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Re: 小朋友大脾氣,可以點教

b9lingling：

Can I know in what occasion normally will you put she on the naughty chair ? How many times you use it in one day ?

When you put her on the naughty chair, did she get the message that it was a kind of punishment ? May be you can try taking away the clock and let her sit facing the wall. Further, did you use "praise" technique in addition to the naughty chair ? By this, she would be more clear about what she should do and what she should not do.

Last question, did you watch how the SuperNanny (the VCD) exercise this ?

If you can exercise the above techniques well, you will be able to handle all her other behaviour problems. So, let's tackle it one by one !

教仔心得：媽咪容易犯的錯誤
http://www.baby-kingdom.com/forum.php?mod=viewthread&tid=951856&extra=&page=1

成日話「讚」可以改正小朋友壞行為，到底點解同點讚？
http://forum.baby-kingdom.com//v ... page%3D1&page=1

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Re: 小朋友大脾氣,可以點教

SandraLo,

I usually ask her to sit in her naughty chair when she screams, hit me or daddy, throw things, ignores me when she does something dangerous (ie:jump over from the edge of the sofa)and I ask her not to. How many times a day depends on how many times she does those stuff. She does know it's a kind of punishment at the beginning but not after a couple of days. I've tried it once to put her facing the wall but she cried like hell and throw up on the carpet at last. I did watch a few episodes of the SuperNanny like a few years ago but at that time she was still small and not as naughty as right now so I've forgot most of it. Right now I barely watch TV cuz I eat at my 99's place almost everynite and they watch something else so it's not very good to ask them to switch channel just for myself. BTW...I lives in Canada so its really expensive to buy those discs, I went to the library trying to look for it but I can't find it. :-(

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發表於 07-3-19 21:56 |只看該作者

Re: 小朋友大脾氣,可以點教

b9lingling：

Don't worry, your case is certainly not a difficult one.

Your daughter is smart because she knew how to use "ignore" (give no reaction to your punishment) which made you think that the naughty chair does not work on her !

So, let's forget about the naughty chair now and work mainly on the "praise" first. Please look over the previous posts regarding the praise (especially when and how). Praise her at least 3 times a day focusing on her screaming, hitting and throwing things (that means altogether 9 times). Whenever she screams or throwing things, ignore her, i.e. give NO REACTION to all these. If she hits you or daddy, simply hold her hand and stop her and say seriously to her : 唔得！唔可以打人！

Try this and let me know her reaction !

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發表於 07-3-19 22:06 |只看該作者

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b9lingling 寫道:
Many times she pulled out the tray and dropped all her food on the floor.

Everytime before she eats, you can tell her that if the food is dropped on the floor due to her pulling out the tray, you will not give her anymore food for that meal. And of course, don't say this unless you can do it ！

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發表於 07-3-19 23:36 |只看該作者

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SandraLo,

Thx alot !! let me try try sin !!

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發表於 07-3-21 23:32 |只看該作者

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Sandra,
近排我個兩歲大o既女日日時時刻刻都在大吵大鬧,就係佢得唔到想要o既o野就發脾氣,又想我抱,引我注意!好痛苦呀!我handle naughty chair做得唔好,所以我嘗試用ignore佢o既方法,但佢真係好長氣,可以大吵大鬧一小時或以上,今日佢早午晚都大發脾氣,當佢calm down時,我就稱讚佢.之後明明好地地的,佢又會因為得唔好佢想要o既o野,又大吵大鬧!!!我又重複地用ignore佢o既方法,佢又煩足個幾鐘!到最後一次佢竟然同我講"我唔喊喇",但當然仲係未係好平復啦!
我真係好痛苦呀,請問咁o既大吵大鬧至明白事理唔再以吵鬧得到要o既大約維持多少時間,我真係頂唔順喇!
:-(

SandraLo 寫道:
When your son loses his temper, may be you just ignore him instead of punishing him. I suggest that you take him to your bedroom and lock the door so that you are alone with him. Just stay with him and tell him (once or twice only) you will hug him only when he calm down. Remember not to react and not to talk; he will learn after some time that crying and throwing things will NOT get any of your attention and he will improve.

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發表於 07-3-22 01:03 |只看該作者

Re: 小朋友大脾氣,可以點教

hi SandraLo,

我啱啱先睇呢個topic,覺得你好勁,我自己都有睇書學習育兒,小bb而家歲半,希望日後多啲機會交流.

