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yanau,
我今年都30 lu.. 又踏入人生另一個新階段...
其實,己經冇乜嘢令我唔開心lu...
老公冇再迫我去99度俾佢精神同心理虐待...已經算係咁..
嘩!你就好啦,仲有4年就可以"luck"身....阿女18歲..
我成30,個女只得歲半,仲有17歲挨呢!...
我哋呢邊孩子18歲多數搬出去...
到時只望每年thanks giving (感恩節)同聖誕..佢有時間就返一返嚟探我哋咯

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rainbowbb

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發表於 05-3-11 15:14 |只看該作者

Re: 請一起跟我走過在紐約黑暗無助的日子

My parents got the immigrant visa when I was pregnant so they asked me to go there with them to help them settle down. My uncle agreed to stay to his house but later he asked us to move to somewhere else as my aunt will be back to USA soon. (She is a jealous person). My uncle's daughter asked us to stay to her place and we need to pay for all utilities + some housekeeping work. But what happens on the second day, she listed out the duties that my mom needed to do. When my mom showed it to me, I got mad so I asked my uncle to help us to find an apartment. (My uncle is nice, he brought me to see doctor and go shopping as we didn't know driving). We are so glad that we rent it because we can do whatever we want. However, the aunt called us and left message in the voicemail. (My uncle asked us not to answer any phone call from her stating she is crazy). I was so curious so I listened to the message. She said I took away her husband, is that if I do not have a man, I will die etc. She said I am a bitch and cheap that I took some utencils from her. My uncle lent them to us for temporary uses as they do not use them. I really hate her. :evil: ?-(

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發表於 05-3-11 22:14 |只看該作者

Re: 請一起跟我走過在紐約黑暗無助的日子

rainbowbb..
喺咁嘅情況, 如果你呢位auntie繼續騷擾你哋, no matter by phone call or in person, 你哋就可以report 俾警察分局知....咁只係保護自己..ok?
你住喺邊個州呀? BB出世未?
new york 州同LA (加州)有２大group 香港媽咪, 我哋都會互相幫忙架... MD.. 馬利蘭州都有1個香港媽咪...
你要幫手就出聲啦..
大家都試過寄人籬下,可謂同是天涯淪落人.... 呢度啲華人係咁現實架啦...我哋要睇開啲... 反正道不同,不商為謀, right?

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Soleil

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發表於 05-3-12 05:24 |只看該作者

Re: 請一起跟我走過在紐約黑暗無助的日子

Nillie_Mami,
Reading through your story is like watching a touching drama movie. It hurts to know that still now a day, people can be so cruel to each other. Especially to a new born baby. I'm sure they will burn in hell ! If I were you, I will no douth avoid getting in touch with them as much as possible. Find some excuses, eventhough is your mother-in-law's birthday or New Year's gathering. Why bother to join them if they'd labeled your family is an un-wellcome one. Avoid those gatherings are to avoid getting upset over their unpleasant comments. Don't you think that spending more time with your baby is worthwise than listening to their garbage? I'm sorry to say that you're not strong enough when facing his family. You can say to your sister-in-law's face, that giving poisonous "cat poo poo sand " to a child to munch-in is like murder in a secondary degree. Scare her so she can back-out in the future. You should stand up to your right in order to protect your family. otherwise, the little on is always the one getting hurt. Please don't mind my opinion, as I don't want to see your child getting hurt by those nasty people. I totally understand the helpless feeling when staying at a relative's house. As my family too has the exact experience when we immigrate to Canada. We'd stayed at my uncle's house. He's nice but my aunt is a terrible person. She always said that we took things from her, eat all food in the fridge that left nothing to her children, made her carpet dirty etc. She'd also asigned house duties to my mom, eldest sister and brother to do, like cleaning the house weekly, washing dishes every meals, can not use washing machine, only hand wash all our clothes, turn-off the light after 8:00pm, walk the dog every morning and night, bathe the dog, etc. We're not allow to watch TV, no radio, my parents can only get around the city by bicycle, as she forbidden my dad's to drive because she said is a waste of fuel. Back then, I was very young, but those bad memories are just like yesterday...I'm glad that all endend after a month, when my parents has everything settle down. I have lots of overseas local chinese relatives, they're very cheap, the money sign is so big that blinded all their view. All I can say is less contact, less "brain damage".

