I find that my husband was going out with the other. I saw his SMS 2 weeks ago and ask him. He said they haven't start, and he will terminate their relationship. Should I trust him? WE ahve few argues over the past 2 weeks and situation is getting worse and worse. I also discovered that they started at least in Aug, he even go out with her just after we finished watching the opera. I am very upset. At that day, he told me he need to work and will not come back for dinner. I trust him, am I really stupid ? After the fight on Wed, he changed a lot and try to care about me again, I think it is turning back to me... Should I trust this feeling, what should I do ? :-( :-( :-(
Maybe nothing has happened. Stay calm and see. If he goes too far, leave him. If you have confident in yourself, you can lead a very happy life without such man.
Thanks a lot. I am in the office now, he called me after his dinner at home that he need to go back to office now. I was very upset and I cried for 10mins. I think he is going to met the girl because he promise he will not go to work for the next 2 days.
I think he need to comfort her. Therefore, he need to leave the son and the maid at home.
Hi upset,
我也曾經有過類似的經歷，當時懷有第二個小朋友！I was broken down！I had tried private marriage counselling, its very useful! If your husband also agree to go for it, the successful rate is very high!If you need any information, you can PM me!
I don't think my husband willing to go with me.... Some of my male friend told me, I will win him back as the other gril is giving him a hard time already.
My maid told me he was very unhappy when he left the house tonight.
I don't know, I am trying to ask myself to clam down. I just called home, he's not there yet. Left home for more than 3 hrs already.
do u know the girl ar? r u still working in the office? maybe go home first & have a shower... try not to quarrel with him & be as calm as u can lar... also try not to think too much... better to talk with him first... all the best ar!
Thanks a lot. We have been married for 4 years by the coming Nov.
During our quarrels, we both agreed that it was a mistake. I was pregant at that time. He told me that he knew it was a wrong decision as soon as he was planning our wedding. In return, I told him I knew he didnt love me since our marriage, but I still try my best to be a good wife and hope he can love me one day....
We didn't have quarrels before, but we can very distance. I presuade myself it's part of his character and I keep on working very hard to pleased him....
After that quarrel, his attitude has changed a little bit... He became more caring, actually that's the little thing I want from him. To be honest, i knew it's stupid, but i feel happy when he cares about me again.
But what he did tonight hurt me much more again....
Thanks. I am still in the office and can only finished my shift at around 2315hrs.
Should I talk to him or just leave it out ? He is a smart guy and I think he knew i am upset. I am afraid if I mention it tonight, he will become more unhappy...
I dont know if my friend was right, if they are, I think the girl has made him very unhappy already.
actually, i don't know... supposed your friends r right, then I would not talk to him abt this incidence for now... coz this will make him unhappy (or feels "mar fan"...) but r your friends really telling u the truth gar?
can u stand without asking him? will u be able to sleep without knowing where he went tonight? maybe u can ask him but if he doesn't want to talk abt it for now, then tell him u respect his decision, but in doing so, u also hope he'll respect u by telling u later on...
I dont know if he is right or not... but he advised me to clam down in this afternoon. He told me the girl will give him a hard time sooner or later... It seems he was right.
I will try not to ask me again... If I ask him, he will just say i just dont trust him anymore and then he will loss his temper....
Actually I have made a promise not to mention the girl again when he say he will leave her....
I dont know how long I can stand for all his lies... Should i pretend i dont know, just wait the girl to give her a hard time, and hope he will be back ?
And why he starts to show his concern to me again ? Just to feel sorry for what he did ? Is he really want to leave her (I believe they are new lover as knew that they can talked for more than an hour for a single call, which usually worked for a new love...)
my own opinion only, if u want to win him back, u must stay calm and NOT to mention the thing and start any quarrel with him, it's very important, cos the girl sure has given him pressure and if he feel less stressful at home, then he will have more chance to stay with you...
if u want to keep the family, of cos u have to tolerate this difficult time, the road is long and tough but u still have chance....
If I were you, I will ask him to choose either you & your son or the new girlfriend within 1 month. If he cannot make the decision, then you choose for him --> ask him to choose that new girlfriend as his heart is not with you already.
i got the same problem. my c6 told me he has no feel with me any more and he is in love with another woman. i asked about his decision & he said that he is not willing to let her go. he said she doesn't request him and she has been asking him to improve our relationship. but she keeps on sending him sms and phone calls. my c6 asks me to give him some time and calm down.
Thanks a lot. My maid also told me they should start at around Aug becuase he keep on sending and receiving SMS at home.
In the meantime, I will try my best to keep clam. Try to stay as close to him as possible while he is with us. He didnt have chance for reaching his phone. I want to make the girl unhappy.
At the time being, he still try to presuade me he has left the girl. If i tell me i dont believe, he will loss his temper. Therefore, I just showed him that I knew it was not true and I can give him sometime but not too long.
I ask him to go to Macau wtih me later, his expression told me that he was unable to do it now, as it will upset the girl..... Of course, i feel upset. And I give him a time, i tell him i want to go with him in Nov. I hope he get my meaning......
IT"S BEEN A VERY HARD DAY FOR ME.... I CANT EAT ANYTHING AT ALL... WHEN I ATE STH, I WANT TO TAKE THEM OUT....
I told him I have been lossing 7 lbs over the last 10 days. What a good plan for lossing weight!!!
worrymama,
how long have u been married for? u must be v. upset when he said things like that... do u still love him? i think i'll never be able to accept it if my husband said he's not willing to let the girl go... sorry, but i think that girl is v. selfish... coz on the one hand, she said he shoudl improve his relationship with u, & on the otherhand, she still have contacts with him when all along she knows he has feelings for her... if she means what she said i.e. that he should improve your relationship, then she should leave him at once lar!
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