Lily is right. Most of the children wear store accept exchange, refund within 180 days! So you can change it after 6 months. Baby grows so fast, many clothes won't fit so quick.
PoohPoohMaMa,
no one born to be competitive, it is how you make them to like it. As my sister said I brain wash my daughter to be NO.1! Ask yourself, who doesnt want to win? Who doesnt like to be the winner? You just need to tell her how good she will be if she can be the No.1.
yes, my daughter also ask lots of questions and I never say anything about who is the boss. Everything need to work out by reason. Either she has her reason and I have to tell her why she needs to follow my way. Remember shouting never solves problems. Listening is important for kids as she/he will tell you the reason and you just need to understand. My daughter always tell me why she gave daddy hard time as daddy never listen.
Regarding on washroom, yes, my daughter doesnt go to washroom in the morning and there is no point to push her. Just accept it and let her drink milk.
My husband always get upset as he worries her pee in the middle of the way to daycare, but so far, everything is under control. If she wet her pants, I will humiliate her by saying she needs diaper or I will tell all kids in daycare, then she will pee if she has to.
Yes, this is the way we live... everything is about negotiate, but not shout and yell. It always work for our marriage, isn't it?
I am trying to be patient. I tell her that she can't say no to everything I ask her to do. She can say no if she tells me the reason why. But everytime she just lose the temper and screams and cries.
She won't stop until I am getting very mad and isolate her.
PoohPoohMaMa,
She still very young and sometimes it is hard for her to explain in words. You need to give her mulitple choice in order to find out what went wrong. You need to ask her why by is it because..... until you find out the reason.
Remember, your daughter will copy how you react. Dont shout and yell if you dont want her to go that way. Isolate is good, but that doesnt really solve the problem and you cannot isolate her all time.
PoohPoohMaMa,
I can see the problems now! You and her have the same character and obviously you want her to follow your way as you are the mother, right?
I will say what you want her to behave, start from you first. You cannot ask a hard-necked person to follow your way and the only solution is you need to change yourself first before you change her.
This is your daughter and you love her very much. Tell her it hurts your feeling if she doesnt listen. I said it very often to my daughter and she behaves exactly like me now.
The other day we were practicing about opposite. I asked my daughter about what is opposite of beautiful and she pretends she doesnt know, so I say she is ugly. Then she cry right away as she said I hurt her feeling! Now kids learn very fast !
Lily,
I also have a daughter but she is not bossy. She is a housekeeper at home as we always ask her about where is the remote control or what she likes or dislikes.
I dont always let her to go to her way just because she is young. I know what is my limit and I am very strict on her. I can let her cry for half an hour and not given up. I will ask her to tell me what did she do wrong eventhough she apologies. Make sure she is aware of she did something wrong as I dont accept just say "sorry".
We should start at early age before it is too late.
she always appoints someone to do thing. e.g. She only asks me to feed her, if I don't feed her, she won't eat. This person can be anyone in the house.
Another example, she wakes up and I ask her to go to pee. She said "I want to drink juice". All right, I tell her go down to drink juice. She insists to drink the juice on the bed! How can I give in?
I am mad only when she rebels. If she does something wrong, I won't yell at her and just tell her to say sorry and fix the problem. But she always challenge me.
To the adults, I would not be that hard-necked. We will discuss and negotiate. But for a child, I think I need to stand firm especially she needs to follow my command.
PoohPoohMaMa,
My ex-baby sitter taught me. If she doesnt eat, then leave it on the table until she feel hungry. No one can tolerate it and tell her that she wont get anything until she eat by herself. You need to be tough and never give up.
No juice in the bed as it is sweet. Tree house has a TV show called "ants in your pants" and I always tease my daughter if she drinks juice, then ants will be in her pants. Explain the consequences to her. So far, my daughter only drink milk at night while we are in shower. Why she wants to drink upstair while everyone is downstair? Or I will scare her by monster is waiting for your juice if she bring to the bed. I think you need to explain to her your reason and it should be clear what she can do or not to do in the bed. It is a good habbit.
I think you need to find a way to communicate with your daughter as your case is similar to my husband. He never get along with our daughter and he upset all times. I always come with different approach and she will listen to me. Once thing I will suggest to you, never get upset or angry in front of her. Stay calm is the best to calm another person. I was a bad girl when I was young and I know exactly how to make a person mad. Sometimes I feel kids purposely make you mad in order to feel good and dont follow to her trap!
YukiMommy,
I dont really think the length of sleep can make such a different. My daughter never get much sleep as she sleeps and get up same time as me, she has no problem. They get used to what they can get. Our biological clock can adjust easily.
My neigbour's daughter who sleep over 12hrs a day, she has even bigger problem than Poohpoohmama. Her mom told me yesterday that she is such a bossy girl. She even instructs her mom what to wear and how her hair has to be tied. She is only 3yrs old!
I think somehow it is because you are the only one in the house "struggle" with your daughter, and all the others spoil her as a little princess. It makes you hard to convince your daughter listens to you.
Does your daughter has any favourite cartoon character? Maybe you can use the character as your daughter learning partner.
As you said, you daughter likes to go to school, then you have to figure out why she likes school and what makes her be a good girl in school. Maybe she likes to be a teacher because all the kids in school follow what the teacher said...or maybe she likes to play and talk with the other kids...so and so. Then I think yo may have an idea what your girl wants.
Just some little suggestions. I know it is always easy to talk-talk than facing the reality. You have your pain too. All the parents want the respect from their kids...especially you have to take care a newborn now.
Don't worry!! We are free to talk anything in here, no matter it is baby caring, mother-to-be talking or parenting...just women talks!!
If I have a chance, I will come over and visit your little girl.
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