me too........i think so many bk mums hv the same problem with 99...my situation is even worse....since the day my elder son was born, my 99 requested to live with us (now my son is 3 yrs old la). then my nightmare started when my c6 said OK:-( ....my 99 doesn't need to work so that she could stay with my son night n day. for the 1st yr the situation wasn't that bad as i needed to work at that time. things started to get worse since my younger son was born (now my younger son is 1.5 yr) as i quited my job to become a full time mum. since then i lived with her night n day, i can say definitely it's a nightmare. no private time n space. she could just in n out my room as she likes, n stay in my room for vvvv long time just because she wants to stay with her grandsons n can't stand for a separate for a second. oh goodness me!!!!!!!! jan 2007 i said to my c6 that i wouldn't be able to stand for this situaiton anymore n we decided to move away.....2 mths later my 99 had found that she had a cancer, so we put away the plan of moving out. jun 07 my 99 recovered n i said to my c6 if not moving out i would become crazy . jul 07 we bought a new flat which in the same block with my mum.......eventually i thought i could end up my nightmare, but u guys know what she said?...she said she would come over to c my boys everyday when we move to the new flat!!! as she doesn't need to work while my mum needs to work so that my mum won't be able to take care of the boys!! one month ago my emotion couldn't stand for this anymore, i went to c doctor n now i m taking some anti depression medication:cry: .....my c6 understands that i hv been being so patient to his mum for such long time but he is not dare enough to talk to her as he worries about her health....so it ends up with i m still living with the nightmare.:cry: