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唔識照顧老公, 有冇人幫到我 [複製鏈接]

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謙仔媽咪

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發表於 08-7-16 22:34 |只看該作者

男人喜歡你時就當你是小公主(百般呵護),
但日子耐左, 就想升你做皇后(萬事有你),
男人鐘意個老婆幫到佢架, 如果事無大小都係佢揹飛, 人係會倦架ma, 當佢遇到另一個女人, 乜都幫佢辦妥,可以令佢完全放鬆, 佢就會嫌老婆架la.
所以唔可以話不嬲係咁就係咁, 人要upgrade自己, 唔係要你好似湊仔咁湊佢, 但都唔好要佢湊女咁湊你啦!
我有個friend就係咁, 以前講佢佢又唔聽, 諗住佢老公好愛佢好就佢, 乜都話唔識, 要老公做. 結果老公要離婚, 理由係"對住你好倦".
樓主, 你現在識喺度問人, 未遲架! 急起直追啦!

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阿婷

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我老公初初都會做好多家務
咩都就晒我
但係當日子耐左
佢就開始想有人照顧佢了

照顧佢我而家先岩岩學緊
但係首先我要學好照顧自己先
唔使佢咁操心

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ladykin

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可能一路以黎我都係自己攪掂好自己同個仔, 成日覺得佢都咁大個人, 自己識照顧自己, 所以忽略咗佢. 屋企嘢有工人做, 咁大家都要返工, 返工放工日日如是, 放工又係爭取時間陪個仔, 所以當佢話我冇照顧佢時, 我都唔知由邊度入手

[ 本文章最後由 ladykin 於 08-7-17 09:56 編輯 ]

希望可以同我隻佬白頭到老做個永遠幸福快樂既小女人

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謙仔媽咪

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原文章由 ladykin 於 08-7-17 09:35 發表
可能一路以黎我都係自己攪掂好自己同個仔, 成日覺得佢都咁大個人, 自己識照顧自己, 所以忽略咗佢. 屋企嘢有工人做, 咁大家都要返工, 返工放工日日如是, 放工又係爭敢時間陪個仔, 所以當佢話我冇照顧佢時, 我都唔知 ...

有d樓上d媽咪都講左, 我唔重複la. 講下我自己啦! 佢病時煲粥比佢食, 煮d佢鐘意既餸, 呢d唔一定要親手做, 可以安排工人做. 去旅行or出trip幫佢執定行理, 買定d旅行裝既野. 如果見佢既socks&under舊舊地, 買定d新既. 仲之對佢細心d, 體貼d, 佢一定感受到架.
其實我以前都成日亂發脾氣架, 好在我有2個家姐成日指點我咋. 唔係都唔識咁多野. 做人係要終身學習, 與時並進, 當我地年紀越大, 就要自我增值. 我而家都學緊點做一個好老婆, 大家一齊努力吖.

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係呀！

不過唔好日日做，耐咗變奉旨

原文章由 KoyeBaby 於 08-7-16 13:10 發表
無人一出世就乜都識嘅,唔識咪學囉!同埋兩公婆又唔係要做d好大嘅事先叫為對方付出,有時生活上好細微嘅事都可以令對方感動架!好似我老公會幫我按摩,我就會煮宵夜佢食,佢打機時我會切生果粒用牙籤拮住方便佢食,幾分鐘嘅 ...

仔仔06-12-2003出世

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bonnie1013

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我諗第一步係要多d二人時間, 唔好淨係掛住個仔, 搵時間同老公出去食個晚飯, 行下街, 培養返d感情先啦~~

原文章由 ladykin 於 08-7-17 09:35 發表
可能一路以黎我都係自己攪掂好自己同個仔, 成日覺得佢都咁大個人, 自己識照顧自己, 所以忽略咗佢. 屋企嘢有工人做, 咁大家都要返工, 返工放工日日如是, 放工又係爭取時間陪個仔, 所以當佢話我冇照顧佢時, 我都唔知 ...

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雖然大家都要返工，有時佢早過你出門口，咪送佢出去，講聲拜拜！佢放工返黎，有時斟杯茶俾佢飲，行街見到有衫岩佢，咪買件送俾佢law，得閒學下煲湯或煲糖水過佢飲，都係女人基本識做既野，都係出心去關心自己屋企人，佢就會feel到仲撘晒糖添！

「所謂幸褔，不是沒有苦惱，而是置身痛苦漩渦中，抱持樂觀而堅定的信念，不畏懼，也不嘆氣，勇敢迎擊迎面而來的洶湧波濤，浪愈大，愈是咬緊牙關向前衝，跌倒了再站起來，從摸索與挫折中學習與鍛鍊，磨練出膽識與智慧，無論橫流逆境多麼艱難，希望與確信依舊，直至獲得最後的勝利。」

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原文章由 ladykin 於 08-7-17 09:35 發表
可能一路以黎我都係自己攪掂好自己同個仔, 成日覺得佢都咁大個人, 自己識照顧自己, 所以忽略咗佢. 屋企嘢有工人做, 咁大家都要返工, 返工放工日日如是, 放工又係爭取時間陪個仔, 所以當佢話我冇照顧佢時, 我都唔知 ...

