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Re: Any mom living in USA now - Part III

各位媽咪,
你哋話.... 我好唔好揾律師幫手呢?
我係I-129(K3-visa)入境, 收到I-130就入紙I-485, 03年12月打指摸同影相... 但interview遙遙無期呢...
肥bear bear老公見你哋個個都咁快ok..而我就等完又等... 冇green card, 醫院唔請我... 張employment authorisation card都冇用嘅 :-( :-( :-( :-( :-(

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Thank you all mommies for yr encouragement. however, i can't really handle going out w/ bb as he can't stay in the stroller for very long time (up to 30 mins is already surprised). also, bad news is that 99 will plan to stay w/ us for 6 months when coming back to home w/ us. i told my hubby that we should think of an excuse not letting her come back w/ us (but tough). meanwhile, i hesitate a bit as our part-time helper will be gone when we're back. i'm not sure how soon we can hv a reliable helper/nanny again. also, i'm planning sending bb to pre-school in June/July and look for a job soon. i'm so exhausted being a stay-home mom for 2 yrs now.

also, the way that 99 takes care of bb seems to be changed now. she used to not letting bb watch any TV. but now she just don't bother to play w/ him and let him watch TV/videos most of the times. i don't like it, cos her TV is very big but the couch is not very far from it. she said it's ok, cos there's no radiation w/ plasma TV.
the only thing not change is that she cares abt bb's meal time so much. if he's not eating much, she'll feed him junk food.

sigh ... don't know what i should do. also, she's such a hyper-sensitive person.

Nillie_Mami,
the EAD card is good for employment, and i think u can renew it if it's gonna expire and u still haven't got yr greencard yet.
hope u'll receive yr greencard soon!

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發表於 05-4-5 01:33 |只看該作者

Re: Any mom living in USA now - Part III

SY-mom,
Don't get discouraged by your 99. Come here and chat more to "add oil"!!! u mentioned that your parents will come to visit u? Then can u just follow them back to Macau as they can help u to take care of your bb ah.

chingbj,
Long time no see la, how are u and Vincent? Any new photo? And are u still working as a part-time? u must be very busy if u are.
I am 4 months pregnant now

Got a hard time last 2 months because of morning sickness, but now I am feeling better and better. Really a time to enjoy!

Nillie-mom,
Employment Authorisation card should be good for any job ah! I don't have green card at all because both my hubby and I are "overseas workers" only. He came here to work and I came as his spouse, then I applied for the EAD and after I got it, it's good for "employment" already!
But mind u that renewal takes 3 months or more and u have to renew it every year. So last time my renewal did not arrive on time, and I have to be off the pay-roll once the old one expired. Lucky that was the period when we were back to HK to spend X'mas.

u know sign language? Good for u! Teach me next time!
And how's Amanda? What's the symptoms of hay fever

;-) How is your baby's hearing? Ask an audiologist! ;-)

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Re: Any mom living in USA now - Part III

Clarab 寫道:
係勤力咗D, 不過多2-3年BB們就可以一齊玩, 唔使我睇得咁辛苦丫麻!!!

Yes woow.... Let me start to persuade my hubby sin...

小肥佬,
Don't

Mini-matt

I have an agreement with my hubby: if our bb is a very active one, he will be the one who play with him whenever he needs, because I don't have the energy!!!
And I think our bb shows his/ her energy to us already: last night when we were dining out, I felt him/ her jumping inside my tummy....

whalebb,
u know how to cut hair ah? SUPER ah!

;-) How is your baby's hearing? Ask an audiologist! ;-)

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發表於 05-4-5 03:06 |只看該作者

Re: Any mom living in USA now - Part III

Question from me again

Any of u bought an insurance plan for your bb? I only see an ads once in Mimi Maternity. What kind of plan and when to buy?

Should I contact my insurance agent in HK or find one here?

