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muimui
咁真係唔得架..就算我未嫁時, 即係同而家老公拍拖時, 都係佢出架, 我好少時間會出錢既..因要比番個signal佢, 我係唔會出錢既..嘿嘿..而家更加啦, 我又冇野做, 我都同佢講,我黎左ny仲慘過未嫁時, 因冇錢用, 又冇錢比屋企. 我都唔想, 好在我自己媽咪明白咋, 所以我係一定唔會再比錢出黎架, 第二時有咩事, 我都要有錢番hk麻..哈哈..我6299係有屋呀,不過佢有三個仔啵..而我亦唔想用兩老既錢啦, 至多咪自己慳d咯,
我唔知係唔係鬼佬諗法會唔同呢..我諗你都要諗個方法唔好洗自己咁多錢先得. or 一出街食飯, 就唔帶錢咯..哈哈..佢唔會唔比掛, 直情同老公講話冇錢. 唔係好昜比老公夾番轉頭架..

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Carrie210

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babesiu
我都唔知呢邊既manchandiser幾錢啵..未必會高架...可能係hk高d架,

所以呀, 你未結婚, 就有機會第二時同男友講明先啦..佢要比家用架..哈哈.兩個人出黎做野, 都要係比得少d果個啦..男人既野, 點鬼知佢第二會變成點呀..

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發表於 07-4-23 03:55 |只看該作者

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babesiu,

Your friend work in Loan dept and then mortgage dept... then he should get good deal for himself! :D I don't know if the link I found include avg commision or not (maybe not). I don't know anyone work in that field so I don't have much idea. If he earned about $8000/month (I assume before tax), and only have $1000 mortgage to pay, then the living doe ok bor (if he's single and don't have too much obligation for other family members or high amount of student loan to pay etc).

By the way, you can still 炒股票 in the US. There are day-traders in the US. What they do each day is just staying on the computer screen to watch the up and down of the stocks. :D

Joy Luck Club 果個 extreme jor siu siu but doe yau gar! But then not all American or Chinese/ABC doe gum 計清計楚. It depends on the individual la. So if you are unmarried yet, better have more observation and discussion first. So, no suprise in the future mah!

When I was working, I don't get any 家用架. He doesn't has this concept (though his money is tight after paying mortgage). He paid the major expenses in the house (mortgage) and I paid smaller expenses like food and household items because he make more money than me. Even now when I am not working, I also don't have any 家用. At most mei use his credit card to buy household and baby's stuff. He doesn't give me extra money to spend. So, if I don't have my 私己錢 dim duk!

去唐人街做洗碗．of course ng 嫁嚟 la! hehe... If you have vacation, you may go to the State and find out if you like the place here and see if you can find a job in your field. :)

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發表於 07-4-23 03:56 |只看該作者

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Carrie,

Your husband doe pretty "Chinese" bor. 拍拖會出錢 (most of the time). 我果個想我 AA or he paid one meal, I paid one meal. I told him he should treat me. Anyway, later on usually he paid more meals than I do. Or I had him to pay those more expensive meals. He bought entree and I bought drink/desert lor.

I think 鬼佬 or kids who grow up here 諗法會唔同. But "出街食飯, 就唔帶錢咯" method maybe good! Though some people will ask you back the money later gar mah (or deduct those $$ from other things). So depends on the person... :)

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發表於 07-4-23 06:38 |只看該作者

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Hi Carol,
Glad to meet u in here, I also live in SF and have 2 sons, in 2nd and 5th grade. I decided to have my second child because of my older one. We think it would be better for him to have a sibling cos he can have someone to talk to or discuss in case something happen to us when we are elderly, not just all by himself. I've heard others said they're regret to just have one kid as their kid blamed on them not to give them a sibling.
But, it is also true that being a mom in US is hard, no matter a stayhome mom or working mom. I was a stayhome mom for my first one and now I am a working mom. If you need more support or to share more. Feel free to email me directly. There's a lot of resources in here and activities you can go to with your son.

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CARRIE210﹐我又係慘過未嫁時﹐我老公係好典型既美國人﹐身上好少現金﹐所以成日乘機﹐我係典型既香港人﹐有野齊齊分﹐所以咪俾佢乘到機囉。另外﹐呢邊生活指數好高﹐$5一GALLON MILK架﹐所以就算搵多左都會好快無哂。每月供樓都去左三千﹐我老公出大半﹐佢出果份都已經係我一份人工。首朞係奶奶出既﹐所以我邊有得投訴? 我唯有默默承受。我都知唔可以無個錢﹐但係我怕老公鵝﹐所以好多時係自己出左就算。學我老竇話齋﹐係韮菜命﹐生到咁上下就俾人割 (去賣)。我生歷仔前都有儲啲﹐但佢一去DAYCARE﹐我就無哂啲積蓄﹐都有試過每月$50咁儲﹐點知唔係要換軚﹐就係要幫歷仔交PRESCHOOL報名費。。。梗係有啲事要駛錢。

