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If I need my 99 幫手俾首期, I think my husband ( and me) will also need to listen to her ..........However, my 99 is such kind of person that she never give 1 dollar to us.
We have 2 kids. The one (in photo) is my son. He is 3 years old now. We love him so much. And we decided to give him a best gift when he was born - a baby brother/sister.
My younger daughter is 1.5 years old now!

原文章由 060905 於 08-6-4 13:43 發表
你真係俾我好彩, 可能我老公係一個無乜主見兼愚孝既人, 佢成日話6299幫手俾首期, 所以要順從佢地意思喎！你個果bb係仔定女??

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It is because you use your 99's money!!!!!!
I believed that one day, when you give those $ back to her, you can 講句野大聲d !!!!
So, work hard and save more $!

原文章由 060905 於 08-6-4 13:44 發表
雖然我無你搵咁多, 但係我都唔差得我老公好多,點解我無得講句野大聲d咁既！

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或者係咁啦, 所以我有最初都唔想佢地幫手, 佢地又懶好咁幫手, 結果咪好似而家咁羅！今晚又要見到佢地, 又實會叫我生個孫仔俾佢........

原文章由 ac321 於 08-6-4 13:50 發表
If I need my 99 幫手俾首期, I think my husband ( and me) will also need to listen to her ..........However, my 99 is such kind of person that she never give 1 dollar to us.
We have 2 kids. The one (i ...

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你都係鍚仔仔多d??

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樓主, 睇完你的遭遇, 我真的好同情你
亦想唔到今時今日仲可以有人迫人生仔
女係嫁人, 男係自己人 ?? 這是什麼道理 ??
如果我係你, 你話我鬥氣又好, 要話事權又好, 我一定唔會生
坦白講, 生仔某程度上女人的控制權最大, 你自己避, 邊個都迫唔到你
我認為堅持唔生的原因有:
1. 錢的確係一個問題, 貧賤夫妻百事哀, 計算過自己的能力, 養仔最少十多年的事
2. 見到你曾經諗過同C6分開, 咁更加唔好再多生小孩子
3. 最憎人重男輕女, 我實會鬥氣, 你鍾意仔, 自己生到夠
4. 講到為咗生仔連俾女讀N1錢都要慳, 離譜, 咁樣思想, 我諗長期對你個女都唔好, 可以亦會導致你個女唔鍾意弟弟
5. 唔好以為生咗仔乜問題都解決, 我相信係惡夢的開始, 甚至係你婚姻破裂的主因, 正如你所講, 佢地咁縱仔, 仲話一定要佢揍, 俾佢地揍, 我相信你地爭拗會更多, 除非你諗住個仔生咗出O黎就由得佢地揍, 完全唔理, 否則你一定會頂唔順佢地咁縱容你個仔, 到時你日日開火都解決唔到
6. 我相信你的6299會係你個仔落藥, 令佢地唔尊重女人, 對你同個女都唔好
7. 如果你想俾個仔婆婆揍番, 等佢同家姐一齊, 我相信呢件事無可能發生, 6299實同你死過, 關係一定更差

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If I was you, I will sell the flat and then give back those money to her. Then, use the $ you earn from the flat to buy a smaller one. This flat will be your own flat !

原文章由 060905 於 08-6-4 13:55 發表
或者係咁啦, 所以我有最初都唔想佢地幫手, 佢地又懶好咁幫手, 結果咪好似而家咁羅！今晚又要見到佢地, 又實會叫我生個孫仔俾佢........

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發表於 08-6-4 14:06 |只看該作者

最慘我老公唔肯呢！

原文章由 ac321 於 08-6-4 13:59 發表
If I was you, I will sell the flat and then give back those money to her. Then, use the $ you earn from the flat to buy a smaller one. This flat will be your own flat !

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發表於 08-6-4 14:07 |只看該作者

We love both of them.
Tell the truth, we love elder kid more (not because he is a boy, it is because he is our first kid )
We think that the best gift to my son is a brother/sister.
When they growth up, they have a partner to play with each other. When we pass away one day, they will not alone as they have a brother/sister in the world.

原文章由 060905 於 08-6-4 13:59 發表
你都係鍚仔仔多d??

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發表於 08-6-4 14:09 |只看該作者

多謝你既支持, 如果講唔掂數, 我會自己避！我自己本身鐘意女, 所以如果係仔, 我成日都覺得唔到我管, 我可能真係會放棄, 但係我唔想我c6追到個仔, 唔識女, 我地又無乜錢, 又要看6299面色, 所以我更加唔想生！

原文章由 pamelaywy 於 08-6-4 13:59 發表
樓主, 睇完你的遭遇, 我真的好同情你
亦想唔到今時今日仲可以有人迫人生仔
女係嫁人, 男係自己人 ?? 這是什麼道理 ??

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發表於 08-6-4 14:13 |只看該作者

I think you are quite young, right?
You can sonsider to have another kid some years later (not now). Remember that, just ask yourself do you want to have 1 more kid or not? You don't need to consider your 99's will.

