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jessicaluiyan


洋房

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21#
發表於 08-4-7 09:39 |只看該作者
唉,一家唔知一家事....可能佢呀媽本身對樓主都唔多好都未定...
而且...講得出比唔到家用就唔好嫁...真係唔見得好人...

原文章由 Irismammy 於 08-4-7 09:32 發表



ABBC，我都好同意你講法，我都一樣覺得樓主過於計較/計算。
我自己兩公婆都一樣得四萬幾，供樓加水電雜費，唔計食，一個月都萬八，而家仲有咗，第日仲要請工人，一闊三大，但我都比$6xxx自己媽，雖然，BB出世之後，我都可能會比少千五，但我 ...
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麟媽媽


王國長老

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22#
發表於 08-4-7 10:16 |只看該作者
我唔明點解女嫁左可以唔比家用？
咁就唔好怪男家長輩重男輕女！
生左個女當真嫁了就如潑出去的水，
對父母沒有供養責任，自己顧自己？！
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ac321


侯爵府

積分: 24705

好媽媽勳章


23#
發表於 08-4-7 11:17 |只看該作者
I think it depends on how much $ her mother ask for when she get marry...........
For example, if her mother ask for 200k, 咁就唔好怪男家長輩重男輕女！生左個女當真嫁了就如潑出去的水(sold)

Lucky, my parent never ask me for 1 cents until now.ops:" />
When I grad. from Uni and had the first job, my parent said that I only earn a few and don't need to give them $
When I get marry, my parent said that I need to use a lot of $ as we need to support a new family......
Now, my parent said that I need to use a lot of money for my 2 kids. And they also don't take the money I give to them.
Last year, I gave them 20k in the chinese new year. And then, they put the money to my son's saving a/c. My parent said those money is the pocket money they gave for my son........
Now, I add my mother's name in my saving a/c. And tell her she can use all the $ inside. However, she just use a few thousands in this 2 years.
What can I do?


原文章由 麟媽媽 於 08-4-7 10:16 發表
我唔明點解女嫁左可以唔比家用？
咁就唔好怪男家長輩重男輕女！
生左個女當真嫁了就如潑出去的水，
對父母沒有供養責任，自己顧自己？！

[ 本文章最後由 ac321 於 08-4-7 11:19 編輯 ]
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duckcat


別墅

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24#
發表於 08-4-7 11:39 |只看該作者
我９９一定要我同先生比每個月３千佢．
講起都把火，我先生１個月得６千幾，
幾百蚊搭車，又要供強積金，又有個小朋友．
嘩，計落１個月都冇幾剩，我依家１－２個先比到千幾我牙媽，雖然牙媽叫留個錢比自己，但我９９　１ｄ野都冇講，仲要１到期就問． 話唒自己牙媽，點可以５比牙～
希望遲ｄ多反少少錢，可以比多ｄ佢啦～

[ 本文章最後由 duckcat 於 08-4-7 11:40 編輯 ]

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ac321


侯爵府

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25#
發表於 08-4-7 11:53 |只看該作者
my 99 are the same as yours.
But the different is that: I won't 每個月 give $ to my 99. I only give $ to my 99 in some festival like 'mid moon, new year...... However, I would ask my husband gives $ to my 99 monthly. It is beacuse she (my 99) is her mother, not my mother! As a son, he (my husband) should 每個月 比$ his parent.


原文章由 duckcat 於 08-4-7 11:39 發表
我９９一定要我同先生比每個月３千佢．
講起都把火，我先生１個月得６千幾，
幾百蚊搭車，又要供強積金，又有個小朋友．
嘩，計落１個月都冇幾剩，我依家１－２個先比到千幾我牙媽，雖然牙媽叫留個錢比自己，但我９９　１ｄ野都冇講，仲要１到期就問． 話唒自己牙 ...
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bearbear2003


伯爵府

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26#
發表於 08-4-7 14:13 |只看該作者
原文章由 麟媽媽 於 08-4-7 10:16 發表
我唔明點解女嫁左可以唔比家用？
咁就唔好怪男家長輩重男輕女！
生左個女當真嫁了就如潑出去的水，
對父母沒有供養責任，自己顧自己？！

Totally agree. I pay monthly 10Kto my parent, then my husband pay monthly 7K to his parent. we also have to pay mortage and 1 kid, why not pay your mother after married?
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OneOneMa


大宅

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27#
發表於 08-4-7 14:17 |只看該作者
樓主, 唔講你亞媽係咪貪錢, 因為佢要你俾佢梗係有佢的理由, 我諗冇人會嫌錢多囉, 加上, 佢可能過多幾年都冇野做, 想多個錢響身好正常, 除非佢成日去賭就另計勒。and, 如果俾佢知你養99都唔養佢, 換轉係你, 你會點?

