You are right. I will act very carefully and will lobby with my husband (my husband always felt no problem for my brother in law not to pay any $ we are family. Strange!!)
Everytime when the famous boutiques have seasonal price reduction, I will see my brother in law buy a lot back home (but all stuff are loaded in my mother in law's house) . His son always asked his grandma to bring him to eat expensive afternoon tea but the boy's parent never pay for it. When I knew they buy a car (even we do not have) I felt very very annoyed and I know my husband started to feel like me. But I understand he wants to protect his family therefore he seldom say a word.