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Re: 小朋友大脾氣,可以點教

我一路都有同學校老師溝通,你既建議唔錯

要佢做雙倍~!!不過d老師可能真係太多野做,佢地成日都好似唔係唔想幫,但係冇咁既時間去只係為你個小朋友做野咁,成日都係罰佢地企不過冇check佢地,佢地有冇去罰企都唔知,個囡返嚟周不時都有話我知有咁既情況~
我個囡佢好多時都唔會理後果,只係要當時既好處,佢明知唔做份功課會欠交,一樣要做返,仲要比我罰,老師又會罰佢罰抄,要做既打仲多左,但佢都唔會理,仍然係到時先算!!!最緊要依家唔使做,懶得就懶~!!(佢真係好懶架,懶到可以唔沖涼,唔刷牙洗面,唔整理自己d野,總之就咩都唔使做就最好)

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Re: 小朋友大脾氣,可以點教

Hi SandraLo,

十分多謝你解答我們的難題. 現麻煩你可否抽一點時間, 看一看我囡囡的問題, 謝謝.

我囡囡現在兩歲, 她從少到大都很乖, 很聽話. 以前我和老公早上出門口上班, 她會跟我們攬攬和kiss的.

但在五月開始, 因我想看看她可否適應在九月返上午班nursery, 所以我幫她轉了返上午的playgroup. 所以, 我現在一星期有三天會跟囡囡和工人一起出門口, 一同搭車返學. 頭兩天都好好的, 我預先告訴她姐姐會跟她先下車, 一同回學校玩, 媽媽放工再回家跟她玩. 她都很開心跟我說再見.

但之後的日子, 她一認出快要下車的地方, 她便緊緊的攬著我, 不停叫媽咪, 很怕我離開她似的. 在她和姐姐到站下車時, 更大哭起來. 她真的很少哭得那麼可憐.

另外, 在前天早上, 她不用上學 , 但她早起了. 當我離開家去上班時, 我就像以往一樣跟她說再見, 但她不讓我離開, 更哭得腰都往後’ao’, 我便跟她說媽媽放工就回來, 和其他安撫的說話,她都只是不停說’no’和攬實我. 我唯有請姐姐帶她入房, 分散她注意, 之後趁機離開. 我回到公司再call姐姐, 姐姐說囡囡出到廳之後看不見我, 都沒有哭, 她還告訴姐姐’mami is going to work’.

我現有以下問題, 真的想向你請教一下.

(1) 我不知我有否做錯….因她在家哭不想我去上班, 我有去抱她, 叫她不要哭, 和跟她說理. 這會令她下次再哭得更嚴重嗎?
(2) 我最後用’趁機離開’, 好像不太好?
(3) 我怎樣處理和她一起搭車上學? 我可以做些什麼可讓她和我開開心心說再見呢?
(4) 暫時囡囡在其他所有時候都很乖, 但很擔心她會慢慢的變得naughty呀.

Thank you very much.

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發表於 07-5-22 21:18 |只看該作者

Re: 小朋友大脾氣,可以點教

sandra lo, 您好,

我好似睇連續劇咁睇哂d回覆, 雖然睇到好夜, 但都覺得好值得, 多謝您咁多好意見.

我有一個難題, 好想請教您...我個女就黎1.5歲, 佢唔知點解只係會動手打我, 唔會打其他人, 佢每次打我, 我都已經hold住佢隻手仔好堅決地, 同佢講唔可以打媽媽. 又試過用溫柔語氣同佢講, 你係咪想摸摸媽媽...點都係唔得, 佢只會發脾氣, 話我naughty...下次佢一玩得得意忘型既時候,或者佢響我身邊, 佢就會動手仔打我....

我最近好唔開心, 每次佢打完我, 我都會喊, 因為真係好傷心...我都唔知點處理, 甚至我有驚番屋企同佢玩的感覺.....好慘....

