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原帖由 KiuShaBB 於 09-6-4 17:23 發表

Of course can't her the truth, never.

你妯埋當然係6299面前扮到好人啦, 明知6299唔鐘意你, 駛咩同你爭吖? 點都要識大體同你好既, 做俾人地睇嘛.

Thanks.

You're so right.

This time, really "Walk with your enemy"

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原帖由 F$A$T 於 09-6-4 17:22 發表

乜你6299甘架, 夾硬嚟既.
佢地係外國生活, 應該明白咩叫民主wor. 呢D野邊有得逼架.
你老公又係, 佢讀番書架wor, 吾係學民主自由, 自主架咩.
家下咩年代! 結婚都吾想再同父母住啦, 更何況仲要同埋兄弟成棚住. ...

去過外國生活不一定知道什麼是民主. 老董都在英國讀書. 你話佢民唔民主?

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原帖由 zxzx 於 09-6-4 16:57 發表
Use 妯娌 is a good way, let me think how.

She won't help me if I tell her the truth, so I can't use her directly, because she always pretends like me and stands for 9962 (pretends as a good daughter ...

駛物想咁多"橋", 唔番就唔番. 大家成年人. 我想他們都是知道你的想法. 我想反而你用咁多橋仲攪到大家都好假.

你的屋是否同你老公聯名? 若果是. 那你死都唔簽名賣, 沒有人會可以賣得出. 你要保護自己. 你不保護自己. 唔通等你老公出手? 他似乎是會"投誠"的機會好高.

你要明確和你老公講你不喜歡! 你沒有時間了, 不要以為仲有三年. 他老爺奶奶連你間屋可以賣多少錢. 你要"貢獻"多少給未來那間大宅門都想定同埋開到聲. 仲有你說你老公要有"計劃". 那不是要近期實行嗎?

賣樓/買樓不是一兩日內做得完的事. 所以他們現在PLAN定三年後的事. 他們覺得唔夠時間呢!

一句到底: 保護自己, 要老公表態. 他下半世是同父母過定是同你過!

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發表於 09-6-10 01:48 |只看該作者

I felt so unhappy after hearing this.

My c6 told me that 62 will buy 2 houses, one for c6's brother and one for us (of course, not free, we contribute half and 62 contribute half in our house). 9962 will live with us, because they are now living with brother, so we need to live with them (for the rest of their life) later.

After selling our own house, the money will be paid for our current mortgage, the new house and for c6's business (because he can't find job in overseas) but he is not a businessman.

They even want to put forward their 'plan' by end of next year, not after 3 years.

I didn't know of their plan at all, just c6 told me, I'm just 'informed'.

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發表於 09-6-10 01:57 |只看該作者

I don't mind to move overseas if this is good for our family & c6 (even go, will be after 10+ years). But this is just 9962's order. What the selfish parents !!! They don't think about c6's career (he can have a good career in HK).

I sacrificed my career in overseas and came back to hk (because 9962 wanted c6 to come back to hk). Now they want c6 to sacrifice his career in hk (and my just established career in hk) and go to overseas with them together, and use our house money to set up a small business for c6 (so-called a job, usually this business makes loss).

Our house is my last asset, and it's paid by my parents (c6 & I repay my parents, we're half way thru), so I don't want to sell it.

[ 本帖最後由 zxzx 於 09-6-10 02:08 編輯 ]

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原帖由 KiuShaBB 於 09-6-4 17:23 發表

Of course can't her the truth, never.

你妯埋當然係6299面前扮到好人啦, 明知6299唔鐘意你, 駛咩同你爭吖? 點都要識大體同你好既, 做俾人地睇嘛.

你而家咪扮同佢friend囉, 當佢係"九尾狐" , 仲話遲d可能一齊 ...

Can't use this and no time, because 62 will buy a separate house for her.

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原帖由 lo310 於 09-6-5 01:21 發表

駛物想咁多"橋", 唔番就唔番. 大家成年人. 我想他們都是知道你的想法. 我想反而你用咁多橋仲攪到大家都好假.

