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發表於 10-3-4 22:25 |只看該作者

If I was you:
I would pay those $ and let my parent 買d嫁妝俾佢,俾d餅通知d親友話俾人知個女嫁喇 => this is my gift to her.
happy ending!

原帖由 sukili1981 於 10-3-4 22:18 發表

我父母係想個女嫁得好睇d,買d嫁妝俾佢,俾d餅通知d親友話俾人知個女嫁喇,咁囉.

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原帖由 ac321 於 10-3-4 22:16 發表
Why not? If you mother don't want to 'earn $' from her daughter!
Ask you mother to buy a wedding card to your sister (don't need to buy and 'gold' if they don't 俾禮金). Then, everyone will be happy.
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如果係你媽咪一定做到,但係要個傳統嘅媽咪咁做就好難喇,同埋宜家個重點係佢地想俾小d女家而豪男家,咁佢地咁做已經係唔尊重女家父母啦.

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發表於 10-3-4 22:27 |只看該作者

原帖由 ac321 於 10-3-4 22:25 發表
If I was you:
I would pay those $ and let my parent 買d嫁妝俾佢,俾d餅通知d親友話俾人知個女嫁喇 => this is my gift to her.
happy ending!

即係嫁女餅要女家自己比呀？咁咪仲勁過貼埋大床？

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發表於 10-3-4 22:31 |只看該作者

唔係嘛，餅係一早派架嘛，禮係落實後先會做，就算家人都咁話啦。

餅咭100張都係3﹣4千蚊，男家唔係咁都唔比掛，就算男家唔比，個妹恨嫁，自己都比得出啦，我係家姐我都唔會比呢樣。到時結婚，我送金送大禮係另一回事囉。

原帖由 ac321 於 10-3-4 22:25 發表
If I was you:
I would pay those $ and let my parent 買d嫁妝俾佢,俾d餅通知d親友話俾人知個女嫁喇 => this is my gift to her.
happy ending!

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發表於 10-3-4 22:32 |只看該作者

However, you said that her b/f is very poor (no $).
男家 (may be her 99) pay for those. They can do what 男家 like only, and don't need to 尊重女家父母 unless 女家父母 share the wedding expenses!
P.S. It seems that your sister haven't got any saving for her wedding, right?

原帖由 sukili1981 於 10-3-4 22:26 發表

如果係你媽咪一定做到,但係要個傳統嘅媽咪咁做就好難喇,同埋宜家個重點係佢地想俾小d女家而豪男家,咁佢地咁做已經係唔尊重女家父母啦.

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發表於 10-3-4 22:35 |只看該作者

其實女家唔要酒席＝幫補左男家架啦，因慣例，女家客人做的禮係全數女家收架嘛，而家比返男家咁仲唔算比左錢？咁都唔使專重呀？

我果時擺女家酒席，我父母一亳子都無要，全數我地袋返，找完數仲有剩，夠我地去TRIP同影婚紗相。

原帖由 ac321 於 10-3-4 22:32 發表
However, you said that her b/f is very poor (no $).
男家 (may be her 99) pay for those. They can do what 男家 like only, and don't need to 尊重女家父母 unless 女家父母 share the wedding expenses!
P. ...

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發表於 10-3-4 22:35 |只看該作者

yes, my parents gave me a 'nice' album in my wedding, and put some of my baby photos inside. I am very touching about this gift.

A few years later, someone told my mother that she should buy me some 'gold' in my wedding.

I told her: the album is 1 thousand times better than 'gold'. It included part of my life inside.

原帖由 sukili1981 於 10-3-4 22:26 發表

如果係你媽咪一定做到,但係要個傳統嘅媽咪咁做就好難喇,同埋宜家個重點係佢地想俾小d女家而豪男家,咁佢地咁做已經係唔尊重女家父母啦.

[ 本帖最後由 ac321 於 10-3-4 22:53 編輯 ]

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發表於 10-3-4 22:45 |只看該作者

Can I share my idea for wedding here?

Wedding is the start point of a new life. The couple's families should give wishes to them.
It is because their son/daughter have already found their another 'half' .

Therefore, don't need to care whor (男家or女家) earn or lose in their wedding.

If their son/daughter have a happy wedding, both of the 男家 and 女家 earn.