原文章由 060905 於 08-6-4 14:09 發表
多謝你既支持, 如果講唔掂數, 我會自己避！我自己本身鐘意女, 所以如果係仔, 我成日都覺得唔到我管, 我可能真係會放棄, 但係我唔想我c6追到個仔, 唔識女, 我地又無乜錢, 又要看6299面色, 所以我更加唔想生！

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發表於 08-6-4 14:17 |只看該作者

Right！我未過30, 你問我呢, 如果有錢我都想生多個, 同你個諗法一樣, 我都想我兩老一伸時, 有個細佬或細妹陪佢, 但係我生多個既條件係唔會影响到我個寶貝女, 無論金錢定係地位(係屋企人心目中)我都唔想影响到！我好自私, 我想個個都永遠最鍚佢！

原文章由 ac321 於 08-6-4 14:13 發表
I think you are quite young, right?
You can sonsider to have another kid some years later (not now). Remember that, just ask yourself do you want to have 1 more kid or not? You don't need to consider ...

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發表於 08-6-4 14:20 |只看該作者

我好自私=>me too!

P.S. I think you are 25 before!

原文章由 060905 於 08-6-4 14:17 發表
Right！我未過30, 你問我呢, 如果有錢我都想生多個, 同你個諗法一樣, 我都想我兩老一伸時, 有個細佬或細妹陪佢, 但係我生多個既條件係唔會影响到我個寶貝女, 無論金錢定係地位(係屋企人心目中)我都唔想影响到！我好自私, ...

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樓主... 同你老公好好傾吓... 都叫佢唔好一時忍受唔到 6299 的壓力而生下一代, 咁會對個細路唔公平, 再問佢, 如果真係再生, 又係囡咁會點? 仲要再生? 如果係仔, 又問佢想唔想自己個仔俾佢父母縱到好似佢個外生仔咁? 縱壞咗以後點教? 係咪想為害人間? 所以, 如果真係生, 都一定係要俾婆婆揍, 如果唔係就唔好生, and, 仲有一樣係要生都過多一兩年等個大女大先 (如果唔係真係連 n1 都唔俾佢讀)
仲要約法三章, 如果真係再生, 一定要佢一視同仁, 唔可以偏心 (不過我估佢都好難)...
but, 你最好有個心理準備就係自己避囉, 仲要唔好俾佢知 (e.g. 打針)...

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發表於 08-6-4 14:43 |只看該作者

講真生唔生係２公婆的事，６２９９無得迫，只不過你ｃ６想討好佢父母，你為有再解釋俾佢聽你哋的苦況

不過我唔知咁唸係唔係，我覺得就算樓主６２９９唔迫佢生，我覺得樓主都唔好再生多個，因我覺得佢會偏愛個大女，尢其如第二個無咁精靈的話

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發表於 08-6-4 15:13 |只看該作者

我好想生多個等囝囝(2yr7m)有個伴，但仲未氹掂老公...我同奶奶講"幫佢追個內孫女(佢3個內孫都係仔)"

但佢就叫我吾好再生，話"實係女架?"...而家我同佢講"同你生多個孫仔，凑夠4條king!"

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發表於 08-6-4 15:36 |只看該作者

同你生多個孫仔，凑夠4條king!
so what's the respond of your 99? Do she give some pressure to your husband?

原文章由 SmonaChan 於 08-6-4 15:13 發表
我好想生多個等囝囝(2yr7m)有個伴，但仲未氹掂老公...我同奶奶講"幫佢追個內孫女(佢3個內孫都係仔)"

但佢就叫我吾好再生，話"實係女架?"...而家我同佢講"同你生多個孫仔，凑夠4條king!" ...

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發表於 08-6-4 15:46 |只看該作者

係呀, 我認我真係唔想生第二個, 我都曾經同我c6講過, 我個心暫時容納唔到第二個小朋友, 因為我生完個女之後, 我已經將整個心, 時間俾晒佢, 根本容納唔到第二個, 我都怕我自己會好偏心, 我唔想對第二個小朋友唔公平, 因為我好清楚知道就算第二個精靈過第一個, 我個心都係會鍚第一個多d, 可能先入為主掛,同埋就算我再生第二個, 都係想幫個女找個伴, 並唔係為左追仔, 同埋因為我c6, 6299都係偏愛仔既人, 如果第二個係仔, 我更加會賭氣唔鍚佢！

原文章由 KATRINE 於 08-6-4 14:43 發表
不過我唔知咁唸係唔係，我覺得就算樓主６２９９唔迫佢生，我覺得樓主都唔好再生多個，因我覺得佢會偏愛個大女，尢其如第二個無咁精靈的話 ...

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發表於 08-6-4 16:25 |只看該作者

But........when you have 2 kids, you will change your mind! You will love all of them.

原文章由 060905 於 08-6-4 15:46 發表
係呀, 我認我真係唔想生第二個, 我都曾經同我c6講過, 我個心暫時容納唔到第二個小朋友, 因為我生完個女之後, 我已經將整個心, 時間俾晒佢, 根本容納唔到第二個, 我都怕我自己會好偏心, 我唔想對第二個小朋友唔公平, ...

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發表於 08-6-4 16:31 |只看該作者

My husband want to have the third kids.
However, my 99 say it is better not to have the third kids (she worry that C6 will decreases her $)
I don't want to have 3 kids because it is not good for the relationship of 3! 2 of them may be closed and the leave one will become the outsider!

原文章由 SmonaChan 於 08-6-4 15:13 發表
我好想生多個等囝囝(2yr7m)有個伴，但仲未氹掂老公...我同奶奶講"幫佢追個內孫女(佢3個內孫都係仔)"

但佢就叫我吾好再生，話"實係女架?"...而家我同佢講"同你生多個孫仔，凑夠4條king!" ...

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