我同老公都要番工, 日間係印傭照顧佢, 工人好疼愛佢, 工人說女女從不打佢.....我做阿媽係咪做得好失敗......

想問問您有沒有好計仔?

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Re: 小朋友大脾氣,可以點教

siubakto 寫道:
Sandralo:
我想問若小朋友堅持指定某人做一些東西(如:幫他抺鼻涕)，但當其他人做左，他便會大發脾氣，甚至打人。除左無做時讚他及平時講道理之外，當其他人做了，他打人我便罵他企，但到目前為止，情況都無改善，請問還可以點做呀 ??
請問在當時情況是否都不應遷就他，讓他有選擇權呢 ??

siubakto：
搞行為呢樣嘢，真係要好firm，如果你覺得自己未習慣所有嘢都好firm咁對佢，可以選幾樣遷就佢，例如你決定可以幫他抺鼻涕，咁佢要求，你幫佢，冇哭冇扭，冇問題！最怕就係佢扭你就俾，咁佢就乜都扭，扭足一世！

教仔心得：媽咪容易犯的錯誤
http://www.baby-kingdom.com/forum.php?mod=viewthread&tid=951856&extra=&page=1

成日話「讚」可以改正小朋友壞行為，到底點解同點讚？
http://forum.baby-kingdom.com//v ... page%3D1&page=1

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Re: 小朋友大脾氣,可以點教

JigJig 寫道:
Sandralo:
我的兒子現在22個月,個性十分自我. 我叫他時他總是像聽不到,亦很小肯跟從我的指令去做. 不論你跟他說多小次,如果他不想做,即使是懂得/明白指令,也不會做. (e.g. when I say "touch your nose" he won't do it but when he hears his CD says the same thing, he will follow).
如果有D野他想要或想做, 但我吾比他做 (e.g. a dangeruous act such as pushing the speakers or he wants to watch DVD but he needs to go to sleep), and I say "NO" to him, he will 發脾氣, 大哭,要我抱,咬我, pull hair (mine and his). I have tried to ignore him, and put him down on the rubber mats and let him cry it out, but he would always run towards me and want me to hold him, and then if I hold him, he will bite me. The situation just gets completely out of hand. I have tried explaining to him that he should not bite and pull hair, and whenever he bites/ pulls my hair, I will put him down on the floor mat again. this picking up/ putting down and crying can last for an hour. So I am very tired in the end. Can you offer me some advice?

Maybe he didn't understand "crying and biting" = being put down on the floor mat.
Do you have a baby cot ? If there is, you can isolate him inside the baby cot and take him out only when he stop crying. It's a lot easier for him to understand. If you don't have a baby cot but there's a helper at home, you can consider leaving home for 20 minutes while he's out of control.

有冇睇之前講点「讚」？試咗讚先，又係一日三次，睇番1st page, last 2nd post to twg.

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Re: 小朋友大脾氣,可以點教

linglingy2k 寫道:
我一路都有同學校老師溝通,你既建議唔錯要佢做雙倍~!!不過d老師可能真係太多野做,佢地成日都好似唔係唔想幫,但係冇咁既時間去只係為你個小朋友做野咁,成日都係罰佢地企不過冇check佢地,佢地有冇去罰企都唔知,個囡返嚟周不時都有話我知有咁既情況~
我個囡佢好多時都唔會理後果,只係要當時既好處,佢明知唔做份功課會欠交,一樣要做返,仲要比我罰,老師又會罰佢罰抄,要做既打仲多左,但佢都唔會理,仍然係到時先算!!!最緊要依家唔使做,懶得就懶~!!(佢真係好懶架,懶到可以唔沖涼,唔刷牙洗面,唔整理自己d野,總之就咩都唔使做就最好)