;-) How is your baby's hearing? Ask an audiologist! ;-)

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Re: Any mom living in USA now - Part III

Shuba_Inu
妳要邊種Insurance????
醫療???如果係妳有公司有無生bb保險???若無
妳可apply AIM妳報妳自已income不要報埋妳老公
最高limited3千幾保到bb2 yrs old
又或者等bb出生後apply healthy Family
但妳如果income太高
試問問call呢個電話626-297-2200

Chingbj
修咩成隻 King Kong咁
我打算等老公嚟去做機
咁妳有無做工???
我細女也在8個幾月先識sitting
crawling 10 months ar!!!
因佢頭大
妳bb頭大嗎???

Sy-Mom
妳不會在香港好耐
比面老公忍忍忍忍.......啦!!!
或者妳"tum"下99囉施軟功
硬功千萬不可以用
妳老公會好難做ka

Nillie M
妳call 去移民局問呀ma
我地呢個ma ma cluib有個叫 Hayden Ma也同妳一樣要等
但now 己成功有Green Card and SSI#
失敗的bread做法妳要嗎????

Natmama
我今個星期可能返office (Thurs or Fri)
因我去學車
Go to Curry House ????妳表妹去嗎???
But let me call your friend's hubby邊日佢得先

學懂凡事感恩和感謝,孩子終身受用不盡

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發表於 05-4-5 06:39 |只看該作者

Re: Any mom living in USA now - Part III

SY_mom,

我睇完你post嗰啲message, 我都無法可忍!!!!
你99究竟想你喺到定唔喺到o架??? 唔想你去Macau, 但又唔想你整污糟佢屋企... 好矛盾啫.... 仲當你係工人

你仲有成個月, 都好難頂...

把心一橫, 抱埋bb去Macau...仲要叫定你老公唔好聽佢電話...實行激死佢...咁跟住佢咪唔會跟你去美國囉...佢唔會咁唔要面自己走嚟啩, 如果真係, 用番同一招:佢話冇時間招呼你老公啲朋友, 你話我哋都唔係好得閒招呼你, 等佢留返係佢自己個所謂豪宅到啦

佢做初一, 我做十五!!!

你要記住你係bb嘅媽咪... 你要stand up for yourself and bb... 佢成日簡接 / 直接咁介入你同bb嘅生活圈子, 又以為自己識好多嘢, 咁樣落去真係唔係辦法!! 雖然你宜家同佢住埋一個月, 好快就走, 但佢都可以坐飛機嚟, 你都係避唔到佢o架.... 甚麼俾面佢老人家, 甚麼少出一句聲, 真係唔work, 到頭嚟辛苦 / 唔開心咪你同你老公...真係要認真諗諗.... 對你, 你老公&bb都好....

絕啲啦!! 我會支持你!!!!!!

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發表於 05-4-5 07:43 |只看該作者

Re: Any mom living in USA now - Part III

Chingbj,

I did not buy a walker for Natalie becuz I read some information from the American Pediatric Academy and they did not recommend it. She just plays in her exersaucer and other small toys. I plan on buying her a push along walker in a few months when she shows interest in walking. She is beginning to crawl so I have to surround her with pillows when I leave her on the bed

Natalie is very very attached to me but she doesn't mind socializing with other people. If she's seen you before, then she will let you hold her. If it's her first time seeing someone, she will only smile and wave. So I guess so is not really "san bo".

Little Fat Man,

I try not to let Natalie watch adult tv unless my husband is home and watching it during dinner time. Some of the content is too violent. She's been watching disney channel since 2 months and now she recognizes most of the characters. I noticed even if she was doing something but once she hears certain songs/voice, she would turn around to wiggle and giggle. :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :mrgreen: Mini-Matt is so smart crawling at 6 months...natalie is just starting to crawl.