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發表於 07-3-22 17:26 |只看該作者

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Hi! SandraLo,

你好叻好勁呀!!!
我一次過睇晒呢個topic,,一邊睇邊笑,仲學左好多野

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發表於 07-3-22 19:28 |只看該作者

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Hi SandraLo

您曾在一個post中提及"雙重標準重難教", 請問您所指既"雙重標準"係在於同一件事上用左兩個不同標準去教同一個小朋友, 定係在於同一件事上對兩個小朋友都用左兩個不同標準去處理. 原因又何在?因我有兩個小朋友, 我想了解多點, 等我可以盡量避免做一d吾應該做既野, 因我曾用一d錯方法處理小朋友吾乖既行為, 如打鬧, 依家會成日用讚方法都會有效, 但有時都會忍吾住鬧兩句. 我真係好希望可以用多d有效而吾傷感情既方法處理小朋友問題. 所以想多了解. 請賜教. 謝謝!

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發表於 07-3-22 22:19 |只看該作者

Re: 小朋友大脾氣,可以點教

MrsBunBun 寫道:
Sandra,
近排我個兩歲大o既女日日時時刻刻都在大吵大鬧,就係佢得唔到想要o既o野就發脾氣,又想我抱,引我注意!好痛苦呀!我handle naughty chair做得唔好,所以我嘗試用ignore佢o既方法,但佢真係好長氣,可以大吵大鬧一小時或以上,今日佢早午晚都大發脾氣,當佢calm down時,我就稱讚佢.之後明明好地地的,佢又會因為得唔好佢想要o既o野,又大吵大鬧!!!我又重複地用ignore佢o既方法,佢又煩足個幾鐘!到最後一次佢竟然同我講"我唔喊喇",但當然仲係未係好平復啦!
我真係好痛苦呀,請問咁o既大吵大鬧至明白事理唔再以吵鬧得到要o既大約維持多少時間,我真係頂唔順喇!
:-(

MrsBunBun：

雖然我未係好清楚你個 case，但大約都估到啲...... 你可能係 ignore得唔徹底(例如响佢哭鬧時，你久不久應吓佢或者安撫佢甚至話佢)，令佢覺得仍然「有機會」用喊嚟令你改變，而通常咁嘅情況下，佢地會喊得耐好多添！

另一樣就係讚佢嘅 timing，你响佢啱啱calm down時讚佢，佢心情即使已經平復，但唔係佢好開心嘅時間，咁係唔夠「盡興」！你要睇番前面啲 post，學識点讚先，然後好大機會唔須要用 naughty chair，而如果佢喊嘅時間短咗，就 ignore都會容易好多。

如果佢一日扭成三次嘅話，你每日就要讚夠六次至得架啦！
快啲温書先(前面啲 post)，記得要逐樣嚟，例如讚冇喊冇扭一樣先，要簡單直接，至於佢要嘅嘢点解唔俾，就响講故事時間至慢慢解釋！

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Re: 小朋友大脾氣,可以點教

wongpsv 寫道:
Hi! SandraLo,
你好叻好勁呀!!!
我一次過睇晒呢個topic,,一邊睇邊笑,仲學左好多野

wongpsv：
如果你可以邊睇邊笑，咁你都應該掂啦！

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發表於 07-3-22 22:43 |只看該作者

Re: 小朋友大脾氣,可以點教

knittingcat 寫道:
Hi SandraLo
您曾在一個post中提及"雙重標準重難教", 請問您所指既"雙重標準"係在於同一件事上用左兩個不同標準去教同一個小朋友, 定係在於同一件事上對兩個小朋友都用左兩個不同標準去處理. 原因又何在?因我有兩個小朋友, 我想了解多點, 等我可以盡量避免做一d吾應該做既野, 因我曾用一d錯方法處理小朋友吾乖既行為, 如打鬧, 依家會成日用讚方法都會有效, 但有時都會忍吾住鬧兩句. 我真係好希望可以用多d有效而吾傷感情既方法處理小朋友問題. 所以想多了解. 請賜教. 謝謝!

knittingcat：

我估我之前所講的"雙重標準"冇得搞，係指父和母的要求或教法不同時，小朋友就會「食住上」；例如小朋友知道咳時阿媽係好 firm 咁唔准食糖，咁淨係佢同阿媽响屋企時，佢係唔會扭食糖，但老豆一向寬鬆，一返到屋企，佢就會自動大扭佢老豆嚟 override個阿媽！

Anyway，「同一件事上對兩個小朋友都用左兩個不同標準去處理」我覺得好難，亦唔好，因為佢地會覺得你唔公平！

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Thanks Sandra!

