sennywoo 寫道:
Hi SandraLo,
你好呀...一次過用左3個鐘去睇晒呢20頁字(淨係睇中文個d), 都已經好辛苦呀, 不過我相信都係直得既![]()
有d問題想請教:
我囡囡已經14個月, 佢本身係屋企既扭計程度唔算嚴重, 淨係要我地陪佢, 如果得我一個人屋企個時, 佢就唔俾我煮飯, 要我陪佢, 若我一入廚房佢就可以勁喊, 仲要越喊越慘, 有時仲要尖叫, 以及不停拍打個門欄, 直至我出黎陪佢或者爸爸番到黎陪佢為止....
另外, 最嚴重就係出街啦, 每次坐車一定扭計, 因為我覺得佢無乜耐性, 坐車無野睇, 就會扭計, 係架車上大叫大喊, 最慘有時係夜晚坐車番屋企(最快要都30-45分鐘), 人地個個都係車處訓, 佢就大叫大喊, 又唔落到車(因為我住屯門架), 咁唔俾佢喊既方法, 就只有順佢意, 好似不停俾佢食餅, tum佢咁, 但有時都唔肯, 所以攪到我依家同親佢出街坐車, 都好想佢訓覺, 咁就唔會影響人啦, 但有時都未必如意, 佢就算好眼訓都唔肯訓, 齋扭, 真係攪到我無晒辦法
仲有, 每次佢要求既野, 就一定要我地俾佢囉, 好似餅干或者某d佢想囉到手既野, 如果我地唔俾佢, 佢就會即喊, 係有眼淚架, 但一囉到手, 就即刻收聲, 仲會笑添呀![]()
我都知佢心野, 好多時眼訓都唔肯訓, 要玩, 一放落床就大喊, 依家我都陪佢一齊訓(佢訓bb床, 我訓大床, 係佢側邊), 當然我係假訓啦, 但就算佢唔喊, 都會望住我實一實, 仲要引我笑, 之後又會企番起身, 咁我又要佢訓番, 如是者, 一晚都最少要佢訓番低10次8次, 如果計麻佢一落床就喊, 可能都有成20次
希望妳或各位媽咪可以指教下![]()
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sennywoo 寫道:
Hi SandraLo,
你好呀...一次過用左3個鐘去睇晒呢20頁字(淨係睇中文個d), 都已經好辛苦呀, 不過我相信都係直得既![]()
有d問題想請教:
我囡囡已經14個月, 佢本身係屋企既扭計程度唔算嚴重, 淨係要我地陪佢, 如果得我一個人屋企個時, 佢就唔俾我煮飯, 要我陪佢, 若我一入廚房佢就可以勁喊, 仲要越喊越慘, 有時仲要尖叫, 以及不停拍打個門欄, 直至我出黎陪佢或者爸爸番到黎陪佢為止....
另外, 最嚴重就係出街啦, 每次坐車一定扭計, 因為我覺得佢無乜耐性, 坐車無野睇, 就會扭計, 係架車上大叫大喊, 最慘有時係夜晚坐車番屋企(最快要都30-45分鐘), 人地個個都係車處訓, 佢就大叫大喊, 又唔落到車(因為我住屯門架), 咁唔俾佢喊既方法, 就只有順佢意, 好似不停俾佢食餅, tum佢咁, 但有時都唔肯, 所以攪到我依家同親佢出街坐車, 都好想佢訓覺, 咁就唔會影響人啦, 但有時都未必如意, 佢就算好眼訓都唔肯訓, 齋扭, 真係攪到我無晒辦法
仲有, 每次佢要求既野, 就一定要我地俾佢囉, 好似餅干或者某d佢想囉到手既野, 如果我地唔俾佢, 佢就會即喊, 係有眼淚架, 但一囉到手, 就即刻收聲, 仲會笑添呀![]()
我都知佢心野, 好多時眼訓都唔肯訓, 要玩, 一放落床就大喊, 依家我都陪佢一齊訓(佢訓bb床, 我訓大床, 係佢側邊), 當然我係假訓啦, 但就算佢唔喊, 都會望住我實一實, 仲要引我笑, 之後又會企番起身, 咁我又要佢訓番, 如是者, 一晚都最少要佢訓番低10次8次, 如果計麻佢一落床就喊, 可能都有成20次
希望妳或各位媽咪可以指教下![]()
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佢嘅行為係明顯好咗
我估你個case都有媽咪追睇緊
唔好打爛我個「招牌」呀!
我幾唔得閒都會上嚟睇吓有冇嘢要幫拖!
SandraLo 寫道:
sennywoo :
如果你已經睇哂之前啲 post,照計應該識處理噃........
其實行為矯正都係嗰三招:(1) 讚 (2) ignore (3) apply consequence 即罸
本來我多數主張淨用讚,但你囡囡已經慣咗用「大叫大喊」嚟向你要求一樣嘢 (因為成功,一叫即有),咁就要用(1)+(2)至得!
