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Re: 同老婆又鬧不和...................

我其實覺得男人同女人既壓力都差吾多大架!無理由吾可以無自己既私人時間卦...

我隻BAND佬夠成日放工番黎就入房彈結他作曲練野啦(

剩係掛住佢支二奶---電結他)!我又係成日部住响部腦度同人傾偈同埋湊我隻BAND仔...我同隻佬都覺得無問題噃!有時見佢悶悶地,我又會走入房嗲下佢,佢想嗲我時又識得行埋黎攬下我鍚下我...我又唔覺有D咩問題...始終你叫我一日廿四小時都奉獻哂出黎俾老公同仔,完全無自己私人空間,我覺得無可能LAW!

ladykin 寫道:
其實大家都唔好咁話本田啦, 有時男人同女人面對ge壓力係好唔同ge.

不過, 本田你係咪可以減少d上網呢, 如果晚晚都上網上到半夜三更, 又好難唔令你老婆懷疑ga wor. 正如早前所講, 可能你老婆想攬住你瞓呢. 大家溝通吓, 又唔駛講到離婚咁嚴重吓嘛.

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發表於 05-11-10 12:55 |只看該作者

Re: 同老婆又鬧不和...................

由 bandband 於 2005-11-10 12:49:31

我其實覺得男人同女人既壓力都差吾多大架!無理由吾可以無自己既私人時間卦... 我隻BAND佬夠成日放工番黎就入房彈結他作曲練野啦( 剩係掛住佢支二奶---電結他)!我又係成日部住响部腦度同人傾偈同埋湊我隻BAND仔...我同隻佬都覺得無問題噃!有時見佢悶悶地,我又會走入房嗲下佢,佢想嗲我時又識得行埋黎攬下我鍚下我...我又唔覺有D咩問題...始終你叫我一日廿四小時都奉獻哂出黎俾老公同仔,完全無自己私人空間,我覺得無可能LAW!

同意

, 雖然好多時d媽咪都會奉獻哂自己出黎俾老公同仔 (我就比哂我個仔lu, 所以好多時隻佬都會

架)

希望可以同我隻佬白頭到老做個永遠幸福快樂既小女人

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發表於 05-11-10 12:56 |只看該作者

Re: 同老婆又鬧不和...................

仲有你約綱上既女性去街事前有無通知過個老婆先, 你唔通知一聲就單獨付會, 你居心何在呀

已經logout左, 唔想再回應, 但睇到呢段真係火都黎埋, 唔回應唔得.

我never, 係never從未約過網上女性朋友去街. 上次帶個女仔去睇相師傅到我係有事前通知佢, 佢都知. 果個女仔係我地公司其中一個supplier, 佢問開我有無睇開相, 我先介紹比佢去睇.

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發表於 05-11-10 12:59 |只看該作者

Re: 同老婆又鬧不和...................

咁你老婆又幾敏感噃...都已經事先同佢講左...都搞成咁呀...咁你同你老婆話要帶呢個女仔去睇相士,咁佢嗰陣又有咩反應同有咩意見???

本田寫道:
仲有你約綱上既女性去街事前有無通知過個老婆先, 你唔通知一聲就單獨付會, 你居心何在呀

已經logout左, 唔想再回應, 但睇到呢段真係火都黎埋, 唔回應唔得.

我never, 係never從未約過網上女性朋友去街. 上次帶個女仔去睇相師傅到我係有事前通知佢, 佢都知. 果個女仔係我地公司其中一個supplier, 佢問開我有無睇開相, 我先介紹比佢去睇.

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發表於 05-11-10 13:17 |只看該作者

Re: 同老婆又鬧不和...................

本田,

你都唔好咁激氣住...大家都係想幫你同埋一齊討論下件事啫...唔好咁快放棄住先啦!有時討論一件事永遠都有正反兩面,有岩聽亦有唔岩聽既野,但討論最終目的都係聽多幾個吾同意見,等自己消化下分析下,始終你最後點解決,都係由你決定囉!RIGHT?

我覺得兩個人相處同湊仔差唔多,唔係用死一個方法或者一個角度去諗去解決問題,你依家知道老婆發緊脾氣又呷MSN醋,你硬拼只會兩個都唔開心,你又想繼續有自己既興趣同朋友,又唔想老婆吾開心,你咪試吓用D較溫和D既態度同方法去解決囉!你見老婆已經出哂爪亂咁WEAR,無理由你又走去癲埋一份又出爪同佢鬥WEAR架!係咪?佢發脾氣講嗰D野真係唔好太放响心度,試下諗D野可以氹下老婆開心下,等佢無咁炆先,到佢舒緩左個情緒之後,你至同佢傾下點解決,試吓嗲下佢囉!CHUM埋佢玩,你玩MSN時叫佢埋黎睇埋一份,上網見到D咩新奇又好笑既野,你叫佢一齊睇一齊討論,咁樣,佢吾多吾少都覺得你仲重視緊佢既存在,總好過,你又無得玩,佢又一味响度亂諗,講真,就算你真係咁忍心為左老婆唔再玩MSN,你老婆真係吾會再懷疑你會曳曳咩,我覺得吾會囉!

