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自己財政有困難--另一半會幫手嗎 [複製鏈接]

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大豬既老婆

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你有無直接問過距點解
你老公無理由衰得甘交關架嘛
同埋﹐ 距供樓﹐ 但樓有無你名架先!
講真﹐ 如果樓系無你名既﹐ 甘你一個人出晒洗費咪好慘!
講真﹐ 我覺得你老公吾再想同你一齊﹐ 距用甘既方法逼你自己走。距逼你轉份人工低既工﹐ 仲系要用離婚黎威脅你﹐ 咩男人黎架! 距思想仲停留系個 D 咩 80 yrs old 之前吾好比飽飯個老婆食個 D。我系你就吾買野返屋企﹐ 吾交水電費﹐ 咩差響個 D 都吾交。工人雜費都吾比﹐ 工人問你你就叫距問 sir. 然後自己 only 買野食比自己同 bb, 如果距威脅你離婚﹐ 你就同你離拉 ﹐ 然後要法庭叫距每個月比贍養費你! 點解要你一個比晒 D expenses 窩! 距以為你系帶薪庸人! 真系聽到都生氣!

你話如果大家搵甘多或者差少少就話姐﹐ 聽你甘講﹐ 似乎都差好多下窩! 何況﹐ 距拿住甘多錢 ﹐ 一個吾覺意仲比機會距去搞 3 搞 4 添

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the salary of my present job is less than $10,000, i request him to help me for many times already, but his excuse is that is my responsibility, he is responsible for the mortgage and salary of the maid. he said if i like him to share the expenses of the family, than i hv to share the mortgage and the salary of the bun bun with him, it is not possible, my income is not enough to cover. he said 距供樓﹐ 但樓有我名 , so i must share the expenses, there is no free lunch in the world. i am willing to share, but i can't afford so much. when i was pregnant and stayed at home, i asked him to give me 家用, he said i don't need to go out, why i need the money? hwr, i was responsible for the marketing, gas, electricity, he said, i should hv some savings, i can use my saving.
i did try not to pay the electricity bill, hwr, it's been almost for a month that the bill put on the table, if i don't pay i'm afraid our electric supply will be cut, so i paid yesterday lor
how can i do?

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原文章由 tinasy 於 07-12-4 08:46 發表
the salary of my present job is less than $10,000, i request him to help me for many times already, but his excuse is that is my responsibility, he is responsible for the mortgage and salary of the ma ...

所以我咪話
你由距 cut lor, 你就系要同距鬥忍得
你情願把個 D 錢 (電費水費) 留返黎
到真系 cut 水 cut 電你去外家訓幾日﹐ 然後用個 D 錢黎比自己阿媽都吾好用黎交水電
距真系同你吵﹐ 你就話我無喇﹐ 要命就一條
你事先準備一張清單﹐ list 晒每月洗費﹐ 然後同距講根本吾夠洗﹐ 你問距你系吾系想餓死個老婆同個 BB。你可以同距 negociate, 話你自己既洗費吾需要距幫手﹐ 但你叫距起碼幫忙買 BB 既尿片奶粉﹐
另外﹐ 對你自己黎講 ﹐ 我覺得你應該搵一份高 D 人工既工 ﹐ 吾好理距同意吾同意。如果距又威脅你﹐ 你就話錢你要我出﹐ 但吾比我搵甘我去邊度搵錢返黎?

你老公發神經﹐ 吾比你返份多錢 D 既工但又要你出錢。我真系覺得距既意思系等你無私己錢可以留低。

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原文章由 大豬既老婆 於 07-12-4 08:38 發表

所以我咪話
你由距 cut lor, 你就系要同距鬥忍得
你情願把個 D 錢 (電費水費) 留返黎
到真系 cut 水 cut 電你去外家訓幾日﹐ 然後用個 D 錢黎比自己阿媽都吾好用 ...

樓主,我真係鄧你慘,有个咁嘅老公。你真係要忍得先可以勝這場戰!
你要同佢講BB佢都有份,一定要佢比$。
你要忍心D,時常交BB比佢or工人揍,叫佢哋買尿片、奶粉。
你老公真係一D私己都唔比你留。你同佢講嫁咗比佢仲惨過做女果時:-( :-( 佢係唔係男人呀？

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tinasy

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發表於 07-12-4 10:30 |只看該作者

i can't go back to my mother's home, i can't let them know too much about this, because their relationship is bad already, i don't want to worsen their relationship.
He did promise to support me $2000 each month( on October), now, he said i don't deserve it because i didn't manage my financial well in the past. he said i should started to save money when i started to work. that's true that i used to spend a lot in the past, (when i just came out to work after graduation and i didn't know him yet), but i think many young people will just like me. In the past 5-6 yrs, i started to save money already, hwr, i used almost all of my savings these years to share the expenses with him.
i don't dare to waste a bug.

i want to find a higher salary job, but 我已經丟低之前嗰行for more than 2 years, my present job is totally unrelated to the previous one and i'm new to the field, so i hv to start from the beginning and the salary is the beginner level only.