响街度就難搞啲啫,因為响公共車你唔話佢會俾人鬧,但响屋企你唔可以同佢再咁「互動」,俾咁多反應,你係encourage 緊佢用咁嘅方式嚟同你溝通同向你要求!講咗咁多,你自己有冇idea点做?
sa2501 寫道:
sennywoo, 煮飯, 我都係等阿仔訓就切定 d 肉呀醃定, 最方便就係蒸 & 炆. 我有個 mini 2.5L 真空煲, 炆送一流![]()
炒 & 煎就等老公返來先囉.
平時有無同 bb 玩捉迷藏 ? 等 bb 知道媽咪唔見一陣但一定會返來搵佢.
訓覺 ... 有無做 bedtime routine? milk, 刷牙, story, 熄燈, 訓覺. no more talking.
sennywoo 寫道:
依家係屋企我就會以ignore為主, 讚都會, 但少d, 因為唔知佢明唔明, 而出街就真係煩d, 除非佢訓左, 否則點引佢都會扭計, 所以為有少d出去出街囉
多謝你既意見, 有反應或不明再請教, 謝謝!!
wingchingchu 寫道:
fi sandra and all,
I've read lots of your messages about praises, ignore and consequences
I understand the impt of praises but my problem is that:
my 21 month old bb girl like to hit me these days,
The situations that she hits me are:
1) first she hit me becoz i try to stop her from doing sth she wanted to do like taking away her hands from her bowl, or trying to take away sth she just wanted to take
2) then this becomes to hit me for no reasons, i know this is becoz she wanted to get my reaction coz i'll usually say that's worng, you should never hit mummy etc...)
3) and she's trying to do this to others esp to other kids, when she sees any other kids in the book store or in the playground, she would shout "nub" (that's the word she says when she hits ) with her hands moving lie hitting
and I have the following qs:
1)i know i should priase her when she's being good, but my q is when she's okay for example playing with me happily, if i suddenly say "wow, you're very nice today coz you don't hit mummy" will this be very rear??? am i reminding her her bad behaviour when she's not even think about it???
2) if she really hits me, coz she's really fast and unpredictable, should i ignore her as nothing happened (it's really hard coz chinese ppl like me think that hitting parents is very very worng!!), i haven't tried firmly told her that's worng, and I've also tried suggesting her that " you can touch mummy, or kiss mummy, but not hitting mummu....", but i gradually think that will this also reinforce ber bad behaviour coz she got my attention?
I'd try to praise her more when she's behaving well, but what should i do esp when she has hit me??? should i tell her that's wrong or just ignore her without a word????
pls help!!!
sennywoo 寫道:
唉....扭計已經多得佢唔少架啦...
最近仲發覺左, 佢唔知係邊處學左用bb話鬧人呀=.=
碌大隻眼, 然後就用把口大聲黎鬧人呀
今晚攪到我嬲嬲地, 打左佢腳仔同麻鬧佢...真係激到我都唔知可以點... :-(
connielam 寫道:
SandraLo,
請問如果小朋友常在大人傾計時插咀,尤其在跟的士司機傾路線,她又插,有時更又不給我講,話她正在同司機叔叔在傾,叫我不好插咀,(其實她正在插咀),我可以什樣做?
twg 寫道:
hi sandra
already back to work la
多謝你教路!
而家上床多數唔駛一個鐘 zzz, 佢上咗床 goodnite & many kisses 之後就唔會出聲, 上床時多數會「hum....hum...hum」, 睇下我有無反應, 同佢 struggle (i mean 佢一起身我就捉返佢落床, 返回原位 -- 佢當係遊戲, 而遊戲規則係唔出聲, 因為每次放返佢去原位zzz佢都好開心, 唔出聲 hum hum...hum 係度笑) 幾次之後佢就會 tired & zzz, 只有一兩次要我攬住 ZZZ
算唔算成功呢? 不過我覺得 we're improving, at least 我唔駛勞氣!我會 keep on trying!
咁你可唔可以教埋我點搞佢食飯呢?![]()
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我而家同佢食飯唔開 tv, 但佢點都會出位最少一兩次, 有時會去 wee wee/ ng ng, 去玩, 好無心機食飯, 屋企又唔會有人同我合作去餓佢(包括c6)
Mimichuchu 寫道:
hello Sandra
I have been reading the whole message and find it useful... ignore, priase & consequence..
However, my C6 don't think "ignore" can work, he told me that "ignore" means that we are accepting the bad behaviour of my kid and he will become more naughty if we ignore him, which means accepting those minor mis-conduct.
For example, my boy is an active boy and he likes to run, jump anytime. Somtimes, he put his toys on the floor and just use his legs to "tag" the toys everywhere. I will ignore him, and ask him to tidy up the toys afterwards. But my C6 will blame on him loudly at once, or just hold him and don't let him to do so. Of coz, my boy will cry and escape at once and my C6 will blame him/hit him then.
Do you think my "ignore" is not using properly?
When my C6 at home, my boy will be very naughty, always "lau kai"... what can I do? :-(