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原文章由 Nillie_Mami 於 08-11-26 04:08 發表
hum.. we do not use live in nanny since last month.
now, we have the baby sitter from Amanda's school. they will look after Amanda if that day with no afterschool program. or if that day we have to wo ...

So, where is Ying EE now?

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發表於 08-11-26 10:24 |只看該作者

her mom has surgery at Oct 15, and she took her salary at Oct 14, then, she's never come back, not even call us and say a hello to Gabriel and Amanda.
and last week, I went to visit her mom as a community health liaison, make sure the wound is ok, no fever. and that is the time I can see her in person.
she told me that she will be back at December, but as me and Fat Bear had been discusing this issue over the month. we were very disappointed. we paid a lot as Gabriel is schooling too, so Ying EE is just a house keeping and sometime just to pick up Gabriel after school.
but she wants $1800 per month and only work 5 days (as Fat bear's new job is only work 5 days).. as we told her if she interested in that job in Long Island, she can go and try, then.. she becomes very lazy, and we believe that we don't receive what we demanded.
anyway, she can leave Gabriel and Amanda for 1.5 months and never concern about them.. we understand that it is time for Ying EE to move on.
we voiced our concern to Amanda's school PTA and Gabriel's daycare.
so, Gabriel's daycare will take care of Amanda on whole day off. 1 day for $55 (7am -7pm) with meal.
If that day, even Gabriel's day care closed, then we will have Amanda's school the baby sitter to come to our home to baby sit both of them. 2 students to come from PTA. a day for $100 (for 2 girls).
now.. that is our solution.. as me and fat bear work full time.

原文章由 rose-mag 於 08-11-25 04:58 PM 發表

So, where is Ying EE now?

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發表於 08-11-26 14:54 |只看該作者

唔該哂Rose-mag & Nillie,

Nillie, 你有兩個, 又唔同計法. 我覺得$10 兩個, 幾抵. 哎吔...我講到好似買生果咁...hehe.

Rose-mag, 歷仔兩年前係family care都成$220一星期. 果時我最怕五月同八月, 因為有五個星期.

個女仔無first aid, CPR, 只係community college, 讀緊early childhood education. 咁我還價$8. 但其實我都覺得貴. 不過我貪佢家庭簡單, 得亞媽同亞姨. 三個女人. 佢住既地成只離我屋企15-20min車程, 方便接送. 但係如果我無case做, 就要返office. office 離屋企遠. 成個幾鐘車程. 咁我就蝕楂緊車既兩個鐘.

好彩有個夏威宜BK 媽咪offer做我backup. 佢住近我office, 都係收$8, 咁我覺得佢抵啲. 因為佢以前係護士. 歷仔學校由聖誕放到年尾. 但我果個半星期都要返工. 咁我如果搵呢個bk媽咪幫手, 可以慳返$16. 不過唔知佢做唔做十個鐘咁長. 因為佢有個一歲小寶寶.

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發表於 08-11-27 03:21 |只看該作者

原文章由 Nillie_Mami 於 08-11-26 10:24 發表
her mom has surgery at Oct 15, and she took her salary at Oct 14, then, she's never come back, not even call us and say a hello to Gabriel and Amanda.
and last week, I went to visit her mom as a commu ...

aiya Nillie, it's terrible. But, when people change his mindset, it can be somethings that we will never expect. Agree with you, Ying EE really disappointed your family. She used to be very caring to Amanda and Gabriel and it's hard to believe that she can just let you down by taking the pay and disappear without even making a call. If you had not visited her mom, I wonder if she's going to contact you so far. Luckily, you have a plan now although it's costly but it's what we as working moms are facing now.

I would just wish Ying EE can get what she wants in her new move. And, you and your family should be fine without her as Gabriel should be in preschool soon. Take care and have a happy Thanksgiving.