你的屋是否同你老公聯名? 若果是. 那你死都唔簽名賣, 沒有人會可以賣得出. 你要保護自己. 你不保護自 ...

Thanks. 屋是同c6聯名. That's why we argued tonight. He wants me to sell the house. He thinks 9962's plan is 'perfect'

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原帖由 zxzx 於 09-6-10 01:57 發表
I don't mind to move overseas if this is good for our family & c6 (even go, will be after 10+ years). But this is just 9962's order. What the selfish parents !!! They don't think about c6's career ...

When you said overseas - which country do you mean?

With economy the way it is now, unemployment is rising everywhere so it is a lot harder to find work. You said you can find work overseas, but it may not be as well pay and high level as you have now in HK. You also said c6 maynot find work overseas, without formal qualifications, he is likely to stuck with job as a salesman or waiter - is this something he will be happy with.

Small businesses are suffering a lot too as people have to tighten their budget to save for a rainy day. So unless your c6 has a "sure win" idea to start a new business overseas ...

I would advise to stay with your current jobs and wait for a better opportunity.

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原帖由 zxzx 於 09-6-10 01:57 發表
I don't mind to move overseas if this is good for our family & c6(even go, will be after 10+ years). But this is just 9962'sorder. What the selfish parents !!! They don't think about c6'scareer (he can have a good career in HK).

I sacrificed my career in overseas and came back to hk (because 9962wanted c6 to come back to hk). Now they want c6 to sacrifice hiscareer in hk (and my just established career in hk) and go to overseaswith them together, and use our house money to set up a small businessfor c6 (so-called a job, usually this business makes loss).

Our house is my last asset, and it's paid by my parents (c6 & Irepay my parents, we're half way thru), so I don't want to sell it.

成件事最攪野就是為什麼你老爺奶奶咁堅持要同仔女一起去外國? 依家不是要仔女一起在香港住埋咁簡單. 而是要你一家連根拔起--之前你們已經"徇眾要求"由外國連根拔起回來了香港. 他們好似有點過份. 就算去外國, 有那麼多"國", 為什麼一定要一起去同一國?

另外, 你老公好似不是和你相量. 而是通知你有關"計劃" 而且好像"老馮"地要你配合. 最攪笑是你老爺奶奶以為間屋好似佢咁. 他們知不知首期是你父母出嗎?

還有, 你說你老公在外國找不到工作. 而你在港上了軌道. 為什麼可以放棄香港的比較穩陣的工作而投身去外國, 承受巨大的風險? 你老公有沒有說他在外國攪什麼"大生意"? 他們那perfect 的plan 是什麼? 2003年沙士時很多人都說自己出來創業, 結果只是給自己找一份好辛苦的工作(例如開小吃店, 7-11, 報紙檔) 最後都是執笠收場. 現在外國正正衰退. 他可以有什麼好的business model?

你外家是否在香港? 若你去了外國和老爺奶奶一起住, 你將會孤立無援. 看來你真的要想清楚.

你老公真是很聽他父母話. 但... 我對這些"孝順"仔真不敢恭維.

而且, 你和老爺奶奶一起住, 就不要想可以搬出去. 因為將來他們只會愈來愈老. 咁... 即是你們不孝. 不肯照顧他們啦. 仲有, 香港男性的平均壽命是79.5年，女性為85.6年 (2006年). 當你老爺依家62歲(3年後65歲退休) 你要對佢18年! 你頂得住嗎? 你下一代在他們的"教導"下成長. 你頂得住嗎?

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唉, 深表同情.

mouth:
O的咁霸道既夫家, 真係同佢地住一日都嫌多. 堅持呀樓主! 唔好你以後既日子FORSEE得到唔會好好過......

