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christy1012

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原文章由 buyer 於 08-4-5 11:43 發表
christy1012, BBR.
我同佢傾過, 有溝通過, 最後佢真係覺得自己無問題, 佢話 : " 我老婆永遠只係得一個, 唔會變. " 我聽完, 無感覺, 我夠知老婆永遠可以得一個, 情人可以唔少呀 ma. 佢有講我感受佢知, 佢反問我有無理 ...

你老公個d根本係歪理,令你好似做錯咁,
我認同,結婚後都應該有自己o既自由空間,
應該有自己o既朋友,但咁唔代表係放縱,
你老公只會從自己感受出發,根本冇理過其他人感受,
點解明知大家有好感都仲要咁樣發展落去,
唔通真係要有事發生,先覺得自己錯左,
點解唔預防左先,你老公有冇為個家想想

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小manman

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發表於 08-4-5 19:20 |只看該作者

你老公真係好無賴囉!!!

你問番你老公,如果你有個同事日日morning call你、日日周你食早餐、日日約埋佢返工放工、sms、傾電話..........你老公o唔ok先???
不過,我相信你老公係呢個moment,佢大有機會話佢接受到,等你無聲出~~~

既然佢要講到唔可以念在兩夫妻當就下個老婆都唔得,死話自己對朋友好無問題,又話好與唔好唔係用你把尺黎量度,咁你大可以大番佢,問佢"使唔使做個街頭訪問???睇下如果自己老公or bf同另一個女仔有d咁的舉動,有幾多個接受到???認為自己老公or bf無問題???"
咁如果大部份女仔都接受唔到(單係睇bk呢度都已經無一個接受到,就連男人都覺得咁樣有問題),咁就唔係用你把尺黎量度,係普遍都接受唔到就證明係佢的問題,唔係你的問題~~~

到時,又睇下佢有乜野歪理講~~~

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小manman

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發表於 08-4-5 19:23 |只看該作者

你老公呢d舉動好明顯係情侶先會咁做,借問聲個女仔有無bf???佢bf死架???

你問下你老公咁樣都話無野,咁點先算有野???互有好感算唔算???係咪要上埋床先算???

我講比我honey聽,佢都話你老公擺明玩野喇!!!

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焯嵐媽咪

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小manman

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原文章由 焯嵐媽咪 於 08-4-5 19:25 發表
一口氣睇左咁多頁,有d男人就真係咁,明明自己有問題,就將責任推比人,等第時有人問起,佢就可以話,我唔想架,係佢迫我,我覺得佢無得變,佢只係不斷洗緊自己個腦,一日未拖手都係朋友,我點關心佢都係朋友,你都無我辦法,依家 ...

我都覺得依架d男人的心態好奇怪,無論結左婚or未結婚都係咁~~~

我識得有個朋友,同一個男仔(單身無gf)瞹瞹眛眛左好多年,又係好似你老公咁做埋d令人誤會的舉動,e.g)約我個fd行花市、情人節約我個fd食飯、生日聖誕互送禮物.......令我個fd誤會左,拖拖拉拉左成4年幾,個男仔對我個fd忽冷忽熱,搞到我個fd好困擾,終於我個fd鼓起勇氣向個男仔表白,但個男仔竟然拒絕左,佢話佢唔想有穩定的關係,佢係一隻無腳的雀仔,佢唔會對一個女仔負責任.........反尾我個fd仲同我講佢有幾個fd的遭遇都係同佢一樣,個個男仔的對白都一樣~~~

所以,我覺得依架d男人好享受呢d咁的關係,鍾意就揾下你,又唔使負責任又唔使承諾d乜~~~

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焯嵐媽咪

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M_ind

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發表於 08-4-5 19:55 |只看該作者

樓主你同佢講, 你既然對朋友價值觀係咁, 對朋友仲好過對自已老婆, 咁不如, 我同你做返朋友算, 因為我都想你對我, 好似你對你D朋友咁好呀..又一齊食早餐, 又MORNING CALL...
咁睇下你老公點, 如果你老公真係做到一樣對你咁好GE, 咁咪佢人無問題囉, 如果做吾到, 佢就自打咀把, 睇佢仲點夾硬來

