I think there is no excuse for any bossy kids. I like Super Nanny technique, just remain calm and talk with a firm tone, repeat and repeat until the kids follow.
Today my husband just told me that our daughter did help him as we all wake up late. From the time to get out of the house, only take them 20mins includes finishing a bottle of milk. I thought my husband wont make it to work but he said he told our daughter that he will be in big trouble if he is late to work...he said his boss will kill him!! Then she understood and give daddy no hard time at all. My husband also said my technique work for him as he exactly know how to control our daughter.
YukiMommy,
how are your daughters doing? Do you have anything to share with us?
yes...this is my 1st baby...so im so exciting.
i live in Markham. but ppl are tellin' me dat York Central is pretty good. and they are highly recommend my gynecologist. that's why i choose this hospital^^....
I didn't go online today because my bb is kinda sick. He doesn't feel like eating for 2 feedings. Then in the morning he is pretty hot. He has a temperature and some red dots all on his corps. I was thinking to send him to the ER because it was early morning and his pediatrician clinic hasn't opened yet.
Then I took off his clothes and the temperature went down... I am so tired and watch him all day. He picks up his feedings, but still not to the normal stage yet. :( I think it is because the weather is too hot and our room wasn't cool enough.
About my daughter, she is spoiled by the grandparents for sure. They are afraid of her. The grannys live with us, so we can't really control much. So my hubby and I are struggling with her all the time. She is behaving a little better today. :)
xother,
admin fee only applies to some doctors. Some Dr. doesn't ask for that.
PoohPoohMaMa,
hope your son is doing well now! Yes, I heard weather forecast saying Toronto is having over 30C! From my experience, I rarely take my baby out for any clinic unless it is necessary and I know doctors here dont like to give medicine unless it is very serious. Tylenol is the first thing come to my mind if anything happen to my child.
As per your daughter, I think it is common for granny to spoil young kids , but whether you can control her/him is the main issue. Does she scare of any one? Like I said, my daughter will listen to me if I say with firm tone and show no reaction with her crying, have you reached that level? I was benefit by watching Supernanny! You know, there is no excuse for any spoiled kids and fix them while you are with her now. Once you go back to work, you dont have energy to tackle them.
I understand that admin fee only apply to certain doctor but just wonder how many mommies are willing to pay and how common for other OB to charge it.
hi all,
I was soo busy in the last few days and finally can get some personal free time on the net....
As of sleep length, I agree that some kids can adjust, but some kids do "need" the longer night sleep and not getting it will just make things worst. So, if possible, getting them to bed earlier and see if that at least minimize the "character" problem. I know that bad temper is not only a sleep issue, but "character" plays a role too.
My daughter is also very bossy. But I guess I am a bit relaxed about it as she knows very well that I am the boss, not her. Talking about picking my clothes, telling me how to wear my hair etc., she does all that too. But I just told her, she can only suggest, but I make my decision. Same apply to her, I give her a lot of freedom. She can choose what to wear, how to do her hair, but within limits. You know what I mean, if about above 15C, she can choose to wear a short sleeves, but have to wear a cardigan, or just wear a long sleeve etc. She can pick whatever she wants, as long as within limits.
In terms of tantrum, I am not too fond of the super nanny style though I use it sometimes. But usually, I will just let her have the tantrum and tell her, "I am not talking to you until you calm down", then I walk away. She will ALWAYS comply in those cases. Having grannies around make things worse, unless you can tell the grannies to ignore the situation when you are disciplining the kids. I do sometimes signal my in-laws not to intervene. For example, if I am telling my daughter "she has to do abc...", but my in-law or mother say, "ok la...she can do xyz instead". I will then say, "no she must to abc because....." Then they will shut up and leave it to me. Not sure if you can do the same thing to your in-laws. This way, your daughter will know who really is in control.
As long as the kid know what the boundaries are, though they will continue to test it, but they know when to stop.
Hi Yukimommy,
It is funny to see how much different from my daughter! I guess they are similar age, right?
Regarding on clothes I am the boss. She doesnt choose her clothes. Yes, she will say NO when it is clearly not her slyle, such as boy's clothes. She doesnt mind just have straight hair but I am the person to ask her how tie it up since her hair is getting longer.
One thing I share here. I put my daughter to ballet/jazz class and they told me just casual clothes are enough, so I never thought to buy her any tutu, however, 8 out of 10 wear tutu on the first day and my daughter is the only one wearing pants! She never complains nor ask me to buy her any tutu. I am the person who went to different shops to look for it.
I dont mean to show off my daughter being a good girl. She does some bad thing but since it is not a big deal, I just accept it. Like Yukimommy said, I give her freedom.
eg, I will let you play on the computer or watching DVD for over 5 hrs as long as she is not having anything violence. In fact, she did learn a lot from those educational games and DVD.
Yes, the most important to bring up a child is to set the boundary and let them know when to stop. I think kids grow up in Canada are different from HK as they are more independent thinking and we have to leave them space to explore.
