| Question 3: I thought of taking shower before 1900. Since I m a working mom, so Idont get to be home until or after 1900. However, I believe it is important spend some quality time with the baby, so my husband and I would like to take the shower for the baby when possible. Your baby is taken care by maid or relatives? Unless you want to check if the baby was physically abuse by other, taking bath on your own is not 100% necessary. Quality time can be derived by dedicating your time to play with her, feed her and accompany with her. Sure, taking bath is a method, but just one of the methods. Question 1: Yes, she is sleepy but awake when we put her in her bed. She needs to suck on her fingers (well, indeed, it seems like she wants to suck on something but maybe she is still too young, she is more like licking her fingers at this stage) to put herself to sleep. It would take 10 - 30 minutes. Every baby suck before sleeping. This is how they comfort themselves. The only concern is whether she still such on her fingers when she grown up. So, introduce other "comfort item" like doll to her. Just put that comfort item in her arms when she sleep, and take it away when she wake up. I hope this will change her bad habit of licking / sucking on fingers but I cannot assure the result. Last night, we fed her at 0100 instead of 0030. And she could sleep until 0700 this morning. I am not sure if this is the right way to do it, but at least we got some longer sleep. Once we implement the new schedule (4 hours, probably start this weekend or so), I would try your suggestion to feed her at 2230 as her last milk. And see how that works out. She learns every day. I have introduced a Cuski doll to her two weeks ago. I put the Cuski to her arm after putting her to her bed. However, she doesn't seem to care/know about it. She still wants to suck/lick her fingers. Yesterday, we washed the Cuski and she doesn't miss it at all. Maybe she is too young to realize this comfort item??? But I will continue give it to her and hopefully one day, she would realize it..hehe.. Just continue to do so, one day you may find that she cannot sleep without Cuski. Question 2 Please correct me if I am wrong. The last two hours before the next feeding would be nap time. And even she is not sleepy, I should put her in her bed and let her try to sleep, right? If she cries, try out the "controlled crying" method. And do not take her out of the bed thru out the whole nap time. So there might be a chance that she would cry for two hours. And after trying for few days, if she still does not take naps during a specific time. We could conclude that she doesn't need a nap during that time? Partially correct. Controlled crying mean comfort her after waiting for some time, the time of waiting get longer and longer while comforting period is fixed at 2 min. Secondly, Supernanny would say: don't take her out of bed and don't talk to her. But after my observating on BK mami cases, I found that less interference method should be use first: 輕拍< humming < say: Mami's here < hold her, but don't have eye contact with her and don't turn on the light. Keep using this schedule / method for 2 weeks and then review~ |
原帖由 pyjess 於 10-6-10 23:34 發表
Your baby is taken care by maid or relatives? Unlessyou want to check if the baby was physically abuse by other, takingbath on your own is not 100% necessary. Quality time can be derived bydedicating your time to play with her, feed her and accompany with her.Sure, taking bath is a method, but just one of the methods.