原帖由 siulili 於 10-3-4 22:35 發表
其實女家唔要酒席＝幫補左男家架啦，因慣例，女家客人做的禮係全數女家收架嘛，而家比返男家咁仲唔算比左錢？咁都唔使專重呀？

我果時擺女家酒席，我父母一亳子都無要，全數我地袋返，找完數仲有剩，夠我地去TRIP同影婚紗相。

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發表於 10-3-4 22:55 |只看該作者

WEDDING係兩個人的事，以後的生活係要與兩家一起生活。連基本都尊重都唔比，咁又如何可以 LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER呢？

你話架嘛，女家無比錢擺酒就唔使尊重，我咪解釋你知，其實樓主父母己做左自己本份，無收埋客人做的人情，咁咪付出左囉，點解唔可以得到尊重。

同埋我想講，唔好乜都向錢看，唔係個個家庭都有錢架，想個女嫁得好睇D，係每一個父母想做的事，自己父母有能力當然好啦，但真係做唔到時又可以點？我唔覺得樓主父母係賣女，只係想得到一份男方的誠意和尊重。

尊重唔係只比有錢人的，就算對方無錢都應該得到一定的尊重，就算擺酒錢係男家父母比哂又如何？咁就唔使尊重女方父母？你估咁樣，女方父母會放心個女嫁過去會開心咩？

我估當年你結婚，男家係有問你父母要D咩，只係你父母唔要啫，但而家的情況係男家唔願比呀，情況唔同架。

原帖由 ac321 於 10-3-4 22:45 發表
Can I share my idea for wedding here?

Wedding is the start point of a new life. The couple's families should give wishes to them.
It is because their son/daughter have already found their another 'ha ...

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原帖由 ac321 於 10-3-4 21:36 發表
no, I am 100% Chinese!
My mother always tell me that:
If I don't want to be 'looks down' by my husband's family, I should not take anything from them, included 禮金.
My mother is correct. I (and my ...

my mother loves me,
she didn't ask for the 禮金 but i ask my hubby to give a not too little 禮金. Why not?
My parents raised me up with love, time, money, tears, sweat, ....
it's just some money to express my thanks to them and I hope they can enjoy their retired lifes with more money on hands (at least less worry).

I'm so gald than hubby was willing to give such 禮金 to my parents.
Besides, the money is from my hubby himself but not his partents, there's no such thing "if i got 禮金 then i'll be looked down from hubby's family."

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原帖由 siulili 於 10-3-4 22:55 發表
WEDDING係兩個人的事，以後的生活係要與兩家一起生活。連基本都尊重都唔比，咁又如何可以 LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER呢？

你話架嘛，女家無比錢擺酒就唔使尊重，我咪解釋你知，其實樓主父母己做左自己本份，無收埋客人做的人情，咁 ...

我諗我地同ac321係2個世界嘅人

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原帖由 EQ 於 10-3-4 23:03 發表

my mother loves me,
she didn't ask for the 禮金 but i ask my hubby to give a not too little 禮金. Why not?
My parents raised me up with love, time, money, tears, sweat, ....
it's just some money t ...

[ 本帖最後由 sukili1981 於 10-3-4 23:38 編輯 ]

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發表於 10-3-4 23:12 |只看該作者

you are 100% correct!
Just let 兩家 continuous their fight!
What you are doing here is: putting oil in the fire!
P.S. I don't care the result as she is not my sister!
(I am selfish!)

原帖由 siulili 於 10-3-4 22:55 發表
WEDDING係兩個人的事，以後的生活係要與兩家一起生活。連基本都尊重都唔比，咁又如何可以 LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER呢？

你話架嘛，女家無比錢擺酒就唔使尊重，我咪解釋你知，其實樓主父母己做左自己本份，無收埋客人做的人情，咁 ...

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發表於 10-3-4 23:14 |只看該作者

樓主

你回錯帖，EQ係另一位MAMI，佢贊成要比禮金的，冷靜D！

原帖由 sukili1981 於 10-3-4 23:08 發表

你明唔明宜家係你媽咪唔想收咁係冇問題嘅,但係我係女家想收但係男家唔想俾囉.

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發表於 10-3-4 23:15 |只看該作者

yes, we are.
It is because $ is not so important to me!
I should go now, good night.

原帖由 sukili1981 於 10-3-4 23:05 發表

我諗我地同ac321係2個世界嘅人

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發表於 10-3-4 23:18 |只看該作者

原帖由 sukili1981 於 10-3-4 23:08 發表

你明唔明宜家係你媽咪唔想收咁係冇問題嘅,但係我係女家想收但係男家唔想俾囉.

你明唔明 I'm replying ac321 that receiving 禮金from男家 didn't mean my mum & dad didn't love me nor i'll be looked down from男家 ar.

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原帖由 siulili 於 10-3-4 23:14 發表
樓主

你回錯帖，EQ係另一位MAMI，佢贊成要比禮金的，冷靜D！

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