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原帖由 rexlouise 於 09-10-26 23:36 發表
Sandra,

非常欣賞及感激你無私的分享. 我現在同仔仔相處得非常不開心, 現請教如下:
仔仔剛升上P1, 性格越來越硬頸, 你有你講, 我有我做, 總是左耳入, 右耳即出. 現在更大膽的是凡事都跟你"博"一餐, 態度也不服气, ...

rexlouise :

我想知道大部份的衝突是否因功課而起？如還有其他, 那是什麽？
你現在第一個要解決的問題, 是和囝囝的關係, 你不好再和他作言語上的糾纏, 那會令你們關係愈來愈差, 要用其他方法取代「話」佢, 你是否已看兩個主打topic (1st post)？
看完後, 你告訴我你「話」他(會引起駁咀)的其中一樣嘢, 然後我教你怎樣處理.

教仔心得：媽咪容易犯的錯誤
http://www.baby-kingdom.com/forum.php?mod=viewthread&tid=951856&extra=&page=1

成日話「讚」可以改正小朋友壞行為，到底點解同點讚？
http://forum.baby-kingdom.com//v ... page%3D1&page=1

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Hi Sandra,

It's me again.... I tried to 話佢知返學係要自己的, 個個小朋友都係咁 even baby bro also needs to go to school but he still refuses to wear his uniform : ( I'll just ignore him and put the uniform on him and then carry him to go to school (If I don't carry him, he will try his best to grab the door). H/e, he does need helper to join in the class again. I know you said it's a 大倒退 but his teacher said we should restart the separation once again so at least he feels happy to school instead of keeps rejecting the school. I believe I'll just leave it at the moment and see how it goes nx week.

At home, after keep praising him "you're such a good boy! you don't scream at home! Let mommy give you a big thumb and a big kiss", he finally stops screaming! Thank you, Sandra!

For the sleeping, agreed with you. I'll hv my helper to sleep with him and do the story time to him. Do you think I should do it by myself or I should just do the story time and then let the helper to sleep with him at night?

I finally observed why he all of sudden requests carry all the time and acts like a baby is totally because of his jealousy on his baby bro. and his jealousy is getting more serious. He always attacks his baby bro like squeeze him, kick him and even hit him. If he finds his baby bro is going to touch his toys, he'll attack him even he's not playing that toys. I tried to praise him all the time like "you're a very good boy, you love your bro so much and you can also share your toys with your bro." Once he heard about sharing his toys with baby bro, he'll say "NO NO NO!" What should I do? Or actually it's because I still hvn't praise him enough? Is there any other method I should use? I know he does love his bro coz every time when I ask do you love your bro, he'll say yes. He also loves to play with him. So, I really don't understand if he loves his bro, why he still will attack him?!

Pls also comment my handling about his attack to baby bro.... I held his hands very firm and told him he shouldn't hit his bro coz he will hurt him. I requested him to look into my eyes and say sorry to his bro but he refused and started crying. I ignored him for 5 mins and then asked him to come to me again and repeated once again he should hit his bro. This time he stopped crying but he still refused to say sorry. Should I insist him to say sorry? H/e, at night time, when I hv the helper (I hv the helper to sleep with him and do the night time story) to mention this again, he'll say sorry. So, is that okay to let him go at spot when he refused to say sorry?

Thanks!

yammie

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原帖由劉明於 09-10-28 10:08 發表
Hi Sandra,

It's me again.... I tried to 話佢知返學係要自己的, 個個小朋友都係咁 even baby bro also needs to go to school but he still refuses to wear his uniform : ( I'll just ignore him and put the ...

劉明：

1/ Story part – you have to do it yourself cause it’s not just bed time story but communication.
The helper can be the one to stay with him when he sleep.

2/ Let him know that you will treat/love him and his bro equally.
Please do not force him to share his toys with his bro, see here :
http://forum.baby-kingdom.com/thread-2694635-1-1.html

3/ 打人：
"I held his hands very firm and told him he shouldn't hit his bro coz he will hurt him. " ~~ correct.
But I think there’s no need to force him to say sorry cause that make no difference if he says sorry to you or his bro but keep on hitting him ! You may need to exercise some kind of punishment when he did that again. (of course you have to praise him when he's not hitting) We can ignore扭/喊 but we cannot ignore 打人.
If there’s no consequence(punishment) for doing bad things such as hitting, he would just do it !
Read here and see if you can follow :
唔打得，又唔鬧得咁点？入嚟睇「有效懲罰BB的方法」
http://www.baby-kingdom.com/modules/newbb/viewtopic.php?topic_id=909498&forum=25#15595618
(see first post)

4/ As I said before, he had these bad behaviour because it could get your attention.
If you over-react (俾反應) to these 喊, 打人, 唔肯返學 etc., he will continue to act like this !

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原帖由 GraciousC9 於 09-10-28 10:14 發表
SandraLo,

您好, 我又來請教您了!

小朋友轉校了, 第一天是說很開心很喜歡學校....
情況是有些改善..
過了第一天後, 問他返學開心嗎? 又不答我, 不知道他是否仍習慣新校的新生活, 見他仍有少少悶悶不樂, 做功課又提 ...

GraciousC9 :

不用太多次正面問他, 可能未有什麽特別, 他也未必懂得表達太多, 由得他好了, 以免他覺得煩!
如你想知多些, 又有和他玩開的, 就玩吓role play遊戲, 叫他扮老師你扮小朋友, 加些想像力….. 可以知道好多嘢的, 不過一年級的男仔, 真係要玩開先會玩.

