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發表於 07-4-24 04:27 |只看該作者

Re: Anyone want to have a second baby?

babesiu,

"It would be better if the wife is not working"... that's refers to certain situation. :D Like if the wife go out and work but doesn't make much money but the additional income boost up the total fmaily income to the higher tax bracket. Then the couple also would end up having less disposible income (after-tax money)... especially for those who have kids and need to pay childcare fee.

So their house 二樓有兩邊, that's better. More privacy! How old are their parents? aiya, if they get older and you need to take care of them jau yau d mah farn (if they need to change diaper etc those type).

oh, your friend "好裙腳仔,幾乎做乜都問過佢呀媽先", this is not too good bor. YOu may not have any 地位 if you married him. Well, it depends on how their parents treat you la. But if there's argument among you and the future in-laws later, if your "friend" stand by the parents side, you may not have any support in the US!

Well, there are some 係外國做Mami... and 係好幸福. They married to well-off men and don't need to work and still have nanny or helper in the house. Those ladies just go out to take some classes, go out to have teas ah, shopping etc lor. I don't have the luck to find those guys... So, I need count here and there to save $ etc.

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發表於 07-4-24 04:51 |只看該作者

Re: Anyone want to have a second baby?

Nillie_mami,

I haven't really go to any Chinese place (nor chinatown) for a long time. So, I don't know when will I get a 手寫版. Also, is the 手寫版 expensive? Need to wait har sin.

"記住儲到私己錢至好生下一個".. aiya, 儲到 or 儲ng 到 doe ng 生 lah! mei gau! hehee...too much work and $$ consuming too.

gau ng dim to have 2 kids ah. Right now I am not working, so I have no 私己錢 to save ah. I just hope I don't use up the 私己錢 jau ho lah. I used up a big chunk of 私己錢 to buy a SUV couple months ago. My hubby sin doe ng sin har. And he just said buy a cheap SUV... the cheaper the better type (well with ok safety features). ng dim ah. I don't want to buy a car that I will hate (or "dislike") even the moment I drove it out of the dealership! And I plan to get a car and drive it for a long time (I am not the type of person keep changing car). So, I want to have one that I like (and that I can afford it) and won't dislike too soon mah. See, that's my money and he already dor dor 野講. If that's his money, I will not have any saying gar lah. I probably would have no place to stand!

Talking about the car... I was kinda mad the other day. Each time I told him he need to pick the whole stroller up from the trunk and than put it down the floor. He dosn't care. He just drag the stroller out. I told him many times not to do that. He think I am "singing". I often said I would take the stroller out of the trunk (because I don't want him to scratch my car or break the stroller) but he often insist to do it himself. Anyway, I checked the car that day and saw he already scratch out some car paint off right at the edge of the body (next to the trunk door). There are 4 or 5 obvious scratch! ng jai ahhhhh... It's a new car and the most expensive item I purchased in my life, and he scratched it so bad that it is absolutely avoidable! I was so mad. He never really take my words seriously. Well, it's not his money and he have a free ride on the car... and he doesn't care about car. :((ok, I am the one who like cars and hi-tech gagets - computers, electronics etc)

My husband also want to "度"住 the money that my grandma left me when she pass away (in HK account). He asked me how much I got etc. I said it's not his business! hehe... I said he shouldn't "度"住 my money. Those are not big money and I plan to just leave it in HK. In case I need to go to HK later, I can just the money there. I don't need to waste the exchange rate...

hehe.. you better keep your stock and some money in HK and don't transder it to the US. Save it for emergency fund.

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發表於 07-4-24 05:07 |只看該作者

Re: Anyone want to have a second baby?

carolcharcoal,

Yeah, I didn't see any gathering for the SF area. Anyone want to have one?

