chansc912 寫道:
icoico,
其實你女兒都已經好乖啦, 去街好少扭抱, 我諗真係學校去巴士站那段路問題, 因為大人都要行7-10分鐘(還要行樓梯), 如果同小朋友行起碼將時間加倍, 其實對小朋友來說算是吃力, 再加上是放學後, 你諗吓小朋友(只係2歲半)會將所有注意力及精力都會放在學校的遊戲,聽講等等, 所以佢放學叫攰都很正常. 雖然我此說不是鼓勵你去抱她, 但起碼你有同理心去看件事, 比我做法會係嘗試找另外一條容易行既路, 如無, 只有這條的話, 你可在上樓梯時同佢玩'猜包剪x', 猜嬴行三級至五級, 你盡量給她嬴, 待她有勝利感, 又或者在最後誰嬴有糖食或佢鐘意的食物.
另外, 你可同佢傾計時問她(不要在行這條路才問), 放學行去巴士站個條路係唔係好長好攰, 嘗試問她感受, 而你都要講返你的感受給她知, 等大家都知道, 講完之後第二曰, 你再同佢講, 如果誰在當日沒有叫攰咁叻就話比Daddy知, 等Daddy讚, 當然那天最終你是輸個位, 等佢或你講比Daddy知. 等小朋友好似好叻咁, 如想再加強給她叻的感受, 你可在她面前致電給外婆或麻麻知, 比佢知道她係超叻及可叻過媽咪.
雖然我不知是否可行, 亦都係請教顧問SandreLo好D, 總之我希望你可以盡快解決此問題.
努力!努力!
chansc912
twg 寫道:
hi Sandra
in fact I am just doing that for the last 2 nights, I did not response to his behaviour, including 'meet' my eyes & lips (I pretend to have slept), no toys in bedroom already (all are in dinning room), he just played with his fingers!! he even did not zzz after I have really zzz until my husband noticed that he was still awake! I heard my husband scolded him then he quickly closed his eyes and zzz.
is there still anything wrong? pls advise!! thousand thanks
& 
我無比 any response and ate my own dish, after 15 mins, he calm down and play his other toys, then 我叫佢執返d玩具比我沒收, then 罰企, 又隔籬, 但佢不斷係度玩, 企得唔好, 結果拉据左成個鐘至被我罰完
如何?
bblui 寫道:
sandra,
thank u very much for your "easter gift"!
my son (now almost 2) used to hit other kids a lot, but now he's very well-behaved coz i used the method that u recommended. i also agree that we should not 就住就住 praise our bbs coz i found that my bb's behaviour changed a lot particularly if i do some "advance praisings". When i say "advance praisings", i mean praising him well in advance, like when we are at home, beginning to change his clothes to go to the park/shopping malls, i'll praise him "wow, bb, u r such a good baby wor, didn't hit anyone bor! you made me so happy ar... blablabla..." (my husband said i'm mad coz of course he didn't hurt anyone coz there're no other kids around in our home).. then on the way to the park/shops, i'll praise him for the same thing...
but i'm now experiencing another problem... when i 話 him for say, playing with his cup of water, he'll scratch/hit me... & when he does this, i'll say it hurts & i'm not happy & i'll tell him i'm not going to play with u & i'll go into the kitchen for a while (to let myself cool down coz i'm really pissed off whenever he does such things!) is this the "ignore" method that u r mentioned or have i missed anything coz his scratching/hitting me didn't improve (i did praise him in advance, but he's still doing this... ).. thx.. & happy easter!
twg 寫道:
Hi Sandra
我地尋晚係咁：
7:30pm-8:15 dinner
==> 佢食咗2啖就離開位, 我同佢講 gave him one chance and then he sat down and ate 2 more spoons, then left his chair again, this time 我收碗之後就無再比番, he
so we could not have play time at 8:30 - 9:30
企完我同佢傾咗一陣(mainly 解釋點解要罰佢)
(佢由我收碗後我每叫佢做嘢佢就不斷問我會唔會同佢zzz--of coz including 罰企, 我無答佢, 我呢段時間當咗自己啞咗)
9:30 ==> read one book with him
10:00 ==> ask him to brush teeth
10:15 ==> ask him to zzz 佢帶住MICKEY(伴ZZ毛公仔)上床著片, 佢問我: [媽媽你可唔可以坐係度(床邊)陪我ZZZ呀?]我放返佢係MICKEY隔離, 我坐床邊, 之後我又啞咗, 佢離開zzz的位置, 我抱返佢去zzz的位置, 如是者幾次, 佢驚我走開, 不停開眼望我, 我只望住佢, 後來佢開眼望我的次數相隔長咗, 約10:40, C6返來, 佢聽到即彈起, 想走, 又被我抱返佢去zzz的位置, 佢 :-( :-( :-( , c6入黎同佢傾咗一陣約3分鐘, 表示知佢唔開心, then goodnite, c6出去, 我continue坐返床邊, 佢只望咗一至二次, 11:05, zzzz
不過我今朝唔記得讚佢, 有無問題呢? pls comment!