linglingy2k：

呢個學校老師真攞命，連罸都得個講字，你要提一提佢！

我明白你女嘅心態係想玩咗先，你知佢最鍾意乜同幫佢制定時間表係好重要：先做一啲唔太耐而佢能力又到嘅嘢，跟住就有甜頭，先至再做，做得到又可以讚 (讚當然都係甜頭一種，重係最重要嗰種)，或者可以再响timetable上獎貼紙，夠某數量又再獎遠期啲嘅嘢。
如果timetable係按佢能力預鬆咗咁訂，跟唔到又冇交功課就可以罸，罸亦同讚、獎一樣，要「到肉」，例如收一件玩具一星期，就要收最鍾意同冇代替品個件！慢慢佢會learn 得到！
你之前講的「利誘」，就係要求過高，佢能力未到，所以攞唔到甜頭，唔可以用甜頭嚟motivate番佢，因此失敗！

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發表於 07-5-23 11:50 |只看該作者

Re: 小朋友大脾氣,可以點教

Many thanks for your prompt response and I will certainly try the "praise" method which I have not used before.

I have tried using the baby cot but it gets dangerous as he will cimb out of the cot (an act which he is capable of doing) and I also worry about him developing negative associations with his cot as he is already difficult to put down to sleep.

You suggested leaving him with the helper when he is out of control. Can I understand the reason behind that ?

If he still bites or pulls hair (whether myself or the maid), how should I handle it? If my maid is holding him and I see he is about to pull hair, I will hold his hand and tell him firmly that he should not pull hair. however, usually he is already in such a state of anger and distress that he cannot pay attention to what I am saying.

I also have to confess that my so called "ignoring" method is a bit of a hlaf-baked cake cos I can never sustain, this is what happens usually:-

1. Son is insistent about sth (e.g. wants to watch DVD) and I said "No".
2. Upons realising that I do not follow what he wants, son throws tantrum and cries loudly and then pull me towards DVD player and I said "No" again.
3. I will then ignore him by pretending to read a magazine whilst he sits on the floor and cries, or he will bang on things and yell loudly and cry to express to anger. After crying for about 2 min he will come towards me and snatch my magazine from my hand and want me to hold him (he is still crying).

[I have tried two ways to handle this]

A.) I have tried holding him and explaining to him what is wrong. He usually just cries even louder like he is out of control and then he will bite me on my shoulder whilst I am holding him. At this point I will put him on the mat and tell him that if he bites, I have to put him down. this usually repeats (i.e. hold him > he bites> put him down > he calms down a little and stopped crying > I pick him up > he cries again> he bites > I put him down again......)

B.) the alternative method I have tried is I will continue ignoring him and will walk away from him. he will then chase me and try to pull me down because he wants me to hold him. This usually makes him feel even more angry and, I think, rejected. and he will keep running towards me wanting me to hold him (this struggling between us can last for a long time) and in the meantime i keep telling him that he has to stop crying before Mummy holds him - he usually just gets more and more out of control and inconsolable, and he will be chasing and following me around the living room.

Be it method A or B, either situation will last for an hour or so as my son appears to be more out of control and crying just for the sake of crying it out and he will also pull his own hair. In the end I just cave in and pick him up and hold him (he may still bite but by this time he is usally exhausted from the 1 hour saga and it is easier to restrian him). After I have picked him up I will say things to calm him down. I will take this time to tell him that I understand he is agry but that he cannot always wtach DVD all the time and it is wrong to bite.

he will usually still cry and sob for another 10/15 minutes. Sometimes he will (baby) talk like he is complaining to me (and I will talk with him too repeating that Mummy understands he is angry and mummy was trying to help him). He may either calm down completely or he will want to start crying again. if the latter I will give him something to distract him (e.g. toy) as I am also completely exhausted by that time and I cannot deal with another saga.

he usually will behave better (i.e. less easy to throw tantrum) for some time (e.g. couple of weeks) after this saga and I dunno whether he learnt that this crying business is not worth the while or whether the crying provided a channel for him to let out his energy and furstruations.

I not not sure what I am doing is right (my gut feeling tells me that it is not) but in any case I am just getting quite sick and tired of this sort of battle with my son, and feel helpless about the situation.

