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irene_the_pooh

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原帖由 060905 於 09-6-4 12:38 發表
家下咩年代呀, 仲好似以前咁呀, 幾個家庭住埋一齊呀！

我結婚個時6299都想一齊住, 要我同埋6299+姑仔+姑9+佢地仔女一齊住, 我啋你都傻.....

所以依家要同老公表明立場, 你係唔會同佢地住, 叫你c6諗掂佢. ...

問題唔係而家係咩年代，而係6299既思想係咩年代！因為佢地會覺得自己係呢個世界最重要既人物，所以佢地講、我地就要做！

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好多問題都係因為有人想操控別人, 其實每一個人都係一個個體, 有自己的自主權.

唔想做嘅係冇人迫倒.
不過決定之前要衡量下邊樣重要d, 有d野可以妥協, 有d就 no way.

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060905

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我話之理, 合理就跟, 唔合理既, 我唔會理你。

你覺得自己係重要人物你既事, 你既仔女當你神咁拜都係佢既事, 唔駛旨意我啋你！

原帖由 irene_the_pooh 於 09-6-4 12:47 發表

問題唔係而家係咩年代，而係6299既思想係咩年代！因為佢地會覺得自己係呢個世界最重要既人物，所以佢地講、我地就要做！

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KiuShaBB

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佢地係唔理人感受既自私精, 直接講理由一定唔得, 不如試下另類方法.

你話佢地好鐘意c6個兄弟個老婆, 呢個妯娌亦唔介意同佢地住, 你估呢個妯娌會唔會鐘意你呢? 介唔介意同你住呢? 佢會唔會爭寵? 你試下喺呢到入手得唔得?

你試下扮好開心咁講, 特別係對住果位妯娌, "一齊住呀, 我d朋友話好喎, 到時99/xx(妯娌)煮埋飯同打掃, 又有呀xx陪你地, 咁我咪好多私人時間同c6拍拖? 唔錯喎. 呀, 我講下笑啫." 我諗佢會想辦法趕你地走.

其實都係睇你c6點做啫. 佢唔係咁驚父母呀?

[ 本帖最後由 KiuShaBB 於 09-6-4 13:10 編輯 ]

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lo310

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咁你有無好認真和你老公講你不想一起住?
你兩公婆同一立場就容易拆掂佢.否則,你老公心軟就死啦.
不要以為一起住之後可以搬番出來, 咁做同反面沒有分別.
仲有, 依家物野世界, 仲要求仔女結婚之後一起住? 睇得大宅門多, 睇到上曬腦?
一係就話: 搬番來都得, 不過不俾家用, 仲要食佢地. 看那些老而不有沒有錢養你過世.

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原帖由 beagledog 於 09-6-4 12:53 發表
好多問題都係因為有人想操控別人, 其實每一個人都係一個個體, 有自己的自主權.

Super agree, my 9962 are control freaks

. Besides me (after c6's request), c6's all things (even his job, what shares to buy, where to live, buy what car etc.) are controlled & decided by 9962.

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KiuShaBB

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原帖由 zxzx 於 09-6-4 13:47 發表

Super agree, my 9962 are control freaks . Besides me (after c6's request), c6's all things (even his job, what shares to buy, where to live, buy what car etc.) are controlled & decided by ...

咁你c6有無問過父母至同你拍拖+結婚?

父母去咗, 你c6又可以問邊個?

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原帖由 KiuShaBB 於 09-6-4 13:04 發表
佢地係唔理人感受既自私精, 直接講理由一定唔得, 不如試下另類方法.

你話佢地好鐘意c6個兄弟個老婆, 呢個妯娌亦唔介意同佢地住, 你估呢個妯娌會唔會鐘意你呢? 介唔介意同你住呢? 佢會唔會爭寵? 你試下喺呢到入手得 ...

弟個老婆 pretends like me in front of 9962. 9962 asked me why I didn't like 妯娌 as she is sooooo nice (me

) !!! She is another trouble-maker besides 9962.

9962 has maid at home, but they request me to cook for them at my house (we don't have maid) for Sat dinner, and they rather put the maid at home for watching TV !!!

99 said she employs maid because she doesn't want 妯娌 to do any housework.

Every time they came to my house for dinner, I need to wash the whole house (and buy, cook and wash food/dishes) because 9962 only complain and complain my whole house --- they don't like me ma. Every time after dinner, they enjoyed fruit & tea and I washed dishes, only wash half day, they would leave. I feel like myself even worse than their maid.

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原帖由 060905 於 09-6-4 12:55 發表
我話之理, 合理就跟, 唔合理既, 我唔會理你。你覺得自己係重要人物你既事, 你既仔女當你神咁拜都係佢既事, 唔駛旨意我啋你！

至弊佢地個仔而家成為自己生命中一個好重要既人哩！

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最憎d愚孝仔。

原帖由 KiuShaBB 於 09-6-4 13:53 發表

咁你c6有無問過父母至同你拍拖+結婚?

