first are you a full time housewife? actually my husband is also like that slow action at home........for the first 2-3 years....I'm very angry and mad about his behaviour as you said in here. BUt as long as I know he is care and love this family. I can feel his love....Then I know I need to calm down and focus more on my daughter's study and house work. I am a working mum without maid. Each day my daughter and I will kiss and hug (husband). Really need time to change and adjust the life style. Add oil!!