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Re: 有冇姐妹開始著手做ivf,一齊分享?

Dear meimei, lanittp,

My M already comes on last Saturday but this time I haven't get a serious pain. For my past M experience (after failed IUI), I should have a painful M on the first day. But now I don't need to take any pills, just have some minor pain but not serious & the outcome is also same as the normal M.

其實我好想喊的, 但唔知點解, 我一滴眼淚都留唔出. I don't know why I've so calm & nothing to think about my fail IVF again. 雖然我不是教徒 , maybe I've already accepted this failure (as a fact) which I can't do nothing to change. 或者我覺得肯接受現實先可以改變到自己的消極想法 So I just hope to keep my health is better for coming months & decide which month I can try my 2nd IVF. Although I still have a scene from my mind when I leave from hospital last Friday, I saw a couple bringing an infant baby in the lift (while at this moment I just confirm I've failed the IVF). I'm so scare to directly face to them as my heart is so 苦 & down at this moment. In fact, I also think I'll cry in front of the doctor and nurse, but I haven't do that although my face looks pity. I forgot to ask my doctor to give me a sick leave letter, so I ask my husband to go upstairs again to collect it (I guess I'll be more disappointed if I see the nurse again). Last night, I eat my sushi and crab (that's my favorite food) without any worry to my health.....just let myself to do something is better for me.

You know I've done Endometriosis operation before Chinese New Year. Doctor said I'll get more chance to natural have a bb. Then we've tried months, failed natural way, then go back to IUI, failed again & again for 3 times, failed natural way, & then now finished my first IVF but failed. My both tubes are ok, all kinds of blood test is normal no matter testing in the IUI or IVF process. But my doctor still doesn't concrete to tell me what's my problems.....maybe a factor that my age is over 35 & my husband sperm is not so good....I don't know why. I tried almost three Chinese doctors from last year until now. Spending so much time & money, effort during the process. My husband's mom knowing that I want to have bb & curious why I always need to drink Chinese medicine for 1 year. Last time, when I've fever & serious pain of stomach, she said that maybe I drink a lot of Chinese medicine. I don't know how to revert to her. Maybe her daughters (my husband's sisters) are more easy to have a baby. My husband's eldest sister also have endometriosis operation before, then get pregnant after few months. Now her daughter is only 1 year old but she get pregnant again for more than 3 months la.....(my husband's sister is older than me tim...). So when I face within his family gathering especially all kids in there, sometimes I feel very uncomfortable. How come I cannot have one baby.

Lanittp - although your husband's sperm has problem but at least he's so willing to share, support with you & willing to taking medicine. For me, although I don't want to say too much about this issue....but our sex relationship is not good. My husband always doesn't have intention or interest to do do except I tell him my cycle schedule. He always said it's because of working pressure. He see one of doctor (after I request him for so many times). Doctor said it's because of his mental problem not really his physical. But seeing the doctor for so long, I can't see any improvement from him. He still only sitting on his room, checking email, internet ....etc. My doctor also said that his sperms report is only so so.....sometimes meet the standard & sometimes below a bit. We've argued this point & I've been crying for so much times. Then I ask him to see Chinese doctor, firstly he's unwilling to drink but afterwards we're going to take Chinese medicine before my IVF. Although he loves to have a baby, but he's no action or no interest, how come to have a baby (which I always telling him). As sperm motility is also a key factor for the success of the treatment, if only doing on my day 14, 16. I don't think the sperm quality is good. Somehow, man knows their problem but reluctant or unwilling to improve or heal.

So you may understand how much pressure & suffering from him but I cannot share with his family. I hope he can grow up & understand my situation. 佢明明知道我有幾辛苦, 佢只要肯改變下已經會好好多, 其實我覺得做什麼療程怎樣辛苦對我都不是太重要, 我知道自己捱到, 最重要是你身邊的人可以和你配合, 可以明白你的痛苦, 體諒你, 生 BB 不只是一個女人就可以控制到 , 上天考驗我已經好多好多, 我的忍耐力為何這樣驚人 , 何時天父先給我這份產業呢 !!

smilewa

HappyCC,
Come over to this topic & I'm sure all sisters will glad to share & support with you. Don't just always crying as it's definitely affected to your hormones & your reaction to the pills or injections (after you begin with your IVF treatment).

Be positive to step on this IVF journey, all sisters will support you.