Could you please let me know your views?

many thanks in advance for your advice.

SandraLo 寫道:
[quote]
JigJig 寫道:
Sandralo:
我的兒子現在22個月,個性十分自我. 我叫他時他總是像聽不到,亦很小肯跟從我的指令去做. 不論你跟他說多小次,如果他不想做,即使是懂得/明白指令,也不會做. (e.g. when I say "touch your nose" he won't do it but when he hears his CD says the same thing, he will follow).
如果有D野他想要或想做, 但我吾比他做 (e.g. a dangeruous act such as pushing the speakers or he wants to watch DVD but he needs to go to sleep), and I say "NO" to him, he will 發脾氣, 大哭,要我抱,咬我, pull hair (mine and his). I have tried to ignore him, and put him down on the rubber mats and let him cry it out, but he would always run towards me and want me to hold him, and then if I hold him, he will bite me. The situation just gets completely out of hand. I have tried explaining to him that he should not bite and pull hair, and whenever he bites/ pulls my hair, I will put him down on the floor mat again. this picking up/ putting down and crying can last for an hour. So I am very tired in the end. Can you offer me some advice?

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Re: 小朋友大脾氣,可以點教

我都係決定唔做依家份工啦~其實之前佢班主任都叫過我唔好做,佢話我做左野之後,佢喺學校好似失控咁,成日上課唔聽書,又欠交功課(但我冇做野之前佢都係咁),我諗住唔做野,睇緊d佢,等佢冇咁多自己時間,希望佢既生活會正常d,佢d衰野會有改善啦~ :cry:

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Re: 小朋友大脾氣,可以點教

be_be 寫道:
Hi SandraLo,
十分多謝你解答我們的難題. 現麻煩你可否抽一點時間, 看一看我囡囡的問題, 謝謝.
我囡囡現在兩歲, 她從少到大都很乖, 很聽話. 以前我和老公早上出門口上班, 她會跟我們攬攬和kiss的.
但在五月開始, 因我想看看她可否適應在九月返上午班nursery, 所以我幫她轉了返上午的playgroup. 所以, 我現在一星期有三天會跟囡囡和工人一起出門口, 一同搭車返學. 頭兩天都好好的, 我預先告訴她姐姐會跟她先下車, 一同回學校玩, 媽媽放工再回家跟她玩. 她都很開心跟我說再見.
但之後的日子, 她一認出快要下車的地方, 她便緊緊的攬著我, 不停叫媽咪, 很怕我離開她似的. 在她和姐姐到站下車時, 更大哭起來. 她真的很少哭得那麼可憐.
另外, 在前天早上, 她不用上學 , 但她早起了. 當我離開家去上班時, 我就像以往一樣跟她說再見, 但她不讓我離開, 更哭得腰都往後’ao’, 我便跟她說媽媽放工就回來, 和其他安撫的說話,她都只是不停說’no’和攬實我. 我唯有請姐姐帶她入房, 分散她注意, 之後趁機離開. 我回到公司再call姐姐, 姐姐說囡囡出到廳之後看不見我, 都沒有哭, 她還告訴姐姐’mami is going to work’.
我現有以下問題, 真的想向你請教一下.
(1)我不知我有否做錯….因她在家哭不想我去上班, 我有去抱她, 叫她不要哭, 和跟她說理. 這會令她下次再哭得更嚴重嗎?
(2)我最後用’趁機離開’, 好像不太好?
(3)我怎樣處理和她一起搭車上學? 我可以做些什麼可讓她和我開開心心說再見呢?
(4)暫時囡囡在其他所有時候都很乖, 但很擔心她會慢慢的變得naughty呀.
Thank you very much.