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發表於 05-11-10 13:57 |只看該作者

Re: 同老婆又鬧不和...................

本田先生, 同你講聲唔好意思先, 我將兩件事混為左一談, 我以為你話帶個女性去睇相係同上綱件事有關連, 唔知係我攪錯定係你交代得唔清楚, 但anyway一句說話你就咁扯火唔能夠冷靜咁解釋, 又難怪你同太太在溝通上出現左問題的

咁若然你太太事前知到你帶個女同事去睇相, 佢當時又無表態鍾意與否, 咁佢就亂諗野真係自己攞黎煩

不過點到好咩事都物極必反架啦, 上綱玩得多唔好話係男定女, 總之就會有人會投訴, 咁大個人咪節制下囉, 可能你老婆唔係叫你完全唔玩, 而係玩少d啫

本田寫道:
仲有你約綱上既女性去街事前有無通知過個老婆先, 你唔通知一聲就單獨付會, 你居心何在呀

已經logout左, 唔想再回應, 但睇到呢段真係火都黎埋, 唔回應唔得.

我never, 係never從未約過網上女性朋友去街. 上次帶個女仔去睇相師傅到我係有事前通知佢, 佢都知. 果個女仔係我地公司其中一個supplier, 佢問開我有無睇開相, 我先介紹比佢去睇.

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發表於 05-11-10 14:10 |只看該作者

Re: 同老婆又鬧不和...................

hi 本田,

Your case is very similar to my hubby. My hubby indulged in internet game(war game with a number of friends) when I was pregnant and when baby was just a few months old. At that period, our relationship was worst. We talked together many times and he promised me he would control himself not to spend so mush time on playing internet game. But he usually failed and we quarrelled frequently. I was very angry at that time and also want to leave him. I became unbearable and felt very disappointed. One day, I gave him a letter to air out my disappointment and anger when he was still playing at 4:00am. At that moment, he really felt my feeling (I want his company with me and caring but not want to restrict him froming playing game). After that incident, he knows my needs and always tries to be more self-control on this aspect.

Indeed, my hubby is a family man who will go home at once after work. He said to me he want to relax (he had great pressure on work) but he had to stay at home to accompany me and our baby. So he wanted to relax through playing game as he didn't need to go out. I can understand his feeling but can't help annoying when he spent so much time on playing game (he also tried to switch off or turn to other screen when I came out from bedroom). Now he become more considerate.

Lastly, I hope u can make a agreement with yr wife that u won't play MSN exceed a period of time and try not to be 鬼祟. Maybe the situation will be better.

Cheer up
:lol:

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發表於 05-11-10 14:38 |只看該作者

Re: 同老婆又鬧不和...................

未pose上黎之前, 我已決定係呢段時間唔再玩msn. 老老實實講, 點解我要係度pose文章, 係因為佢係呢度的忠實讀者, 佢好大機會睇到, 想籍此你地可以比d客觀意見, 等我地可以羅到個中間點. 佢好愛我, 但醋意/疑心相當相當之重, 上次的大頭佛都係咁搞出黎, 我亦無可能係度數她的不是, 對她唔公平. 但依家佢見你到咁的表態, 更加固守佢自己的諗法係絕對正確, 咁我同佢之間的gap可能更闊, 咁就更加難修補. 無錯, 可能我無同佢一起上床訓教係欠缺對她的關懷, 佢都有同我申過, 我會改善. 但我真係希望有番自己的私人空間/朋友, 呢點我講極佢都唔明. 佢只重覆我都要識朋友/我都要有私人空間......等說話. 意思係佢指自己的時間化晒係個女到. 我都唔知點講, 男人係米真係同女人的諗法有咁大距離呢?

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發表於 05-11-10 14:48 |只看該作者

Re: 同老婆又鬧不和...................

其實你想攞中間點一D都唔難, 只要一行肯行多步便可, 佢都想有自己既私人空間, 咁以我為例, 我同先生每個月約定好大家都可以出去同自己既朋友吃喝玩樂, 但有上限的, 只於個上限係一星期一次/一星期兩次, 呢D就要你地大家雙方協定

不過去之前一定要交帶清楚同咩人同去邊到, 因為真係大吉利是係上黎都可以有頭緒聯絡D咩人嘛

呢一樣係作為女性既憂慮並非要自管你地D男人係咪出左去溝女而發出既提問, 有時女人做野你地唔好咁小人之心去度君子之福先得架, 問多句都係出於關懷同溝通橋樑之一啫, 唔好下下諗住女人係CHECK住你地D男人先咁做至得架, 咁樣諗一來會破壞左大家之關既關係, 二來你地又會好唔開心, 所以姑勿論男女都好反事正面D去睇每一件事

至於你玩電腦, 到時佢不在時你大把時間安排到玩啦

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Re: 同老婆又鬧不和...................

