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klk.klk


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發表於 05-7-25 13:00 |只看該作者

Re: 老婆不愛我

為免再有傷害，我把所有留言都刪除了！以後也不再上來！
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Re: 老婆不愛我

一段婚姻，十之八九，其實說穿一句，雙方都要負上責任的。............
誰會直率地說出所認識的真實？有所認識的少數人，愚蠢地不隱蔽自己充實的心，向愚民們說明他們的感情和見識，他們總是被人磔死或燒死。 歌德 <<浮士德>>入來做下test，不同的人對事情有不同的看法和感受﹗
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Re: 老婆不愛我

原來講咁多野都係想為自己變心有第三者而解釋!!
祝你同你既新愛人，"愛"到永遠!!
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發表於 05-7-25 14:14 |只看該作者

Re: 老婆不愛我

klk:

我想比個反面教村你姐, 你知啦, 承諾講就容易, 個PK開頭都話會照顧囝囡, 但後來又點呀, 佢過話會照顧老婆一世LA, 又點呀, 呢D承諾係人都識講, 係唔係做倒就唔敢講 (我係話個PK姐, 我唔係話你呀), 我只不過係希望有D人作出決定之後, 到等時唔好後悔姐 (例如個PK咁), 我都希望你會做到好爸爸應做o既責任, 你要知細路仔係好容易受人影響, 唔好比佢好似我表弟妹咁憎個老豆, 呢件事一處理得唔好, 最大o既傷害係你地個細路.

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發表於 05-7-25 16:08 |只看該作者

Re: 老婆不愛我

睇左你的老婆不愛我了, 只希望你們記住考慮小朋友的存在
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發表於 05-7-25 16:32 |只看該作者

Re: 老婆不愛我

睇左個topic咁耐，實在好想講…………
你開口埋口話太太對你點唔好、對你點冷淡、你幾咁可憐、你幾咁無奈、你幾咁辛苦!! 我想問問你，一個你對左廿年既女人，你究竟有冇諗過佢有咩優點??
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RL


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發表於 05-7-25 21:31 |只看該作者

Re: 老婆不愛我

RL:

其實你只是想同大家講,你是一個好男人,好爸爸...你有幾痛苦,點解你咁痛苦重可以識女仔,你有心情咩,原來你解決夫妻
關係方法就係去識女仔解決......真係恭喜你,你做到啦,唔好
再扮到好慘啦,

RL
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發表於 05-7-25 23:46 |只看該作者

Re: 老婆不愛我

睡覺 寫道:
一段婚姻，十之八九，其實說穿一句，雙方都要負上責任的。............



sadman:好鬼欣賞你,心水請

二個都要打 ]

第三者打少D

致第三者
我相信你的內心亦矛盾,亦都不想做第三者,親戚朋友你亦不想同他們分享,希望藉著不認識的BK友主持公道,減低自己的罪惡感,或搵BK友認同你的想法和做法........你知嗎?若在不知情的情況下發生感情,人非草木,稱之為"人之常情",但現在,知道了實情,應該學習怎樣抽離,不要咩著"第三者"稱號.

moon~moon
雖則在BK上好多靚太撐你,並非代表你正確,事不離實,源頭有你起.........

kk
錯不在你先,但罪不致你搵藉口找第三者,為了你們的婚姻,為了你們的兒女,及時補救,遺時未晚.....

雙方肯認錯,才是真正解決的辨法,間接地.....兒女才真正有基本的幸福和成長
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helloxyz


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發表於 05-7-26 15:17 |只看該作者

Re: 老婆不愛我

這是一個家庭的悲劇, 很同意sadman的意見. 想來兩人要再起埋一齊不會容易, 不過念在子女的份上, 你們可以再給自已的婚姻, 自已的家和自已的子女多一次機會嗎?

:lol:
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Littleleaf


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發表於 05-7-26 16:57 |只看該作者

Re: 老婆不愛我

sadman

問題不是在於那一方認錯, 而是klk klk已對moon moon沒有愛意了. 他愛上別人了. 加上你可看見klk klk沒有意向與moon moon和好. 他只是不斷為自己的錯解釋. 你可從他最近回應的內容可看到.
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發表於 05-7-26 19:55 |只看該作者

Re: 老婆不愛我

吉川小姐 寫道:
我用左一個小時睇晒成個ｓｔｏｒｙ！
我覺得開頭可能是女方有d問題,不過, klk.klk因為太太的冷淡而作出如此既不滿同complain, 仲要公開來討論! 真係好小男人! 如果有你咁既老公, 你太太的壓力都唔少 唔好同自己搵籍口~唔好諗住你咁詳細既文章會令人覺得你既背叛是理所當然, 是你老婆自取的! 你真係好過份!



