although i'm in canada and he is in china, i 100% trust him. many people (esp. my trouble maker mom - life won't be peace with her around) not looking good on our relationship, but they don't know what had we came across in the past. we had been together for 23 years 9 months (more than half of our life), no one will know and understand how we care about/feel/love each other, our suffers & pains for these 7 years apart. he is lonely but alone, and i am lonely but have my girls with me. he will not do anything to hurt me and our family again (did once before we married - another woman involved - family of my side never knew anything about this - this gave him a lot of face). we nearly broke up, but he gradually understand that he cannot live without me and i cannot live without him. both of us suffered a lot during that 1 year and 3 months, he swear he will not do this twice.