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發表於 08-11-27 08:43 |只看該作者

Rose-mag,
Since her mom discharge from hospital and sent to nursing room and we can not keep in touch with her (as I am the community health liaison and visiting nurse, I got the power and involved into her mother's medical desicion). therefore I can see Ying EE in person.
Ying EE saw that advertisement at September, then she keeps saying that people from Long Island pays $1800 and works 5 days a week. And we did say if she wants to go, she can go and try if that is what she wants.
Gabriel and Amanda are at school whole day. Her job at our home.. much less than before, as she doesn't need to take care of Gabriel. She only needs to wash the clothes, mild house work, and cook dinner.
She always spends a whole morning till afternoon at chinatown, when I called her. She wasn't home all the time. she always go to visit her doctors during weekday, and she end up will expect me to take the day off to look after Amanda if Amanda has a break from school because she has doctor's appointment at weekday again.
Since she saw that advertisement, she changed. and we can feel it. therefore, after her mom discharged back home. and she said that she wants to stay with her mom until December. I told her that she doesn't need to come back and she needs to come back and clean up her bedroom and her daughter's bedroom on the same weekend.
She called me yesterday, that she did not tell her parents that she did not work for us anymore, and asked me not to mention her in front of her parents. as I will go and visit her mom sometime (by Medicare and Medicaid).
Once she leaves a job without a proper reason, she should know that she will lose her job. she does not keep her commitment.
I believe ... since then, even she accepts to get the same pay as now.. I don't need her no more. since she doesn't work for us, my allergy is better, because we vacuum everyday, we wash clothes every 3 days, we even cleaned up the basement, Alison and Socloudy and all other BK moms in NYC can be witness, that our home is much clean, neat and comfortable than before.. when I was relied on her.
Now, dinner will be different everynight.. not the same dish or just the left over from the night before. as we don't need to cook too much.
We can even deposit $1500 and return to the home equity at the past 2 weeks. to have no nanny, really save a lot.
I wake up at 5:45am, get myself ready, then wake up Gabriel and Amanda by 6am, set Gabriel up, change and with a good bottle, at the same time, Amanda gets change, grooming and comb her hair with all the cute ribbon on it. Then breakfast for them and myself, leave home by 6:45am. arrive Gabriel daycare by 7am, drop off Gabriel with Amanda, then drive from Staten island to Manhattan, drop off Amanda at about 7:50am-8am, then I will start to drive to work. after a day of work, I then drive to Manhattan from Flushing or brooklyn (depend on my schedule) at about 5-5:30PM, and go back home. Fat bear picked up Gabriel and prepares dinner.
after dinner, we give a wash to our angels, then they go to bed by 8pm, (amanda sometime stays late, to finish her english and maths homework and practise piano, she will go to bed at 9pm). and that is our day now. sound busy, but very closy! kids can bond with us.

原文章由 rose-mag 於 08-11-26 02:21 PM 發表

aiya Nillie, it's terrible. But, when people change his mindset, it can be somethings that we will never expect. Agree with you, Ying EE really disappointed your family. She used to be very carin ...

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發表於 08-11-27 09:55 |只看該作者

nillie,

yr nanny is ridiculous! i think u'd made the right decision not to keep her.
she can't compare herself with another nanny who's making more than her in Long Island, as that nanny might be able to do something that she can't.

i'd met a nanny at a summer art camp in Saratoga. she told me her boss paid her $220/day and she works 4 days a week. everybody thought she's the grandma of her boss' 2 kids, as she's pretty presentable, speaks some English so she can communicate with the teachers. she drives, so her boss bought a mini-van for her to pick up and drop off their 2 kids to school and classes. she's so reliable as she's worked for them for 6 yrs since the older kid was a baby.
although she's expensive, she's reliable and really helpful.

so, yr nanny should ask herself if she can provide the same quality as that nanny who makes $1800/month in Long Island lor!

maybe u can consider hiring a part-time helper for cooking and doing housework. some of my friends who're working moms do that when the kids go to school.

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發表於 08-11-29 02:34 |只看該作者

Nillie,

Well, when people get greedy, it's hard to make them understand that they are already having something not bad. A lot of people just see how good the other people get but fail to see why. One of the reasons is that they are not good enough to get the better one.

You really have a busy schedule. I wake up almost the same time every morning, sometimes need to wake up 1 or 2 times when Amanda and Spencer cry. They may have bad dreams, poo or feel hot. If Amanda wakes up in the middle of the night, she usually wants to be nursed before going back to sleep.

I'm lucky that I have my mom to take care of Amanda and she will even cook dinner for us. I and my husband's working schedule usually end early so that I can have a little bit more time with my 2 kids after off from work. But still, it's such a busy schedule - pick up, sometimes grocery shopping before or after, arrive home, prepare giving baths to the 2 little ones, take a shower, dinner, watch a little bit TV or movie (recently my son is on Kufu Panda A LOT!!!!), put them to sleep, check email, fb, bk, go to bed around 11pm.