"E"識諗左喎,我自己的格言,人唔知自己有問題,又點會改呢?遲左知好過一世唔知,妳有心做一定成功,又其是在伴侶有患難時,更明顯妳是可以供患難,唔係個D只可供富貴的女人,體貼,體諒,好過妳識煮真收百味啦.

[ 本文章最後由咸濕大師於 08-7-20 06:39 編輯 ]

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我都係番工架，家務也是工人做，當然我會處理小朋友學校ｏ既野，老公就少ｄ照顧佢ｄ鎖事架．　結左婚１４年啦，都係佢ｔａｋｅ　ｃａｒｅ我架，我都係好　”痴”佢架．　不過我就好少無情情發脾氣，所以我地好少吵架．　你可能係吵架太多所以佢先咩都嘈出來啫．當然太太可以全心去照顧老公仔女緊係好啦，不過現今為左多ｄ收入幫輕大家，太太都係出去工作才由工人ｔａｋｅ　ｃａｒｅ佢ｄ家中事務，都好平常，老公也應體諒．

你唔一定要落手落腳做好多野先叫識照顧佢，係應該平日關心佢才對．

原文章由 ladykin 於 08-7-16 12:47 發表
真係覺得自己好失敗, 差唔多 40 歲人, 到宜家先知唔識照顧老公.

識咗老公 19 年 (初戀), 結咗婚 9 年, 仔都 4 歲幾. 二人世界時, 都會洗衫煮飯同清理屋企, 但到仔仔出咗世, 請咗工人, 自己就冇再做家務, 除咗返工之 ...

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ToyCar

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發表於 08-7-24 14:34 |只看該作者

唔識照顧老公?? No. I believe your husband
is not asking you to take care of him. He is
a man and he is not only know how to take
care of himself, but also you and family.
I guess that the problem is 您將大部份時間放
係仔仔身上.

I am a man. Honestly speaking, man, sometime
like a big boy. When a man love a woman and
gets marry with her, he wants to get warm feeling
from his gf or wife. Don't think that 關心 and doing
細微嘅事 on him are not important. These are what
the man need. If a man wants someone just to
do the house work, he can 請工人 and he doesn't
need to think much more and spend money much
more. The man just pay a certain amount to the maid
and he can get the house clean. No one will blame
him or argue with him. Actually, the man spends a
little money. But he can get what the women can do
without trouble. For sex, he can go to get it by paying.
Do you think why the man is still willing to spend much
money to make his gf or wife be happy and stay with
her????
If the man can make his gf or wife be happy, he ,actully
is happier than her in heart. He is willing to spend much
time to think and spend much money.
But I can tell you. Not all, but most of man want to
get back something even he does not tell to anybody.
I would like to say that he wants to get your 關心
and 你做番少少野. Or otherwise, he will has 藉口佢去揾
第二個Yes. You will ask now what you should do. Some
members here said some examples.
煮宵夜佢食,佢打機時我會切生果粒用牙籤拮住方便佢食
可以抽多少少時間俾個老公, 例如俾d驚喜佢啦, 情趣好梗要。
照顧老公唔一定係洗衫煮飯, 記然你知佢壓力, 一個按摩, 一杯熱茶, 都可以令佢好喎心
我諗喺生活細節上多啲關心吓佢,出門前幫佢攞家傘
These are some examples and may not apply to all
couples. Different peoples have different thinking and
need. But I would like to say that most of man are
actully want to get these. Most of woman always say
why the men are so cheap and find other lady. I am
not saying that these men are correct. But I can say
that they want to get another 關心. Talking about關心
to a man, it is not only doing some small things to him,
but also sex. You said that you had argue with him
when (當時仲喺泰國旅行) and your husband said
唔知你點做人老婆. He might be talking about sex,
especially you were in Thailand for tour. It may be a
main point. Most of man said 唔知點做人老婆. Since
the main element to maintain the relationship between
a couple is not only 關心, but also sexual live. Think about
it!
I agree that 老婆娶返黎係要黎鍚. But pls also think that
老公亦係要黎鍚. Don't treat him as ATM only.

