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1. Obviously, the family feel ashamed and are not ignoring the pressure. They do not wanted to see their pictures posted. So they called the plaintiff and the man actually 'talked nicely to the plaintiff'.
So it could suggest that the man might really want to pay but he simply do not have the means to do so (and/or is so afraid of the spouse that without her approval, he could not pay even if he had the money)
2. Look at the background of the home picture. I am sure they are not wealthy. If the mother of the man ever suggested that he apply for public housing, one could understand that finding a place to stay is a major concern and has been a big topic in their life. That should really tell a lot about their financial situation.
3. It is quite obvious that they are renting. Would anyone in Hong Kong want to rent a house instead of owing one if he/she can afford to? When a family is in such a position and can barely make both ends meet, the pressure is extremely tense, especially on the man. Especially in a single income family.
4. No doubt, the female in question is a very smart person and quite manipulative. The man is no match and simply a prey totally under the spell of the other half so much so that he could even rebuke his elderly mother and father repeatedly time and again.
5. The pressure is definitely there. They have deleted their pictures, removed their blog. They probably are monitoring the forum but dare not make another word. If after all this mental punishment and they are still not paying back the debt, it is quite possible that they just simply cannot afford to do so after all. So it will make no sense to beat on the dead horse any more. (Hopefully they can really make the second installment on time.)
6. It was in the news a while ago. A couple (after saving for a long time) purchased the second story of a country flat or 'Chuen Uk'. His wife was engaged in a big fight with the lady owner downstairs. They were having a lot of argument about someone hanging clothes and dripping water downstairs. The owner of downstairs built a canopy to ward off the problem but the lady owner of the 2nd story reported to the building authority and finally had the illegal structure removed. Since then the relationship became so bad that whenever the residents of the 2nd story passed through the main stair way, people in the lower floor would slam the door very loudly and do all kind of things designed to be extremely irritating to the other party. The man owner of the 2nd story was always the one to take the blame from the wife for being useless and allowing others to insult the family without doing a thing. The man could not see any way out from this constant bombardment from both sides. He couldn't move, and he couldn't sell (market condition was not that good). Finally he took the ultimate way out and vanished into the path of no return.
7. In the current situation, the man is definitely now taking a lot of heat from the spouse for not making a lot of money and being useless; from his parents for being totally subject to the control of the wife; and now from the internet community (and very soon, his friends and co-workers) for being a scam artist.
8. In this type of situation, the men (if without a full load of money) are always the weak party. All they can do is to keep quiet and blame themselves for being so useless and things could happen. Certain types of people are more susceptible to this kind of pressure than others though.
9. On the subject of seeking help. The person who has problem is usually the last one to realize that. The family in question never admit or realize that they have a problem. So seeking help is absolutely beyond the question as far as they are concerned.
By raising the issue here, one hopes that someone (their friends) might just discover that the family may have a problem and seek help on their behalf. Then again, only experts in the field could help to shed light on this topic.
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