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angelic 發表於 12-3-21 00:42
既然係同你一齊之前發生嘅事, 唔好咁介意先, 佢而家對你唔好?? 令你覺得佢會不忠???

每個人都有自己嘅過去 ...

He treats me well, just that I don't know how to move on..

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發表於 12-3-21 13:40 |只看該作者

In fact, like a year ago, I've already asked him to make everything clear to explain more about what he did.. but then he just kept saying he forgot..and from time to time I discovered something new. I now always would think whether he did this or did that, like exhausting all the possibilities...

He said he didn't want to remember coz to him it's also painful. I understand, but then I am also very painful..I can just guess, keep guessing of what he did before..It's very tiring..and I just kept asking him questions to know more..

I really want a way out to stop all these and move on...

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發表於 12-3-21 13:41 |只看該作者

回覆：個心點都有條刺...

我老公有小三件事已困擾我差不多2年，一個人時，都會喊！我都唔知點拔條刺出嚟，以前我以為同佢可以一生一世，不過我宜家知係我天真&傻，佢根本唔係咁唸！因仲有個仔，我未有勇氣去辦离婚，但我宜家會將佢係我心中的重要性慢慢減低，理少d佢費時整到自己唔開心。其實要再信任佢，原諒佢同忘記件事都好難，尚在努力中！

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fung007chi828 加油~ 發表於 12-3-21 17:21

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發表於 12-3-21 13:48 |只看該作者

Newpage 發表於 12-3-21 13:41
我老公有小三件事已困擾我差不多2年，一個人時，都會喊！我都唔知點拔條刺出嚟，以前我以為同佢可以一生一 ...

Yes, I know my case is different and it's of course much worse if you have a baby..
But the common point is that we were all deeply hurt by the person you love...This feeling is just the same..I really hope to find a way that would work to help us overcome all the challenges...

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發表於 12-3-21 13:55 |只看該作者

講真，“刺”係拔唔到既，但就有兩個方法可以令條“刺”消失

1. 原諒佢- 唔係得個講字，要真心原諒，做到好似唐太咁：原諒，包容，有咩事都撐佢！因爲過去的就已經過去，要向前望！
漸漸條“刺”喺邊你到唔記得咗！
（題外話：我真係覺得唐生好lucky有個咁好既老婆！XD）

2. 分手 - 長痛不如短痛，既然放唔低就放唔低囉！
分咗手唔駛再對住，時間係會慢慢幫你忘記佢，之後認識了新的男朋友時，唔好話“刺”唔“刺”吖，連有條刺呢件事都未必記得番！

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發表於 12-3-21 14:00 |只看該作者

oni2 發表於 12-3-21 13:55
講真，“刺”係拔唔到既，但就有兩個方法可以令條“刺”消失

1. 原諒佢- 唔係得個講字，要真心原諒，做到 ...

Yes if I'm like Mrs Tong then I'd be fine...at least apparently she's fine..
I also thought of breaking up before.. but it's not a way out...coz we both realised that we love each other very much..

From the point I knew he was hiding, in fact I was very worried about him as he's a super negative person and always told me it's better for him to end his life.. at that time I just kept dealing with him problems to cheer him up making him a more positive person.. but finally one day when I saw him getting better then I collapsed.. till now.. my problem is never solved..

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發表於 12-3-21 14:04 |只看該作者

為男朋友同你一齊之前既往事而傷心到咁既地步，真係好傻好傻，或者因為你冇清楚交代到底係乜事，真係好難代入你既心情。

我都有我既過去，我老公拍拖既時候都會問下我以前既事，不過我都唔鍾意講太多，並唔係因為我有野未放低，只係你知道嗎，好多人聽完伴侶講自己既前度，會引發更多既問題，甚至將自己同伴侶既前度比較，咁真係好無聊！每個人都係獨立既個體，每段感情都係唔同既經歷，只要唔係一腳踏兩船，咁伴侶同前度既野又與你何干？

問問你自己，點解你咁介意男朋友既往事？你覺得佢唔講你知係因為佢心入面仍然有對方？定係你對自己男朋友冇信心？

但如果佢講晒俾你知，對你又有咩好處呢？除左得個知字之外，點解你會覺得知道晒你就會好開心？定係只係因為自己依家不停咁轉牛角尖，就覺得知道比唔知道既好，唔駛估估下。不過其實你從來冇諗過知道左之後可能更加多野胡思亂想！

活在當下，唔好去為過去而煩惱，你都話男朋友對你好好，咁就享受依家既甜蜜溫馨！依家男朋友鍾意既係你，前度係過去式，你先係現在進行式，俾D信心自己，俾D信心你男朋友，將你既思想調整番去諗下兩個點樣享受一起的時間，就快放復活節啦喎，有冇諗過點同男朋友過？去邊度玩？

