帶佢地出去見吓陌生人, 唔一定要 join playgroup ar 咁..可以 simply go to 公園呀, 行吓街呀咁, 等佢 get used to 唔同款既人, 對第日開學喊少幾日一定有 help.... :mrgreen: :mrgreen:
我會咁睇...我份人一向 prefer "中庸之道", 因為凡事要識得取得平衡生活先易過...唔會側埋一邊....so I agree "灌輸知識係有用", 而唔係 "早d灌輸ge知識就一定有用"....
成件事我會咁睇....小朋友學習 (learning) 可以分好多個 mode (in fact same as adults)
a) Lecturing (e.g. 上學聽老師講 or watch VCD)
b) Experience (e.g. 因為有"跌親"既 experience, so kids learn 下次行路要小心)
c) Role modelling (e.g. 有d父母佢地 smoke, so 好快細路都會 smoke)
一生人要學既野又可大致可分為 3 types:
i) Value/Attitude (This will be affected by VALUES, e.g 對與錯, 是非黑白 etc)
ii) Knowledge (知識, e.g. 1+1 =? , shoe 呢個字點解, 鞋帶點綁 etc)
iii) Skills (技巧, e.g. 如何表達自己, 思維模式)
以上 3 types, use an example to illustrate (廚師 cooking)....
1) Attitude (A) ==> 佢"認為" 凡事要盡心盡力 (this is his values), so 佢 cook 一定會好用心機, 即係佢會先去了解客人乜野食得唔食得, preference 係乜, 鍾意咸定淡 (有冇睇味吉洋一套 cartoon? ), 但有d人就只會 follow receipe only, 都唔理其他, 並認為咁就叫做 "responsible" 了
3) Skills (S) ==> 要整得有技巧囉...即係佢 steam 一條 fish, 有d廚師是鬼但就 put on a plate, 但有d人會因為對方係小朋友, 佢會特登揾隻 "叮噹" 既公仔碟去放條魚, 仲切到d 薑成朵花咁引d小朋友...well...to be honest, 小朋友唔係食d薑, 也唔會食埋隻碟, 但佢地就一定會因為有呢d 吸引而食得好開心囉...right?
好嘞....就係咁...3 樣野配合我先會形容個人係"成功"....
我對學習要求比較認真, 因為我認為只學其表面, 而不了解 (即係識講英文, 但又唔多明點解要咁講) 咁係冇用既, so 回應你既問題....."早灌輸ge知識係咪咁有用?"
Then based on what I described above....if 你講既 "知識" = Attitude/values 我會答你"係"
但若你問我係 "knowledge" 我會答你"冇必要咁早"...
再問我係 "skills" 更可以遲一步
what I am talking about ""冇必要咁早", "遲一步" 唔等於人地三歲返學, 我就六歲先返學個停...
但 values/attitude 就完全唔同, 佢係 directly affect whether the kid would like to absorb knowledge and skills 既 most important factor.... 而且 K and S 係可以透過我上面講 method (a) 都做到 (lecturing)
but values+attitudes 就唔係....(a - lecturing) 一定唔可以, 最大係要靠 (c - Role Modelling) (b - experience) 唔係唔得, but this could be risky...e.g. 小朋友偷糖食俾阿媽打...佢個 learning 唔一定係 "我下次唔可以偷糖食", 因為好睇阿媽點 handle the case, 小朋友分分鐘可以 learn 到既 message 係 "我下次要諗個好d既方法唔好俾阿媽知我偷糖食" 咁就大獲.....
So for attitude/values, 越早越好.....尤其你識講 "而家d 細路真係叻過我果代好多".....你唔去 lead 佢去諗"應該諗既野", 咁佢就好易被人地 (e.g. 傳媒) 去 lead 佢諗左另一d野, 而 value 一旦 build up , 除左佢自己, 係冇人可以令佢改架....so this is far more risky than K and S
但可惜的是, 比較多父母較 focus on equipping their K and S, but not A, 咁的話我會形容係"資源錯用", 又或用錯方法, 即係用 lecturing - 比佢學呢d學個d , 希望佢會因此鍾意讀書, 有一技之長, etc...well...咁冇話完全冇效...but the impact is really really slow.......so I would say (c) Role modelling/influence...即係...e.g. 你想個仔鍾意讀書, 唔駛下下都要 send 佢學乜學物, 係自己得閒就係屋企睇書比佢睇..佢見得你多睇, 自然就會又 lar 嚟睇架喇...so in fact 佢係 learning 緊喇...and this learning is "free of charge" right? :mrgreen: :mrgreen:
So you said "幼稚園生涯真係好模糊, 亦唔覺有幾大影響我日後既路;", I would say 唔止幼稚園, 就算連中小學都係喇...因為 K and S 唔用就好快唔記得架嘛.... 你試諗下你仲記唔記得個d Maths 既 LCM ar...HCF ar 咁丫...三角幾何你仲記得幾多?? :mrgreen:
但學校老師/同學既生活態度就已經唔覺唔覺緊 influence 緊你喇...你唔覺之嘛.... so 點解d家長揀學校要揀校風為主也就是如此......
樓下嘉諾撤個website, 冇學生家課通告?
==>呢個我就唔知呀....我至係從唔同人口中知呢間都算係一間地區名校, IT 方面....咁喇...間間都唔同既....始終講到尾係錢嘛...要問阿公攞 budget , 又要有人手...so 俾d時間佢地喇...到得你小朋友讀...should be OK ga la... :lol: :lol:
If 校長真係咁講...then 就交囉..不過 1st round 你做得幾靚幾 pro 佢都唔可以因為咁收你架喇 (so same as others, so 人地都冇 jetso 可以攞) ....都係計分之嘛...不過 if 唔好彩要玩到去 3rd round , 你又真係再去番呢間叩門的話....或者會有 d用既....
嘩~~~大獲...父母一喊....個小朋友 10000% 會喊得更勁...因為佢地會以為你地以後都唔返嚟架....
), 但有d人就只會 follow receipe only, 都唔理其他, 並認為咁就叫做 "responsible" 了
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