今晚繼續呢個zzz遊戲!
thank you very much!!!!
You're improving a lot ! You can see that he's losing temper for only 15 min as you're using the right ignoring technique this time ! hilarymom 寫道:
Sandra,我真的很佩服你,咁有心機解答媽咪們的問題。我其實有一個我認為的大難題,不知應怎樣做,想請教你,因我已看了很多育兒的書,也不知如何解決。
我有兩個女,一個2歲8個月, 一個3個半月。小的是工人湊,因我要返工,但放工後都盡量陪她們。由於我有兩個女,所以分給細女的不多,所以她比較chi工人是可以理解。但她好像連父母都不喜歡。白天我們抱還可以,但一到晚上,或沖涼時她就一定要工人抱,否則就哭過不停,無論爸爸媽媽怎樣氹她都不行 (不過一次我索性帶到樓下走一轉時就沒有哭,但一回家又是哭過不停),當我一給工人抱,她就立刻收聲。
我其實已經盡量在工餘時間和她玩,但時間一定沒有工人多。而工人是很疼她的。
我的問題是,怎樣才可使她也感受及接受我們的關懷呢?那我們以後豈不是到那裡都要帶著工人嗎?不可能吧!現在我是會讓她哭到睡覺為止,這會是一兩小時後的事了, 因她很長氣。我又怕這樣哭法長期下去會對她不好,我覺得她比家姐難湊很多。
我除了禱告外, 可否教我怎樣做呢?不勝感激。
hilarymom 寫道:
多謝你的回覆。我昨晚試過不抱她後, 今天她對我沒有那麼抗拒,因我不讓工人抱那麼多。
但她仍然很喜歡扭抱,時常要抱住,一放低就哭過不停(已檢查過不是肚餓或要換片,而且之前抱著她玩了好一會兒)。我真的很忍心, 又是由她哭,但我在她身邊,一路看這個topic, 不路用眼尾看她,她很聰明,不看著她時她沒有哭得那麼大聲,但當知道我看著她時,她就哭得特別大聲。到最後當然由是哭到睡著了 (我在她快睡著時給了她飲奶)。
問題是, 我是否對一個這麼小的bb來說殘忍了些?我工人很錫她,她就因為我們不抱她已哭了數次了。我其實是想訓練她不要時常要抱,我們會和她玩,抱她,照顧她的飲食,但不想她時常無理取鬧, 事實上,她是比其他bb愛哭呢?
提外話,我知道你是基督徒,很開心你可以在這裡帶著基督愛人的精神去幫助我們。
chungphoebe 寫道:
Hi,我都有d難題唔知可唔可以教我點樣應付呢.
我個bb女而家13個月大,佢識行啦,咁佢成日都會走入廚房,我同佢講過好多次唔可以入去,講極佢都唔聽….有時我越叫.佢就仲要行快幾步入去….我有試過打佢,但係都無用….我又有試過罰佢番網床,唔比佢出離…但係隔左陣,放番佢出離,佢又係咁….咁我仲可以點呢?
另外,佢而家用有飲管既杯飲水….佢好多時都係吸左一啖,就”poon”番d水出離….我試過”獎”佢個咀….同佢講,d水係飲既,唔係玩既….但佢都係咁樣….我又可以點教佢?
i…其實我有諗過係唔係bb唔識聽我講野…但係好多時,叫佢囉個波波比我…比個電話我,佢都識得比我….但係一講到叫佢唔好做呢樣,唔好攪呢樣佢就好似咩都唔識,咩都聽唔到咁…
:-(
只要你 keep 住呢樣嘢，就一定掂！加油呀！ 我幾唔得閒都會上嚟睇吓有冇嘢要幫拖！
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