總之不停提醒自己依家你地兩個係相愛既，將精神集中係維繫呢段感情。唔好再胡思亂想啦！又傷身，又傷害兩個人既心，何必呢？加油啦！

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lingwu

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發表於 12-3-21 14:19 |只看該作者

之前既事都要介意

而家佢對妳好咪得羅,咁妳之前有冇拍個拖呀
成日都為呢咁少既事而唔開心,咁我念妳好難會塭到個完全冇拍過拖既男仔羅~~

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發表於 12-3-21 14:39 |只看該作者

penguinbb 發表於 12-3-21 14:00
Yes if I'm like Mrs Tong then I'd be fine...at least apparently she's fine..
I also thought of brea ...

no no la, just let it go! If you love him, really, just let the past go.If you spend too much time dwelling/thinking about the past, you won't have time to enjoy NOW and think about the future!

think about the future! 既然咁鐘意咪諗下將來囉！結婚呀組織家庭呀等等．．．唔好放energy去Ｄ不必要既地方喇，同埋唔好鑽牛角尖！

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lingwu 發表於 12-3-21 14:19
之前既事都要介意
而家佢對妳好咪得羅,咁妳之前有冇拍個拖呀
成日都為呢咁少既事而唔開心,咁我念 ...

It's not because he was dating other girls before..I didn't care about wt he did with his other ex.. just that he hided in the first place when he told me we had to be frank at the very beginning.. I just didn't expect he would still hide.. which really hurts.. I know it's useless to cry over split milk, I know it's useless to be unhappy over something that I can't change.. My point is that he hided before which made me collapse.. and now I realise I need to get hold of present, but I'm just asking for solutions asking for more opinions on how I can move on coz I lack the strength now and I lose all the confidence over myself.

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發表於 12-3-21 15:37 |只看該作者

回覆：個心點都有條刺...

究竟佢隱藏左咩而你發現左乜？

殺人放火？有仔女？

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發表於 12-3-21 15:53 |只看該作者

canies 發表於 12-3-21 15:37
究竟佢隱藏左咩而你發現左乜？

殺人放火？有仔女？

He cheated when he was still with his ex, and the worst thing is that I knew that woman. That woman is just a bxxch seriously. The whole thing is very complicated.. but now I just want to focus on the solution for myself and our future..

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發表於 12-3-21 16:24 |只看該作者

同你之前喎,你改變唔到既事,何必去嬲呢?

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發表於 12-3-21 16:53 |只看該作者

penguinbb 發表於 12-3-21 13:23
When I'm sad I'd just keep thinking and thinking which makes me crazy...
It's been a year already an ...

或者你試下將你同佢之間既事(你覺得最唔開心o個part)同不同既人講(要完整咁由頭到尾講), 當時我講到第6次, 已經唔想再講, 自己亦都慢慢唔想再提 ...... 你要記住: 你要好好愛自己, 希望你快d開心返啦, 因為某年某月某日你回頭睇返, 呢件事真係不值一提!!

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發表於 12-3-21 18:13 |只看該作者

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慢慢用心消化各jm的勸勉吧。
拍拖係應該開心架，好好珍惜時間。結婚仲有更多煩事要面對的。係米你太多比較產生痛苦？試下不追問，鴕鳥一下。

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發表於 12-3-21 20:08 |只看該作者

回覆：個心點都有條刺...

唔系掛？一齊之前嘅都要管？邊個無過去啊？咁你男朋友有無追究你同佢一齊嘅嘢吖～

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你把自己迫入死胡同！那條刺根本無可能會被除去，只因你根本自己不願去拔。如果你撫心自問當天倘他真願意向你坦白曾和那女的一起過，你真的不會再追明問詳情，又或者你真不會介意嗎？你和男友要想的是未來，巳經發生的多想又能如何，重要是你們以後可以坦誠共對。這全在於你一念之間！

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發表於 12-3-21 21:23 |只看該作者

係..我都知唔好睇番轉頭..不過我真係冇問所有佢同第一個女朋友ge野..只係我好記得, 一開始佢同我一齊之前講過話希望我地可以坦誠相對...但係之後發現原來佢一直都冇坦白過..覺得好傷心.
其實成件事實在太複雜...我都唔想再提...我今次只係想知道有冇類似經歷都係比自己最愛ge人hurt得咁深ge人點面對..我自己都想積極d, 不過我真係冇辦法..我都想有人幫下我...等我可以真係用唔同角度去諗..

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