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發表於 06-10-23 12:08 |只看該作者

Re: 有冇姐妹開始著手做ivf,一齊分享?

kyliekylie,

最重要係找到一個夾的中醫, 如果唔係就仲衰. 我睇中醫睇左超過3年,都有少少心得. 若果睇左成2,3個月(仲係日日飲藥)都唔覺得有進展,就應該考慮轉中醫. 我試過食左D對我黎講太補的藥, 攪到越黎越倦仲會塞住D經脈添, 所以要小心D.

cat0303 :wink: :wink:

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發表於 06-10-23 14:05 |只看該作者

Re: 有冇姐妹開始著手做ivf,一齊分享?

smilewa,

I am so sorry to hear about it and worry that you cannot release your feelings out. Sometimes you may think that you can cope with it but actually you could not. May be talk to the sister here is a good way out.

I find that if you have hope that your husband would work as hard as us(try any possible way), you would be disappointed and feel unhappy. As man is always like a child and refuse to grow up. My husband understands that exercise is good for our health, especially his sperm report is not very satifactory, but he would not go to exercise unless I would go. However, I cannot have exercise after IUI, so every month I just have 2 weeks for exercise. Don't feel disappointed that your husband do not work as hard as we are, since they are different kind of animal

. But I do agree that his support is really important for us. Maybe share with us is an alternative, I know that it would be the best to have your half to support, but hold tight our happiness key ourselves.

Show the man that we can achieve with our continuous courage.

cat0303 :wink: :wink:

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發表於 06-10-23 14:15 |只看該作者

Re: 有冇姐妹開始著手做ivf,一齊分享?

cat0303, I totally agree your point, thus, I am still searching a good dr. to see, also, I don't want to find one that is too far away from my home, because visiting dr. all the time will increase my pressure & that might not good for my health.
I am living in HK island, any suggestion to me ?
Which chi. dr. you are using? Is he/she good? Can you give me the details & let me have a look?

Many many thanks!

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發表於 06-10-23 14:27 |只看該作者

Re: 有冇姐妹開始著手做ivf,一齊分享?

Dear cat0303,

You'rre right that 'Man is always like a child and refuse to grow up'. I also ask him to do some exercise in order to improve the sperm report, but finally he doesn't do anything although he knows it may work. So finally I only ask him to take some vitamins as a supplement.

I guess I may have a big cry when I see a sad movie. Right now, I feel better, at least I don't want my emotion is so fluctuate.....& stay calm. I haven't imagine I would bring out this issue in this topic as it's a very private issue between a couple. But I think I've already release some stress after spoken out with all of you. So now I back to work, keep my health condition better, then we can have a baby. Otherwise, no good health, no baby ma...

Thanks very much for your care indeed,
smilewa

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發表於 06-10-23 14:31 |只看該作者

Re: 有冇姐妹開始著手做ivf,一齊分享?

meimei223,

My current Chinese doctor is in Lam Tin. He is the only one that can improve my health, like I used to be very tired and need afternoon nap in Sat and Sun and could not play tennis with my husband. But now I don't need to have afternoon nap and play tennis with my husband for an hour.

He is a pretty weire doctor and want to refuse to take my case as he said my pulse was too weak and asked me whether I would have kid in my faith. So I told him that I have seen 4 Chinese doctors before and just tried your best, I would be really appreciated only if my health could be improved and would not have a high hope to have baby. At least I have tried my best and done whatever I know.

I would say his medicine work better than those I have seen. If you are still interest, I can send you his information.

cat0303 :wink: :wink: :wink:

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發表於 06-10-23 18:00 |只看該作者

Re: 有冇姐妹開始著手做ivf,一齊分享?

meimei223,

In fact, I've one Chinese doctor in HK side, I've PM details to you, pls check.

smilewa

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發表於 06-10-23 18:41 |只看該作者

Re: 有冇姐妹開始著手做ivf,一齊分享?

Happy CC
Hi! 因為我個肚的BB，經常肚餓，所以經常吃東西，hehehe....但因前幾天，不小心吃了少許羊肉，有少許不適；但吃了中藥，沒事了。How about you?What time you will start the IVF?

Meimei223
I'm so sorry ,I just only have Dr.Chung only.And last time my friend tell me have the Chinese doctor at HK side.But I forgot the address and tel no.Maybe I will tell you later when I find my friend.
May the years bring everything you are looking forward to.

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發表於 06-10-23 22:17 |只看該作者

Re: 有冇姐妹開始著手做ivf,一齊分享?

Thanks all sisters' help :) You gals are so nice to me :lol: :lol: :lol: I feel very warm from all of you.

