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Re: 急問 -- 係我唔好定工人唔好呀？

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Re: 急問 -- 係我唔好定工人唔好呀？

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Re: 急問 -- 係我唔好定工人唔好呀？

me, too~ bb跟我地房.. and once I'm home after work and on weekends, I will take care of BB by myself....

so that I know BB's habbit and daily rountine, too... it will be better for me to give instruction to my maid of what to do lar. And usually I will be the one to try new things (i.e. increase milk amount... ) and usually on Sat.. so that I can see the outcome by myself lar... if it's okay, then I can tell my maid to follow on the following week lor!

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Re: 急問 -- 係我唔好定工人唔好呀？

i'm afraid if bb sleep with us will distrub my husband la...

it's true that she is very smart and can read other mind... as a result, she likes to do this (read other mind and guess what's the other wants her to do without asking).... sure, sometimes she makes the right guess, but somestimes she does not...

So, i really don't like she guess what i want her to do... i have talked to her and require her to ask me or talk to me if she has any problem or not sure... but she seems don;t like to do... i have repeated to tell her but ai...

i don't know whether she don't think she has any problem to ask or she really don't like to tell....

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發表於 07-4-24 11:14 |只看該作者

Re: 急問 -- 係我唔好定工人唔好呀？

eshiro,

do you have two bb's bed? coz i have fixed bb 's bed in another room... and for our room there is no space to put bb's bed...

Thank you so much for your suggestion that i should try anything myself rather than she be the one to do it...

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發表於 07-4-24 11:28 |只看該作者

Re: 急問 -- 係我唔好定工人唔好呀？

tinker,

i really hope that she is so experienced but she is not... although she has two own kids, she seems don't know how to take care bb....

yesterday after i went home, i really scare of her and not brave enough to "話她"... i'm really afraid she will be not good to my bb... especially when i remember that her black face to my bb yesterday and such kind of 唔耐煩的樣 when my bb cries seriously..

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Re: 急問 -- 係我唔好定工人唔好呀？

ah-ta：其實應該set 定BB食奶既時間，等工人判斷幾時餵奶係唔可行架。如果想幫BB戒夜奶，可以叫工人夜晚如果BB醒，就試下俾水BB飲，如果BB唔肯，喊得好厲害，先餵奶。

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發表於 07-4-24 11:50 |只看該作者

Re: 急問 -- 係我唔好定工人唔好呀？

ah-ta,

I've one BB bed and it's in our room, and I've a combi 餐搖椅 place in the living room... every morning after I fed my baby, I will take him out to sit on the 餐搖椅 and let my maid to take care of him lar... and when my husband wakes up, my maid can take BB back to his bed to sleep

If you have to put BB in another room or in the maid's room, I think it's better to have the remote speaker place in your room, so you know what's happening. You have to let your husband know that even the maid can take care of BB, it's different.. coz' you are the parents.

My husband is okay to be disturbed by the baby, but he also thinks if the maid can take care the BB, we should let her to take care. However, I told him that is not right coz' we are the parents, the maid is only assisting us... and we need to let the bb and the maid know who is the parents lor... so that BB won't follow the maid instead of us! I think we just need to let our husbands know that our concerns are reasonable, not over-reacting lor!

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發表於 07-4-24 12:04 |只看該作者

Re: 急問 -- 係我唔好定工人唔好呀？

ah-ta,

I think you first have to trust your maid is experienced.. coz' I think you are like me, when we hire the maid, one of the requirement is to take care of new born... so, if we hired her ... we should trust she is experienced in that la.... haha.. it's just their experiences most likely not fit into our way in taking care of our BBs~

instead of "話她", I guess you can ask her about the day everyday after work... as you listen, you would find out there are things she's done didn't fit your way.. (like she fed 6 oz milk instead of 5oz as you've told her).. just tell her you want BB to be taken care of as [tell her how & what you want]...and tell her the reason, too. Eventually, she will know it's not she's done something wrong, it's just you want your BB to be taken care in a particular way.

Sometimes I would ask my maid how did her previous employer take care of their BB .. in that way, I understand more of what she is doing to my baby, too mar ... and I would share things I read from book or heard from friends with her... then she would know I'm not stupid in taking care of BB even thou I'm first time mommy

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發表於 07-4-24 12:27 |只看該作者

Re: 急問 -- 係我唔好定工人唔好呀？

mkwok: Yes,of course.Give her one month notice and air tickets

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發表於 07-4-24 12:30 |只看該作者

Re: 急問 -- 係我唔好定工人唔好呀？

winghw, ah-ta
其實有時我都唔知自己有冇錯....好似我個工人一樣....
話說我個工人己到期放假,我一早就同佢訂機票比佢看,佢話要買到返去佢鄉下NAGA唔係馬尼拉 .ok我買啦(5月2號走,5月30日返)點知4月22日佢話要改航空公司.佢話個朋友話比佢聽cebu有engine問題,所以佢唔坐.我於是係5月23日一早係佢面前同個friend(travel agent 做)問可否改,但朋友話要遲d先覆我因唔係公司但肯定要罰錢.我就同工人話遲d同你講啦(今日之內).不過要罰錢嫁.等我電話啦.
佢就唔出聲又黑塊臉.我無理佢跟住返工.點知路上個朋友打來問點解你個工人又打來同樣野呀.重話叫我地今日出張機票比佢,佢會去拿. 我個朋友就好嬲話唔再幫我工人搞啦,叫佢自己搞啦,佢好叻好巴幣!我就問我工人啦.嘩!唔問重好,問左重嬲,佢話我只是問簡單問題,有咩唔妥?

