My 99 is the same as yours. I understand what you mean. Of course we know cooking is hard work and we do not think 99 HAS to cook for us. Just that we would be grateful if she cook for us 1 out of 99 times. Since my mother cooks 6 days a week, and we have two babies to take care of (busy to death!) , we can only go to my mother for some homemade food, and gradually we (me and my husband) become closer to my family as versus 6299. 親切感 develops over the dinning table at home. I see what you mean.