SY_Mom,

I agree with you on returning to work. At first, I planned on being a full-time mom for at least 3 years but sometimes it's just too emotionally/physically draining. I mentioned to my husband that I want to return to work when Natalie turns 2...since I quitted my job after maternity leave in Jan, if I go back by next summer it will only be 1.5 year gap....but my husband is not very supportive of the idea....

I think you really need to bullshxt a reason so your 99 changes her mind in coming back to the US with you. :tongue: :tongue:

Whalebb,

I want to see Verniece's new hair cut. I plan on letting Natalie's hair grow until she goes to preschool. I always wanted for her to have long long hair so I can fix it up :-P :-P Why don't you let me know your schedule with the driving teacher...then we can decide when to do lunch. My cousin probably won't join us becuz she has class every day this quarter. :-( :-( :-( You are such a good girl...still have time to bake bread. I can barely manage to put dinner on the table 4 nights a week.

Nillie,

Have you started looking for a new nanny yet or do you plan on caring for Amanda yourself

My husband put up some nanny cams before but we only put it downstairs. We gave the maid instructions that the bb can only be downstairs if my husband and I are not at home.

Shiba-Inu,

What kind of insurance are you referring too? Health or Savings? If it's health insurance, your baby will automatically go onto your plan on the first month of birth and then you/your husband need to add the baby as a dependent to your existing plan. If it's savings insurance (529 plan), I'm not too convinced about it. It depends on your situation but my reason is becuz I don't want to tie down my $$ for so many years. We prefer having more control over our investments. So far, Natalie only has a savings account :lol: :lol: :lol:

Dear Moms,

Has any of you given "bird nest" to your babies? My dad bought some for natalie but I'm not sure when/how to give it to her. I was thinking to first "dun" the birdnest and than add it to her rice cereal...please help

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發表於 05-4-5 10:27 |只看該作者

Re: Any mom living in USA now - Part III

CHINGBJ,
我EMAIL左呀仔個PHOTO ALBUM比你啦。
SO FAR都OK﹐RYAN仔開始認得我&爸爸﹐不過又係人都跟架﹐但被第2D人抱時就會望著我/爸爸。
我坐月0個時老公剩係請左7日假﹐之後7日就0係OFFICE IN AND OUT返去TAKE CARE D客仔。我一直都係自己搞掂因唔想奶奶過黎﹐哈~
老公有無幫手湊BB﹐有呀﹐夜晚放工返黎會畏餐奶&同BB玩﹐SO我有D時間同我LA既媽咪/FRIENDS傾電話。
你稔著幾時生第2個呀

SY_MOM﹐
*甚麼俾面佢老人家, 甚麼少出一句聲, 真係唔work, 到頭嚟辛苦 / 唔開心咪你同你老公...真係要認真諗諗.... 對你, 你老公&bb都好....*
YESYESYES。。我就係一個人版。唔出聲就越黎越過份架。做小小野﹐等她知你唔鍾意﹐有D識做既老人家就會識閃架啦。

NATMAMA﹐
*I plan on letting Natalie's hair grow until she goes to preschool. I always wanted for her to have long long hair so I can fix it up*嘩嘩嘩﹐看到我好恨有個女女。我現在去買BB衫都係看女仔既先(買比我家姐個BB女)D女仔衫好鬼靚

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發表於 05-4-5 11:11 |只看該作者

Re: Any mom living in USA now - Part III

Nic and babygigi
我希望妳地不好介意不好"男女男"我
以下我的真心說話
妳地一定好錫妳地bb
也希望佢地第日有美滿家庭
婆媳關係好痳煩
但也有解決方法我個人應為不一定以硬碰硬
咁樣對婚姻可能有影響和要老公有左不孝之罪(若果老公唔幫呀媽)
Sy Mom大家是不同年代的人
溝通一定有問題
大家的99無我地呢代咁多機會讀書和開通
試下給大家機會溝通.......主動講出心裡不快
做好自已本份也無用咪同老公相量用個好籍口走
好過攪到大家不開心
受罪的一定係老公
一生人只得一個親生父母...............