「好乖架, 即刻去沖涼」 ~~ 你似乎讚錯喎….. 快d 温吓書先！

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Hi, SandraLo

我都想請教你:

阿仔宜家19個月大, 佢係一個好冇耐性嘅小朋友,想要一樣野就即刻要有,有人教話數十下先俾佢,如果佢係要一塊餅,我都可以用呢個辦法,但係好多時上Playgroup或搭火車,佢一想離開就要立即想走,一直扭或喊直至走先冇事,如呢個情况又點處理呢?

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原帖由 Bear@MAMA 於 09-10-29 10:26 發表
Hi, SandraLo

阿仔宜家19個月大, 佢係一個好冇耐性嘅小朋友,想要一樣野就即刻要有,有人教話數十下先俾佢,如果佢係要一塊餅,我都可以用呢個辦法,但係好多時上Playgroup或搭火車,佢一想離開就要立即想走,一直扭或喊直至走先冇事,如呢個情况又點處理呢?...

Bear @ MaMa,

19個月BB耐性確是有限, 但試想想, 如佢想要一樣野, keep住大喊/扭就即刻(或好快)會有, 你估佢會点做？
當然係大喊啦！
你先睇我簽名位的兩個主打topic(1st post), 我再教你！

[ 本帖最後由 SandraLo 於 09-10-29 16:49 編輯 ]

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我都想問下我個仔3歲10個月, 係個社交比較差, 對外不善表達的小朋友. 佢一向都容易發脾氣. 最近成日一見到其他人又話唔鐘意人地, 係對住人地講, 同佢講左好多次唔可以咁同人講野. 平日佢對人好少講野, 係而家咁大膽咁同人講野. 都唔知點處理好.

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原帖由 GraciousC9 於 09-10-29 19:12 發表
讚錯!!

SANDRA 老師:
更正: 你好乖喎, 去沖涼! CORRECT?

如昨晚, 學校老C 讚他新生都可以默書咁既成績, 讚好叻喎..正如你所料, 他又有番自信心了, 開始俾心機學習 ...

GraciousC9 :

當你想佢改一個壞行為時, 你就要响佢冇做嗰個壞行為時讚佢, 等佢知点先係好行為.....
但你想佢做一樣嘢(冲涼), 佢都未做, 你讚佢「去做」就係乖係冇用架, 要等佢真係做嗰陣先讚, 話佢好乖唔駛叫都會去冲涼....
睇番点讚個topic就明！

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原帖由 SandraLo 於 09-10-29 16:47 發表

Bear @ MaMa,

19個月BB耐性確是有限, 但試想想, 如佢想要一樣野, keep住大喊/扭就即刻(或好快)會有, 你估佢會点做？
當然係大喊啦！
你先睇我簽名位的兩個主打topic(1st post), 我再教你！ ...

我睇咗la! 是否都係用ignore / 讚賞嘅方法來處理，可否具體一點講解一下我嘅情況？謝謝！

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原帖由 Bear@MAMA 於 09-10-31 17:26 發表

我睇咗la! 是否都係用ignore / 讚賞嘅方法來處理，可否具體一點講解一下我嘅情況？謝謝！

Bear @ MAMA,

我記得曾答過一個媽咪点令小朋友响酒樓安坐, 做法大致一樣, 可惜我沒save起, 成百版唔會揾得番…….

想先問：依家如果搭緊車佢嘈走你係点處理嘅？

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原帖由 LittlePigmom 於 09-10-29 23:12 發表
我都想問下我個仔3歲10個月, 係個社交比較差, 對外不善表達的小朋友. 佢一向都容易發脾氣. 最近成日一見到其他人又話唔鐘意人地, 係對住人地講, 同佢講左好多次唔可以咁同人講野. 平日佢對人好少講野, 係而家咁大 ...

LittlePigmom :

Sorry睇漏咗你個post.....
「容易發脾氣」同「一見到其他人又話唔鐘意人地」, 基本上係兩樣嘢, 前者可用讚+ ignore, 很快便可處理到, 後者要父母身教, 做demo, 多同佢講故事傾計瞭解佢諗乜, 先有機會幫到......

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原帖由 SandraLo 於 09-10-31 23:21 發表

Bear @ MAMA,

我記得曾答過一個媽咪点令小朋友响酒樓安坐, 做法大致一樣, 可惜我沒save起, 成百版唔會揾得番…….

想先問：依家如果搭緊車佢嘈走你係点處理嘅？ ...

到係不斷氹佢，話好快會到站或俾啲餅/水分散佢注意力

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原帖由 Bear@MAMA 於 09-11-1 00:45 發表

到係不斷氹佢，話好快會到站或俾啲餅/水分散佢注意力

有冇試過帶d 小玩具俾佢？

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SandraLo,
你好,我想請教吓我個仔仔 17個月大,平時係屋企都好鍾意四圍行,周圍爬....我地逢 sunday 都有一個 music class 要上,但次次老師圍圈一齊玩,佢就一定周圍定,完全吾理人 (就算平時有小朋友一齊,佢都係自己玩,吾睬人)其實我應該點做好呢 ? 由得佢 ? 等佢大啲識性先算 ?

please help ~~
thx

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原帖由 SandraLo 於 09-11-1 15:50 發表

有冇試過帶d 小玩具俾佢？

我個仔唔鍾意玩玩具,亦試過帶佢喜愛嘅書,都係冇效!

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Sandra,

有問題想請教一下: 我囝囝17個月, 晚晚半夜起身兩至三次哭住要飲人奶, 應該唔係肚餓, 只是想得到安撫。由得他哭就哭成30分鐘先停, 奶咀唔要。其實喂人奶至今我是好享受的, 但我心目中是想他臨瞓前及早上飲左我就返工, 而唔係而家咁架。
好想用您讚的方法, 又唔知啱唔啱, 又唔知該如何運用, 煩請多多指教!

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