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終於明白why9962趕住去overseas, 因為佢地至like ge 新袍 (叔仔老婆-港女, 住公屋)話一定要去overseas, 唔返工, 先肯生bb (而家未有). 除叔仔老婆, 我地所有人(me & 男家) 一早已有passport.

咁佢要去實現佢個生仔夢, 就叫佢c6 (去到overseas冇工做架, but佢有水, 因平時食住用9962,even 去overseas)同9962一齊去. 99親口對我說佢一定要去架, 去幫手. 99話佢地明年年頭(put forward original timetable)就去, if 我 pregnant, 在hk生完就比亞b佢番overseas look after wor, 我心諗

而家要諗, 係味因為人地要去生仔, 我地就順從9962跟埋去, 放棄hk d career? 99叫 c6 去做洗碗 (because c6 can't find a job in overseas, sure) !!!

至於住, 9962 會買one house, give us one bedroom; no money for business for c6 to work (because 9962 will give the money to 叔仔老婆 for her business). So c6要諗店自己去做セjob or 佢接唔接受到做洗碗law.

聽完, 我想喊, 又失眠. 真係又1次為c6's family 放棄自己ge career dream (已finish Master, 打算讀博士), 唔知點同自己家人交代放棄讀博士 & c6去做洗碗個d工.

[ 本帖最後由 zxzx 於 09-8-4 05:25 編輯 ]

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原帖由 zxzx 於 09-8-4 05:24 發表
...99叫 c6 去做洗碗 ...

如果係咁 - 一定要c6係香港去實習一個月先, 試下有幾辛苦!

夏天窒桑拿, 冬天浸凍水.
日日企起碼十小時.
放工後累到想死.
每星期工作七日 - 因為工資低.
如果係美國, 重要靠tips!

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重要係 - 以後四五十年都係一樣.
無升職, 無加薪.
退休時點算好?

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原帖由 zxzx 於 09-8-4 05:24 發表
終於明白why9962趕住去overseas, 因為佢地至like ge 新袍 (叔仔老婆-港女, 住公屋)話一定要去overseas, 唔返工, 先肯生bb (而家未有). 除叔仔老婆, 我地所有人(me & 男家) 一早已有passport.

咁佢要去實現佢個生 ...

樓主,不要怪我直言, 其實, 你6299係有控制慾,係自私,但你c6 even你自己都應該要有自主權, 你既然話你住緊間屋係你父母幫你比錢,你現在仲還緊,即係由始至終你6299嗰邊都無幫過你啦,既然人地都無當你自己人,又一向都唔鍾意你, 你又何必要去做一個沒有自己的聽話新抱呢?
如果你6299平時控制你地係一d芝麻緑頭既事,我會叫你算啦,老人家係咁,但今次控制既係人生大事, 自己家庭問題, 我勸你都係自己按自己的plan去做好d, 如果ｃ６真的咁愚孝，你要儲定錢，留後路比自己走啦，因睇黎除非你肯屈服及遷就（無了期的遷就）你ｃ６的ｆａｍｉｌｙ，否則，你ｃ６應該不會為咗你而放棄佢的”大好家庭”，因佢已習慣比你６２９９控制

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發表於 09-8-4 12:36 |只看該作者

你仲諗緊呀

mouth:

人地生仔要去overseas 就去囉.

你地有你地在hk生活, 各不相干.

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佢生仔點解要你地陪佢一齊去生呀,咁你咪話你都要生,但你就一定留係香港生,叫佢地黎做陪月同去洗碗養你一家又得唔得

真係咩人都有,你9962都咁自私同唔理你地感受,咁聽話有獎呀:;pppp: 真係彩佢地都傻啦

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發表於 09-8-4 13:16 |只看該作者

我無看前文, 淨知你有個Masters degree, 打算讀博士,
估計你c6起碼都有個學士degree,
有份工或 career.

你地甘心去做洗碗個d工咩 ?
係咁去外國做乜 ?
就咁混混愕愕過一世人 ?

[ 本帖最後由 Bluestar 於 09-8-4 13:39 編輯 ]

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