Night feeding should have stopped between 4-6 months of birth.
He is behind in his development. You have to use negative reinforcement,ie. don't give him what he wants whenever he cries. Crying is his weapon and u are defeated every time because your heart is too soft. no 1 yr old baby still needs night feeding!
Do you play with him after work? Is feeding the only time he gets touched by you? There must be some reason,else he is spoilt and u have to be harsh.
If you hold him all the time, he will not learn to walk by himself.
If he refuses to eat, fine, no food or snack or milk till the next meal. If he is slow in eating,set a limit and tell him you will take away the food. This is tough love.
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