其實你同男朋友而家每個月都已經搵四萬, 兩年後應該唔止四萬五啦, 係咪? 到時五千蚊對於你兩個黎講都唔係咩錢啦, 我覺得你地會負擔得起, 所以, 而家冇謂為咗呢d野攪到同亞媽頂咀啦, 如果唔係, 佢只會覺得你個男朋友教壞你唔養亞媽, 咪仲衰?! 你諗吓係咪?

我同我老公兩個加埋都係兩萬幾, 養我父母, 佢父母, 交租, 水/電/煤... 同埋養埋個囡都夠使啦, 所以你唔好再同亞媽嘈勒, 如果可以的話唔好減佢囉, 老人家, 你諗吓仲可以養佢幾多年? 俾個好印象佢啦~
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KATRINE


子爵府

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28#
發表於 08-4-7 14:18 |只看該作者
其實有能力可以俾，供養父母係仔女的責任
我因財政緊張先俾唔到，個心好唔舒服，有多錢我間中都俾
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希晴


洋房

積分: 72


29#
發表於 08-4-7 14:32 |只看該作者
咩結左婚唔係就唔使比家用家咩?我一路都以為係.
結左婚自己有頭家仲邊有咁多錢比人?
當然如果我呀媽退左休,冇錢.咁我當然要養佢.
要養男朋友呀媽係因為佢呀媽退左休,冇錢,冇mpf,因為係打散工.
5千唔係比唔起.而係比得條氣唔順.
成日話我冇良心,冇良心既話我一早就唔比家用你.
仲成日係度話....你比幾多咁巴閉,5千你估好多呀....
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希晴


洋房

積分: 72


30#
發表於 08-4-7 14:37 |只看該作者
e個唔關仔定女事....有d仔結左婚都唔比家用啦.

原文章由 麟媽媽 於 08-4-7 10:16 發表
我唔明點解女嫁左可以唔比家用？
咁就唔好怪男家長輩重男輕女！
生左個女當真嫁了就如潑出去的水，
對父母沒有供養責任，自己顧自己？！
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麟媽媽


王國長老

積分: 89576

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31#
發表於 08-4-7 14:47 |只看該作者
呢d 係個人責任感問題，
供養父母在我眼中，
同供養仔女一樣，
係家庭支出之一。
當然好多人唔養父母，
有d 連仔女都唔養添，
仲有d 攞債要父母倒貼架！
一樣米養百樣人吖嘛，
大把人咁做，但唔代表啱喎。


原文章由 希晴 於 08-4-7 14:37 發表
e個唔關仔定女事....有d仔結左婚都唔比家用啦.

[ 本文章最後由 麟媽媽 於 08-4-7 14:48 編輯 ]
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碟碟


男爵府

積分: 5839


32#
發表於 08-4-7 14:58 |只看該作者
家家有本難唸的經, 我唔敢話樓主錯晒, 依家睇起上黎你mama係好有能力, 不過你有冇唸到佢都會退休? 你話佢退休會有退休金, 咁你未來6299退休冇架?點解佢兩個退休你就要飬起佢地,自己mami就可以唔理? 樓主你話你mama有個有錢男友, 但係呢個人有冇承諾過會照顧你mama過世先?你諗下, 人到中年,身邊無個人,自己又唔係可以揾多好耐錢, 個女就快要嫁...仲講明唔再俾錢佢,雖然佢依家環境ok, 但有憂慮都好正常o者,畢竟你要結婚對佢黎講都係一個衝擊,而且表面上睇黎你未嫁出去就已經完全淨係幫自己同男家諗唔理佢, 難怪佢會唔高興同埋一定要你俾番咁多家用...佢可能係爭啖氣既o者, 你試下同佢多的溝通下,俾佢了解多的你既難處啦...正常黎講阿ma都會鍚往自己個女既...除非佢係個的極品mama 啦.....
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luk0816


民房

積分: 28


33#
發表於 08-4-7 18:04 |只看該作者
睇到都很心酸..
媽媽有無錢..有無男朋友..是比家用既定義嗎?
嫁了就唔洗比家用? 嫁了就可以將父母既養育之恩忘記嗎?
唔好話比家用, 即使嫁咗都仍然要時不時見面或通電關心一下啦..係咪?
唔通嫁咗就對屋企一d責任都無?
我做第一份工到而家嫁咗都keep住個個月俾家用, 我就黎26歲都plan緊生bb, 但完全無諗過唔比家用~ 我dad有自己既生意, 但我仍然每月俾14,000媽咪..(我份人工得20,000)

奶奶就養, 媽媽就免問..咩道理呢?
你都會做媽媽ga.. 請想想..

