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will any of u consider a job that's higher pay, good titile, could learn more but have to work for long hours. 9-6 regular, 9-11pm busy season ? or stay in a job, no title, low pay and cannot learn but with great hours..???

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原文章由 ALISONLI 於 08-3-5 22:50 發表
will any of u consider a job that's higher pay, good titile, could learn more but have to work for long hours. 9-6 regular, 9-11pm busy season ? or stay in a job, no title, low pay and cannot learn bu ...

我都十五十六呀，而家份工老世勁好人，時間好就我，因為要送囝囝去托兒所，朝早日日遲到，有時要同囝囝囡囡去見醫生要早走，老世都冇話say no，我每日泵奶兩次，每次２０分鐘，lunch 我就普遍係公司食，一邊做嘢，咁就可以早Ｄ放工。不過，人工就好低（比其他同職位嘅低），title 梗係冇啦，前途都冇咩，除非轉做sales assistant or team associate/financial planner，不過公司cheap，寧願請出面人都唔想sponsor 我考牌，話我個位唔駛要牌，老世簽兩次名都俾人打番回頭，你話係咪心淡。雖然Ｄ同事成日話咁好老世好難搵，又話我放產假佢地好唔掂，連訂表格都唔識，唯有用住影印本等我返先訂，但我知今年公司唔打算加我人工，因為我上年請咗２１個星期產假，之前作小產放咗７個星期，所以連appraisal都冇同我做，即係冇人工加啦。咁而家多咗一個人食飯，真係想搵多Ｄ錢，所以都唯有努力搵份好工。。。

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發表於 08-3-10 22:06 |只看該作者

rose-mag,
i gave up la. there's just no such job out there. with good paid good title and good hours. normally ppl expect u to work like a dog and stay as long as u can, till midnite would be ideal. i guess now might not be the best time to look since our kids r too small and they need us. if i take a long hour job and i cant stand it. i cant come back to work for my current co. so i guess just be patient. ur 老世勁好人 so wait for a couple years, at least u r working and could take care of the kids at the same time. =) i kinda ignore my boss asking me to get in on time so he assign the better jobs to others and leaving me SXXX to do...of cuz i think of quitting too but man r not that trustworthy...still 1516

原文章由 rose-mag 於 08-3-8 14:27 發表

我都十五十六呀，而家份工老世勁好人，時間好就我，因為要送囝囝去托兒所，朝早日日遲到，有時要同囝囝囡囡去見醫生要早走，老世都冇話say no，我每日泵奶兩次，每次２０分鐘，lunch 我就普遍係公司食，一邊做嘢，咁就可以早Ｄ放工。不過，人工就 ...

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發表於 08-3-13 05:48 |只看該作者

Alisonli,

I think you should consider taking the new job. Higher pay, good titile, could learn more... those are the key points to change a job. I know it's not good to work for longer hours, but you can change job again after a year or so.

I have a 5 month old baby at home. My working hours are 9-6, it's not too long but it's not short either. I have considered quitting my job because I want to spend the first year with my baby. I want to witness his milestones during the first year. But my husband doesn't like the idea. He thinks it's too risky for the family on the financial side. We ended up asking my 99 to take care of the baby so I can keep working. But I really don't like to live with her. She is nice and helpful, but she kept telling me what to do with my baby. If I don't listen to her, she will keep mumbling in my back (note: she is not talking to me, but talking to herself). She kept telling me what she did with her kids 30 years ago. I feel so frustrated but my husband doesn't understand me.

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發表於 08-3-13 22:35 |只看該作者

Bonnietsw,
thanx for your advise. although they didnt ask me for 2nd interview. i guess might be becuz i gave them a bad look when they told me working till 11pm during busy season..
and also i really dont think i could handle that kinda pressure..u only have 1..i have 3..although my youngest is 2 already...they older ones are alot to handle too cuz of schoolwork etc...about your 99...i guess they r all the same. i really dont like ppl critizing me all the time as well..she used to live with us but i guess might be i said something wrong? (who knows) she kinda move out for a little bit..i think she will come back soon though....*sigh* if you want your 99 to take care of your kid for now,..just let her do the talking (u listen but u could do it ur own way) ....a nice babysitter is not easy to find...

原文章由 Bonnietsw 於 08-3-13 05:48 發表
Alisonli,

I think you should consider taking the new job. Higher pay, good titile, could learn more... those are the key points to change a job. I know it's not good to work for longer hours, but you ...

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發表於 08-3-14 00:56 |只看該作者

alisonli,

i'm with you ... even though i hv 1 kid only, i would hv the same kinda reaction as yours.
take it easy!

原文章由 ALISONLI 於 08-3-13 22:35 發表
Bonnietsw,
thanx for your advise. although they didnt ask me for 2nd interview. i guess might be becuz i gave them a bad look when they told me working till 11pm during busy season..
and also i really ...

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發表於 08-3-14 00:58 |只看該作者

原文章由 Bonnietsw 於 08-3-13 05:48 發表
Alisonli,

I think you should consider taking the new job. Higher pay, good titile, could learn more... those are the key points to change a job. I know it's not good to work for longer hours, but you ...