NILLIE其實好羡慕你係護士﹐係專業人士﹐唔怕無工做﹐全世界都要護士﹐搵得又多﹐醫護人士係夏老威好渴市﹐無論你係邊個國家既護士﹐黎上番個英头COURSE就請。我做SOCIAL SERVICE呢範﹐就算有MASTER DEGREE人地都只當你係PARA-PROFEESSIONAL﹐唔會坐正。而家我又無錢無精力再讀書﹐唔幾時先至可以有改善。

BABESIU﹐係呀﹐香港啲媽咪支援會多啲﹐好多時生完仔都會有菲傭兼陪月﹐我啲表姊妹生完個個都有菲傭﹐歷仔啲表兄弟仔都有工人照顧﹐所以我同我媽講笑﹐歷仔就最窮﹐最慘﹐無工人用。

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babesiu,

Depends on how much he make each year and the deductible, I think having a wife and kid doesn't help too much on tax if you are over certain level of salary. Anyway, it would be better if the wife is not working.

If the wife work and boost up the total family income, the couple may get the "marriage penalty" (i.e. the couple file join tax return as married couple would pay more tax than filing the individual tax if the couple are not married.

Anyway, you can learn how to drive after you come mah! If you live in the city, the public transportation is not bad. You can take the Bart (subway) here and it's convenient. There's no Bart in south bay though so it's not that convenient if you don't have a car. What's your age? I think young people shouldn't have much problem to learn how to drive. :) hummm.. so he live with his parents ah? If you marry him, do you need to live with the in-laws ah? If yes, then you better think ahead! hehee... Last time you stayed in hotel, gum doe ho. Fai si his parents would gossip or has any other "thought" mah. :D Yes, I agree 女人如果自己有錢唔洗靠人就講句野都大聲d嘛. Otherwise, you better find a really GOOD man so you can still "大聲講野" without having your own money.

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Babesiu,
mostly 美國打老番工, 冇401, 就供403, 再唔係, 好似我.. C fight 爛 fight, 揾份有pension嘅.. then, 年年買IRA, 至冇後顏之憂...
我老公喺US大, so, 佢係要求-- 公一份婆一份囉!

muimui313, Carrie,
我好睇現到.. {嫁咗衰過未, 不如唔好嫁 }.. 個個都話我嫁得好..有車有樓, 有live in nanny, 但我銀包永遠冇多過$50.. 我係好典型香港妹, 仲要係獨立嗰隻.. 未嫁前, 我揾 at least HKD28,000一個月.. even 去wet ...shopping, 1年2次旅遊, 2年1次返日本探契媽, 不停買嘢同請爸爸媽咪食飯, 仍可儲到錢.. 而家真係... 啞巴吃黃蓮, 有苦白已知..

Bunnymonkey,
你幾時去買手寫版呀! 記住儲到私己錢至好生下一個.

我老公成日要"度"住我香港 HSBC嘅cash 同HSBC嘅股票(我HKD$79-- about 2002年買入

).. 我爸爸話過"老Ｃ都唔可以俾老公郁".. 我發現.. 爸爸做過人老公, 而家佢就担心我老公呃我..

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babesiu,
拍拖時, 個個男人都會對你好好, 嫁咗之後, 男人至會原形畢露.. 佢只係冇法俾到我以前做女嘅生活俾我, 唔係佢嘅錯, 我亦明白, 嫁咗係會變, 老實講, 佢一啲都唔靚仔, 個個friends都話我鬼"庵"眼, 但我真係好愛佢..

希望冇揀錯..
你所講嘅外國過埠新娘生活真係冇花假.. 只係要加埋做full time work +冇私已錢 +personal time.. 好多仲冇home helper 添..
我都好鐘意湊仔女, 自已揸車去做groceries shopping, 得閒就焗餅, cookies, 疍糕, 唔駛返工時就諗新菜式..
or weekend 同所有 new york, new Jersey mami們攪 gathering, 講吓揍仔經.. / family day 去吓 new jersey 海灘行吓..
呢啲就係而家嘅生活..
以前1覺瞓天光, day off去睇戲, shopping, 食法國菜嘅醫院姑娘仔生活已係過去式

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發表於 07-4-24 02:10 |只看該作者

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Nillie_Mami,
I haven't bought the手寫版yet. I think I will look for it on friday because I take a day off.
You are right.It is very different after you married.
Espiecally, after you have your kids.
How did you gather with other mom in NY?
I want to have one in SF too.

cl-cl,
Nice to meet you here. Which part of SF are you living?
What kind of activities you would do with your family? It is nice to email you, can I have your email?

bunnymonkey,
you are right. It is very easy to learn driving if you are young. Which part of south bay area do you live?
I rarely drive to south seems my car is not reliable now. We are thinking to buy a new one.
It is so nice to meet all of you here.

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