be_be：

小朋友唔捨得媽咪離開，係天經地義嘅事........
1/ 她哭的時候，道理是聽不進的，要講解這些最好在晚上講故事時，利用些故事幫一幫，另加現實版：媽咪唔返公就冇錢用！
2/ '趁機離開' 當然不好，呃佢之外，重令佢冇安全感，因為媽咪會突然唔見咗。
3/ 她初初哭是真係唔捨得，但你都一定流露出緊張和不忍心的表情，致令她誤以為喊得勁你就有機會唔走，就係咁簡單。
4/ 她會不會變naughty我不知道，但如你睇哂呢個topic，學識点讚，而教佢凑佢嘅人嘅方法係冇分岐的話，應該可以乖到起碼四年級。

建議做法：每次分手時你要好開心咁同佢講拜拜，然後迅速離開，晚上回家一見佢就話佢好叻，冇大喊阻住媽咪返工！一星期後，你會發現有唔同架啦！

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Re: 小朋友大脾氣,可以點教

JigJig 寫道:
Many thanks for your prompt response and I will certainly try the "praise" method which I have not used before.
I have tried using the baby cot but it gets dangerous as he will cimb out of the cot (an act which he is capable of doing) and I also worry about him developing negative associations with his cot as he is already difficult to put down to sleep.
You suggested leaving him with the helper when he is out of control. Can I understand the reason behind that ?
If he still bites or pulls hair (whether myself or the maid), how should I handle it? If my maid is holding him and I see he is about to pull hair, I will hold his hand and tell him firmly that he should not pull hair. however, usually he is already in such a state of anger and distress that he cannot pay attention to what I am saying.
I also have to confess that my so called "ignoring" method is a bit of a hlaf-baked cake cos I can never sustain, this is what happens usually:-
1. Son is insistent about sth (e.g. wants to watch DVD) and I said "No".
2. Upons realising that I do not follow what he wants, son throws tantrum and cries loudly and then pull me towards DVD player and I said "No" again.
3. I will then ignore him by pretending to read a magazine whilst he sits on the floor and cries, or he will bang on things and yell loudly and cry to express to anger. After crying for about 2 min he will come towards me and snatch my magazine from my hand and want me to hold him (he is still crying).
[I have tried two ways to handle this]
A.) I have tried holding him and explaining to him what is wrong. He usually just cries even louder like he is out of control and then he will bite me on my shoulder whilst I am holding him. At this point I will put him on the mat and tell him that if he bites, I have to put him down. this usually repeats (i.e. hold him > he bites> put him down > he calms down a little and stopped crying > I pick him up > he cries again> he bites > I put him down again......)
B.) the alternative method I have tried is I will continue ignoring him and will walk away from him. he will then chase me and try to pull me down because he wants me to hold him. This usually makes him feel even more angry and, I think, rejected. and he will keep running towards me wanting me to hold him (this struggling between us can last for a long time) and in the meantime i keep telling him that he has to stop crying before Mummy holds him - he usually just gets more and more out of control and inconsolable, and he will be chasing and following me around the living room.
Be it method A or B, either situation will last for an hour or so as my son appears to be more out of control and crying just for the sake of crying it out and he will also pull his own hair. In the end I just cave in and pick him up and hold him (he may still bite but by this time he is usally exhausted from the 1 hour saga and it is easier to restrian him). After I have picked him up I will say things to calm him down. I will take this time to tell him that I understand he is agry but that he cannot always wtach DVD all the time and it is wrong to bite.
he will usually still cry and sob for another 10/15 minutes. Sometimes he will (baby) talk like he is complaining to me (and I will talk with him too repeating that Mummy understands he is angry and mummy was trying to help him). He may either calm down completely or he will want to start crying again. if the latter I will give him something to distract him (e.g. toy) as I am also completely exhausted by that time and I cannot deal with another saga.
he usually will behave better (i.e. less easy to throw tantrum) for some time (e.g. couple of weeks) after this saga and I dunno whether he learnt that this crying business is not worth the while or whether the crying provided a channel for him to let out his energy and furstruations.
I ot not sure what I am doing is right (my gut feeling tells me that it is not) but in any case I am just getting quite sick and tired of this sort of battle with my son, and feel helpless about the situation.
Could you please let me know your views?
many thanks in advance for your advice.