事實是你一早根本唔愛你老婆喇! 你咁不滿, 又唔去離婚, 但又要去搵第2個女人, 咁為何唔離婚後先去搵呢? 有人可憐你就可以搭上咩? 你在同自己良心找籍口吧?

我老公在結婚前都知我係性冷感架~我地一個月都無一次的! 佢都願意同我結婚, 因為佢愛我! 我地由相識到依家己經14年喇!但一樣咁愛對方! 佢從來無因為我呢個(病)而放棄過我~ 一直支持我, 從來無比壓力我! 最後我既(病)被佢(醫好)左~因為我感受到佢既無條件既愛; 我相信, 你給你太太好大壓力, 你要求係(付出)一定要有(回報), 比著我一定好怕, then會迫! 咁係愛既表現咩? 你根本只向你所謂既(愛)而想! 你老婆既反應好可能係因為你無型既壓力而成, 女人唔同男人, 要有心靈上的滿足才會有需要才會想!

我想問問, 當有一日,你第2個女人老了, 都無性慾了! 你又會另找她人愛你嗎?

你真的好可怕



同意!
"愛"不是要計算著對方可以為自己付出多少?
並要有相同份量的回報!
"愛"是願意為對方無條件付出!
而不問任何的理由!
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發表於 05-7-26 23:52 |只看該作者

Re: 老婆不愛我

klk klk

After reading your story, I don’t feel I have the right or ability to pass judgement on your marriage because only the two of you know what is actually going on. A third party, even if they are very close to you both, can never fully understand, let alone, us – a group of virtual BK members.

But I think you need to understand that in every breakdown of a relationship, both parties must take some responsibilities. Yes, your wife might be wrong in not giving you more attention and making you feel loved. But have you ever thought of what you have or have not done which could have caused your wife to behave in such a way? Honestly there has been a time (the year after I gave birth to my daughter) when I have treated my husband in the same way as your wife had. At that time, I feel very stressed and tired from taking care of our baby and I feel that my husband is not giving me the support that I need. Not that my husband is not helping, actually he is very good and tried as hard as he can. But men are men, they are just always very careless and I just feel that I have to take on the whole burden of childcare + housework + going out to work. Do you know how much pressure a women has to endure when she becomes a mother? It is not just physical but emotional as well. One day I am a pampered wife without a care in the world and the next day I became 100% responsible for another human being who is totally dependent on you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. This, plus all the post-natal hormones and sleepless nights from breastfeeding and baby waking will easily throw a new mother into depression. Now, looking back, I can see that my anger and indifference towards him at that time was coming from inside myself because I was feeling exhausted and very alone in my new role as a mother. Luckily, my husband was very understanding and gave me time, space and lots of care to let me adapt to my new role. What I am saying is, instead of putting all the blame on your wife, why don’t you ask yourself whether you have shown your wife that you understood her difficulties and contributions and that you appreciate her for being a good mother to your children. You said you come back from OT late at night, wanting to cuddle and kiss, but have you thought that your wife might have had a long tired day working and taking care of the kids and is just exhausted and desperate for sleep? If you really love her, you would let her rest instead of blaming her for not wanting to have sex! A woman just needs that bit more reassurance, that bit more care from her husband in order to make her feel loved and be in the mood for love.

Well, maybe you think you have already done all that I have said above and still conclude that your wife is to blame, I can’t argue with you on that because as I said in the beginning I am in no position to judge. But your handling of the situation which all of us can see in this BK forum is 100% selfish and cruel. Even if your wife is in the wrong, it doesn’t give you the excuse to be unfaithful. These are 2 different things. 2 wrongs do not give 1 right. There are other ways to resolve your situation. Obviously you can try counselling first. If that doesn’t work, you can try separating first to stress to your wife that you really mean it. And if your wife is still unmoved, then your can file for divorce before starting a new relationship. You keep saying you didn’t separate with your wife because of your children, but once you found your new love you are willing to leave your children behind, so before you found your lover, you were just hiding behind your children, using them as an excuse and not facing up to the situation.