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豆丁

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發表於 08-4-5 20:09 |只看該作者

e+同佢老公講乜都係無用~佢老公覺得自己有道理,樓主就係無理~留返啖氣暖下肚好過,行動最實際~

原文章由 M_ind 於 08-4-5 19:55 發表
樓主你同佢講, 你既然對朋友價值觀係咁, 對朋友仲好過對自已老婆, 咁不如, 我同你做返朋友算, 因為我都想你對我, 好似你對你D朋友咁好呀..又一齊食早餐, 又MORNING CALL...
咁睇下你老公點, 如果你老公真係做到一樣 ...

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M_ind

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原文章由豆丁於 08-4-5 20:09 發表
e+同佢老公講乜都係無用~佢老公覺得自己有道理,樓主就係無理~留返啖氣暖下肚好過,行動最實際~

岩, 行動先係最實際, 所以先要行動

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原文章由 buyer 於 08-4-5 09:48 發表
我老公一向對人好好, 佢無論對男對女都好好, 但遇上某 d 受落的人, 他會更好, 所以久不久我地之間就會有 d 女性, 同佢行為怪怪的, 我老公對 d 女仔好, 但佢地又不是開始發展, 但我心中好不安, 好似唔知幾時會發生婚 ...

總之,,你睇緊D啦!你老公好昜出事!
性格係敢,
好昜比錯信息d女人!

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buyer

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工廠妹, 他在我面前打電話, 不會覺得不尊重我嫁, 他打電話比(朋友), 點會唔尊重我, 只係我死話佢地有野 g ma. / 佢少返來食反, 但其他節日都在既, 佢同人地曖昧啫, 未開始, 對方見佢有家庭, 都唔係太有興趣, 不過享受他對自己好啫. / 我有工作的
premum2006, 佢一向都朋友都好既, 不過如果對方受落, 佢會對佢更好, 再受落, 再好, 所以由普通, 都會去到曖昧, 因佢發出錯的 signal..... 佢對我當然好啦, 咩事無發生, 一定好好, 佢都係愛我先同我結婚, 但結婚後, 又忍唔住去約束自己, 一有機會同人地曖昧, 佢就即刻變臉, 我講句早晨, 都會係壓力, 都係煩.
咸濕大師, 我都好似你咁諗, 原來有人支持呢個做法, 我都唔係想做比佢睇, 而係覺得佢令我心淡左, 雖然我仍愛他, 但我愛他愛得好理智, 唔會全情放晒落去.
wife, 我都有皮氣, 但我知發皮氣唔會解決到問題, 會比佢win晒tim. 我諗我老公同你老公當時一樣啦, 有比人追的感覺, 真係好開心既, 我夠知啦, 有誰人唔享受, 不過代價可能太大, 我玩唔起啫. ... 離家出走, 分居書, 我未做到呢步, 因為咁係駁一駁, 駁到有老公, 駁唔到, 個家就散, 所以無咁做住.
ivymeoow, 佢同男友關係不好, 佢男友對她不好, 我老公也知,有時向我老公講兩句, 最近, 佢都同男友分手了. / 食早餐, 佢答我我地唔係一齊返工, 唔同路, 你米夾硬搵野來嘈啦
M_ind, 係, 我都覺唯有大家鬥賴皮....睇下邊個頂唔順先, 不過佢天性賴皮, 我係刻意賴皮, 唔係本性, 我怕佢無佢咁叻, 最後比中埋佢計啫
christy, 多謝你, 我都一樣咁諗, 我當然覺得他無理我地, 他當然覺得自己無問題, 所以我地之間先攪成咁, 攪到我都煩埋.
小manman, 佢話問咩人啫, 你想點呀, 一班人比壓力呀, 多人話錯, 就係錯, 咁唔通有人話我啱, 你就會應同我咩.... / 她有bf, 但 bf 對她不好, 不珍惜她, 她最近也分手了. / 佢話好感人人都有, 無咩問題, 我問係米上床先算, 你話我痴線, 唔知講左去邊...
焯嵐媽咪, 係呀, 我現在接受佢中, 在諗緊對策, 因為嘈就令問題令大, 而家忍住佢先, 我唔係想屈服, 但係我要時間去諗如何做下一步.
M_ind, 佢話, 我朝朝都有叫你起喎, (他有, 一起床個下叫一叫我個名囉, 無論我有無起身, 佢都無理) , 佢亦話, 如果你同我返工地點近, 一齊食早餐, 無問題喎.