I live in Mountain View. I used to live in Sunnyvale before I married and I used to work in Santa Clara. I don't go up to SF often. Maybe only a few times in a year. :) How often do you go to the South Bay? Do you do instant messenging? If so, you can add me in if you want. I online every single days and on IM most of the time. :)

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發表於 07-4-24 06:45 |只看該作者

Re: Anyone want to have a second baby?

bunnymonkey,
Which IM are you using?
If I find out, I'll add you on my list .
Mostly, I'm online at work and rarely online at home or weekend. My times is occupied by my son most of the time at home. Whenever I'm using PC, he will be on my lap.

I really want to have the gathering in SF. It is good to share with other mom in the bay area since we are out of our home town.

:-(

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發表於 07-4-24 07:25 |只看該作者

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carolcharcoal,

I use MSN most often, followed by yahoo and ICQ, and AIM. Which one do you use? You can PM me your ID so I can add you in. Which IM do you use more often?

yeah, it would be cool if we can get a bay area gathering or so...

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發表於 07-4-24 11:18 |只看該作者

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發表於 07-4-24 11:23 |只看該作者

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發表於 07-4-24 11:47 |只看該作者

Re: Anyone want to have a second baby?

Hi Carol,

You can click on PM to email me. I live in SSF but work in SF. For your son's age, you can go to City College playgroup or SF Park & Rec playgroup. Discovery museum and Randall museum are also a good place to go too.

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發表於 07-4-24 22:55 |只看該作者

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bunny monkey,
我之所以keep得住筆錢, 另一個原因係老公買而家間屋時問我爸爸借錢, 仲未還清.. 每次佢一話賣 HSBC 嘅股票, 我就話嗰啲係我爸爸嘅錢.. 只有爸爸有權郁! otherwise, 佢中就transfer錢嚟ny, 當冇惜過我爸爸錢囉.
我知錢一轉返US, 99同佢啲兄弟又會嚟揾著數.. 真係厚面皮

babesiu,
真係要過濶太太生活, 嫁出國係好難揾.. 喺香港反而仲易.. 外國家庭, 冇公一份, 婆一份, 好難'為' '皮'

講開車, 我都杷幾火, 老公當車係爛鐵, 成日撞花車身, ling "com" 可以撞到唔見晒... 我架車仲慘, 佢入車房望都唔望, 撞到side mirror 爛晒.. 佢哋真係好唔掂當!!!

我一路以來, 喺melbourne 揸 manual 都未 "high"花過我架車.. 嚟到 NY, 睇住我成世人第二架車俾老公咁撞法.. 好心痛呀!
以前我隔幾日就洗車.. 而家老公話"side"水, 教我點做好? 唔駛佢大少落手, 仲想點??

Carol,
你見我哋係點架喇! 最好都係等你小朋友再大少少至諗要2nd kid lor..
而家, 我都覺得好吃力.. 但有2個小朋友係開心嘅

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發表於 07-4-25 00:06 |只看該作者

Re: Anyone want to have a second baby?

bunnymonkey
可能我老公都成１０歲先黎ｕｓａ啦．．所以佢都好ｃｈｉｎｅｓｅ架．．咁佢識我時，都知我係ｈｋ妹啦．．真係出去食飯我多數唔比錢．．哈．．冇法啦，　我係大女麻，　我ｄ錢都係要養家架，　咁佢想追我麻．．更係要洗下錢架啦．．哇哈哈．．
真係同鬼佬可能有ｄ諗法唔同啦．．但又唔係個個都係咁．．我識一ｐａｉｒ呢．．要個女仔出晒結婚錢．．但有一ｐａｉｒ呢．又唔洗啵．．仲比埋機票佢家人去玩天．．真係睇你撞ｄ人岩唔岩啦．．所以未嫁真係要諗清楚呀

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發表於 07-4-25 00:09 |只看該作者

Re: Anyone want to have a second baby?

ｎｅｌｌｉｅ
係呀．．岩啦．．．ｈｋ既錢一定唔動得架．．唔係動過一次就有第二次．．唔好制ｊｅｔ．．．成日都要同老公催眠．．佢既錢係我既錢．．我既錢都係我既錢．．．哈哈

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發表於 07-4-25 03:39 |只看該作者

Re: Anyone want to have a second baby?

babesiu,

hai ah.. doe hai better stay at home be the big 小姐'牙牙咋咋' :)

Nillie_mami,

aiya, gum jau need to be firm don't sell those stock in HK. (even you sell it, keep the money in HK at your dad's). Maybe your husband and my husband happened to be those who don't care about cars! hehee... This SUV is 我成世人第二架車 too! I let my husband sold his car so he's driving my first car now.