Secondly, if you are really posting on this forum to explain to your relatives and friends about what went wrong in your marriage, that is the most disrespectful thing you can do to your wife. What happens between the 2 of you is private, no third party can judge you or your wife and there’s no need to justify to anybody why you need to separate. You are just tarnishing your wife’s reputation in order to make your affair seems less evil. How can you do this to your wife, your children’s mother, your lover for 20 years? When your children grows up, what do you think they will think of you as a father if they read this forum? They will think their father had an affair because their mother was too busy taking care of them and doesn’t have time and energy for you. And their father has to announce to everybody in a public forum of their mother’s wrongdoing. What kind of embarrassment do you want your wife and children to endure?

Please think of the consequences of your own actions before blaming others.
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發表於 05-7-27 11:08 |只看該作者

Re: 老婆不愛我

KK,

I joined the forum again was because, firstly, you promised not the joined the forum but I didn't. (I asked you not to joined as what you said is really hurting me!) and secondly, I found what you expressed recently was still protecting your lover which was really makes me feeling bad!! Thirdly, you should know I am not the one like arguing, that's why I did not say anything since the first time you joined this forum. In addition, you know I typed Chinese very slowly and I don't have Chinese softwares in my office and I don't want to type at home as your daugther will read!! But it seems that I did not express my feel as you think I am guilty and agree you are a victims!! I am guilty is because I ignore your feel in the past and did not take good care of your complain in the past and I am guilty is because I cannot let my kids to have a healthy family. But as the BK friends said, we both have responsibility and it doesn't means you can go to find another lover to fill up the love you think you have lost from me!! It seems that you want me to tell all BK friends everything here, right? Okay, we've together for 20 years. And I been worked in this company for 20 years as well, as you know, I have been busied for 20 years.. You know how tough of my job, I need to work late every day (while most of the colleagues went home and I am the only to stay in office, I always cried in the office!) and then I need to have dinner with customers sometimes and then need to go to China as well which I need to wake up by 5:30am in the morning. I did not quit was because the morgage of our apartment were paid by me since we have the first apartment. Half of my monthly salary were used to pay for the morgage, and then since I had the 2nd baby, I paid for the salary of our maid. And then kids' insurance, activites' tution fee.... I worked in the company like a dog, project coordinator, personal assistance of my boss, samples packing and sometimes even coulie... I don't express too much my stress from my occupation to you so much as I don't think you will understand and when I told you, sometimes i feel you don't support me thus who should I talk to, your daughter!! She will then told me "mum, not to cry, please come back home immediately as I will give you a hub and kiss, why the other people not treat you good, I hate them!!" this is the support I want!! And the other reason is we have apartment, car and 2 lovely kids and a stable living life, I want to keep that as it seems everyone is happy and I don't want to change it, so I keep everthing in my heart, you know!! You want me to say this, I have already told you but did you accept?? YOU SAID YOU DON'T ACCEPT AS THIS IS MY EXCUSE!! Then what should I say!! I want to quit when the little boy get into Primary school as the expenses for the family will be less but now you are going to leave the family and I have to work like a dog for more than 10 years, you know?? I am suffering pressure from my job and living and did not express to you as I don't want to give you pressure but you never understand and said this is my excuse and not love you, and then to find another lover, is it fair to me?? You know how tired am I when I go home by 8 or 9 sometimes even later and then to take care of the kids and I never have any free time and then I want to sleep in order to have enough energy to deal with the other day, you think I did that purposely because I don't love you, right?? You blamed me not to care of you, please think that I always asked you to have dinner just you and me during Friday, and sometimes when you need to wait for me for sometimes you looks angry, you think I want you to wait, and then sometimes you will say why you like to have dinner on Friday, so many people during weekend!! But I still insist to have our own time because I want to have time just for you and me!! I will hold you hands everytime when we go out, don't you remember?? And I will come to your office and wait for you for lunch sometimes if I go out to work or having holiday as I want to see you, is this because I don't love you??? :-( I told you I will forget everything you did and want you to come back, what did you said, you said I don't believe you!! ""What can I do if you treat me like before if I go home???""" You did something wrong and then ask me how to guarantee your future! Should I say I will let you to find 2nd, 3rd and forth lover without complain if your future life to be like before!! It looks like everything I step in but you step out!! I fully understood you love me so much in the past and I didn't please you as what you expect, but it doesn't mean I don't love you, if I did not love you, I will not to have 2 kids with you and did not give you any pressure (to let you to do what you want in the past, changing car, buying stock and then you want to go out with diving and I stay home to take care of kids!!) is this because I don't love you!! I did not tell your family and my family with what you did for me as I don't want them to give you pressure and I suffered all those by myself, is it because I don't love you??? It is because I want you to be back??? YOU KNOW WHEN YOU LEAVE US LAST NIGHT, YOUR DAUGHTER GET INTO TAXI AND THEN TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND I ASKED HER WHAT'S WRONG, SHE SAID NOTHING!! YOU KNOW HOW BAD I FEEL?? YOU KNOW I CAN'T SLEEP FOR THE PAST FEW MONTHS AND CANNOT EAT WELL, IS IT BECAUSE I DON'T LOVE YOU?? IF SO, I SHOULD BE HAPPY AND I SHOULD BE ABLE TO SLEEP WELL AND EAT WELL, BUT ALL YOU THINK IS WRONG!! ONE MORE THING, I CALLED YOU LOVER AND NEVER YELL ON HER, everbodies said i am too kind to her, i told them i am not that kind of person and i don't want to make the things worst as I know you don't like me to do that, you always asked me to clam down, I think I am do a good job already but please consider how I feel, I am a human being, facing with this kind of problem and suffering everything by myself, if I lose my temper in some times, this should be understandable. (And you always claim that I am not clam down enough and just want to not let you to come back!!)