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發表於 07-3-23 12:20 |只看該作者

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Hi! SandraLo:

我都係一次過睇晒呢個topic,學到好多野,仲實行左3日,囝囝真係扭少左d!但仲有d問題想請教下你,請賜教!

bb而家2歲2個月,一向食飯都係食到咁上下就會含住啖飯好耐,個咀唔肯郁.以前我地會哄佢(話佢食快d就同佢落街,比糖佢食...)但冇乜效.跟住就會嚇佢,攞間尺or 話叫個惡亞姨攞藤條上黎(我朋友),用親呢招都可以令佢乖一陣,所以而家bb唔肯換片,換衫,總之曳曳時我地都係咁嚇佢....

不過睇左呢個topic知道嚇係唔好,所以我開始改,佢乖的時候讚下佢,發脾氣時唔理佢,bb真係扭少左同換衫換片都快左少少(唔駛通屋捉)但食飯就始終都係咁,所以我老公都係要用嚇呢招!請問有咩好方法呀?

另外呢幾個月佢變得越來越有己見,出街食野買野搭的士一定要佢比錢,返屋企要佢開門,我同老公電話響一定要由佢攞電話比我地,甚至開奶餵奶換片等等佢都指定邊個做(好彩多數點工人同我老公,哈哈!),唔順佢意就大叫大喊...所以我地多數都就佢,不過咁係咪縱壞左佢呢?如果要改應該點入手?

麻煩晒!thx!

火火

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發表於 07-3-23 17:48 |只看該作者

Re: 小朋友大脾氣,可以點教

SandraLo
多謝你

其實以前我都成日好惡對我個女架,不過後來我發覺我每次鬧完佢

佢都會自己一個人坐埋一邊,自己同自己講野唔彩我 :tongue: 見左幾次之後我好心痛 :-( :-( 跟住就同自己講,唔得啦我要改啦,以後都唔可以咁對個女,我依家都係用堅持及罰企對佢,如有時佢玩具周圍放,唔會放回原位,咁我就一定要佢做囉

佢多數都會做,不過有時d脾氣唔好,哭.... 仲有咩方法可以做呢???
希望可以見到多d媽咪成功啦

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Re: 小朋友大脾氣,可以點教

~火火~ 寫道:
Hi! SandraLo:
我都係一次過睇晒呢個topic,學到好多野,仲實行左3日,囝囝真係扭少左d!但仲有d問題想請教下你,請賜教!
bb而家2歲2個月,一向食飯都係食到咁上下就會含住啖飯好耐,個咀唔肯郁.以前我地會哄佢(話佢食快d就同佢落街,比糖佢食...)但冇乜效.跟住就會嚇佢,攞間尺or 話叫個惡亞姨攞藤條上黎(我朋友),用親呢招都可以令佢乖一陣,所以而家bb唔肯換片,換衫,總之曳曳時我地都係咁嚇佢....
不過睇左呢個topic知道嚇係唔好,所以我開始改,佢乖的時候讚下佢,發脾氣時唔理佢,bb真係扭少左同換衫換片都快左少少(唔駛通屋捉)但食飯就始終都係咁,所以我老公都係要用嚇呢招!請問有咩好方法呀?

另外呢幾個月佢變得越來越有己見,出街食野買野搭的士一定要佢比錢,返屋企要佢開門,我同老公電話響一定要由佢攞電話比我地,甚至開奶餵奶換片等等佢都指定邊個做(好彩多數點工人同我老公,哈哈!),唔順佢意就大叫大喊...所以我地多數都就佢,不過咁係咪縱壞左佢呢?如果要改應該點入手?

麻煩晒!thx!
火火

火火：

如果係「食到咁上下就會含住啖飯好耐,個咀唔肯郁」，情況不太差，首先要睇吓佢係唔係「唔夠餓」，兩餐中間時間會否太短，太多零食，或者係你要佢食嘅嘢太多！

排除咗呢啲可能性之後，都係用番嗰招：「讚」，等佢知道做啱一個行為係會受到讚賞，依家嘅問題只係佢含住啲飯時，你就冇機會讚。你要「見好即收」，頭幾次可能要減少少飯量先，假設佢平時食到第五啖就會唅，咁就要响第四啖前就讚：嘩好叻喎，bb冇唅住d 飯，好快吞咗喎！如是者佢真係可以完成嗰碗少咗啲嘅飯，就要大讚佢！到第ニ、三次先至慢慢加番！

至於你話佢爭住做嘢或者指定邊個做，都冇乜問題，佢地呢個 age係好鍾意模仿，所以先會咁，遲些我驚你鏟佢都唔同你做

！反而「唔順佢意就大叫大喊」就要 ignore，唔好俾佢得逞！

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