JigJig ：

First of all, please read this topic :
教仔心得：媽咪容易犯的錯誤

1/ There's no need to talk to him while he's losing temper, he won't listen to any of that. Explain to him while he's in a good mood. Best time is story time (cause you can always “create” a story about an animal losing temper !).
Praise him by saying : 你好乖呀，冇咬人冇扯人頭髮 while he's NOT losing temper, hug him, give favorite food, without blaming or explaining ANYTHING.

2/ Ignore means “give no reaction” to his bad behaviour. You have to understand that he did all these crying/shouting to “seek your reaction”, and your reaction will reinforce him to do these again and again. If he did not pull your hair, it's a lot easier to ignore. Simply give no reaction to his crying and he will soon learn that crying/shouting will not affect your decision. But if he's pulling your hair/biting you, it's hard to ignore. (真係做行為矯正嗰d 係會照ignore，i.e. 由得佢拉同咬，你冇反應佢自然唔會做)， Because you're not a behavioral therapist, I won't ask you to this. That's why I asked if you have a baby cot/ or if you could leave him home so that he won't be able to pull your hair/chase you.

3/ To me, your method A and B are just the same → give reaction to his losing temper and he will keep on doing all those things as long as he gets attention/ reaction from you.
If you don't have time to read all posts of this topic, try to read those “twg” wrote and what I answered during Easter period. That was quite a long story : his son refused to sleep and keep on playing in the room/on the bed.

4/ Once again, I believe that for such a small child, PRAISE will work. You also can help him by making a simple timetable telling him well-before at what time and for how long he can watch DVD. And praise him 2 times a day for following the timetable to watch DVD; 2 times a day for NOT losing temper/crying; 2 times for NOT pulling your hair etc.

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SandraLo,

十分多謝你的回覆. 我已將你的回覆跟老公分享了, 他都十分認同你的做法, 我們會跟著去嘗試. 我今早已嘗試很開心的和囡囡說再見, 今晚要讚讚她呢.

我老公有另一個問題想請教, 又要麻煩你了.

我老公很錫囡囡, 有時候, 他對囡囡的愛心和耐性比我對囡囡更強. 他每天放工或假日, 都會陪她玩, 但不知為何囡囡好像有時會刻意冷落daddy或表現出不喜歡daddy.

好像昨晚, 我跟囡囡在房中對著電腦看照片, 當daddy入房時她便叫她daddy出去, 不想他join我們.

之後, 她拿了數本相簿入房看, 自己手拿一本看, daddy想拿另一本和她一起看, 但她卻不肯跟daddy一起看, 所有都要自己keep起. Daddy又’tum’又傾, 但她都無反應, 他於是扮嬲, 背向囡囡坐. (這只會發生在daddy身上, 囡囡會讓我和工人姐姐看) 囡囡見daddy這樣, 就拿相簿去跟daddy說東說西, 想'tum'番daddy一起看.

囡囡很多時都只會喜歡跟我玩, 跟我一起, 只想kiss我, 攬我. 但有時她又會跟daddy好friend, 所以我們不知怎麼辦好.

我想問以下問題:
(1) 我跟daddy都不明天為何囡囡有時會抗拒daddy? 是因為daddy太熱情?
(2) Daddy扮嬲是一個好的做法嗎? 我們是否應在她做得好時, 大讚特讚? 除此之外, 我們還可怎樣做?

真的十分謝謝你為我解答問題.

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be_be 寫道:
SandraLo,
十分多謝你的回覆. 我已將你的回覆跟老公分享了, 他都十分認同你的做法, 我們會跟著去嘗試. 我今早已嘗試很開心的和囡囡說再見, 今晚要讚讚她呢.
我老公有另一個問題想請教, 又要麻煩你了.
我老公很錫囡囡, 有時候, 他對囡囡的愛心和耐性比我對囡囡更強. 他每天放工或假日, 都會陪她玩, 但不知為何囡囡好像有時會刻意冷落daddy或表現出不喜歡daddy.