BTW, have you weaned Gabriel? I think that I need to do that very soon. Originally, I plan to do that b4 CNY but since that she's so much sticked to me and she bites me really bad these days (she has 9 teeth now), I am thinking to do that b4 year end. My mom always says that I should stop when she turned 1 as it would be more difficult if she grows older. Even my 99 and my sister-in-law think that I'm crazy to still breastfeed Amanda.

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發表於 08-11-29 23:26 |只看該作者

rose-mag,
I wean off Gabriel at end of August (on his 20 months old). as he learns to use bottle. therefore, he can go to day care on Sept. bottle feeding is easy.
this moment, if I take shower with him alone, he will ask to skin to skin, and he will smile to me and say "mo mo" means. no more.. that is a "lost" but he copes with it pretty well. he sometimes thinks of skin to skin, then, he just put his head into my T-shirt, and play Pee a boo.. that's it.
so far it is very smooth.

Ying EE.. hum.. I won't pay her $1800 cash for just house keeping.. I can do it even better (to keep my house clean). she can't speak english, she can't drive, she has 2 times cancers, she can't go groceries shopping, she can't leave heavy items, even fold the clothes, she said that she has joint pain.. so all the jobs is on my shoulder anyway.
I have joint pain too, I have never complaint about it..
Since we don't use her, we can heve dinner much earlier, and kids can stick with bed time schedule by 8pm ( Ying EE used to have dinner at 8-9pm-- we don't like that but what you can do?), so after we asked her to leave. our living quality --> actually, is even better.

原文章由 rose-mag 於 08-11-28 01:34 PM 發表
Nillie,

Well, when people get greedy, it's hard to make them understand that they are already having something not bad. A lot of people just see how good the other people get but fail to see why. O ...

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發表於 09-4-26 15:23 |只看該作者

嘩, 好耐無過黎, 個topic沈哂底.
各位返工媽咪, 我過左六個月既試用期勒. 仲有3%加, 係呢個時勢, 算好彩.
好彩老細都鍾意我. 唔嫌棄我啲英文唔夠本地人好. 佢好有耐性幫我睇報告. 而我唯有係其他地方做好啲, 將勤補拙. 不過近來換左個老頂, 我怕佢會嫌我..但係都唔擔心得咁多...因為呢份工, 日日都趕報告, 趕deadline.同以前搞活動, 做行政, 好唔同.
你地近來開工大吉麻?

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發表於 09-4-27 20:52 |只看該作者

muimui313,
Congratulation.. ^o^
We work for our child/ren, and that is where our energy comes from.. yeah!
same here, job position changed as well..
Have to deal with tones of Chinese seniors referrals for applying home attendants and visiting nurse service..
Can't even do a deep breath..
I just passed the first year.. and did my annual evaluation... Thanks God.. my director treats me very well.. the feedback is positive..
same here, as we are not native English speaker. I feel so gald that she will pay attention when I talk, and help me thru all other process within our organization.

原帖由 muimui313 於 09-4-26 02:23 AM 發表
嘩, 好耐無過黎, 個topic沈哂底.
各位返工媽咪, 我過左六個月既試用期勒. 仲有3%加, 係呢個時勢, 算好彩.
好彩老細都鍾意我. 唔嫌棄我啲英文唔夠本地人好. 佢好有耐性幫我睇報告. 而我唯有係其他地方做好啲, 將勤 ...

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發表於 09-4-28 15:29 |只看該作者

Nillie, 恭喜, 咁快你就係果度做左一年. 好老細, 真係唔易搵, 好彩你同我都有個. 你就好啦, 可以用中文. 我成日想用我既bilingual skills, 但都無地方用. 前排公司安排左個講座, introduction to interpretation, 介紹啲同事點用interpretor, 或者點成為certified interpretor.我好想certify 呀, 我成日話想學一門野, 到老時可以當part time. 但university of hawaii, 係東, 我屋企係西, 我今日塞左兩個鐘車先湊到歷仔放學. 所以...Certify...諗都唔敢諗...唉.

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發表於 09-4-28 20:56 |只看該作者

muimui313,
how about online course, will there be any course offer from university of phoenix???

