Even though you are mid-age, but have to learn how to put things down!
Don't put too much pressure on your shoulder!
When you look back, really not a big deal!
If she wants you into a trap, you should protect herself, i.e.. she puts things into your cabinet, you could speak loudly "E..... are you putting into the wrong place............., don't do that next time!! But remember you should loudly say it but put smile on your face.
As you said you are mid-age, YOU can do this!!!!!!