學懂凡事感恩和感謝,孩子終身受用不盡

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發表於 05-4-5 11:31 |只看該作者

Re: Any mom living in USA now - Part III

Shiba_Inu,
手語唔難學, 香港手話大部份係生活動作, 佢哋只有幾百個動作, mix埋一齊就係生活要表達嘅全部!
香港聾人福利促進會有免費班,可惜喺香港, 我知美國有自己一套sign language呢...我都有打算讀埋佢..

Hay fever....

一分鐘十幾個'黑' '痴'... 又流鼻水, 又流眼水...又鼻痕...又眼痕...又頭痛~~"呻鼻哥太多".. 今日睇醫生, 佢又換一個新噴鼻藥俾我...希望work 喇, 出面啲花粉勁多...好驚出街:-( :-( :-(
whalebb,
唉!起碼你有試過焗麵包, 我而家連試嘅機會都冇! 冇nanny睇住Amanda..好唔掂呢!佢太曳喇!
Natmama,
I planned to set up all camera because we interview nannies again. As I better arrange everything first.. I did plan to send Amanda to day care this August, as she has too much energy everyday.. so better let her plays at school and used some of her energy... so she will calm down after school!
That is a good idea... to keep Amanda in one floor, if nanny keeps Amanda away from camera too long, then I know that she may do something to her!!!! The only time to keep her away from camera, only when Amanda is having her toilet training.. right? as only toilet, I can't set camera on it.
SY_mom, Shiba_inu,
thanks god, that I did re-apply for my EAD... however, when hospitals rang up and asked for me green card, none did call back.. :-(
I did rang every month, and I feel that I am very annoying... (bad bad feeling..)..

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發表於 05-4-5 11:36 |只看該作者

Re: Any mom living in USA now - Part III

Hi Sy_mom,

I haven't been writing in BK for a long time, as I have been tied down by the babies and work, but I am so angry after reading your story and cannot wait to reponse.

Your 99 is so mean. I agreed with all the other moms who suggested you pack and go to Macuw for couple weeks. I think it is reasonable to stay with your own family. I don't understand what was your 99's logic about not letting you go back to your own home. Your parent have the same right as your 99 to see their grandson. I have to emphazied that both grandparent have EQUAL right on seeing their grandson. I don't understand why she has the right to control you over this. Plus, your parent have the right to see you. You know, you are not serving a jail time, you have the right to go places and visit your parents' house. In my opinion, it is more reasonable to stay at your own parent's home rather than staying in your 99's place while your husband is not present. I can sense the uncomfortable being in your 99's place, she is sooooo mean. Beside, I think it is very dangerous to have small child staying at her so called remodelled SEAVIEW house where is extremely not childproof, it is already a good reason for you to pack and leave and go to your parent's place. You don't have to flight with her, you can just lay down all the facts that support you to visit your own parents. If she is an educated person, she would understand. Even that I can feel she isn't.

You have mentioed that she always saying that she is a SNO, so she can step into your family and control over you. I don't really see the point why being a SNO in HK is qualify in controlling you nor a 99 is qualify. If she really want to control over ppl, pls go back to work in her hostiptal, and control her own staffs. Being a SNO is not the reason controlling you. Beside, I don't think an employer has such power in US. Most of the babysitter/nanny in my area are in high demand, all the employers have to treat their nanny good in order to keep the nanny. I don't think the nanny in US are willing to work with her.

She always emphazied that she was a professional, so are you. I believe you are highly educated, and had a high paying job before having the baby. You scarify(spelling??) yourself to become a full time mom, she should apprecaited that. Beside, i don't see how helpful she would be when she come over. Remember who told you not to have the baby wear seatbelt on a high chair.

There is a reason why ppl invent seatbelt, but she choose not to use it. Also, you mentioned that she give your baby junk food and feed him tv. If I were you, I will discuss with your husband and think of an excuse not to let her stay with you for a long period of time. BTW, what does your husband think of your 99's behavior? You need to have his support.

