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To 小香香
我沒有怪你什麼，因你是局外人，所以一定以這副眼鏡看．就如神鵰裏駡楊，小二人的駡得最起勁，最義無反顧的，　是那班正義的武林中人，找著一個大道理，去判決所有的事情．阮玲玉謂之：人言可畏．

難道人可以以一個身份去做他能做的壞事，而以其身份和群眾觀念做盾牌？

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ｂｂ１６個月了．

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自私的男人？對！我有同感，　他自己也這麼說．．

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其實你有無諗過...佢前妻向你數臭佢老公...女人話自己老公...未必唔係唔愛佢...可能仲愛佢...而同你講佢老公既不是...等你知難而退...你老公同你講既所有野...已簽字...手續上既問題...全部都係佢同你講...但係唔係事實呢...如果係事實...點解佢仲要拖住兩個人...你會唔會懷疑呢...其實一段感情...二人行...係幸福...快樂...但係如果變左三人行...係會辛苦...其實當你知道你同佢一齊既時候...你就預左會痛苦...煩惱...咁而家你又可需要覺得煩惱呢...既然bb都有...咁你就要盡好做媽媽既本份...好好照顧bb...唔好再喊...你喊得多...bb都會唔開心...或者你可能係其他人眼中...係第三者...壞女人...但係係bb心目中...你係最美...係好媽媽...唔好影響自己係仔女心目中既形象...

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我完全同意!!!

我最睇唔起一腳踏兩船的男人,無論佢有一萬個合情合理的理由,全部都係自私的藉口,既然你係第三者,你就要承受.

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由呀咕啹於 2006-07-23 01:42:56

首先講句SORRY~!
因為你既男人我只會1句說話去形容: 自私的男人!!!!

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edit312,

其實我諗我會明白你嘅處境, 因為我初初識我老公時, 佢都係同佢前妻啱啱分緊居, 但係我比你好彩嘅就係佢哋真係分開, 因為係個女嘅有第三者, 仲唔係第一次, 佢又嫌我老公太悶! 我未同我老公開始拍拖時, 仲要同個女嘅算係好朋友, 我哋三個仲要係同事, 差唔多日日一齊番工。到後來佢哋兩個搞好哂 d 離婚手續, 我同我老公就即刻結婚, 而家我己經冇响嗰度番工, 因為實在有點頂唔順, 我覺得個女嘅成日响日人前扮好人, 加上我又大咗肚, 所以就索性唔做响屋企湊仔好過囉! 眼不見為乾淨嘛!!
我想講嘅係, 唔同人有唔同嘅立場, 有人知道你咁, 會响你破口大罵, 覺得你自討苦吃, 拆散人哋家庭。無錯俗語有云, 牛唔飲水唔禁得牛頭低, 好多嘢都會係自己一手做成。但係, 到底係有雞先定係有蛋先呢? 都仲係冇人會答到! 係佢哋有咗問題你先出現呢? 定係你嘅出現才令佢哋產生問題呢? 又或是你嘅出現加速惡化咗佢哋嘅問題, 真係只有你哋三個心裡最清楚!
無錯男人係自私, 但係人邊個係唔自私嘅呢? 所以, 我覺得你都要自私少少, 為自己、為個小朋友著想吓呀! 以前嘅事己經發生咗, 唔可以再改變, 咁你就要為自己嘅將來著想。如果, 真係如你所講咁, 佢哋兩個真係搞好哂離婚手續, 咁就唔止只係用一張紙來証明囉, 要用行動先至得! 如果佢哋兩個真係離婚, 真係要用行動來証明, 唔好再有 d 藕斷絲連嘅行為囉! 同埋, 為咗個小朋友又好, 為了你同你男朋友又好, 你真係要好好咁同佢傾, 如果, 佢真係著緊你同個小朋友嘅話, 都係時候要佢用行動黎証明, 唔好再比佢拖泥帶水!! 其實, 如果佢真係覺得你同個小朋友係重要嘅話, 佢一定唔會做任何嘢黎傷害你倆!! 你有冇能力自己照顧到自己同個小朋友呢? 如果可以, 你就更加要為自己著想同爭取呀!! 就算無咗佢, 都唔見得會世界沒日。以前, 大家都可能做過好多錯嘅事, 己經冇得去改變, 但係, 你可以唔好比自己再錯落去嘛!!

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heilokmama

Yes, he told me he really need my support, cos he feels that he had hurt his ex-wife very hard in this matter, he wants to compensate as much as he can do...so he need to go there and asks her if anything need his help and on the other hand, he need time to adjust himself.

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edit312,

從你流暢的文字中, 反映出是受過教育的人. 應有足夠能力判斷他們是否真的離婚. 是否第三者, 我們的睇法已不重要. 沒人比你更了解你現在的處境, 好好想清楚你們的關係, 再好好安排日後的生活吧!