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發表於 05-3-12 12:46 |只看該作者

Re: 請一起跟我走過在紐約黑暗無助的日子

Soleil,
起初打算寫出以往俾老公夫家虐待嘅事之前,有諗-->冇人會信,我字裡行間全是眼淚...而我爸爸知道佢哋點對我同Amanda之後,喊咗好多次...怨自己俾我嫁嚟美國俾人克薄...我好後悔自己崩潰時打電話話俾爸爸知,佢今年60架喇,我仲咁唔成熟令佢担心...
我睇得出你aunt真係xo--> 極品...佢哋啲克薄嘢同我夫家啲人嘅所為有過之而無不及...
而家...試我又考完,4星期左右我會收到new york 護士牌.. 希望在明天..
你呢?近況如何?

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發表於 05-3-12 17:37 |只看該作者

Re: 請一起跟我走過在紐約黑暗無助的日子

Nillie_Mami ,
I am in Denver at that time but I am in HK now. So tell us if you get 護士牌, we will be glad to hear that. You'll have great future and make new friends so don't visit those murderer. :mrgreen:

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發表於 05-3-12 22:12 |只看該作者

Re: 請一起跟我走過在紐約黑暗無助的日子

Rainbowbb,
我仲記得最初check message時, 次次喊到收唔到聲, 好多時都要老公攬實....日日好驚...晚晚失眠...就算到而家,有時發惡夢都見到佢哋點鬧我, 鬧到我喊, 醒時塊面都係眼淚..
Denver 喺colorado..? 你爸爸媽咪係咪仲住嗰隻,嗰邊如果唔識英文,會比較難生活呢....
咁你喺香港好嗎?BB幾大喇?

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發表於 05-3-14 15:25 |只看該作者

Re: 請一起跟我走過在紐約黑暗無助的日子

各位係外地嘅媽咪,希望你地堅強、努力地生活,明天會更好~加油!

我的家有~
囉囉唆唆嘅煩人BaBa
傻下傻下嘅咕碌媽媽
少年宅男嘅雞仔謙哥哥
奀皮多手嘅豬仔浠弟弟
醜怪黏身嘅惡馬妹芊妍

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發表於 05-3-14 23:21 |只看該作者

請一起跟我走過在紐約黑暗無助的日子

Jilljojo,
多謝你嘅關心, 呢個forum係我哋部份海外媽咪嘅心聲, 我只希望,不幸嘅我哋只係佔所有海外(香港出世)媽咪嘅極小數呢...我哋個個都好努力生活,好希望真係明天會更好

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發表於 05-3-15 00:38 |只看該作者

Re: 請一起跟我走過在紐約黑暗無助的日子

Nillie_Mami
hello...我唔係全职mami..我要返工的..我BB 8個月..由我媽咪& 工人凑..
早幾日就睇到你嘅文章了, 不過近排工作勁忙,日日開夜，所以己家先复.....
點解佢哋咁狠心，這種行為唔好講對自已人, 就算對外人我們都做唔出la...
不過算la...都過去了...我始終相信這世界好公平，好人自然有好報...遠離佢地果D人la,,太將果D事擺係心中僅會讓自已唔舒服...
最緊要係你同 amanda & 你先生好好地生活，給amanda 1 個健康的家庭, 讓amanda 好好享受你哋的愛......
同埋你好好調理番自已的身體，多D 在電話中將amanda 的成長趣事話給你爸爸聽, 我想這是讓他放心 & 真正覺得安慰的吧!!
Good luck & keep in touch

minima

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發表於 05-3-15 01:03 |只看該作者

Re: 請一起跟我走過在紐約黑暗無助的日子

minima,

所以我要俾人知道..做過埠新娘一啲都唔好受,
同驚惕自己唔好再愚孝落去, 浪費時間,心力.
我遲啲會加入做在職媽咪嘅行列
而家, 我已通過美國聯邦嘅執業試, 我可以做番姑娘, 可以有一番作為
我要等人知道....我跌落谷底, 要堅信生命有take 2, 而且活得更豐盛.
BB8個月大, 好好玩呢...起碼唔識 say no...
Amanda 宜家日日講BB話...Bi Li Ba La...真係笑C我同肥bear bear 老公

:mrgreen:

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發表於 05-3-15 01:09 |只看該作者

Re: 請一起跟我走過在紐約黑暗無助的日子

Nillie_Mami ,
都唔知點解有D華人變成咁,乜唔係守望相助?

係colorado, 爸爸媽咪都unlike it, they will be back to HK. I am okay in HK and my baby is 4 month old but i am worry about my bb. She has seen a lot of doctor b/c of blood stool. 佢驗過冇腸胃炎, 有 doc 話肛門損 ( 佢飲人奶冇便秘), 有 doc 話敏感牛奶, 有 doc 話要照x-ray to find out the reason. But I don't want to b/c she is still little. 好煩 :cry:

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發表於 05-3-15 01:30 |只看該作者

Re: 請一起跟我走過在紐約黑暗無助的日子

Rainbowbb,
因為佢哋以為人人同佢哋啲仔女,兄弟姐妹結婚係為咗綠咭,
而剛初到貴境就當係"靠痴, 同白食白住"...
以為自已好"卿香"...
真可惜....咁咪俾我睇清楚佢哋啲人幾冇文化同教養咯!