I am sorry that if I sound rude in this response, but I just cannot control myself to type after knowing your story.

ClaraB,

Congratulation !!!

WhaleBB,

Sy_mom's 99 has emphazied herself that she is highly educated and was a professional. I think she is not the normal 99 from the last generation. But I agree with you that SY_mom shouldn't flight with her 99, but I think she should use the "soft" skill to aviod having her 99 to come over to stay with her for a long period of time. She can also discuss with her 99 to let her visit her parents' home. I think it is a reasonable request.

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發表於 05-4-5 11:57 |只看該作者

Re: Any mom living in USA now - Part III

丹麥研究﹕孕婦吸煙損嬰兒IQ
【明報專訊】外國研究發現，吸煙不但危害健康，且可能會令孩子的 IQ （智商）較低。丹麥一項研究發現，婦女若在懷孕期間吸煙，將來誕下的嬰兒，智商（ IQ ）有可能較一般孩子為低。
丹麥一

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發表於 05-4-5 12:23 |只看該作者

Re: Any mom living in USA now - Part III

SY_mom,
你仲想退到去邊? 今次冇路退啦... :-(
你點可以同BB喺廚房用饍? 廚房係工人食飯嘅地方呀!!
我流了很多眼淚....忍住唔講呢個topic... 因為怕你upset... 肥bearbear老公今日睇完你嘅message同我講... 冇喇..
你再唔企起身stand for你自己同BB就冇喇!!!!!
點可以叫工人叫錯你個名? 佢唔再係呀DOM anymore... 佢只不過係你99, 同BB嫲嫲咋...
你老公錫唔錫你, 你應該好明白, 你99有冇當你係新抱..我哋個個睇得好清楚....
你再咁軟弱, 叫我哋點幫你? 係..99係老公媽咪... 婆媳argue係世世代代發生.... 但要記住, 邊個至係陪你老公過埋下半世,行埋人生每一步..... 以前同你講過, 叫你讀返書, 再揾嘢做... BB送去pre-school...等老師幫你手教返好BB...
sorry...各.位.. 我都係太嬲喇...寫唔落去!!!!!!
我知我今曰好冇禮貌.... 望住SY_mom咁, 我見番03年啱啱嚟new york嘅自己.... sorry...

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發表於 05-4-5 22:19 |只看該作者

Re: Any mom living in USA now - Part III

Whalebb,
傻啦﹐我點會男女男你呢﹐大家都係講出心裡感受黎幫SY_MOM嘛。
奶奶唔係十二分過份就當然唔好真係硬碰硬啦﹐話晒都係長輩､係老公個阿媽﹐當然要有一份尊重。但有D老人家唔係現代奶奶﹐比我嫲嫲更上一代既﹐都真係幾難溝通。哎~總知就係有她講無人講。

你講得好岩﹐婆媳關係好鬼麻煩。唔同DOM奶奶一起住都已經噤樣﹐如果DOM奶奶真係過黎半年﹐後果真係可想而知。到時關係只會更差﹐到時老公更難做。(雖然DOM奶奶有權同自己個仔SPEND TIME)
LET‘S SAY奶奶好像DOM奶奶噤過份﹐老公出聲幫老婆口還好﹐起碼奶奶唔會太過份。如果老公噤自私唔想自己難做就唔出聲﹐做新抱既只會谷壞自己之後發老公皮四﹐受罪的都又係老公。所以﹐老公一定要幫老婆﹐要好好同自己媽媽傾﹐唔好一味要老婆百忍成金。

不過同奶奶點唔妥都唔好比細路聽到數嫲嫲。細路未識分﹐會唔識尊重長輩。
我一向本住以德報怨心態0黎做人﹐不過有時D野當去到過晒底線時﹐真係要STAND UP FOR YOURSELF﹐如果唔係會好辛苦。

