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Re: 有冇人試過老公有外遇,然後話選擇番o黎你身邊o既經歷呀?個過程真係好痛苦呀!

formula0106 寫道:
cacatmama,

你個時同我一樣...比個男人一路拖....個男人就係知道可以返轉頭你個屋企...知道你會回心轉意...亦知道主動權係自己手..只係佢唔想返左來失自由...仲想出去玩...所以拖住你...你老公明知咁樣會傷害你都咁做...因為太多男人都係自私..你要同佢做朋友...話關心佢...但可能之前傷害過太深...反而睇化左...不過你此終係囡囡個爸爸....你有時間都可以返來睇下佢...不過就通知聲我...唔好當屋企自出自入...因為唔想再因為佢影響左我依家平淡的生活...你都要活得比佢好...識多d 朋友...又可以同個女周圍去下街...咁你個男人如果知道左你冇左佢都得....佢一係會怕失去你就反轉頭...一係就放心晒出去玩....(但有一句...十個男人有九個都會好想返自己屋企)...除非咁唔好彩你個男人真係唔再愛你啦!!

Dear cacatmama:

formula 0106講得好正確，相信你亦心中有數佢真係出面有外遇，爭在佢地感情有幾深

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Re: 有冇人試過老公有外遇,然後話選擇番o黎你身邊o既經歷呀?個過程真係好痛苦呀!

Hi foreverwife:

(((講真,經過今次的”衝擊”, 我真係學懂了珍惜及關懷.唔知遲唔遲...........................)))

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Re: 有冇人試過老公有外遇,然後話選擇番o黎你身邊o既經歷呀?

唉!我好冇用呀,今日個心又好唔舒服啦,好想喊但又喊唔出,:-(喊唔出仲辛苦,究竟我係咪真係應該唔好再忍呢?係咪應該要博一舖佢先可以真真正正返轉頭呢?兩邊條路都咁難行!停係度等又辛苦,都唔知自己想點!peg1043對唔住呀,你比我d意見真係好好,好有用o架,我都唸住朝住你個方法去行o架,但今日無端端又鑽o左去牛角尖,我又令你o地失望喇! 我擔心我繼續落去會唔會變成憶鬱証o架,個小朋友o甘點呀!主啊!求你幫幫我呀!:-( :-( :-(

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Re: 有冇人試過老公有外遇,然後話選擇番o黎你身邊o既經歷呀?個過程真係好痛苦呀!

formula0106 / peg1043,

而家情況就係你所講，佢知可以返轉頭亦知我會等佢。我有諗過佢係咪真係唔再愛我，佢最初話佢答唔到，後尾有次佢飲完酒，打電話同我講，已經唔再愛我，因為佢鐘意了第二個，就係之前個第三者，（佢係已經同第三者上過床，我亦相信佢動真情），但佢話果個人已經好決斷咁離開了，我叫佢咁你咪去錢住佢囉，你咁鐘意佢，（因為當時我唔知點解好嬲，個電話講咁耐都同佢講粗口，所以叫佢去錢住佢），佢話唔啦，佢（第三者）話好憎我握佢，（其實個女仔都唔係正經人，做拳手，23歲已經有個仔，唔知跟佢之前老公定男朋友），而家間中聯絡，過時過節窩。其實我感覺佢仲係關心我，但隨著時間，亦都覺得減少，自佢搬出去，我覺得同佢越來越遠啦！佢好似玩得仲舒服。
個輔導員都叫我當佢係朋友，唔好太關心佢，但我有時掛住佢，忍唔住又打俾佢。我話俾自已知，呢段時間最重要係忍，忍唔到就會輸。但個輔導員用心理學去分析，佢話佢想返黎，但唔知點面對我，而佢都同我講過，如果返黎，唔知點同我相處，我答佢我都唔知，所以有心回頭，就要搵個輔導員傾下，教下我地。
我都試過大佢，但大唔到，仲依我講法去做，唔知佢真係咁決心還是體死我。我有諗一段時間當佢係朋友，又佢玩一段時間，唔返黎都無辦法。
我自已企遠d去分析，佢個人好care錢，原本亦都唔係咁不負責任的人，點解會捨得放棄d$同層樓，而過d不設實際同有壓力的生活，原本呢個家好好架，2公婆有份工，各自去進修，每個月有積蓄，有樓有工人有個女有頭狗，仲想點？之前我地係少了時間相處，無咩大問題。

vormula0106,

請問你果時糾纏了幾耐？有無話俾屋企人、朋友知？

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Re: 有冇人試過老公有外遇,然後話選擇番o黎你身邊o既經歷呀?個過程真係好痛苦呀!

