I think my mom's practice is better, my mom gave $2000 (7 years ago) to my sister-in-law's mom and said please kindly help to buy something my sister-in-law likes to eat for her la! Then, can avoid buying something wrong and she didn't like. But my mom's did show appreciation to her and her mom.
In between, we will go there once a week to visit the new born baby.
My 99's practice was scary, she sudden come everyday without notice and bought a lot of raw meat for my mom to cook for me........
raw meat? too much, hardly to eat everyday lor!
I prefer my mom's soup and chicken rice (more normal).