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Re: 佢.....話好憎我...........

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Re: 佢.....話好憎我...........

人生匆匆幾拾年,好快就過去.
我想講係....你已經覺得呢種生活係過得咁痛苦,仲點解要過落去呢? 兩個人一起生活,是但一個改變左,就真係好難一齊的,仲話要過埋下半世呢? 緣份冇左,就唔好勉強對方,勉強大家,你要攬住痛苦而唔想面對"失婚"兩個字..........,實在太愚蠢喇!你咁折磨自己,對方一d都唔會有悔疚的.
放手唔代表你一無所有,反而係重生的開始.
有時候,男人比女人更懦弱,人冇只錯一次之後,就唔會錯第二次,婚姻失敗,唔係一定係自己錯,更何況感情冇得分對錯.
在我而言,話因為小朋友而勉強自己去維持一段唔開心的婚姻,係好愚蠢的事,你估小朋友唔會知道發生緊什麼事嗎?一個冇笑聲冇生氣的家,小朋友會健康成長嗎?

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發表於 05-2-28 23:04 |只看該作者

Re: 佢.....話好憎我...........

我好同意yuyumon的講法,結婚係要將兩個人結合,來活出一段幸福快樂o既人生,但在我眼中來睇,你沒有得到幸福,心中只有痛苦.一生人~青春是有限的,你應該襯現在還年輕,去選擇一條令自已活得更快樂的路而行.

不要勉強對方改變性格來遷就你, 只有引導對方改善自己來迎合你. 凡事無須太執著,執著只會添苦惱.

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Re: 佢.....話好憎我...........

我覺得佢根本都無心傾架啦!
男人比女人更鍾意逃避問題!~

大家好!~~~我是阿包子~~~ 阿包子個阿~~~ 阿包子個包~~~ 阿包子個子~~~ 謝謝~~~ ;-) ;-) ;-) ;-) ;-) ;-) ;-) ;-) ;-)

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Re: 佢.....話好憎我...........

Don't be silly! It's time to let go. Don't love someone who won't care about your feelings! You will never regret about leaving! There is nothing more precious than you and your baby's happiness.

My ex-bf treated me the same before, he just suddenly 冷落我, stopped talking with me, left me alone at home in Valentine's Day and my birthday(he went out drinking with his friends). When I asked him to face the problem, he just wouldn't say a word. I gave him more than 2 months to change. I kept waiting, waiting, waiting. I felt like living in hell, being in the same house but I seemed like a living-dead to him. At the end......

I couldn't stand it, I was awake myself, I told myself it's time to let go of someone who wouldn't care about my feelings, my tears were precious to me but not to him. I told him I wanted to separate with him. By that time, my heart was dead and he regret for what he had done to me, knee down and cried with all tears ran down on his face begging me. He said he never said he didn't love me. He abandoned me because he had many pressure about losing a job and money problem at that time. He said he couldn't handle things all together at one time. I told him the things he did already represent he didn't love me. No one treated their gf like this in Valentine's day and her birthday, and I had no confidence for him, what if next time when he get pressure and do the same thing again. I told him it was too late, there was no way I would be with him again because I tried so hard to let go.

He tried to do everything to chase me back. Better than when I was his gf. Self-made cards, gifts, presents, more than ever. Even though I told him the chance was zero. He had tried 2 years even though he knew I am married.

Now he finally accepted the fact that he had to let go. But one thing he couldn't let go is he had made a big mistake in his life of losing me and he still can't forgive himself. We become friends and he accepts.

I am so lucky to have my husband treats me like a princess. He cares so much about my feelings, every little single thing. He will give me all his time apart from working hours. He will go wherever I want to, eat whatever I choose and buy me many beautiful gifts that I never felt that I was so precious as long as I lived. He made me feel confident and happy.

One truth saying: Don't take love for granted......and Men.....you don't know what you've got until you lost it!!