我都試過類似情況,不過當時未結婚同居咗8年幾,佢突然話搬番阿媽度,佢當時話對我無晒愛嘅感覺,只剩番感情,又講咗好多我嘅缺點,如:專制成日管住佢,唔信任佢,疑心重.....等等,當時佢轉咗新公司仲升埋職,佢話我嘅專制同疑心會阻礙佢事業發展,佢開頭無提過分手只話搬番阿媽度冷靜吓,但我心知佢一搬走就乜都完啦!我發晒癲死都唔肯,仲開始check佢電話留言同訊息,俾我發現有個女仔好鍾意佢,我諗佢應該心思思想同佢試吓,我問佢佢話同佢只係傾得埋,無其他嘢!但我覺得佢要搬走根本就係要發展過一段新感情,於是我就即刻改變自己嚟迎合佢,但其實我當時已陷入崩潰狀態,一時又對佢溫柔體貼,一時又發晒癲趕佢走,仲唔食唔瞓成日掛住喊,兩個月之間瘦咗廿幾磅,最終我都留唔住佢,佢話唔想見到我咁同已經頂我唔順搬走咗,初初我都日日死纏難打,後嚟我轉咗份新工分散咗啲注意力先可以慢慢諗到嘢,我同自己講打定輸數,我又離過婚又帶住個女,個女仔又後生又無負累,事業上仲幫到佢,就係我哋分開咗兩個月佢就搵番我,話後悔同我分手,其實同個女仔一直無開始過,佢話個女仔唔啱佢,當時分開只係好想一個人靜吓,話我當時好煩好得人驚,根本大家都要時間冷靜,但我都同佢講最好梗係你無呃我或醒目啲呃我一世,如果俾我知佢曾經對對我不忠佢一定唔會原諒佢,跟住再行多年零就結婚,而家有一個小朋友,個個朋友都話佢對我好好,好鍚我,不過我有時諗番起都會好唔開心,有時仲會唔信佢! :-( :-(

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Re: 有冇人試過老公有外遇,然後話選擇番o黎你身邊o既經歷呀?個過程真係好痛苦呀!

我都好想佢會回頭，咁多年夫妻，唔想見住佢過d無意義的生活，我亦唔捨得失去過往的生活，而家有時朝早起身，個心好辛苦，唔想起身，但唔可以擺底個女唔理，有時發夢仲見到d感情上面唔開心的事，好辛苦。係呢到見到你頭地寫的野，我個心會髹d，其實如果佢依舊每日有打電話俾我，咁你地覺得佢對我係點呢？昨日佢打返黎問我係到做緊咩。

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Re: 有冇人試過老公有外遇,然後話選擇番o黎你身邊o既經歷呀?

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Re: 有冇人試過老公有外遇,然後話選擇番o黎你身邊o既經歷呀?個過程真係好痛苦呀!

同意hellolal嘅講法! 呢幾招的確係work嘅, 不過真係除非非常愛呢個男人, 無咗佢唔得....真係實在太委屈啦, 我自都試過男朋友(依家老公)有第三者, 仲要捉姦在屋....真係好難受, 好痛苦....可能因為當時未結婚啦, 可以放棄佢, 咁佢又死番嚟, 不過我都仲會成日諗起件事, 有時都想離婚...好多朋友話原諒咗就唔好再諗番, 其實根本無可能唔諗起, 原諒咗唔代表可以忘記...但我咁多年都無再提過呢件事....唉....如果再發生多一次都唔知會點, 不過有一樣嘢係好肯定嘅就係我寧願個心粉碎都唔會再委屈自己去求一個變咗心嘅男人留低. 我同之前個男友嘅情形同樓主差不多, 又係自己唔珍惜在先, 到個男人變心就覺得係我自己錯在先, 極力挽留佢, 真係咩都做盡, 雖然佢無主動離開我, 但係實在太委屈, 太無自尊啦! 到呢個時候我覺得欠佢嘅都還清有突啦...最後我選擇放棄佢, 到我行到呢步, 佢先後悔, 但已經太遲啦....到今時今日佢仲話我係佢一生最愛, 好難忘記我....其實我覺得佢有咁嘅感覺係因為一個佢一直以為無咗佢唔得嘅女人突然擰轉面就走, 呢種感覺係好難受嘅! 同埋人係好勝嘅, 好多時變心嘅另一半好可能呢種心理而對棄權嘅一方重投懷抱 (不過只限於對方還對你有感情, 如已完全變心則可以即時放棄, 起碼留番些少自尊比自己) 要記住一點, 越難得到嘅嘢就越珍貴, 得唔到的就是最好的! 所以d男人先覺得咁難放棄出面果件... 不過男人亦都係最怕煩, 你越煩佢佢就越走得快走得遠. 所以以我自己對有第三者嘅政策係首先知道自己有幾多bargaining power先行下一步, 必要時以退為進可能會有突破性發展. 不過我唔會再委曲求全, 因為我做呢種角色太久亦太多次啦, 做女人一定要留番dd尊嚴比自己. 其實好老實咁講, 如果個男人唔留你, 咁佢個心仲有幾多係你度呀......希望你早日解決件事, 開開心心啦!

hellolal 寫道:

如果真的很愛你老公，那真的是一個很好的辦法。因為這實在是太委屈了。

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Re: 有冇人試過老公有外遇,然後話選擇番o黎你身邊o既經歷呀?個過程真係好痛苦呀!