我夠對我個工人好啦.佢想放長d假,我比佢.我地食咩,佢食咩.一d都無分別
啦.我比好多衣服同食物佢帶走.....你話啦.....佢地d 野...唉!
鬼叫我無本事留屋企唔做野咩.......

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Re: 急問 -- 係我唔好定工人唔好呀？

vvchik2005：總之一句講晒，態度差係最大問題，鍾意黑面既工人，係冇得改既。我絕對信任我個前賓賓，樣樣佢話咁對BB唔好，咁我就唔敢要求佢按我既指示做。結果，一個人既性格係冇得改既。我覺得ah-ta既意思都係覺得佢個工人態度唔好，鍾意自己話事，唔鍾意人話佢。

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Re: 急問 -- 係我唔好定工人唔好呀？

難聽ｄ講句真係貼錢買難受．．．有時望住ｂｂ真係覺得好對他唔住架．．．自己無能力湊他．．又搵唔到好好的人看他．．．

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Re: 急問 -- 係我唔好定工人唔好呀？

eshiro,

我個工人係親戚的ｂｕｎ介紹．．開頭諗住９９湊，但因為手法唔同，同埋諗住ｂｕｎｂｕｎ自己都有小朋友應該ｏｋ，點知他咩都唔係好識，連ｂｂ喊他都只係用比ｂｂ大的聲量去叫他唔好嘈．．（他好似唔知ｂｂ咁樣只會更加大聲）有時ｂｂ喊得勁我都問他，他的ｂｂ會唔會咁，他話唔會．．．或者係咁所以他唔識啦．．．不過好多基本野他都唔識，我開頭都無咩．．．係同我朋友講開先知原來他湊ｂ真係好唔掂．．．．

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發表於 07-4-24 16:02 |只看該作者

Re: 急問 -- 係我唔好定工人唔好呀？

係啊，換工人仲慘，BB要適應新工人，好冇安全感。見到佢經常喊，但又一定將佢交俾工人，真係好可憐。可惜自己冇能力自己湊返佢。

ah-ta 寫道:
難聽ｄ講句真係貼錢買難受．．．有時望住ｂｂ真係覺得好對他唔住架．．．自己無能力湊他．．又搵唔到好好的人看他．．．

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發表於 07-4-24 16:23 |只看該作者

Re: 急問 -- 係我唔好定工人唔好呀？

ah-ta,

in your case, try to spend more time to take care of your BB by yourself... your are the mommy and I'm sure you will understand what BB needs after you spend more time with BB.... the maid usually won't have the patient or intelligence to do that .... once you know how to 'tum' bb in different situation, you can tell your maid to follow instead of having herself to figure out what to do mar...

for my case, my maid will copy what I did to BB if she saw that would make BB smiles, stop crying, sleeps..... etc etc.... so, I will always smile to BB even if BB is crying very loud, I will smile and speak gentally and never 'loud' BB... so, my maid will not dare to 'loud' BB as well ... If your maid has the heart to take care BB, she will learn as well ... if not, you may consider whether you want to keep this miad lar.

Well, the culture of bun bun is different mar... even she raised up 2 kids.. doesn't mean we want our kids to be raised up in the Filippino way !!! (btw, my maid is a Thai instead of bun bun)

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發表於 07-4-24 16:25 |只看該作者

Re: 急問 -- 係我唔好定工人唔好呀？

安全感 is given by the parents mar... I think as long as the parents provide enough 安全感 to the BB... 換工人 is better to keep a 工人 not taking good care of BB~~ and eventually, we need to educate our BB that 工人 is only 工人.. they come and go~~!! But we parents, will always be there for them

winghw 寫道:
係啊，換工人仲慘，BB要適應新工人，好冇安全感。見到佢經常喊，但又一定將佢交俾工人，真係好可憐。可惜自己冇能力自己湊返佢。

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ah-ta 寫道:
難聽ｄ講句真係貼錢買難受．．．有時望住ｂｂ真係覺得好對他唔住架．．．自己無能力湊他．．又搵唔到好好的人看他．．．

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發表於 07-4-24 16:55 |只看該作者

Re: 急問 -- 係我唔好定工人唔好呀？

一歲既BB點識知道工人只是工人，they come and go? 佢剩係認得自己經常見既人。見到陌生人就會驚。換工人時，見到陌生人係屋企，唔攬實爸爸媽媽都覺得冇安全感。見個工人來抱自己，離遠見到就喊，攬實我地唔放。但係我地無奈一定要將佢交俾佢唔熟悉既人，呢個場面真係好難過。如果有條件，哽係自己照顧BB多D喇。但係我地每早6：30出門口，夜晚最早都要7點先返到家。好想陪BB多D，可惜自己冇咁既能力。

eshiro 寫道:
安全感 is given by the parents mar... I think as long as the parents provide enough 安全感 to the BB... 換工人 is better to keep a 工人 not taking good care of BB~~ and eventually, we need to educate our BB that 工人 is only 工人.. they come and go~~!! But we parents, will always be there for them

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winghw 寫道:
係啊，換工人仲慘，BB要適應新工人，好冇安全感。見到佢經常喊，但又一定將佢交俾工人，真係好可憐。可惜自己冇能力自己湊返佢。

[quote]
ah-ta 寫道:
難聽ｄ講句真係貼錢買難受．．．有時望住ｂｂ真係覺得好對他唔住架．．．自己無能力湊他．．又搵唔到好好的人看他．．．

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