Bonnietsw,

I also had the idea to stay home twice, the first time after my son bornt and the 2nd time after my daughter bornt. My hubby rejected my idea twice and we really had big fight each time. Finally, I kind of gave up, not just because of his disapproval but also my worry of our financial situation and the ability to find a good job after quitting for a few years (I originally wanted to stop working until they both enter pre-school which means around 3 years' time). My mom promised to help as much as she can but I also worry about her health too. She's 65 already and my kids are growing and they will be very active and need a lot of energy to deal with. Finally, I send my son to daycare which would be a good chance for him to learn socialize too. And, my mom helps me taking care of my daughter. At least, it works out okay now. Honestly speaking, I'm so happy when I have vacation to stay home with both kids but I also enjoy to be a working mom to make some achievement at work (even though my work is just a supporting position).

For your 99, you cannot do much about it. You can ask your husband to tell her about your style of babycare (of course, don't say that it's your own idea). I can tell you that no matter it's your 99 or your own mother, the older generation always has their own thoughts and they insist that it works because it worked before when they were young. However, time passed and things changed so it's good to let your 99 knows that there're some new ways which work too.

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原文章由 ALISONLI 於 08-3-13 22:35 發表
Bonnietsw,
thanx for your advise. although they didnt ask me for 2nd interview. i guess might be becuz i gave them a bad look when they told me working till 11pm during busy season..
and also i really ...

Alisonli,

This time you didn't get the second interview, that's okay. Don't give up ar! You should keep looking and you will finally find another job.

You said something wrong to your 99 and she went away for a while? I wish I could do that... I don't think my 99 gonna leave me alone that easy... lol... I appreciate all her help, but it's really tough to live with her. I will try to take it easy when she says something. You too, stay calm when she returns.

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原文章由 rose-mag 於 08-3-14 00:58 發表

Bonnietsw,

I also had the idea to stay home twice, the first time after my son bornt and the 2nd time after my daughter bornt. My hubby rejected my idea twice and we really had big fight each tim ...

Rose-mag,

I have the same worry too – if I stay home for a few years, I may not be able to catch up when I return to the job market. My current job is in a competitive field. So couple years can make a big difference. Plus, my husband’s objection… I guess men don’t like their wives to stay home nowadays!?

Good that your mom can help you taking care of your kids. My mom has to work and take care of my sister’s baby during time off. So my 99 is the only help I have. I have talked to my husband about this issue, but he said I should appreciate her help which I did. I really appreciate it. But I am just not happy when she insists her way to take care of my baby. Unless I can stay home to take care of him myself. It’s really hard to decide.

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發表於 08-3-15 00:17 |只看該作者

Bonnietsw,
the headhunter was so inch "do you think working 9-5 u could still climb the corporate ladder? ".....he's right though. i shouldnt be complaining.........
about 99...i was considering asking her to come back but why so nice...i really didnt know what i did or said ?? i just cant stand her nagging in early morning.when i was still not fully awake...gimme a break!

原文章由 Bonnietsw 於 08-3-14 03:11 發表

Alisonli,

This time you didn't get the second interview, that's okay. Don't give up ar! You should keep looking and you will finally find another job.

You said something wrong to your 99 and she w ...

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原文章由 ALISONLI 於 08-3-15 00:17 發表
Bonnietsw,
the headhunter was so inch "do you think working 9-5 u could still climb the corporate ladder? ".....he's right though. i shouldnt be complaining.........
about 99...i was considering askin ...

Alisonli,

It's not easy to be a working mom. We want to climb up the corp. ladder but we really have limited time and energy. My team consists of mostly guys. When they need to fly to different offices and participate in different projects, I feel that I'm less valuable to the team cuz I can't go anywhere. Luckily, my boss is very nice and he never said anything to me. So I hope he understands.

Oh yea, my 99 likes to nag early in the morning. As soon as I step out of my bedroom, she will be standing somewhere around there. Come on, I haven't brushed my teeth nor wash my face... 99, can you give me a break? lol...

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發表於 08-3-15 06:59 |只看該作者

Bonnietsw,

i understood exactly how u felt ...
when i was pregnant, i didn't wanna fly out for any business trips. however, i travelled almost every week before i was pregnant. while everybody else was busy flying out for projects and i was like working on some "internal" (no "real" money-making) projects, my boss of course felt i was less-valuable. so eventually i was told that i was impacted during the workforce restructuring after the merge, and that was right before i was about to start my maternity leave. although i eventually i got my 3-month paid maternity leaves + 4-month-salary severence, i was still very upset about it.

原文章由 Bonnietsw 於 08-3-15 05:19 發表

Alisonli,

It's not easy to be a working mom. We want to climb up the corp. ladder but we really have limited time and energy. My team consists of mostly guys. When they need to fly to different off ...

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發表於 08-3-15 12:04 |只看該作者

Hi All Moms,
I haven't have a chance to chat with you folks for a while. Extremely busy with my lil one.

Alisonli,
What did your hubby say about your job hunting matter? I thought he wants you to be a stay home mom...

原文章由 ALISONLI 於 08-3-15 00:17 發表
Bonnietsw,
the headhunter was so inch "do you think working 9-5 u could still climb the corporate ladder? ".....he's right though. i shouldnt be complaining.........
about 99...i was considering askin ...

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發表於 08-3-16 08:31 |只看該作者

socloudy,
so happy to see u back!! when r u going back to work?
husband is the breadmaker in the house although that's the case..i am really worry about *knock wood* if anything happens..i probably couldnt even pay the mortgages...not even talking about living expenses for my kids..am i worrying too much??

原文章由 socloudy 於 08-3-15 12:04 發表
Hi All Moms,
I haven't have a chance to chat with you folks for a while. Extremely busy with my lil one.

Alisonli,
What did your hubby say about your job hunting matter? I thought he wants you to b ...

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