Love him more, accept his history;
Love yourself more, let him go, let you free.

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edit312,
Sorry to hear your story. May be so many people dont understand you and thinking your are so selfish, as you hold a baby to get another person's husband. Yes, this is the turth.
Whatever what will happening at the end.
But you have to learn how to take care your baby. Dont miss your time to be with your bb. If he found you are crying so often, it will affecting his growth. Your BB needs your support.

On the other hand, how to deal with your boyfriend. Dont push him to do anything at this moment. Man is always like that, he cannot make their own decision at once. Just let him know you both would like to being with him. But he is the person to decide what should he has to do now. From a book, that mentioned " Man always like to stay in a cave when he is facing the difficulities, if you push him so much, he will go much deeper in the cave."

Take care yourself, as you are the only supporter to your lovely bb.

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同意! 事實始終不能用美言掩飾

謙仔媽咪寫道:
edit312,

從你流暢的文字中, 反映出是受過教育的人. 應有足夠能力判斷他們是否真的離婚. 是否第三者, 我們的睇法已不重要. 沒人比你更了解你現在的處境, 好好想清楚你們的關係, 再好好安排日後的生活吧!

Love him more, accept his history;
Love yourself more, let him go, let you free.

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From the beginning, I post the question without hiding anything, and didnt use any excess words to embellish my role, if so, i woundnt tell I am the third party in this relationship, the words were just telling the situation and the fact.

But I found that in this world, most people stereotype the role i am acting in this story, rarely going into a higher level analysis...writing n writing, i found that i am such stupid..it is not a lesson of philosophy, it is a board gathering many mothers and some people's wives, they are acting a role which is the opposite of mine...people seldom can jump out of their role, and say something without the role's characters. Nevertheless, i thank for all your opinions, especially those few gave me congent
one. Thanks a lot!

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如果從頭看到尾就知道,有些事情誤解了.你未算是真正的第3者,充其量是起作催化劑的作用.即使沒有你的出現,他們的婚姻也會走向解體.有你的出現只是加快了.點解佢會回佢前妻那兒.我猜是因為內疚.或者是程序上出錯.或者是她曾為佢付出了很多,不得而知.但肯定是佢感覺上是虧欠了她.一個男人要是感覺上虧欠了一個女人,佢會想盡方法補償.直到佢認為夠了.又或是那女人認為夠,或者拒絕佢的補償.你很難改變佢的做法.而且又分隔2地.佢和她的距離比你近.或者你可以說佢要補償對她的虧欠.那你的又怎樣補償?因為在佢用不恰當的方法對她作出補償時,對你就是一種傷害.一種虧欠.如果和她在不適當的時候離婚是一種錯,那麼現在這樣補償也是一種錯.這是不是一錯再錯呢?虧欠一個女人已經夠了.再欠一個就太多了.

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Totally agree with what 維仔媽媽 said.

I'm also someone's mama & wife. I've 從頭看到尾 and at least I don't think you're so bad woman.

Your boy friend is selfish, and very stupid!! I don't think he know how to handle relationship with women. What he is now doing is hurting you, your bb & his ex-wife and he still not sense that!!!

He still not understand that what his ex-wife need is not him but time & quiet, what your BB & you need is him!!He himself will be the one who missed the happiest time with his own bb.

Add oil la!! Don't be so unhappy la!!!

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edit321,

我無睇其他媽咪回應, 但只睇你個幾個post既回應, 有以下問題, 你同佢相隔兩地, 你又如何得悉佢100%已辦妥離婚手續

既然佢老婆都盡數個男人不是, 為何仲要週旋在呢種三角關係當中 ?-( 我怕既係, 會唔會佢地兩個無得生小朋友, 而你有.....好似拍戲咁架 :cry: :cry: 男人係咁自私一日搵唔到另外一個手泡, 就一定唔會放棄現有的

所以佢前妻怪得佢無錯, 但錯在佢兩個既然都認同大家無感情, 點解仲要每星期去慰前妻兩晚呀

點講都講唔通 :tongue: 個男人真係有愧既唔係每晚去撫佢前妻而係當佢前妻真係有咩困難時才出手相助

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作為一個女人要做人第三者真可悲, 可悲0既係人地有老婆未攪清楚關係就同人地生小朋友? 而個男人真係虧欠個女人而安撫佢及補償? 如果真係有良心就唔會自己有家庭重同你連仔都生埋啦, 每個男人發生婚外情都必定係話同老婆已無愛情或者係一直都有感情問題, 第三者出現與否都係一樣, 好似係你催化佢地解決問題, 咁樣講是否令兩位會好過d? 我想你男友有野係呃緊你, 係唔係真係離左婚一d感情都無? 或者到宜家先覺得老婆能使佢舒服d, 都未定, 無謂俾佢帶住你走, 你都可自主. 祝好運.......