原帖由 muimui313 於 09-4-28 02:29 AM 發表
Nillie, 恭喜, 咁快你就係果度做左一年. 好老細, 真係唔易搵, 好彩你同我都有個. 你就好啦, 可以用中文. 我成日想用我既bilingual skills, 但都無地方用. 前排公司安排左個講座, introduction to interpretation, 介 ...

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發表於 09-4-29 14:04 |只看該作者

Nillie, muimui313,
你地就好啦,有review,今年我估公司會側側膊唔加,因為往年係4月1日調整,今年果張paycheck都唔見有加，又冇appraisal做過，但我知ｄ老細有ｂｏｎｕｓ分，我ｍａｎａｇｅｒ仲有得ｒｅｖｉｅｗ，真係好唔公平．前兩個星期分區老細秘書同我呻，話其他部門ｄ秘書係有ｂｏｎｕｓ分，只係我地冇，佢話佢知我老細佢老細有幾多，咁俾少少我地都唔會，真係幾心淡，佢已經喺公司２０年，仲曾經俾ｌａｙｏｆｆ過一次，之後有位請番佢，不過，而家咁時勢，如果搵唔到第份我一定唔會走，希望個市快ｄ好番啦，冇樣專長真係好難搵到好工，最衰我好難做番以前喺香港做果行，仲已經ｑｕｉｔ咗咁耐ｔｉｍ．

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rose-mag~

I think my situation is more worst than you ah ... not only 唔加人工同冇 bonus, 並且變相減人工 because I got pay by hour ... when economy was ok, I had a minimum of 40 hours per week, but now ... hope can have at least 30 hours la. The company I'm working for is very quiet ah, we have projects on hand, but almost all project are on hold. My boss said they should not layoff any emplpoyee, but just can't promise to give work to everybody to keep 40hrs per week. Thought about to find another job, but it really have not much opening in the market. I also hope the economy will getting better soon la. My boss 有良心 not going to layoff people, 但他愛"mok"能助.

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發表於 09-4-30 12:21 |只看該作者

a few of my friends actually got pay-cut by about 15% and they all worked for big companies. they all were happy than being laid off instead

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原帖由 HappyMatt 於 09-4-30 06:34 發表
rose-mag~

I think my situation is more worst than you ah ... not only 唔加人工同冇 bonus, 並且變相減人工 because I got pay by hour ... when economy was ok, I had a minimum of 40 hours per week, but n ...

咁你boss都真係幾有良心,希望個市好番,大家都可以好d啦,今日有個隔離dept同事話我知,佢星期二晚9pm佢老細通知佢成個部門都被lay-off,做到今個星期五,it's pretty sad as he's a nice and hardworking guy.但我公司出名鍾意cut人,呢幾年年年都詰cut幾萬,但今日有新聞話ceo居然同政府要求發bonus俾部份高層,如果唔係佢地會走,到時會請唔到人;係嘅,呢個燙手山芋有幾多人會肯入嚟做,但咁對我地呢d小職員真係好唔公平,佢地睇死我地走唔甩,連人工都唔調整,咁即係減人工啦,今年d福利已經差咗好多,冇ot,加medical payment,唔俾anniversary gift,仲有好多....不過,我都慶幸仲有份工.

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發表於 09-5-1 07:54 |只看該作者

All working moms,
Add Oil.... Do not give up.. this year will not worse than last year, right?
as long as we do our best.. I wish our boss will not choose to lay off us....

原帖由 rose-mag 於 09-4-30 02:26 AM 發表

咁你boss都真係幾有良心,希望個市好番,大家都可以好d啦,今日有個隔離dept同事話我知,佢星期二晚9pm佢老細通知佢成個部門都被lay-off,做到今個星期五,it's pretty sad as he's a nice and hardworking guy.但我公司 ...

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SY_Mom, Rose-Mag, Happymatt,
聽你地咁講, 出面cut 得咁勁, 真係心都寒埋. 其實係夏老威, 未海嘯前, 已經係百幾人, 咁laid off. 而家楂車返工, 真係少左塞車.
我份工係幫啲受虐兒童. 經濟一唔好, 就會多兒童受虐待或忽略, 我知我份工會穏陣,但呢個代價實在太大, 前排有個社工同我講, 佢一日內removed 10 children from their birth family,
我有八個同事, 我地每人枕住有十隻cases, 即全office有80隻active cases, 未繼其他島既cases. 通常每個case 有唔只一個小朋友, 好多都係幾兄弟姐妹咁被人remove from home. 真係好陰功.

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