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希望你地可以傾一傾..佢咁樣係咪發生o左o的o野佢唔開心, 但你好唔知.., 相片都要delete..好嚴重..樓主要加油

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多謝哂你地既支持! 唔, 請你地唔好鬧我老公, 其實佢係一個好好既男人, 佢平日如果休息都會做哂d家務, 亦都好關心我, 我地一般都好恩愛, 但係唔知點解, 有時講開屋企人, 就會嘈交, 正如我講, 我諗我地兩個都太孝順, 太為家人著想。

可能我之前講得唔清楚, 我老公唔係delete哂所有我daddy mami同bb既合照, 以我發現係有兩次, 一次佢話因為d相濛, 一次話因為我已經upload左上online album, 所以佢delete, 不過無論濛或者係我已upload左, 我都唔想delete d相, 所以都有為左件事同佢嘈過。

星期日件事, 我老公推左屋企人啦, 不過佢有d踇氣, 對我好冷淡。其實佢有propose一係改同我daddy mami食lunch或者tea, 不過我唔想成日都係daddy mami就我地既schedule要遠遠咁走過來, 所以唔想。如果老公肯比我自己帶囝囝星期六返屋企就最好, 因為佢自己要返工陪唔到我地, 咁我又可以唔駛daddy mami走來走去, 而且我地又可以一家一齊星期日join佢地屋企人既聚會。

我地個囝囝歲半啦, 我都唔知點解老公唔比我自己返外家。車程係耐左d, 要45mins-1hr, 要搭港鐵轉兩次車, 再轉小巴, 又或者係佢覺得我有時粗心大意, 驚我同bb有意外, 不過我諗過, 其實全程只係要過一條馬路。或者我再同我老公傾下, 希望佢以後會比我自己一個帶bb返外家, 咁就大家都開心。

我好愛我老公, 唔想成日同佢嘈而傷感情, 我希望可以用溫和d既方法軟化佢。其實我以前都唔係好鍾意成日返6299度, 因為一個星期實在見好多次, 好想多d自己既family time, 所以有時都會同老公講, 想返去少d, 可能因為咁, 佢覺得我唔鍾意佢屋企人, 所以佢都唔鍾意我既屋企人? 其實佢屋企對我好好, 我都好appreciate, 所以近來我都刻意多d表現自己啺佢屋企人, 我希望佢感受到我對佢屋企人好, 佢都會尊重我屋企人多d。

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原文章由 hanahaha 於 08-8-22 15:02 發表
多謝哂你地既支持! 唔, 請你地唔好鬧我老公, 其實佢係一個好好既男人, 佢平日如果休息都會做哂d家務, 亦都好關心我, 我地一般都好恩愛, 但係唔知點解, 有時講開屋企人, 就會嘈交, 正如我講, 我諗我地兩個都太孝順, ...

咁既然你都話佢好好,咁咪得囉!!!

又係你自己講到佢幾衰幾衰,到人地話你老公的時候,你依架又叫人地唔好鬧佢,又話其實佢好好,真係比你激死~~~

不過,你忍到佢咪得囉,始終都係要有人肯讓步先得,互相遷就係好重要架!!!

but我就覺得合理就可以遷就下,但太過份就唔得,男人係唔蹤得架!!!

[ 本文章最後由小manman 於 08-8-22 15:29 編輯 ]

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I think your c6 is just like a kid - childish & not mature, only consider himself. Yes, may be he treats you & bb very good, but he is not considerate !!!

If he loves you, he should also love your family members (to care & respect them, just the basic simple manner), although, of course, he can't love them like you love them.

I feel like your c6 can't treat your parents as part of the family members (not parents la of course), that's why he has such response.

One more thing, I think he is too attached to his own family.

Ask him: who are the closet family members - his relatives (uncles/cousins) or your parents? My dad & c6' answer is my parents/mum's parents !!!