BB definately 有問題, 一定要揾出大便出血原因...係咪鮮血?或瀝血(啡色)? 你有冇用過或俾人用過水銀探熱針探過patpat? 佢係飲媽媽奶...點解有醫生牛頭唔搭馬咀話敏感牛奶? BB要做檢查, 我怕長期出血會令BB貧血. BB啲大便係點樣架?

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發表於 05-3-15 01:30 |只看該作者

Re: 請一起跟我走過在紐約黑暗無助的日子

Nillie_Mami

不过你真係好叻!! 夠堅強...
同埋好彩你在hk 做過姑娘, 起碼有這方面知識,識得喂人奶要飲多D 葡萄糖水來.... 勁ar...如係其他人...係咁的環境下有可能mami & BB 都有事添........
后日我要出trip 5日啊!! 返來再傾la....

cheers

Mimina

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發表於 05-3-15 01:33 |只看該作者

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yes..大便出血???可能真係有D問題...都係轉睇其他資深醫生穩正D...BB野唔拖得.............

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發表於 05-3-15 01:41 |只看該作者

Re: 請一起跟我走過在紐約黑暗無助的日子

minima,
千其唔好學吖, 係完全冇得食嘅原因... 太肚餓...我先用蔔萄靈開水... 我嗰時坐月冇熱飯食過...日日只得隔夜飯(薑同晝絲)又少又細盒, 因為肚餓到"咕咕聲"先出此下冊... 因為二伯唔准我叫外賣,話我會放賊入屋喎...

祝一路順風, 遲啲見...

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發表於 05-3-15 04:11 |只看該作者

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Nillie_Manmi,
I know it's hard for people to believe what you had gone through. Some believe, some have doubts. It doesn't matter. I'm glad that you have finally posted your story. It brings lot of encouraging feedback from all overseas' mother. Hang-in there girl ! You're ok, as long as you have Amanda & jolly Bear Bear hubby along by your side

. You quote"好後悔自己崩潰時打電話話俾爸爸知,佢今年60架喇,我仲咁唔成熟令佢担心". None of us wanting our parents to worry, but sometime bad new is better than worst new. Bad new is what you've gone through, but worst new is when you've gone crazy and done something stupid which can't be repaired. I think in my opinion that maybe your dad had talk you out, and saved you from doing some regretful actions. But all these are in the past. Hey, I'm glad that you're a registered nurse now ! I'll bet your dad will be so happy to learned that you're still standing.
I'm also an overseas' bride who got married and move to HK. I have lived in Montreal since I was a few years old. When I moved to HK, all things are so different, people talk/walk/eat fast. everythings seemed to be in the fast lane. It took me 2 years to tune my channel to match them up. Since then, I have no problem blending in. Even to my husband's side family. I'm lucky that they are a very understanding family. Her aunt helped me a lot when I gave birth to my my boy. She'd cooked "ginger vineger " for me, and talk me out when I felt really depressed, especially the 1st few month after birth. Now, my boy is 2yrs and 4 months old. He's trying to put words into a phrase, that only me who can mostly understand, so cute! He's overall ok, but being in a terrible two period is quite a headache to deal with. Always say no, always wanting to do things by himself, otherwise, he'll throw a tantrum. Do you have some tips for me to handle him? Pls help nurse

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發表於 05-3-15 12:16 |只看該作者

Re: 請一起跟我走過在紐約黑暗無助的日子

Soleil,
你係好幸運嘅一個, 令人感到好安慰.. ^o^
你講得啱, 嗰時我滿腦仔壞思想...幸好...因為爸爸喊, 就好似一'把'打埋嚟, 我個心好痛, 死..唔係解決問題嘅方法, 仍然活著, 先有能力解決問題......
2歲幾嘅小朋友多數係咁, 佢哋活喺--本我, 自我之間又面臨超我嘅挑戰,有脾氣在所難免, 試多用佢哋嘅語言同重復佢哋講嘅說話, 表示明白...當佢哋無法執行指令, 唔好加大聲音同用高八度嘅聲線....宜用平穩聲線同強硬(firm)嘅語氣重復指令, 同時提醒仔仔, 如佢唔跟住做會令你同佢baba好傷心... 當佢或大人做錯事, 要學識say sorry...
Amanda都會有temper tantrum..但train 咗佢一段時間, so far, 佢明白玩具唔出玩具鋪, 出舖前同玩具say good bye..etc..

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