I totally agree with bonnie1013 that 同你行人生最後一步
果個係你c6呀, 唔可以只顧仔女唔理老公!

It is just my 2 cents. Don't agree, don't blame.
I just want to occupy a little space here to share my
feeling as I got the same what your husband felt.

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ladykin

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原文章由 ToyCar 於 08-7-24 14:34 發表
唔識照顧老公?? No. I believe your husband
is not asking you to take care of him. He is
a man and he is not only know how to take
care of himself, but also you and family.
I guess that the problem is ...

ToyCar,

Thanks for your advice. It is really helpful (as you are standing on the man's side)

Yes, you are right. The Thai trip's quarrel started from sex as he forgot to bring condom and I refused to make love with him. Maybe the way I expresed myself is so rude and wrong and led to his explosion

希望可以同我隻佬白頭到老做個永遠幸福快樂既小女人

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ToyCar

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Oh, No. Then, I disagree with your
husband this time. He should prepare
everything first.
This time, I support you.

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chanwendy

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兩個人結婚後, 都要不停改變, 雙方都要 UPGRADE 自己先得, 唔可以成日諗住你識我第一日就係咁架啦. 要明白, 一個人不進則退. 就算話男人識自己搞自己, 始終係人, 都想有個人對自己關心問候架, 如果放得太多時間在小朋友身上, 耐咗個老公都會呷醋, 有啲男人唔開心都唔出聲. 加上樓主話你老公公事上好心煩, 佢更加希望再要花時間去照顧你, 反而會想你幫吓佢都唔定. 有時嘈交所講的說話係會誇張咗少少既.

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原文章由 ToyCar 於 08-7-24 16:01 發表
Oh, No. Then, I disagree with your
husband this time. He should prepare
everything first.
This time, I support you.

That night, once I noticed that he forgot to bring condom, I did not want to continue, but he insisted, I can't enjoy. After finished, he said it seems he raped me

希望可以同我隻佬白頭到老做個永遠幸福快樂既小女人

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原文章由 talkymum 於 08-7-24 16:23 發表
樓主老公發下悔氣即.我好後生結婚.唔煮飯唔做家務.c6樣樣以我為先.食飯個個餸都係我鐘意食既.結婚廿幾年.我連佢口味我都唔知.不過.我知一樣野.我開心d細路開心.佢就開心.我諗無mud男人娶個老婆返黎係因為想有人照顧 ...

我都知呢 d 係悔氣說話, 但如果佢平時冇咁諗過, 就唔會講得咁順口啦

希望可以同我隻佬白頭到老做個永遠幸福快樂既小女人

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ToyCar

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I appreciate your husband that your c6樣樣以我為先.
食飯個個餸都係我鐘意食既. But how can you know
your husband 佢就開心due to that 我開心d細路開心?
Frankily speaking, some men will not tell their
unhappiness to their wife as they don't want to make
their sad too. It is the traditional thinking from this
Chinese society.
Talking about 照顧, I may have another view of it.
Man doesn't need his wife to take care of him as
disabled or the King. To a man, he may need a 照顧
from your heart, say 關心and 你做番少少野. It may
be enough.

Just my 2 cents.

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我會每朝為佢預備衣服，佢打機時斟杯水佢飲，因為平時佢好少飲水，又會買D佢鍾意食既小食比佢，其實只係少少野，佢就可以好開心，好似小朋友...或者你都可以試下從小事著手，比D關心佢..

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原文章由 ladykin 於 08-7-16 12:47 發表
真係覺得自己好失敗, 差唔多 40 歲人, 到宜家先知唔識照顧老公.

識咗老公 19 年 (初戀), 結咗婚 9 年, 仔都 4 歲幾. 二人世界時, 都會洗衫煮飯同清理屋企, 但到仔仔出咗世, 請咗工人, 自己就冇再做家務, 除咗返工之 ...

ladykin,

好耐無傾啦! 有時人就係太"理所當然", 係人都鍾意人tum, 特別係女人, 但妳千其唔好覺得自己"失敗", 最少, 妳都察覺到問題既存在.

1) 千其唔好比較之前你又吟, 吟, 吟,而家又變成吟, 吟, 吟.
2) 付出就唔好其望有回報, 妳試下, 會開心d.
3) 試下用妳老公既立場諗下, 有時經濟唔好, 市道唔好, 男人心情真係會差d, 佢地唔多講, 但心裏就好鬼多野諗, 擔心好多野. 4) 試下系岩timing時同佢傾, 多聆聽. 多關心.
5) 講多d正面野, 等佢知不論貧與富, 妳都會同佢共患難.

希望妳地快d無事啦!

I love my hubby and my boy. XOXOXO