upset,
i know it is a heartbreaking experience... but u've got to have a healthy body to fight against that girl & take care of your kids...
ai... i know it's hard, but try to be more positive... this is a critical period... stay pretty & be a good wife/mother & let him know what he'll lose out if he still sees this girl...
we've been married for 1x years. probably i put too much emphasis on our kid and i have been ignored him for a very long time that's why he feels lonely. So happen the girl's care on him appears on a very appropriate time. I know nothing about the girl and i don't know how she thinks. but he thinks that the girl is very kind-hearted because he told me that she has been asking my hubby to leave her and stay with me. my hubby feels very quilty because of his "change heart". i still love him very much from the bottom of my heart and that's why i feel very very painful. will he change his mind ??
we are the people on the same boat. during these times. i also lose my appetite and don't want to eat anything. i can't even sleep well at night. every night is so painful that i can't do anything but just crying.
Relax and clam down. That's what I have been asking myself to do. If you want him back, dont give up. It's really very very painful. Take with someone, it's much better.
For me, it seems my husband choose the family, but he just cant let the girl go.... And he seems like or pretend to be happy when he stays with the family. I knew she is not her type as he said he will leave me (No matter it's a lie or not and I knew he is still hanging out with her now).
Try to talk to him in a clam & comfortable manner. Dont blame him for doing wrong, told him that may be you have done sth wrong too (eg. for not caring about him, for not loving him enough etc... ) It's a very hard work, and to be honest, i dont know if its work. But I have been trying all that.....
And the most important is, the kid. Does he love the kid ? Try to arrange more time for the whole family, make him feel the warmth and the laughter from the kids, and the last thing, I also know is difficult & painful, give him some time.
For me, right now, I have been just waitiing and waiting.... I try to make the girl upset, (he is unable to reach his phone for reply the SMS for the whole yesterday), in return, when he feel it is not uncomfortable to stay with the girl anymore, then he will return. But to be honest, I dont know if there will be the 2nd time or how long it will take........
Try hard...both of us and I hope we can share good news in the near future.
Thanks very much for your encouragement. my c6 loves his kid a lot. he said he has considered us & therefore difficult how to choose because it's not just a matter between 2 of us. he has to consider his mother and family as he does not want to make her mum worry.
i don't know the attitude of the girl. he said she is struggling, she asks him to talk to me and see whether anything can be done in order to maintain our marriage. on the other hand, she told him she is upset. she knows he's married, he has kid, i don't know what she thinks. he said she does not ask for him anything, that why he appreciates her a lot. but as a woman, we will definitely consider our future, is she going to fight for him with me. she has been his side and he feels that she cares him a lot, very considers his condition, and to me, he has no feeling and he just feels guilty. we have been talking a lot of times and no conclusion. i am going mad.
how should i do in order to change his mind and love me again ??
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