好像昨晚, 我跟囡囡在房中對著電腦看照片, 當daddy入房時她便叫她daddy出去, 不想他join我們.
之後, 她拿了數本相簿入房看, 自己手拿一本看, daddy想拿另一本和她一起看, 但她卻不肯跟daddy一起看, 所有都要自己keep起. Daddy又’tum’又傾, 但她都無反應, 他於是扮嬲, 背向囡囡坐. (這只會發生在daddy身上, 囡囡會讓我和工人姐姐看) 囡囡見daddy這樣, 就拿相簿去跟daddy說東說西, 想'tum'番daddy一起看.
囡囡很多時都只會喜歡跟我玩, 跟我一起, 只想kiss我, 攬我. 但有時她又會跟daddy好friend, 所以我們不知怎麼辦好.
我想問以下問題:
(1) 我跟daddy都不明天為何囡囡有時會抗拒daddy? 是因為daddy太熱情?
(2) Daddy扮嬲是一個好的做法嗎? 我們是否應在她做得好時, 大讚特讚? 除此之外, 我們還可怎樣做?
真的十分謝謝你為我解答問題.

be_be ：

我感覺係bb始終黐媽咪多！
我女一歲半前係勁黐我老公同工人，一歲半後就黐我.....
我個case我就覺得自己唔識得同bb玩，要到佢大少少，溝通到我至同佢玩到，daddy同佢玩嘅嘢佢好enjoy，但佢亦深明媽咪「好服侍」。有一次教會旅行 (3.5歲)佢同小朋友玩時仆親下巴，佢大喊大叫媽咪，我老公之後竟然同我講話佢点解唔叫daddy.....

1/ 小朋友世界較簡單，唔駛諗得咁覆雜，佢兩個都錫，但始終有priority，愈細個亦會愈黐工人，因為工人對佢時間長！
2/ 扮嬲當然不是個好的做法，佢好快會學識用番出嚟！而佢能夠去氹番daddy，觀察力同EQ都好好啦！
冇錯，如果你想對daddy更好，你可以响你地三人一齊玩時讚佢：好乖喎，媽咪、daddy同bb三個人一齊玩........但駛唔駛咁呢？你始終都要接受細路(大人都係)有priority喎！

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Hi Sandralo ,

又有問題請教了! 之前bb打人, 向你請教後 , 在我們多番讚賞後 , 已很少出現這情況! 但最近跟bb老師傾談後 , 加上自己的觀察 , 仍然有很多問題向您請教 !

bb現時約二歲半 , 返了幼兒班約半年 , 老師說他不專心 , 如塗顏色不會望著幅畫來塗 ; 玩桌上玩具經常換 , 而老師覺得應選定一樣來玩 ; 而且玩得好顛 , 如唱歌跳舞時十分興奮 , 或是跑不停!其實老師所講的亦符合我的觀察 , 經常叫唔停 , 特別是制止他的不當行為 , 有時帶他到公園玩 , 他都會十分興奮 , 特別是同其他小朋友或他喜歡的人一齊玩的時侯!

請問 : 1. 如何改善不專心的情況?
2. 如何令他叫得聽?

謝謝!!

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mdoip 寫道:
Hi Sandralo ,
又有問題請教了! 之前bb打人, 向你請教後 , 在我們多番讚賞後 , 已很少出現這情況! 但最近跟bb老師傾談後 , 加上自己的觀察 , 仍然有很多問題向您請教 !
bb現時約二歲半 , 返了幼兒班約半年 , 老師說他不專心 , 如塗顏色不會望著幅畫來塗 ; 玩桌上玩具經常換 , 而老師覺得應選定一樣來玩 ; 而且玩得好顛 , 如唱歌跳舞時十分興奮 , 或是跑不停!其實老師所講的亦符合我的觀察 , 經常叫唔停 , 特別是制止他的不當行為 , 有時帶他到公園玩 , 他都會十分興奮 , 特別是同其他小朋友或他喜歡的人一齊玩的時侯!
請問 : 1. 如何改善不專心的情況? 2. 如何令他叫得聽?
謝謝!!

