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kellyly

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Re: C6話要俾Key 99,激死我！

唔比打死都唔好比佢，佢唔ｌａｉ就話ｊｅ，如佢ｌａｉ，你就有排煩．

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Re: C6話要俾Key 99,激死我！

如果您99係識得尊重人同自律的話都可以比, 但如不是就不好比, 比時容易收回難.

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Re: C6話要俾Key 99,激死我！

Do you afraid of retribution? If you are childless, you could just ignore it as it does not applicable to you.

If your son refuse to let you (when you are very old and lonely) visit him as he dare not against his wife. Otherwise, there will be a death penalty for him. Of course, your daughter-in-law will also make this very clear with your son -she will never live with his mother/family members. Your mother in-law love your husband as much as you love your son. She was the one who woke up many times at night to fed you husband when he was a baby.

I live in Hong Kong Parkview ($30 million big house) and I always feel very thankful to my parents-in-law to grow such outstanding man for me.
My parent-in-law are welcome to visit their son, grandsons and grandaughters anytime.

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Re: C6話要俾Key 99,激死我！

EEPhoon,

This is not about wether the parent-in-laws are allowed to visit their son and grandkids. It is about respect and privacy for one's family unit/home.

When one get married, one is forming a new family unit with one's husband/wife and while one should still honour and care for one's own parents, one's ultimate loyalty should lie with your husband/wife. Because he/she will be the person who will take the next stage of life's journey with you as a partner. Your own little family unit should be seperated from the control of either set of parents. All major decisions should be made between the husband and wife with both side agreeing and finding a compromise. So the husband and wife is on the same side and both should take responsibility about their joint decision. Only this will ensure a healthy marriage because there are bound to be a lot of interference from external source (e.g. in-laws) about many things. By having this attitude, the husband and wife can resolve diffierent issues together and put on a common front to take any criticism.

And as a mother, one should respect that after marriage one's son has started his own little family unit with his wife and his wife is the person who will be his lifelong partner in the days ahead. Their family unit/home is private and only they can make decisions about what is right for them. A mother can give them suggestion, but one cannot force them to make decision that either feel uncomfortable about.

I don't think there's anything wrong with refusing to leave a set of keys with one's parents. That's a very personal choice as some people are just more private than others. And a family home is ultimately one's own sanctuary where one need to feel secure and comfortable. Of course if the in-laws/parents want to visit they could but it is only polite that they give some notice in advance because of what I have explained above.

Also I don't see any difference between a home which is worth $30mn and one that is just $1mn. Both are home to a small family unit between one husband and one wife. And both should be equally private to any outsiders.

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Re: C6話要俾Key 99,激死我！

EEPhoon 寫道:
Do you afraid of retribution? If you are childless, you could just ignore it as it does not applicable to you.

If your son refuse to let you (when you are very old and lonely) visit him as he dare not against his wife. Otherwise, there will be a death penalty for him. Of course, your daughter-in-law will also make this very clear with your son -she will never live with his mother/family members. Your mother in-law love your husband as much as you love your son. She was the one who woke up many times at night to fed you husband when he was a baby.

I live in Hong Kong Parkview ($30 million big house) and I always feel very thankful to my parents-in-law to grow such outstanding man for me.
My parent-in-law are welcome to visit their son, grandsons and grandaughters anytime.

The point isn't the value of own flat. Even I live in public flat, I should have my privacy.