Again, I think you will feel I am find a excuse, that's fine, I know you have already not to love me anymore and give your love to another person. But please consider about your kids, they are so poor, you see how they feel very well when you not to be back for 2 weeks!! Your daughter cry in the beach and said I missed daddy so much while you are having fun with your lover in Thailand!! You feel you doing right with the family??? I called you and ask you to call your daughter but you never responds and just pretend you bring with wrong charger and never calld back!! I don't care about this if you willing to come back but you don't want, is it my problem??

You asked me to find social workers, the purpose is to ask the social worker (not yourself) to tell me you want to leave our family and asked me to clam down and to accept the truth!!!! Why you so cruel??

Is it something you want me to tell the BK friends!!

That's enough for now, you want me to tell more for the BK friends, okay, I will try to tell them and you more when go home and type in Chinese.
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發表於 05-7-27 11:11 |只看該作者

Re: 老婆不愛我

為免再有傷害，我把所有留言都刪除了！以後也不再上來！
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Littleleaf


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發表於 05-7-27 11:21 |只看該作者

Re: 老婆不愛我

BChingma

You are very right but unfortunately this man klk klk would never listen to those BK friends who do not stand in his side. You could see klk klk aways stands firm in his own thoughts because his philosophy is that cuddle + kiss + sex = love and without these factors = not loved. He would never think of or accept any reasons why his wife was not doing what he expected.

I find this man very disappointed as at this stage he is still not willing to repair the relationship with his wife but adversely he chooses to stay with his new lover and leave his family.

This man, klk klk, is lost from the dark. I hope he will find his way back home soon.

klk klk - your children will sure not be growing up healthily and happily because you have taken away their "happiness". What "happiness" means to your children which is a happy family life.
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發表於 05-7-27 11:37 |只看該作者

Re: 老婆不愛我

klk klk

Your wife, moon moon, has expressed her feeling today which posted before your response. You could see she has already told everybody including you here that she does not care what you did wrong in the past and wants you back to her.

klk klk, I can tell that moon moon loves you very much so please re-consider your decision.

To meet a girl in the world who became your wife in your life is a "destiny". You can be the father of your 2 kids are also a "destiny". Please save their lives as well as your life too. Time to return home now.....
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發表於 05-7-27 12:00 |只看該作者

Re: 老婆不愛我

KK,

I have already told you, the road facing us is very difficult but if we (our whole family)be able to stay together, I can sure we will be able to walk through and have a brighter life. Our kids is our my important support, if they happy, I will surely be happy and I will forget any painful. Just like what I am facing, when I see they cries and missing you, then I am so painful and then cry. However, when I heard their laugthing while playing with you, I will be released and feeling happy and then I will forget everything!! As I can see how they love you and how happy will be if we can have a happy family again!!
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AllyChan


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發表於 05-7-27 12:09 |只看該作者

Re: 老婆不愛我

睇完 moonmoon 寫
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