各人觀點唔同..希望你唔好介意..
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blueglass


大宅

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34#
發表於 08-4-7 18:20 |只看該作者
有比, 嫁了十幾年個個月都有比,自已都要供車,供樓,供子女,請工人仲有好多其餘開支. 但本人覺得供養父母係應份嘅, 未最多自已洗少d law... 又或者到時真係唔掂時再同媽開口law...你無嘅佢都迫你唔到架.
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jessicaluiyan


洋房

積分: 245


35#
發表於 08-4-7 18:50 |只看該作者
$14,000 for your mom but you only got $20,000 salary??How can you support a family?

quote]原文章由 luk0816 於 08-4-7 18:04 發表
睇到都很心酸..
媽媽有無錢..有無男朋友..是比家用既定義嗎?
嫁了就唔洗比家用? 嫁了就可以將父母既養育之恩忘記嗎?
唔好話比家用, 即使嫁咗都仍然要時不時見面或通電關心一下啦..係咪?
唔通嫁咗就對屋企一d責任都無 ... [/quote]
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tristanbaby


複式洋房

積分: 106


36#
發表於 08-4-8 00:05 |只看該作者
I think you guys should be fair! Mom is not necessarily the one who care/love you most! Just like my mom ... I never lived with her in my life and the only thing she would ask when calling me is asking for money! But I live with my uncle and grandma since i was born. I don't think I have the responsibility to give her a dollar even before I married. What can she do to me? I didn't live with her and she never cooked for me....
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tristanbaby


複式洋房

積分: 106


37#
發表於 08-4-8 00:07 |只看該作者
she never called me again after I married as she find out she can no longer get any money from me. I think we don't even need a relative like that!
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alphabetagamma


珊瑚宮

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38#
發表於 08-4-8 00:18 |只看該作者
我姨丈個媽咪都係當佢好細果時同佢爸爸離婚, 係呀, 佢媽咪靚到爆, 又大洗, 一向都無照顧到我姨丈, 姨丈一向唔俾佢mum知佢住邊, 只有佢手提電話. 現在一搵佢, 都係為了錢, 但係我姨丈俾得起, 唔係要還賭債, 只是佢無自生的能力. 我阿姨都覺得, 佢都老了, 用錢買到佢小小快樂, 當係盡了負責. 我阿姨成日買LV, Hermes袋俾佢奶奶的.

我未聽過嫁左要唔俾錢家人, 如果樓主阿媽都係咁對自己阿媽, 咁我估係因果, 如果佢都對婆婆家好, 咁佢一定好心酸.

我都好贊同上面有人提出, 唔怪得人地重男輕女; 唔怪得有d人唔俾女讀咁多書, 仲有唔怪得咁多人要攞好多禮金酒宴, 賣女咁...
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wingandroy


複式洋房

積分: 198


39#
發表於 08-4-8 00:21 |只看該作者
我老豆係傳統潮州人,覺得父母應該要靠仔養,女嫁左就係潑出去嘅水,唔駛再俾家用(我細細個最記得佢成日話女係蝕本貨),呢幾年自我結婚後就成日同我講話可以唔駛再俾家用佢,或者俾少d都得.不過我有能力,亦覺得有需要,所以一直照俾,同婚前一樣.

樓主你2年後至結婚,點解咁早同媽咪講婚後唔俾家用?好令人反感啫,亦令你未來老公被扣分.你媽咪講到出口,咁你婚後就一定要俾,至於多少,婚後睇情況唔掂再商量.

想令自己生活質素好d?再向上爬搏升職囉,你咁後生應該大把機會上位,你媽咪大你廿年,佢愁過你.
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tristanbaby


複式洋房

積分: 106


40#
發表於 08-4-8 00:42 |只看該作者
As far as I know, many SON don't give a dim even when they are single. But almost all daughters would give mom money no matter before or after getting marry.

樓主, you would figure out a family "relationship" is somehow connected by MONEY. If you don't want/care about this kind of relationship, you can do whatever u want.
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