You can't wash car ah? aiya... maybe use those wipe to clean the windows etc la.

Carrie,
Good that your husband retain some "Chinese" trandition so you didn't need to pay when you are dating. :D Yes, I agree it depends on the persons no matter Chinese or not. I don't an American guy usually pay for everything for his friends/in dates. Not all Chinese do that.

"成日都要同老公催眠．．佢既錢係我既錢．．我既錢都係我既錢" this is so right!! I agree ah! hahaa

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發表於 07-4-25 04:43 |只看該作者

Re: Anyone want to have a second baby?

洗車呢..會唔會出面car wash會平少少呀..我果日睇nbc..好似話出面carwash會唔洗咁多水咋..不過我都唔知幾錢..但我見nyc既人....都好少人洗車既...唔似hk..架架都好clean架麻..

bunnymonkey
而家都嫁左啦...有d野都冇得番轉頭, 好似我成日話阿媽,你以前中慣左老豆樣樣都係你出,佢比一份家用就乜都要你比晒, 咁佢更係正啦, 份家用都冇乜增長過,但佢就有加人工, 我就係有見址, 一早催眠左我老公係男人比錢係錫老婆..咁佢而家慣左咯, 咪冇乜野咯..如果而家先黎要佢出晒,佢就好覺架啦..不過我知佢人工唔多,都盡量比晒我, 我都唔會咁greedy既, 我少買衫啦. 冇買cosmestic啦, 用錢都睇住架..但我買叻叻既野, 又真係冇乜慳...好似nellie話, 唉..都唔知佢第二時嫁得好唔好..我比到佢既野..咪比咯...但係又唔會太過份既.都係量力而為啦..

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發表於 07-4-25 04:47 |只看該作者

Re: Anyone want to have a second baby?

Bunnymonkey, Nillie,

My hubby is just the opposite, he take too good care about his car and sometimes when I close the door harder then he will give me a look. But he help me to wash my car so I couldn't complain more.

Carrie,

You are very very rigth "佢既錢係我既錢．．我既錢都係我既錢" but then we are pretty much clean out everything each month after we pay for the bills, ai......

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發表於 07-4-25 06:17 |只看該作者

Re: Anyone want to have a second baby?

bunnymonkey,
I don't have MSN, but I have icq for awhile.
you can email your icq# to me.

thank you

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發表於 07-4-25 23:49 |只看該作者

Re: Anyone want to have a second baby?

nic977

我地都係月月差唔多清啦. 因去左幾個月hk玩, 又要再save過錢啦..要老公做多d ot先得..哈哈..

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發表於 07-4-26 01:28 |只看該作者

Re: Anyone want to have a second baby?

nic977, carrie,
而家我冇返工4個幾5個月, 係用home equity 嚟cover 開支.. 你話.. 我老公份人工有幾多?? 佢做全職 stay home dad, 而我 work full time (13days in a month), 都冇問題, 但我如果唔做工, 真係冇眼睇

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發表於 07-4-26 03:08 |只看該作者

Re: Anyone want to have a second baby?

Nillie_ Mami,
I have the same problem too.
I'm hoping if I can stay home be a housewife.
The reality is I can't. I make more than my husband, except we win a lotto la..
Besides, I remember you posted said you make $30 per hour. I think you can make more if you are in California, they make $40 or above as I know in SF.

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發表於 07-4-26 03:15 |只看該作者

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Nillie
你個5星級之家冇左你既支援更係唔得啦..仲有..叫你老公做stay home dad, 我諗佢令願搵多份工.. 我番左去hk玩, 我老公一個人都可以攪到個屋企好亂架..我諗,冇乜邊個男人係會湊得店兩個細路既..