I used to live in Markham before I got married. My parents are still living in Markham now (Kennedy/16th).
My family doctor gave me some OB names for me to choose. Dr. Ryan Ou and Dr. Ford Luk were on the list who are both very good OB in York General. However, my friends suggested me to go for either Dr. Paul Suen or Dr. Man Fan Ho because they were their OB before. For me, I don't quite like Paul Suen because he is too rude. That's why I chose Dr. Ho who is a doctor of North York General.
This is my first baby too, and my sick feeling is fading away which is super good for me!! I am just a bit easy to get tired now. Plus I have to eat very often but not too much!!
My husband and I don't really mind the sex of the baby...a healthy baby is more important to us!!
Acually i wanna choose Dr. Ford Luk in the beginning...because he was my fd's OB b4...but Dr. Ford Luk is highly recommend Dr Ryan Ou to me. But i can tell now he is a very good doctor.
So nice to hear dat you sick feelin' is fadin' away. haha*lucki me didnt hav much sick feelin'...but im so easy to get tired too...however i hav 2 work f3day...so i dont hav much time for rest. Do you hav to work....??
Of coz a healthy baby is most important...but i want a boy...haha*I hope i can hav a healthy boy...^^
my son is doing ok now. He is kinda back to normal stage. Since he is too young, I am not sure if I can give him Tempra. Also I think it is better to see a doctor for such a young bb. You'll never know why it causes the fever.
Regarding my daughter, she is better now. xother, I am also very firm. I won't feel sorry if she cries. I am kinda like Yukimommy's approach. I would tell her that I won't talk to her until she stops crying. I will let her stay in her corner; when she calm down, she will come back and follow my instructions. But of course most of the people in my house would be panic when they see her cry.
ahbocat, I am fortunately to stay at the private room for a night last time. It's nice because my hubby was able to stay overnight there. But the room was very small....
PoohPoohMaMa:
Happy to hear that your baby boy is getting better now. I think I will do the same thing too when my baby catches a fever...yeah...you will never know what happen to the baby.
Wah...I think you are very lucky that you could stay in the private room. I heard that it is hard to get one. Will see if I am lucky too!! Hehe!! I want my husband to stay with me ah...and he promised that he will go to the delivery room with me.
Lily:
I will have my first appointment with Dr. Ho next Tues. One more friend saying he is good...I am very happy ah...which means I made a good decision!! Haha!! Did you do C-section last time? Since you said you stayed in the hospital for couple days, I thought so...
Private room? Hopefully, I can stay in a private room too!!
Blueberriii:
Dr. Ford Luk is the chief OB in York Central, if he recommends Dr. Ou to you, he must be good!!
I am a full time working mom ah!! So sleepy everyday in the office!! I am glad that most of my co-workers are women and they all have kids. They understand my situation, especially my boss!! She is a very nice lady!!
Blessing our heathy babies!!
PoohPoohMaMa,
My logic is different. You only visit clinic when you fall sick and it is full of disease. I dont even want to take that risk. Besides, there is infant Tynelo which is made for infant. Yes, if that doesnt work, then I will take him to the doctor. It happens to me many times that the doctor told me to take the counter drugs first unless it is very serious sickness. I learn it since I came here.
Regarding the behavior, walk away is not my first priority. As I said before, I was a bad girl when I was young, I know exactly how to use my crying to get the things done. If my daughter cries, I will talk and try to find the solution. I only leave her if I cannot solve the problem. I like to use praise and take away method and it works very well. Or distract her with something and she will forget about why she cries. There is many ways to do and getting mad shouldnt happen at all.
Hi everyone,
I have a questions about manual breast pump.
Me and my wife just finished taking Lydia's prenatal class, although she feel knowledgeable on breast feeding, however, we are not sure whether or not we should get the manual breast pump, just in case we need it.
if we buy a manual breast pump, should we buy the one Lydia offering?
or anybody here try other brand on the market? me and my wife went to Walmart yesterday and find that Gerber have a manual breast pump for similar price with what Lydia have, but include more stuff like an extra bottles, a carrying bag..etc.
abtgolf,
Nice to hear a father voice here!
From my personal experience, I never thought to use any pump. Do you know the direct suction from the baby is different from the pump? Your wife will have 1 year maternity leave and if she is available, why she needs to pump the milk?
From my personal opinion, either you can do it or you cannot do it. Breast pump is not neccessary unless she needs to return to work very soon.
But if you worry, I will suggest to buy the electricity one as I saw many mommies criticise the manual pump.
I guess the reason why we were considering getting a manual pump is because we are worrying that we can't do it. We are considering to buy it only when she feel pain, or for whatever reason can't do it. then we'll try use the breast pump
But now i know what you mean, you are right. maybe it's really not necessary to get it. Like you said.. it's either you can do it or you can't, not because of breast pump, right?
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