本田

我知佢唔鍾意即刻轉畫面, 可惜又比佢見到.

你明白麻，你動作上鬼鼠，比老婆有唔安全既感覺，即使我地信你無任何絕無半點越軌行為，你嘗試諗下將情况調轉，若果你老婆喜歡與網友用msn or icq吹水，每當你行過都即刻轉畫面，又比你見到，你會有咩感覺?一次半次可能你會講無所謂，但情况經常都係咁，你都一樣會唔開心，係咪?

你應該用行動去建立安全感比你老婆，唔係斬腳趾避沙蟲。兩公婆無話私唔私隱既，老實講丫老婆 & 老公一定要互相信任

例如:老婆每事問，好煩 vs 老婆夠關心

呢d睇下你自己點諗既o者，兩公婆既野係相對架!!

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發表於 05-11-10 14:51 |只看該作者

Re: 同老婆又鬧不和...................

吾好諗到咁灰啦...佢只係發左你脾氣啫,佢諗埋一邊,你都吾好跟住諗埋一邊,咁樣只會將件事化大,查實真係好小事,嗰D晦氣說話大家都唔好再記住囉!可能今朝佢咁話你,但查實依家佢度氣過左又吾係咁諗呢...

再者,如果我係你老婆,見到你為着你同佢既事而上BK問人意見,就算人地一面倒話佢岩或者你無錯都好,我覺得你呢份心意已經足夠,至少你有重視老婆既心嘛!

你決定左唔玩MSN一段時間都好既,你同佢咪多D時間溝通下囉!吾需要動氣架!俾佢了解你既生活圈子,你亦了解佢既心態,大家協調下,查實玩MSN都無壞既,人無可能無朋友,你老婆都只不過想嗲下你想同你平起平坐大家無野暪住大家啫!

可以既話,真係希望你老婆都可以入黎同你同埋我地一齊傾下,始終大家入黎傾都係想搵個方法等你同佢相處得好D,又可以解決問題,你試下邀請佢上埋黎傾啦!大家一齊有份參與,我覺得係好事黎架!正如我老公玩音樂,我幫佢打鼓唱歌,佢又彈下結他,大家都有得講有得玩,何樂而不為!

最緊要係呢一刻你唔好諗埋一邊先!無野係解決吾到嘛!

本田寫道:
未pose上黎之前, 我已決定係呢段時間唔再玩msn. 老老實實講, 點解我要係度pose文章, 係因為佢係呢度的忠實讀者, 佢好大機會睇到, 想籍此你地可以比d客觀意見, 等我地可以羅到個中間點. 佢好愛我, 但醋意/疑心相當相當之重, 上次的大頭佛都係咁搞出黎, 我亦無可能係度數她的不是, 對她唔公平. 但依家佢見你到咁的表態, 更加固守佢自己的諗法係絕對正確, 咁我同佢之間的gap可能更闊, 咁就更加難修補. 無錯, 可能我無同佢一起上床訓教係欠缺對她的關懷, 佢都有同我申過, 我會改善. 但我真係希望有番自己的私人空間/朋友, 呢點我講極佢都唔明. 佢只重覆我都要識朋友/我都要有私人空間......等說話. 意思係佢指自己的時間化晒係個女到. 我都唔知點講, 男人係米真係同女人的諗法有咁大距離呢?

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發表於 05-11-10 14:53 |只看該作者

Re: 同老婆又鬧不和...................

呢個都係一個吾錯既方法!

C火~~~~掛自入雷傾吾記得接仔放學!一陣番雷入雷再傾過!我好長氣架!

ringoivy 寫道:
其實你想攞中間點一D都唔難, 只要一行肯行多步便可, 佢都想有自己既私人空間, 咁以我為例, 我同先生每個月約定好大家都可以出去同自己既朋友吃喝玩樂, 但有上限的, 只於個上限係一星期一次/一星期兩次, 呢D就要你地大家雙方協定不過去之前一定要交帶清楚同咩人同去邊到, 因為真係大吉利是係上黎都可以有頭緒聯絡D咩人嘛呢一樣係作為女性既憂慮並非要自管你地D男人係咪出左去溝女而發出既提問, 有時女人做野你地唔好咁小人之心去度君子之福先得架, 問多句都係出於關懷同溝通橋樑之一啫, 唔好下下諗住女人係CHECK住你地D男人先咁做至得架, 咁樣諗一來會破壞左大家之關既關係, 二來你地又會好唔開心, 所以姑勿論男女都好反事正面D去睇每一件事至於你玩電腦, 到時佢不在時你大把時間安排到玩啦