My girl is a super fat girl: 21.5 Kg (around 47 lbs), 105 cm height only, born in Nov 1998. It seems that quite a few mums here have also sent their kids to St. Cat (I can identify easymummy). My girl is doing well for the first term. How about the otehrs?
Your son obviously wants to capture your attention, out of jealousy. Maybe you can let him to help you taking care of the younger brother to maintain the BQ and/or develop his other interets to divert his attention.
dear all,
I agree 4-year old kids are getting more difficult to be tamed. My girl also does the same thing, complaining I treat her bad, not allowing her to do this and that. In the past, I would definitelt defend and argue with her. Now I would walk away, not to listen to her, and let her to release her discontent and complaints. In fact, her purpose is to make me guilty and so I will compensate her by letting her to do what she wishes, e.g., watching TV, eating candies, and so. Now when she finds out I will show no response, she stops or reduces the frequency of 'pretended complaint' as she knows that I will not fall into the trap. Moreover, I also stop hitting her hand for punishment, so that she cannot complain my physical rudeness. The substitute is to ask her to stand for a while, until I calm down, she stops crying and so. Before letting her go, I will tell her this and that, of course in a rather calm but very "long air" way. I don't know how long and effective this means will be, because she is pretty smart and she will very soon find a way to escape or challenge this punishment, e.g., let's say she will say her legs are tired, standing will make legs thicker and so. I am not exaggerating. Kids learn fast and you can't imagine how cunning they are.
recently, I have 2 problems with her learning attitude, and see if there is any advice.
1. During the first term, she always took the initiative to do homework after school. But situation changed since the CHinese New YEar when she had to learn writing her Chinese name. Now in this second term, she refuses to complete the CHinese assignment, while maintaining the same passion for English and Number works. She says she is in no mood to write Chinese words. Last night, I had to "compete" with her in order to make her finishing the Chinese homework: she wrote on her assignment book and I on a piece of paper. And I had to play the role as a loser. It seems work but doubt how long it can last, because she is rather different. Sometimes, she does not care about such kind of inducement as 3 chops for beautiful works as easymami says, praise and candies for good work from teachers, and so.
2. My girl is learning violin, at her repeatedly request. After a few months, she seems to have lost interest, not willing to practice at home. I have asked if she wants to give up, but she insists continue going to lessons. The basic reason is that it is quite uncomfortable and painful to her little finger to press the strings. To avoid doing this, she pretends crying, feeling unwell, and so. The teacher of course will not scold and punish her, and my girl's trick is therefore successful. So, the progress has been hindered and disappointing. My point is that since it is she herself who chooses to learn this, she should show commitment and responsibility, at least do some practice at home, be serious during lesson, and show some respect. I am not expecting that she can play a song. What can I do?
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