我知呢刻要佢選擇,佢多數會選擇出面果個,呢刻佢一定係鍾意佢多d,可能呢刻對我一d感覺都冇,因為佢一日唔肯放低出面

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Re: 有冇人試過老公有外遇,然後話選擇番o黎你身邊o既經歷呀?個過程真係好痛苦呀!

hi,
我想話比大家聽,所有攪緊第三者嘅男人都吾會自動自覺去settle件事,因為佢仲未知道有幾嚴重,好似我咁,佢最初應承我吾會再同個賤女人聯絡,點知一次又一次比我發現,終於我攞晒証據之後就立即同佢講離婚,佢先知死,但我仲要堅持吾原諒佢,生完之後仲走咗,佢用咗好多方法先攪返掂我,而家我仲開心過之前,因為我知道最衰d嘢我都遇過,仲有乜好怕,無咗佢都得.人始終為自己而活,由其是女人,先下手為強,吾好比機會佢哋去傷害你.盡快消失,比佢知道會無咗你,佢先記得自己有老婆,吾使理佢,吾好心軟,你一定要話比佢知,一日佢繼續同第三者聯絡,一日吾使拍意你會返.

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Re: 有冇人試過老公有外遇,然後話選擇番o黎你身邊o既經歷呀?個過程真係好痛苦呀!

wife可能您算好彩,您老公當時仲好愛您,但我唔同,我唸佢宜家只係當我係一個屋企人,已經冇咩感覺,我宜家話走,佢便可放心去,唔需要再係我面前講大話,反而仲輕鬆,我成全佢

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Re: 有冇人試過老公有外遇,然後話選擇番o黎你身邊o既經歷呀?

Hi dear all

I have posted my story some days ago. My husband is also having an affair with his colleagues, he said he has no feel to me any more. I have been knowing this matter for more than 2 months already. We have been talking for 6-7 times but still he said he cannot let the girl go.

I am very upset and frustrating. I have a child age 10, I really want him back but it seems that he does not want. I don't know what should be done in order to change his mind. In fact, he has been changing a lot, he used to love his child but now, he will go out early and come back very late without talking to his kid any more.

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Re: 有冇人試過老公有外遇,然後話選擇番o黎你身邊o既經歷呀?

When love is gone, don't try to hold on to it, just let go. Otherwise, you will only hurt yourself. Love yourself, treasure yourself, save some dignity for yourself. If someone really loves you, he won't hurt you. My husband told me he wanted to break up with me on my birthday!!! It was the saddest birthday that I ever had!!! I was crying, begging him
to stay and got drunk for three days, on the forth day, I told him I would let him go if he will be happier without me in his life and I told him I let him go because I love him and wanted him to be happy. I said I don't hate him, coz I love him too much... I told him he had no idea how much I love him and how much I have done for him, but that doesn't mean anything anymore, I would not ask him for anything in return but just remember I want him to be happy. He cried and asked me not to leave him....sometimes, we just need to know when to open your hand and let go.

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Re: 有冇人試過老公有外遇,然後話選擇番o黎你身邊o既經歷呀?

I tried to let him go but i just can't.

every day and night is so sad and we don't even have a word to talk to.

i don't know how long it will take or may be one day he will ask to leave. if that day come, i think i'll let him go.

my child keeps on asking me why daddy doesn't come back for dinner recently and i just don't know how to answer.

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Re: 有冇人試過老公有外遇,然後話選擇番o黎你身邊o既經歷呀?

sweetheart, I totally understand how do you feel...it's not easy to let go someone you love so much, but there is nothing you can do if his love is gone. You are now torturing yourself, make a plan to arrange you and your kid's life and live with pride. Be strong, 愛係無得勉強的, if he doesn't love you anymore, you have to love yourself even more!!! You and your child deserve better! Be proud of yourself, don't let your tears drip because he doesn't worth it.

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Re: 有冇人試過老公有外遇,然後話選擇番o黎你身邊o既經歷呀?

Danielle

Thanks for your advice. But i just can't control myself. these months like years and every night is just a nightmare to me.

I don't know what he is going to do, in fact, he doesn't even dare to let his mum know about it. Should i talk to my 99 or should i ask him to leave, or even strict is that should i ask for a divorce.

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