父母去咗, 你c6又可以問邊個?

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聽日既野都無人知, 更何況係3年後 !!!! 依加諗甘多盞自己轉牛角尖, 分分鐘影響同老公既關係

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zxzx

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原帖由 KiuShaBB 於 09-6-4 13:53 發表

咁你c6有無問過父母至同你拍拖+結婚?

父母去咗, 你c6又可以問邊個?

Sorry, may be my wrong use of words.

c6 didn't ask 9962. I only knew this afterwards - 99 told me that she asked c6 before: "Is it you must be with her?" C6 said "yes". So 9962 can only let c6 to 結婚 with me.

[ 本帖最後由 zxzx 於 09-6-4 14:08 編輯 ]

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原帖由 lo310 於 09-6-4 13:10 發表
咁你有無好認真和你老公講你不想一起住?
你兩公婆同一立場就容易拆掂佢.否則,你老公心軟就死啦.
不要以為一起住之後可以搬番出來, 咁做同反面沒有分別.
仲有, 依家物野世界, 仲要求仔女結婚之後一起住? 睇得大宅門多 ...

你老公心軟就死啦 --- this is what I'm afraid, because he doesn't like to live with brother's wife but c6 will give face to 9962.

不要以為一起住之後可以搬番出來, 咁做同反面沒有分別. --- that's what I think, so we have our own house after wedding. Just I didn't expect we need to go back to live with them after several years.

仲有, 依家物野世界, 仲要求仔女結婚之後一起住? 睇得大宅門多, 睇到上曬腦? --- 9962 pretend open, but they are very very traditional in fact.

一係就話: 搬番來都得, 不過不俾家用, 仲要食佢地. 看那些老而不有沒有錢養你過世. --- even c6 lived with them (before marriage), 62 asked c6 to share part of expenses and I thought that was fair. But after marriage, c6's brother (and his family) continued to live with 9962 and no need to pay.

I think 62 must require us to pay if we live with them.

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原帖由 F$A$T 於 09-6-4 14:02 發表
聽日既野都無人知, 更何況係3年後 !!!!

This is the attitude I use when c6 told me. But he didn't like my attitude, feel like I'm using excuse. Like 9962, he wants to plan.

Also c6 told me that 62 wants us to pay more $$$ now (c6, brother & 62 each will pay a sum) - to reserve it for later use (e.g. buy a bigger house, move overseas, family expenses) etc. with them.

62 even said how much my house can sell for, how much we can contribute wor !!!

I said to c6: I've no more money to pay (I only pay them for current use, actually I keep some for myself just in case).

[ 本帖最後由 zxzx 於 09-6-4 14:21 編輯 ]

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如果你C6做唔到, 講唔到, 唯有你自己出聲, 就算係做衰人都要.
其實, 你有無諗過叫弟婦幫口呢???
因為佢都唔想同你地住啦, 同埋, 你地係有俾家用既. 在於弟婦來講, $$就照用, 但唔駛分溥間屋.

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你地打算生bb嗎? 話到時得一間房你地唔夠住唔搬囉.
你老公咁冇主見, 乜都聽6299話, 你可唔可以惡d, 逼佢聽你話?
如果你老公係愚孝仔而你6299講到明要你地俾晒賣樓嘅錢俾佢地, 你點都唔好賣樓. 盡量儲多d私己錢, 好好為自己打算一下.

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Use 妯娌 is a good way, let me think how.

She won't help me if I tell her the truth, so I can't use her directly, because she always pretends like me and stands for 9962 (pretends as a good daughter in law) :;pppp: .

Honestly, I don't think she wants to live with us, but as a good daughter in law in front of 9962, I don't think she will say anything and she can't say anything. Also 9962 likes her, so only me will be a maid to 'work' for her at home.

May be I tell her all my c6's bad habits to make her don't like to live with us, does it work?

[ 本帖最後由 zxzx 於 09-6-4 17:03 編輯 ]

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但我怕你弟婦同你一樣 --- 都唔係好有say喎！

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原帖由 tantanmama 於 09-6-4 15:33 發表
你地打算生bb嗎? 話到時得一間房你地唔夠住唔搬囉.
你老公咁冇主見, 乜都聽6299話, 你可唔可以惡d, 逼佢聽你話?
如果你老公係愚孝仔而你6299講到明要你地俾晒賣樓嘅錢俾佢地, 你點都唔好賣樓. 盡量儲多d私己錢, 好 ...

Yes, 打算生bb but they still like to live as a big family

.

They asked me to get prepared (e.g. sell house etc.). But I always don't show any decision and just delay them. I just think I must save as much $$$ as possible and 點都唔好賣樓 (because house is my last asset), just in case I can move back to my own house / have back-up money if something bad happens.

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原帖由 zxzx 於 09-6-4 14:19 發表

This is the attitude I use when c6 told me. But he didn't like my attitude, feel like I'm using excuse. Like 9962, he wants to plan.

Also c6 told me that 62 wants us to pay more $$$ now (c6, brot ...