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"我希望可以用溫和d既方法軟化佢。其實我以前都唔係好鍾意成日返6299度, 因為一個星期實在見好多次, 好想多d自己既family time, 所以有時都會同老公講, 想返去少d, 可能因為咁, 佢覺得我唔鍾意佢屋企人, 所以佢都唔鍾意我既屋企人? 其實佢屋企對我好好, 我都好appreciate, 所以近來我都刻意多d表現自己啺佢屋企人, 我希望佢感受到我對佢屋企人好, 佢都會尊重我屋企人多d。"

Your thinking is good, but whether it works depend on the type of person your c6 is.

It seems that he only focuses on himself and is not aware of what you've done & your feelings. For your care to his family, he just takes it for granted !

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原文章由 hanahaha 於 08-8-20 17:27 發表
不知是否我太多心，但是我總感覺我的老公不太喜歡我的父母。

我與6299住得很近，星期一至五都會一家三口在他們家吃晚飯，但是娘家遙遠，一星期只有一天可與父母見面。我很珍惜與父母的見面時間，因為他們都老了（父親已70多歲），我 ...

樓主, 你老公好自私, 佢無當你父母係自己人.
你直接同你C6講出你0既感受
希望佢會明白你

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其實你試下同你老公傾下...講出你既感受...試下解釋比佢聽...假如你係佢...佢係你...你咁對佢既家人...佢會有咩感受...

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其實樓主話好愛啺屋企人. 但我覺得你啺你老公同佢屋企多d囉 (包括老公d親戚). 其實我一定唔會因為佢屋企d親戚來食飯而唔見自己父母.

當然, 我唔係要分等級. 但樓主講到咁為難, 咁唔開心. 冇必要喇. 你都簡咗先後喇.

你老公就一定唔鍾意你父母. 但做女既. 自己都唔為自己父母. 就真係 !!!!

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恕我得罪講句, 而家呢個情形係樓主自己做成, 你個仔都唔係好鈿啦, 而且去你外家45 min -1 hr都算遠呀? 我屋企返我mami度都要轉2次港鐵+一程巴士啦, 仲要over 1 hr, 我係個女幾個月大時已經自己一個帶bb返去啦, 有咩咁困難呀???

講真, 你都做人阿媽啦, 唔係你老公講乜你就聽晒先得架, 你自己都識講啦, 你父母都幾十歲人, 你次次都要你父母去你home, 除非你老公放假同你地去先可以去你父母度, 你父母就唔辛苦既?

你再係咁樣就你老公同男家d 大帝, 再有咩不滿最好自己吞晒佢啦。祝你好運啦!

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hanahaha,
I have same situation as yours. my c6 doesn't respect my parents a lot. I asked him why before, he said it's personal crash. That's very difficult. I certainly wish him could treat my family as good as his, but it's very difficult. You can't change one's personality. Some people here suggests you take revenge by treating his parents bad. I think this is not very sensible and too emotional. If you think his behaviour is not correct, why you should follow suit? I agree with you that you should continue to treat his family nicely. That's basic respect. I can't help you, but nice to share with you here. Try to avoid conflicts by not pushing him to see your parents. You could just take your kid to meet with your parents as you like without having to ask his permission. 1.5 years is manageable already. Perhaps you could be more patient now and once your child gets over 2 years, just go on your own without getting his consent.

原文章由 hanahaha 於 08-8-22 15:02 發表
多謝哂你地既支持! 唔, 請你地唔好鬧我老公, 其實佢係一個好好既男人, 佢平日如果休息都會做哂d家務, 亦都好關心我, 我地一般都好恩愛, 但係唔知點解, 有時講開屋企人, 就會嘈交, 正如我講, 我諗我地兩個都太孝順, ...