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evelette

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發表於 08-4-5 22:06 |只看該作者

現在你出現兩難情況：
一，老公的行為不合理，但又不肯停，又不肯認對他人有企圖。
二，想離婚但又心愛著他。

你自己都知其實最終的路是：離婚，因為終有一日會出事！

對你老公的強詞奪理，我覺得你可以順勢而上，說：

對，我個人太保守，把尺同你好不同，竟然大家價值觀咁不同，不如分開，仔女大家都有份，比個官判，我會叫律師比定分居書你……
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若他真的大你，講真，這個老公不要也吧了，若他怕了，你尚可以保留一個家。但你真的要堅強，他任何讉責的說話都無須回應了，因為沒用的。

真的要想法子脫離這樣的老公，因為他根本沒把你放在心上！

若他一而再再而三地踐踏你的人格、道德觀、人品等，或把離婚的責任推給你，你就啃了吧，他根本就無藥可救！

加油！

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1123cat

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原文章由 evelette 於 08-4-5 22:06 發表
現在你出現兩難情況：
一，老公的行為不合理，但又不肯停，又不肯認對他人有企圖。
二，想離婚但又心愛著他。

你自己都知其實最終的路是：離婚，因為終有一日會出事！

對你老公的強詞奪理，我覺得你可以順勢而上，說：

對，我個人太保守，把 ...

講得啱!

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mayho1119

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原文章由 buyer 於 08-4-5 09:48 發表
我老公一向對人好好, 佢無論對男對女都好好, 但遇上某 d 受落的人, 他會更好, 所以久不久我地之間就會有 d 女性, 同佢行為怪怪的, 我老公對 d 女仔好, 但佢地又不是開始發展, 但我心中好不安, 好似唔知幾時會發生婚 ...

我好明白你既心情.....因我老公都同一個女同事好好,(除左無日日叫佢番工,因為佢地係要輪班既),經常sms,傾電話,簡中去下街咁.佢又係話只係好好傾既同事...我老公又係對男男女女都好,但同這個女人特別好,總知就好曖昧.....我日日都哭哭啼啼,好似顛左咁,每日都不停check佢.....拖拉左兩年.去到前兩個月,同幾個男性朋友傾個,佢地俾左d意見我及有同我分析男人既心理........大部份既男人都係犯賤,自己個老婆成日係屋企(我都係成日係屋企),d男人就會覺得好安穩,就會身痕,跟住我就開始以牙還牙.....首先,唔好再問佢同個女同事d嘢,扮無嘢幾日,跟住放工有時去唱k,食飯(大約一星期兩次),(我都有個歲幾大既仔,不過就係奶奶揍,所以平日可以去下街)最緊要老公打電話來唔好聽,過半個鐘頭到先覆佢電話..當時我有搵d朋友send　sms 俾我,又有時電話響就專登行遠d聽,總知要俾佢緊張番你,如果個老公仲愛你既話,佢一定會開始擔心...之後,我老公見我去街就會打電話俾我,問長問短.又問我做咩咁多電話既,跟
住佢同我講會唔同個女同事咁好啦!雖然佢地都有聯絡,不過已經少左好多.總知暫時唔好再同佢嘈,嘈幾多次都唔會有用.
以上係我既經驗,希望幫到你....

我之前都係好down,都有上來bk同人傾...