基本上，任何壞行為都可以透過讚來改正。
玩時十分興奮似乎冇乜問題，点樣「叫唔停」法呢？
二歲半的專注力不會很好，在學校怎樣你是幫不了的，反而在家可做些訓練；想問吓他在家中的情况怎樣？他喜歡的事可以做多久？

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Hi SandraLo,

多謝回覆
点樣「叫唔停」法呢？
例 : - 叫佢不能掂風扇 , 不能琴桌椅 , 通常佢都唔會理我們!
- 喜歡在街上留連 , 很難叫佢跟著行!
- 到遊樂場玩時不肯走 , 如果只有我和他一起去時 ,不會出現不肯走的情況 , 我會同佢講好 , 又提佢 , 又叫佢同遊樂場say goodbye , 基本上算合作 ; 但一和佢喜歡的姐姐和叔叔一起去時 , 情況就很難控制 , 結果要捉佢走 , 有點不歡而散!
- 老師說佢在學校玩得很顛 , 玩車時及跑得很快 , 很忘形 , 要叫住佢 , 驚佢撞倒其他小朋友!

他喜歡的事可以做多久？
20-30分鐘

謝謝!!

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Hi SandraLo,

十分感謝你那麼晚都抽時間回答我的問題.

哈哈, 我的情況跟你的差不多, 囡囡一歲前都勁黐我工人. 之後開始就好黐我. 依家由朝到晚都會叫住我 (如我在家或不用上班的日子).

我會話比daddy知, 叫佢唔好太jealous住 ga la...hehe....

唔該哂.

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mdoip 寫道:
Hi SandraLo,
多謝回覆
点樣「叫唔停」法呢？
例 : - 叫佢不能掂風扇 , 不能琴桌椅 , 通常佢都唔會理我們!
- 喜歡在街上留連 , 很難叫佢跟著行!
- 到遊樂場玩時不肯走 , 如果只有我和他一起去時 ,不會出現不肯走的情況 , 我會同佢講好 , 又提佢 , 又叫佢同遊樂場say goodbye , 基本上算合作 ; 但一和佢喜歡的姐姐和叔叔一起去時 , 情況就很難控制 , 結果要捉佢走 , 有點不歡而散!
- 老師說佢在學校玩得很顛 , 玩車時及跑得很快 , 很忘形 , 要叫住佢 , 驚佢撞倒其他小朋友!
他喜歡的事可以做多久？
20-30分鐘
謝謝!!

mdoip：

如果他他喜歡的事可以做20-30分鐘，他的專注力不錯，換玩具等暫不太重要，在校玩玩具多是自己玩，不懂怎樣玩便會覺得不好玩，經常要轉不出奇。

「到遊樂場玩時不肯走」-- 你意思是有姐姐和叔叔一起時，他就不聽你話？
呢個都係好正常，佢睇死你有外人响度就會鬆啲，你只要firm d ，言出必行，試多幾次會好啲，要捉佢走其實都冇問題，樣樣都曉自律嗰啲，就唔係細路仔。

我女由細到大，打過一次，就係兩歲時搞風扇，佢到依家十幾歲都記得，因為真係痛！你睇番置咗頂個 topic 「媽咪容易犯的錯誤」就明，好多嘢「話」係冇用，係唔會聽，你照樣响佢冇做呢d 嘢時讚佢，係work嘅，不過擒高爬低對小朋友的腦部發育和感覺統合都是好的，所以要和他去多些公園和遊樂場！

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