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發表於 08-8-23 02:30 |只看該作者

你老公真係

唔講以為你嫁入豪門
セ都就哂男家
你自已帶ＢＢ返外家都唔得
危乜險呀

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人人話生女好d, 考順wor
呢個case真係另我重新考慮

仲叫人唔好鬧你老公

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我老公都唔系好鐘意同我屋企人相處,可能生疏掛,去到唔系咁自在.我住美国西岸,外家在東岸.計埋等候的時間,我要坐差不多成日飛機先返到去.而家我Ｄ細路大Ｄ,唔駛点拖,佢地細時我又要抱又要推車,一去就最少兩星期.老公有時同我去,有時都自己返去.一年都會返２，３次.老公就算自己唔想去,亦從冇話我自己一個危險唔比我去.果到始終系我外家.同老公慢慢傾下,講出你嘅感受.

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thank you all for sharing and listening. it's really nice to know that someone has similar situation as me.

i will continue fighting for my family in a mild way. i had thought of going my way without listening to him, but i know this will lead to a big argument and if i were my parents, i won't wish to see my daughter arguing with her husband because of them either. really don't want to have my parents worry about me.

i really wish as time goes, my husband will learn to appreciate what i have done and what my parents have done and respect them day by day.

原文章由 ratafan 於 08-8-23 00:57 發表
hanahaha,
I have same situation as yours. my c6 doesn't respect my parents a lot. I asked him why before, he said it's personal crash. That's very difficult. I certainly wish him could treat my fam ...

[ 本文章最後由 hanahaha 於 08-8-23 16:55 編輯 ]

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原文章由 hanahaha 於 08-8-23 14:57 發表
thank you all for sharing and listening. it's really nice to know that someone has similar situation as me.

i will continue fighting for my family in a mild way. i had thought of going my way withou ...

你真係要同你老公好好傾下囉!同佢一齊分配下見各自父母既時間,等大家都公平D又無咁多爭拗.

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發表於 08-8-24 00:17 |只看該作者

I see you love your parents a lot and you're a very caring and considerate person. I really wish your husband would change somedays.

原文章由 hanahaha 於 08-8-23 14:57 發表
thank you all for sharing and listening. it's really nice to know that someone has similar situation as me.

i will continue fighting for my family in a mild way. i had thought of going my way withou ...

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thank you so much for your wishes! i really really hope so! and hope the same for you too!

原文章由 ratafan 於 08-8-24 00:17 發表
I see you love your parents a lot and you're a very caring and considerate person. I really wish your husband would change somedays.

visit the mackie's family blog

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你有無試過一個人帶個仔去街(要搭車的)?其實45min-1hr都唔係好耐,你有無請工人?帶埋工人一齊去lor...

我老公都係成日話這樣唔得,那樣唔得...我個囡9個月大時,我都係一個人帶揹住佢去外家啦(1hr+車程)...之後,老公就無咁大反應啦...

不過,我老公好尊重我媽咪(表面啦)...我都係男家節目會排先,但就好少連親戚的突發約會都要自己父母讓路...

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其實可唔可以各有各去,大家happy,勉強冇幸福,佢如果真如你說的delete合照,不用問了,還會有其它原因嗎.不就是不喜歡,愛妻敬岳母,不要說像孝順自己父母一樣孝順岳父岳母,起碼的尊重也是必要的,祗要不太過份便算了.

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原文章由 hanahaha 於 08-8-21 09:58 發表
如果佢返左工, 我daddy mami就會上來我地屋企探bb, 因為我daddy mami屋企遠, 老公唔比我自己同囝囝返去, 一定要佢唔駛返工至可以車我地返去食飯

Hi Hanahaha, I'll tried hard not to be too harsh but you sounded like very subservient to your husband. Being respectful to your husband is very different than being subservient.

You've already mentioned your parents are old and live far away. Why would you listen to your husband and stay home and wait for your parents to come visit you?

Did you grow up at the same place your parents are living now? So, you can't even be able to find your way back to the very same home you grown up and have to wait until your husband is day-off?

I understand it's not easy to bring the little one(s) out. But if I could fly over (12-hour trip) with my 2 babies then all by myself to visit my parents, you certainly can bring your one baby out to visit your aging parents!

Be strong!