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lokyinma

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發表於 08-4-6 00:29 |只看該作者

我覺得mayho1119的做法好啱, 依家你點逼個老公都冇用. 佢己經沉醉係呢段曖昧關係度, 一時都好難拉返佢出來. 佢又咁多歪理, 你都唔夠佢講!
一於好似mayho1119的做法, 唔好理佢幾日, 之後成日去街, 唔覆佢電話, 但又密密同人傾電話, msn, 等佢緊張下你. 如果過咗一段時間, 佢都係沒變, 又唔係好緊你的話, 咁就証明佢都唔係好愛你, 你想唔離婚都難了...

原文章由 mayho1119 於 08-4-5 22:55 發表

我好明白你既心情.....因我老公都同一個女同事好好,(除左無日日叫佢番工,因為佢地係要輪班既),經常sms,傾電話,簡中去下街咁.佢又係話只係好好傾既同事...我老公又係對男男女女都好,但同這個女人特別好,總知就好曖昧 ...

我有一對寶貝仔女

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zxzx

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發表於 08-4-6 14:06 |只看該作者

I have the same experience as your before. May be I can share with you (sorry, type in Eng because my Chinese pack not working!).

My C6 is also a very good man. He has female workmates & they are very friend. I'm ok & not jealous because I know in his heart he only has me & their acts are normal, just friend & close.

But at one time, I discovered that he acted very strange, everytime when I came close to his computer, he was angry & asked me to go away. I felt so pizzled about this act. Then I found out that he was msn~ing with a 17 years old girl (not female workmake, not net friend). He knew that girl because she was a cheap cheap photo group model & my C6 likes photography. I also found that he treated her very different from his very close female workmates. In fact, I felt that he treated her like he was chasing me in the past. E.g. He msn her everyday & everynight for several hours, said that miss her for not contacting with her for two days, went out alone with her for dinner, bought birthday presents for her (for me, even I bought birthday cake for myself), deliberately to book a photo session to get her off work at 11pm (when I worked OT at 12am or 1am, he didn't come & get me at all).

Since that girl is 17 & my C6 is 30, he told me it's impossible for them to go together. Also with the age gap, I think that girl also doesn't love my C6 (all things were done by my C6 - that's why I was upset about this too!). But I knew that girl's relationship with boys was massy & always had fights with her bf. She knew my C6 was married & C6 even told her & me that he loved me only. But I thought this kind of girl ('wet mu'), if there is one more man to treat her good, one more shoulder for her, why not? Also she is good at pretenting ~~~ to be pure. My C6 said she was a good girl (oh No!, a 16/17 girl quit school, always lying = good girl???

~~~ all these were told by my C6)

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So ... I think after you have calmly talked him about your feelings, don't expect him to understand - just let him know only, because he loses conscious, logics & sense now, like a drunken person ~~~ only he is right & you are wrong. You don't need to argue with him. Do you think a drunken person totally listen & understand what you say now?

忍 - but you need some tactics to make it worthwhile! The people above are right, men are selfish & afraid wearing 'green hat' (I'm not telling you to give him a 'green hat'), but you can act like him (you can find female friends to pretend), make yourself more prettier & go out, don't put too much attention & focus on him - very important ! If he wants to go out, let him to go out.
You need to make a total change from inside to outside, look & attitude. Sometimes, this may make him awake. He may think why my wife not asking me now but why she goes out often & dresses so pretty? You need to do sth to make himself think, not you tell him because he won't feel it (you have tried, not working, right?)

At the same time, you MUST think carefully about your relationship with him, anything wrongs? anythings he dissatisfied about you? It must be sth that girl attracts him but you don't have, e.g. may be just a warm or funny conversation which he needs now to make him happy because of work pressure. Like a magnet, you need to attract him back (not just outlook), so he won't be attracted by other girls (even ugly girls). You must find out the cause about his behaviour - only this can help you for a real solution.

Now, my C6 won't contact that girl at all - but this is after my hard works & sorrows