SY_MOM﹐
其實可唔可以同DOM奶奶講話你爸爸媽媽話想見個孫､想同個孫住幾日﹐噤咪大條道理囉。
奶奶講乜過份野﹐唔使理佢﹐唔好放0係心上﹐上0黎同我哋傾﹐傾完會舒服好多架。

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發表於 05-4-6 00:01 |只看該作者

Re: Any mom living in USA now - Part III

SY_Mom,

sorry, SY-MOM, 無心寫出你娘家地區, 所以我已刪除此段留言!

junw,

你係屋企做part time 做成點? 習慣咗未呀?

Nillie,

你唔好咁激動啦!!

冷靜D飲返杯茶, 食返D朱古力... 慘.. 我呢排食咗好多糖... 實有駐牙!!

你D表都申請晒, 俾晒錢, 你揾律師都唔知佢可以幫到D乜, 佢會唔會話幫你搞, 勁收$$$ 但又唔使做野.... 好便宜佢喎...

有冇D律師咨詢係唔會收費<-- (發緊夢)

咁你就可以問吓通常呢D情況到等幾耐, 佢地又可以幫你做到D乜? 收費點收... 諸如此類...

chingbj,

仔仔緊係好,女女都唔錯, 最緊要係健康啦, 唔好多病痛就好啦...

Natmama,

Sorry, 唔識呢D燕窩既野, 我冇買, 亦冇俾BB或者我食.. 我同老公講起, 佢就話"咦... 食口水"

搞到我都好慶!!!

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發表於 05-4-6 00:18 |只看該作者

Re: Any mom living in USA now - Part III

Thank you all for yr notes and suggestions.

hubby will be on business trips starting from tomorrow evening and come back for weekends only. so i won't be able to bk during weekdays these few weeks, cos i haven't brought over my own laptop and don't wanna use 99's computer either

i think i'll definitely going home w/ bb when hubby is back from business trip during weekend and at least stay for abt a week. (Pls don't mention again where my parents live. i'm afraid that 99 might know it from here. she knows the BK web site too.) my 99 is not an usual "c-9", and i don't know play w/ "politics" as good as her. so, hard to deal with. sigh ... hectic!

actually hubby was hectic too when he heard 99 and i are not happy w/ each other. when he thought that we were abt to start arguing, he would tell us to shut up and insert his own opinion. sometimes when i complained to him abt 99, he would say sth. like "what u want me to do? to kill her?! or break the relationship w/ her?!"

Nillie_Mami,

when u hv job interview b4 receiving the greencard, just try to explain to the hiring manager that EAD is good for employment and u should be receiving yr greencard soon. usually the HR of big companies will take care of the legal documents issue, and they should know abt the EAD card. the hiring manager just need to tell HR that s/he need to hire u as an employee. so, no need to worry abt it at all! If they still don't understand it, just emphasize that they don't need to apply for working visa for u and u can start working right away.

good luck on job hunting (and probably on nanny/maid hunting too?)!

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發表於 05-4-6 00:34 |只看該作者

Re: Any mom living in USA now - Part III

natmama,

for the "bird-nest", 99 has "dunned" it w/ rice congee w/ meat and veggie, maybe after bb turned 1. she did it like once a week and each time was like 1/2 bowl (adult's size) with relatively more bird-nest. bb didn't like it but she "tummed" him to eat. once, when i tried to feed him bird-nest congee again, he resisted to eat. since then, he stopped eating solid food for quite a while. also, i have stopped feeding him bird-nest since then.

i told her usually the moms feed bbs one spoon a day, but she said the left-over bird-nest is no good.

anyway, i think bird-nest is hard to digest. it mainly contains protein (i guess), so probably egg-white is also good as bird-nest in some way.
in my opinion, if u want natalie to try it, probably it's better to wait until 1-yr-old and eating once a while is good.

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