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回覆 #1 tinasy 的文章

老公養老婆天公地道, 樣樣野都計得咁清楚, 做人都好辛苦啫... 大家都有工返, 大家付出可應付既費用係好公道, 但絕對唔能夠算住晒, 咩野叫做佢供層樓有你名, 你就要負責晒其他費用或同佢一齊供樓, 佢洗唔洗計到咁足呀... 何況你而家都開到口話唔夠錢用, 佢都咁講, 呢個咩老公黎架... 最憎d人睇錢大過天... 討厭.. 討厭...

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發表於 07-12-4 11:15 |只看該作者

要睇下咩事, 同埋自己有冇能力幫.

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會,老公會幫手的!
我買野時佢會主動俾錢,有時甚至預支下個月的家用,等我周轉下.

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請大家容許我以男性身份加入討論.

首先要攪清楚,你而家係'入不敷支',還是只係'使到o岩o岩好冇錢剩'.如果係入不敷支,而你老公份人工,扣除一切供樓,賓賓,供養父母,保險同自己日常使費之後,仍然係綽綽有餘,咁你老公好應該再揹大份些少以減輕你o既負擔.

但係如果你只係'使到o岩o岩好冇錢剩',而你老公個情況又係同你一樣(當然佢唔可以因為自己搵得多而大花筒),咁你就唔應該埋怨你老公唔幫你了!

順便一提,好多女性都覺得老公只係負責供樓,就等同冇養老婆.我認為條數唔係咁計,首先唔講大家搵幾多.須知一般o黎講供樓係佔家庭總開支一個好大o既百份比,如果供樓已經佔o左7成,而層樓只有你兩公婆個名,咁某角度o黎睇,老公已經肩負起屋企每月支出o既7成,而老婆就負責3成.唔應該要老公負責o西所有家庭支出至叫做有養老婆.當然如果老公搵好多,又有能力獨撐大樑,而老婆更加係搵雞碎咁多又作別論.

好似以我為例,我負責供樓,管理費同所有水電什費,大約等同屋企總開支75%,而每個月自已只係剩番$4-5000駛(因為工作關係,我仲要一日o係外面食足3餐).
我老婆o既人工同我差唔多,只係少我些少,而佢只係負責日常食用,同阿女番學,課餘活動同有關個女o既其他使費,估計大約佔屆企總開支25%.而我估計佢扣除以上支出之後,每個月自己起碼剩番萬幾蚊使.
但係佢就成日鬧我話我唔養佢同個女.:cry:

[ 本文章最後由 Gui-Gon 於 07-12-4 12:54 編輯 ]

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我相信樓主真係好唔店先咁....
照計, 佢老公一個月有$45000, 而佢自已$10000 都唔夠
$10000 要負責全屋所有人(4個人) 0既開支, 肯定係唔夠...
其實同佢老公咁0既男人一齊真係好慘, 乜都計到足? 而家係唔夠用唔夠食呀....唔係去買名牌去旅行呀....
同佢一齊真係冇意思, 樓主應該好好為自己打算.... 佢0的咁唔講情義0既人, 自己唔係冇, 係唔肯出....
而家一於買送買青菜豆腐, 日用品開稀佢黎用, 燈唔開, 湯唔煲, 總之只提供最有限度0既家庭需要....
至於到今時今日, 仲使乜顧全佢同外家0既關係, 早日比佢地知仲好, 始終到有乜事時有個安身之所...

原文章由 Gui-Gon 於 07-12-4 12:21 發表
請大家容許我以男性身份加入討論.

首先要攪清楚,你而家係'入不敷支',還是只係'使到o岩o岩好冇錢剩'.如果係入不敷支,而你老公份人工,扣除一切供樓,賓賓,供養父母,保險同自己日常使費之後,仍然係綽綽有餘,咁你老公好 ...

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tinasy

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原文章由 Gui-Gon 於 07-12-4 12:21 發表
請大家容許我以男性身份加入討論.

首先要攪清楚,你而家係'入不敷支',還是只係'使到o岩o岩好冇錢剩'.如果係入不敷支,而你老公份人工,扣除一切供樓,賓賓,供養父母,保險同自己日常使費之後,仍然係綽綽有餘,咁你老公好 ...

我係入不敷支, 我老公份人工,扣除一切供樓,賓賓,供養父母,保險同自己日常使費之後,係仍然係綽綽有餘
我從來不覺得老公只係負責供樓,就等同冇養老婆.亦不覺得要老公負責o西所有家庭支出至叫做有養老婆,我知道兩公婆不應計較,我好願意為屋企付出,問題係我嘅收入根本唔足夠應付,我人工不夠$10,000,我老公係我嘅4-5倍,供樓及佢嘅開支佔佢收入只有一半左右,佢其餘嘅去買股票,抽新股,我唔夠$應付佢都唔幫我,我好過份嗎?