I am sure ChickChick feels the same way too. :mrgreen:

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Re: 佢.....話好憎我...........

youngmum,

好明白你依家有幾咁無助，希望你諗到解決既方法！

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Re: 佢.....話好憎我...........

如果幼兒園...你本身要有份工先至可以申請學費減免,但如果你以單親去申請,我就唔知得唔得,詳細情形我始終覺得你最好搵個社工FOLLOW吓...

點都好,所以既嘢都要諗清楚至做,如果仲可以既話,始終你同你老公兩個坐低講清楚好啲,結果點都好,始終都要將件事件搞清楚講清楚,以免日後你同佢都有個心結响度,只會令大家唔舒服...你明嘛?

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Re: 佢.....話好憎我...........

唉~連我都唔知點好...原本大家一齊講清楚係最妥善既解決方法...既然佢都可以講到咁,我諗同佢呢啲咁既人都無嘢好講...咁你有無同外家講呢件事?我諗呢個時候你同屋企人都要做好準備(包括心理上),初頭實有唔慣,但始終你同囝囝可以重新生活,所以點都好!你要努力呀!

如果你本身有嘢做,咁就無問題喇!總之搵個社工幫你,有咩問題多啲搵朋友/BK媽咪幫手,咁到時你就唔會咁辛苦喇!始終你有份工要做,又要處理日後既住屋等問題,所以有啲咩需要,真係要講出嚟,可以幫到既,我地個個都願意幫你!

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Re: 佢.....話好憎我...........

youngmum,

你而家最好去搵明愛或其它服務機構幫你，其實事情已經發展到呢度，你不妨搵一個最好既朋友或親人，講晒成件事比佢知，有朋友和親人既支持和幫你，你會舒服好多．可妨離婚又唔係什麼不見得光既事，最重要係解決問題，你唔好再一個人撐落去喇！

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Re: 佢.....話好憎我...........

youngmum,
好開心聽到你的決定,老實講咁既男人要來做什麼

佢一點尊嚴都唔比你﹐即你在佢心中無地位羅﹐唔好再為個甘既人傷心﹐好好照顧bb同自己,等人唔好以為無左佢唔得,開始係她唔習慣.但慢慢就會習慣,你應該開心因為咖使再睇人面色,

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Re: 佢.....話好憎我...........

如果租屋方面,你可以試吓睇新界地區,嗰度可能會平好多,我以前有個同事响元朗租咗個單位,三百幾呎,無記錯都係好平,但詳細我就唔多清楚...至於旺角太子,我早排見到人地貼招租,都要成四五千蚊,但就有四五百呎...你可以去多啲唔同地區睇吓,至緊要方便自己番工同湊小朋友,如果可以既話,我都可以幫你望吓(响地產公司),總之唔需要太過擔心!亦唔需要再諗番之前唔開心既事,始終,無謂為咗啲咁既人而令自己唔開心!佢唔懂得珍惜係佢自己笨,你唔需要再在意佢點諗!努力去建立你同囝囝既新生活啦!

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Re: 佢.....話好憎我...........

youngmum,

你唔好諗敢多喇！佢再做Ｄ咩，講Ｄ咩已經唔重要喇！你亦都無謂聽佢講．佢話你衰你黑人憎，難道佢人見人愛，起碼呢度無一個人認同，所以你根本唔需要記住佢既說話．你現在係要安排將來，我地可以提點你，但始終幫唔到Ｄ咩，你身邊既家人及好友先可以落手落腳去幫你，支持你．

祝福你明天會更好．

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Re: 佢.....話好憎我...........

youngmum,

既然你有能力照顧自己和小朋友, 就不要等那些膳養費, 你想拿的只不過是一千幾百, 但就要為這小小錢和那個人周旋。

你可以先帶小朋友回外家嗎? 可以的話先回外家住一排, 儲些錢才出外找屋, 找社工幫忙一下, 可能亦可以申請公屋, 這樣你和小朋友固定居所, 生活就踏實了。

祝願你生活愉快, 你和小朋友就算只有兩人, 都很幸福。

加油!

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