I will keep looking for a good Dr. & let you know if I can find one :)

Cat0303, thanks for your help again ! I want to find one not only improve my health, but he/she understand more about Infertility & even more on IVF. Anyway, thanks for your details information about the dr. & let me decide which dr. is fit me. But, that's good if you can find one dr. who really can improve your health :)

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Re: 有冇姐妹開始著手做ivf,一齊分享?

Smilewa, I think you are too upsat that might cause you can't cry. That's the most painful feeling I can imagine. If possible, just release your feeling & have a big cry. That might really good for you.

Just forget your husband la, he might scare to facing his problem, sometimes women is really can't understand men's thinking. They will only say " I don't want, but no reason", because my husband's behaviour also like that.

You know what, I remember two yrs ago, I told him I want to divorce with him, the reasons are he not care about me, seems not love me at all. He seldom to kiss me & give me hug. Never buy me flower, bring me to good restaurant.

You know how he reply to me, he said because I am his wife, he assume I understand him & don't need to do these low level love. He made me very angry at that moment. I told him, even that is superficial, but I really need that kinds of feeling.

Finally, we both make a balance, I reduce my standard & he improve his roles. Did you talk with him seriously? My husband seems can't hear my voice, except I "yell" very loud & angry very seriously. But the most important is "communicate", just tell him what you disagree & explain detaily how he can improve, give him suggestion what he can do to make you happy. Just consider him is very naive. I always treat my husband like that & he just follow my ways to make me happy.

I think your husband is love you, just don't know how to express himself & meet your reqirements.
Just teach him like a child

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Re: 有冇姐妹開始著手做ivf,一齊分享?

Smilewa,

我諗你老公會唔會唔想去面對佢自己既問題呢？因為其實我老公都好「細路」，一向都唔會好面對問題，但係自從我地試左兩年都「搞唔出人命」，真係叫佢去驗呢樣驗果樣甚至睇中醫飲苦茶都肯（佢最最最怕的），我諗如果唔係佢好想要ｂｂ，佢係唔會咁合作的。我都問過佢點解咁「順担」，佢都係話佢好想有自己既ｂｂ，同埋佢話男人有sperm既問題唔係個個都面對到，因為始終係「男人最痛」。

至於你話兩夫婦既sex life，我諗兩個人對住咁耐，可能唔多唔少會覺得悶（特別係ｄ男人怕悶嘛），加上佢知道自己有問題的話，可能更加唔想去觸及這方面，唔知我的分析合不合理呢？

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發表於 06-10-24 09:37 |只看該作者

Re: 有冇姐妹開始著手做ivf,一齊分享?

HI
請問大家係咪都係m來第二日去驗血, 第三日見醫生..
咁第幾日開始打針??打幾多日呢???
係咪同做iui打個d針一樣..不過打多d呢???

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Re: 有冇姐妹開始著手做ivf,一齊分享?

janemarple,

我都係係m來第二日去驗血, 但冇見醫生, 因為醫生話我的FSH高, 要睇驗血先

cat0303

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Re: 有冇姐妹開始著手做ivf,一齊分享?

I just called pwh and found out that my blood report was ready and the FSH is 12.xx and the lady told me that I may need special treatment. Would anybody know what is the special treatment and how it is difference from the normal IVF?

cat0303

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Re: 有冇姐妹開始著手做ivf,一齊分享?

我剛剛在瑪麗排期做IVF, 要明年七月才做. 現在好想知道會做什麼, 辛苦嗎, 之前應準備什麼, 見到有些網友話睇中醫, 是否應該做.... 因為無人可以傾, 個人唔係好開心. Thanks.

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Re: 有冇姐妹開始著手做ivf,一齊分享?

Steplim,
I also made an appointment in QMH at June, but need to consult the dr. 1st, it might take one more yr to wait. Did you see the dr. already?

Yes, during this period, you better prepare very good health. Where are u living? I can send you some chi. dr. from other sisters. For myself, I haven't decide to visit which one. You can check other topics about 中醫+IVF.

Don't worry, in here all sisters are willing to share with you & they're very helpful. I also learnt a lot of things from here. U will become a specialist very soon. :)

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Re: 有冇姐妹開始著手做ivf,一齊分享?

hi meimei,

I have already consult the dr once in QMH. I will attend a talk on Feb 2007 and start the treatment in July.

I am living in Chai Wan. Is there any chinese doctor at Chai Wan.

Thank you.

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