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發表於 07-12-4 15:14 |只看該作者

原文章由 tinasy 於 07-12-4 13:33 發表

我係入不敷支, 我老公份人工,扣除一切供樓,賓賓,供養父母,保險同自己日常使費之後,係仍然係綽綽有餘
我從來不覺得老公只係負責供樓,就等同冇養老婆.亦不覺得要老公負責o西所有家庭支出至叫做有養老婆,我知道兩公婆 ...

你地結婚几耐?婚前或結婚初期有相議過如何分配家庭開支嗎?

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tinasy

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原文章由 CALVEN 於 07-12-4 15:14 發表

你地結婚几耐?婚前或結婚初期有相議過如何分配家庭開支嗎?

we've been married for 2.5 yrs, before we get married, he bought the house already, but under his name only, he's responsible for the mortgage and some of the expenses, i also shared other daily expenses with him, but because baby isn't born and only two of us, therefore, i hv no problem in sharing expenses with him. After baby is born, we moved to a new home, the house is under both of our name. He started to think that i hv more responsiblity for the home as the house also has my name on it. hwr, as i said, my present job is of lower salary than the previous one, I really can't afford that much ... 買送,水,電,差餉,管理,bb洗費,家中什費,自已transportation,insurance...i can't afford to give 家用 to my parents ...

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我明白你的感受, 你唔好咁唔開心啦, 其實你有無
試過同你老公坦白講你的經濟問題與壓力 ? 如果無,
咁佢有可能真係唔知, 仲以為你都ok喎. 你知啦好多
男人都係粗心大意, 如果唔主動出聲, 佢地真係無咁
細心察覺身邊的事物架. 如果要公平咁計, 就可能要
按如下公式計吓 :

假設當你老公月入$45000 而你係9500, 咁你嘅
收入就係全家總收入約17.4%, 所以你便應付擔
家庭共同開支總數之17% (即係指供樓, 賓賓,
水/電/煤/管理/什費, 全家伙食費, 家庭什項開支,
子女所有學費&使費......加埋總數之17%), 至於
你同你老公各自供養自已父母的則不計算入內).
其實每個家庭嘅情況都唔同, 有時好難話點為之公平
or不公平. 但如果你真係好大壓力好辛苦, 不妨
開心見誠同老公講囉.

原文章由 tinasy 於 07-12-4 13:33 發表

我係入不敷支, 我老公份人工,扣除一切供樓,賓賓,供養父母,保險同自己日常使費之後,係仍然係綽綽有餘
我從來不覺得老公只係負責供樓,就等同冇養老婆.亦不覺得要老公負責o西所有家庭支出至叫做有養老婆,我知道兩公婆 ...

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你個老公都幾過份, 見住自己老婆o甘樣都唔幫手, 如果佢無能力都算啦, 但你老公好明顯係有能力架喎!

......
我知, 佢一定係想你做現代阿信, 一味做, 要奉獻所有野都係為個家.... no complain!! he's a super trainer, train you to be a superwoman!

.......
容我講句..... 佢係一個超級自私精!

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咁就容我用一個女性的身份講.
樓主老公的確係過份.乜都分開計,『總之我供咗樓就等如對個家付出咗』咁可以說你們身份是僱主同僱員的關係.或者可以更差.你請一個工人叫佢幚你揍bb煮飯,都仲會有人工落袋.但冇人會叫個工人交水電煤.
所以樓主老公係過份.一係就輪住揍亞b囉!大家有份工大家要照顧家庭開支.咁乜都分清楚.

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發表於 07-12-4 17:09 |只看該作者

原文章由 tinasy 於 07-12-4 13:33 發表

我係入不敷支, 我老公份人工,扣除一切供樓,賓賓,供養父母,保險同自己日常使費之後,係仍然係綽綽有餘
我從來不覺得老公只係負責供樓,就等同冇養老婆.亦不覺得要老公負責o西所有家庭支出至叫做有養老婆,我知道兩公婆 ...

o係呢個情況之下,你老公真係應該要揹番多d.
雖然你每個月擰唔夠家庭總開支o既30%,但係已經係你個人收入o既80%,而你老公雖然已經揹o左屋企大部份開支,但係就只佔佢收入o既40%,加上佢又唔係搵唔到,理應再揹多些少以減輕你o既負擔.

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發表於 07-12-4 19:45 |只看該作者

hum........
in fact, my family same with you(2D1B1M) also only have 10k for marketing,water+electricity+rates+mfg.fee+mus...
agree with one mother said, what you can do is cut your expense : buy cheap food+bring lunch, save water+elec., if using gas-cut it! ask your husband never turn on light/heater after a fix time, the reason is very simple that you can affort!!